GF less interested in sex... am I overthinking this? (srs)

[koh19]

Hey brahs,

Cliffs:

- I've been with my gf for 10 months now, we live together, it's going amazingly well.
- I have worked in Investment Banking for 4 months (internship) and will start full time in February, she's been working in IB for 1 1/2 months now.
- Our schedules are tough: leave the house at 8:30am, get back at 11pm on average.
- I'm basically on holiday until Feb, I'm studying, taking care of house etc... - mind you I worked in IB for 4 months so I know about the schedule and everything, the tiredness, etc...
- She's become less interested in sex during the week
- About the sex, we used to go at it all the time, when we were both at uni, when I was working in IB and she wasn't (lasted 4 months)
- On average, even when I was working the crazy hours, I'd come home anywhere from 11pm to 1am and we'd often still go at it. So on average, 3x a week and 3-4x during the weekend I'd say.

These days, it's the other way around, she's working and I'm at home. During the week we go at it maybe once max, but still do 2-3x during the weekend. Now I understand she can be tired and she's always afraid of "losing" her sleep so she goes to bed almost right away when she gets home. But at first I was a bit surprised, I guess cuz I would always be up for sex even when I was tired, it would make me sleep better and I needed it, I wanted to get close to her as I would see her only 1-2 hours a day.

At first I'd get a bit annoyed/frustrated when she'd say "I am too tired", "not tonight babe, I don't want to "wake up"". But I remember those days when we'd go at it like animals, she'd give me the surprise BJ out of no where, we'd just drop our clothes and go at it at any time, etc... None of this these days, even on weekends she's quite tired and I always end up doing most of the work if you know what I mean.

She started working 1 1/2 months ago, maybe I need to give her time to adjust to the gruelling schedule but I somehow in the back of my mind think she could be making an effort. I dunno maybe I'm being too harsh and the fact that she loves sex and we used to do it 7-8x a week proves that the job is just taking a big toll on her.

What do you guys think?

[CheekyCnt]

Hey brahs,

Cliffs:

- I've been with my gf for 10 months now, we live together, it's going amazingly well.
- I have worked in Investment Banking for 4 months (internship) and will start full time in February, she's been working in IB for 1 1/2 months now.
- Our schedules are tough: leave the house at 8:30am, get back at 11pm on average.
- I'm basically on holiday until Feb, I'm studying, taking care of house etc... - mind you I worked in IB for 4 months so I know about the schedule and everything, the tiredness, etc...
- She's become less interested in sex during the week
- About the sex, we used to go at it all the time, when we were both at uni, when I was working in IB and she wasn't (lasted 4 months)
- On average, even when I was working the crazy hours, I'd come home anywhere from 11pm to 1am and we'd often still go at it. So on average, 3x a week and 3-4x during the weekend I'd say.

These days, it's the other way around, she's working and I'm at home. During the week we go at it maybe once max, but still do 2-3x during the weekend. Now I understand she can be tired and she's always afraid of "losing" her sleep so she goes to bed almost right away when she gets home. But at first I was a bit surprised, I guess cuz I would always be up for sex even when I was tired, it would make me sleep better and I needed it, I wanted to get close to her as I would see her only 1-2 hours a day.

At first I'd get a bit annoyed/frustrated when she'd say "I am too tired", "not tonight babe, I don't want to "wake up"". But I remember those days when we'd go at it like animals, she'd give me the surprise BJ out of no where, we'd just drop our clothes and go at it at any time, etc... None of this these days, even on weekends she's quite tired and I always end up doing most of the work if you know what I mean.

She started working 1 1/2 months ago, maybe I need to give her time to adjust to the gruelling schedule but I somehow in the back of my mind think she could be making an effort. I dunno maybe I'm being too harsh and the fact that she loves sex and we used to do it 7-8x a week proves that the job is just taking a big toll on her.

What do you guys think?

Quit investment banking before you throw away your life

[jackamo2887]

Two options: she's exhausted from working like a ****ing slave

Of

She's banging some guy at work.

Probably the first.

