I Aware Misc how I got rid of Social Anxiety

[GOATisLife]

Since alot of Misc is FA/Socially Anxious I thought I would make this thread.

From 16-19 I had really bad Social Anxiety. I am about to turn 20 this year, and have removed literally 90% of it. I can speak to pretty much anyone on the street, I'm not scared to go to the checkout where a person serves me anymore, my friends enjoy being around me much more, I can speak publically without feeling like I'm dieing inside.

I did all of this with no practical exercises, I simply rewired my brain into basing everything on rationality, and making sense of everything. Let me warn you though, once you understand the concepts behind this, people become very simple. You think Women are so complex right? Women to me are like a Math problem now, I understand why they do what they do, and in turn I know how to solve the issue.(It also makes me feel autistic)

If you get most of the fun in your life from things like Drama, Materialism etc then learning these concepts will throw you into depression, because you will see how flawed your life is. Your Ego will most likely try to block most of these concepts out as well, as it feels attacked, be aware of this.

As well as getting rid of my Social Anxiety, I also improved my life in these aspects:

- Work Ethic
- I no longer procrastinate at all, if Im not working Im studying, Im always thinking of the most effective thing to do, and doing it.
- I stopped drinking
- I stopped weed
- I eat healthily
- I go to the gym
- Better relations with family/friends
- I lost my virginity lol

So now all of you have to do Social Anxiety people is watch the following videos and understand them. Boom your life is solved. No really I'm serious, if you actually understand the underlying concepts, then your life really becomes solved.

I watched this first video 4 times to understand it fully.





Read on this:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spotlight_effect
http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/200...-or-awareness/

[Beeferr]

regarding cliffs, gj OP

[Balkanwot]

Here's a simple way of how I got over it. I just stopped giving a **** what people think. Srs

[GOATisLife]

Here's a simple way of how I got over it. I just stopped giving a **** what people think. Srs

Yes. This is basically what it boils down to. But you can say this to people, but they still care what others think. They can lie to themselves and say they don't, but they still do.

[Alvarezzz]

gjdm

[MIscBrah69]

Did you feel like weed impacted your life in a negative way?

[DanSDA]

Here's a simple way of how I got over it. I just stopped giving a **** what people think. Srs

ya but its not like you control your thoughts or something , like if you're feeling nervous / self concious saying to yourself i dont care won't make it go away.
like saying to a depressed person stop being depressed just simple

[headinahole]

The power of now is a great one.

Here's another one for you,

fuk it

gonna make a thread about it, it deserves one.

[GOATisLife]

Did you feel like weed impacted your life in a negative way?

Ayy. Unproductive, cloudy mind, can't think logically. Eat **** food. Fap all day.

[headinahole]

Ayy. Unproductive, cloudy mind, can't think logically. Eat **** food. Fap all day.

Forces of Character is the book, made thread on it.

[Uwotm8brah]

Here's a simple way of how I got over it. I just stopped giving a **** what people think. Srs

[GOATisLife]

Forces of Character is the book, made thread on it.

Ayy Im gunna find the Ebook version and read.

[DCmirin]

need super cliff OP just tell me wat do

[BurtStarington]

im f*cking zeezbrah

[GOATisLife]

need super cliff OP just tell me wat do

Watch the videos.

Understand them. If you understand them, read the two articles below.

Boom you should literally feel enlightened like you just discovered life.

[Khoen]

Repped for Athene vids OP

Watching them now.

[HipHopLyrics]

Subbed the thread for tomorrow when I have more time. Not for social anxiety, just kind of unfocused and unmotivated in most parts of my life the past couple of months and it seems like this could help.

[jonmcd46]

gym helps for sure. but ultimately it is confidence and not caring what people think. just think higher of yourself, I still go in and out of ******* social anxiety, but when im social its bc im confident and love myself

[DontEvenWhey]

cliffs on power of now?

[GOATisLife]

gym helps for sure. but ultimately it is confidence and not caring what people think. just think higher of yourself, I still go in and out of ******* social anxiety, but when im social its bc im confident and love myself

Yes.

Gym is awesome, because it provides you with the validation from others that you need to build a strong self esteem. This will get you out of social anxiety. However Gym/Becoming Aestethic is only a temporary mask on the actual issue, and as soon as the validation stops/you become fat/you stop being aestethic, your straight back to ****ty self esteem and then socially anxious again.

So stripping yourself of this validation seeking mindset, and literally not giving a **** what people say, will ultimately fix the issue. Much easier said than done. You also have to be aware of calibrating yourself to society, if you aren't aware of how society is around you, you then end up ostracizing yourself, which kind of ruins the goal.

People need to learn how to self validate, really love themselves and not require it from others, again much easier said than done.

[Tombanelas]

Subbed the thread for tomorrow when I have more time. Not for social anxiety, just kind of unfocused and unmotivated in most parts of my life the past couple of months and it seems like this could help.

Same here, feeling so unfocused at college. So tired of it.

[jonmcd46]

Yes.

Gym is awesome, because it provides you with the validation from others that you need to build a strong self esteem. This will get you out of social anxiety. However Gym/Becoming Aestethic is only a temporary mask on the actual issue, and as soon as the validation stops/you become fat/you stop being aestethic, your straight back to ****ty self esteem and then socially anxious again.

So stripping yourself of this validation seeking mindset, and literally not giving a **** what people say, will ultimately fix the issue. Much easier said than done. You also have to be aware of calibrating yourself to society, if you aren't aware of how society is around you, you then end up ostracizing yourself, which kind of ruins the goal.

People need to learn how to self validate, really love themselves and not require it from others, again much easier said than done.

agreed but for me, I always desired to be athletic/good looking, so I never thought I was worth anything, despite my intellect. But when I got to the point where I looked better than most people and guys asked me for gym advice etc, I finally was happy and didn't worry about the little things that anxiety brings.
I guess im working on the assumption most FA's are smart guys who are a little socially awkward and below average looking.

[GOATisLife]

Same here, feeling so unfocused at college. So tired of it.

It may not help with college, because depending on your course, most of the knowledge is not practical.

Ever learn stuff, and the day after the exam wipe it from your memory? How does this make sense in life? It's impossible to use rational logic to motivate yourself here, you will have to go the emotional path, and get validation from friends, professors or watch loads of emotional motivation videos.