[OnePostPony]

She has a very intense job and has only just started her priorities are on not fuarking up her high pressure long hours job. Being tired is a legit excuse and IB will definitely make you tired. Give her 3 months to adjust, keep sex regular on the weekends so you don't get in to the habit of never doing it. Reassess in 3 months when she feels more in control of her work/life balance and her schedule.

[WhoaBro21]

Stopped reading at moved in with gf after 10 months.


If you have the judgment to move in with a girl before you're engaged, let alone after 10 months, there's nothing anyone can do for you until you change your behavior at the core. You're probably socially retarded, picked up this girl, and now after 10 months of putting the pieces together she's worried about her own safety. You bought into "girls like rough sex every time" that the misc shoved down your throat, put on that mask, probably hurt her, and she's not interested anymore. Sorry man, tell her WhoaBro21 will treat her like a lady and should hit him up. I'll put a bandaid on whatever disaster you've managed to deal out

[JoeyCraig]

Its hard when you're working IB hours. Maybe it has truly taken a toll on her. Don't think she has time for anybody else anyway lol

[Griffco]

Dude just talk to her. Tell her you understand but that it should be a priority in your relationship and that you can't let the fire die.

If she isn't into talking about it then go NC. You don't want to live with someone for life if you can't rationally talk about something that you both should want.

[mazimi18]

just be like yo bish im not tired from working IB hours to sex up why arent u (srs)

[HI_KKM]

this is why you date down

there is a reason i bang nurses not residents

[tranzz]

I wore her out brah, sry.

[BrandG]

I work so much some weeks that I'm too tired to cook a meal so I'll just go to bed without. I'm fairly positive she's just too tired from work, that's life my friend

[Aircommander91]

just lol at thinking you both will have the same sex drive seeing her 24/7 than when you used to see her 2 times a week.


doesn't work that way brah, it gets old.

just phucking lol at any retard brah that chooses to live with a sloot if he isn't planning to marry her in a year or so.

[Zerafian]

meh...me and my GF both have very busy lives, we do it 2-3 times a week. For some people careers are important and cause exhaustion after a 10-12 hour day.

[Leonidas II]

Edit:

oh ****, what happened to the second post? Deep Misc is real wtffffff.

[Pennzoil22]

go NC

[dabbmw2002]

in b4 Jamal/Tyrone

She is probably just tired.....if you want to be mature, talk to her. If not, show less interest yourself and she will fuk you out of paranoia.

[solidus2k3]

in b4 Jamal/Tyrone

She is probably just tired.....if you want to be mature, talk to her. If not, show less interest yourself and she will fuk you out of paranoia.

good advice srs

[MiscDaddy]

Itt OP gets a taste of the married life.

[anonkunbrah]

Two options: she's exhausted from working like a ****ing slave

Of

She's banging some guy at work.

Probably the first.

nah probably the 2nd. this is officially a cuck thread

[koh19]

She has a very intense job and has only just started her priorities are on not fuarking up her high pressure long hours job. Being tired is a legit excuse and IB will definitely make you tired. Give her 3 months to adjust, keep sex regular on the weekends so you don't get in to the habit of never doing it. Reassess in 3 months when she feels more in control of her work/life balance and her schedule.

Good idea, I cant imagine what it will be like when we both work, it'll be the case in February onwards... ****

Dude just talk to her. Tell her you understand but that it should be a priority in your relationship and that you can't let the fire die.

If she isn't into talking about it then go NC. You don't want to live with someone for life if you can't rationally talk about something that you both should want.

Good idea, I think I'll just say that I'm concerned that "I don't want the fire to die" and see what she says.

[koh19]

I don't know if I can pull of the "show less interest yourself". I am horny as **** all the time when we don't do it everyday.

Also, does this even work?

[CickSunt]

make timr for sex at night. cutting cable boosted our sex life. now we aren't having any for medical reasons . the thing is sex helps you sleep.

[dabbmw2002]

I don't know if I can pull of the "show less interest yourself". I am horny as **** all the time when we don't do it everyday.

Also, does this even work?

Your on "holiday", not working. So basically your sitting at home standing by the front door like an eager puppy ready to hump her leg as soon as she walks in. I guarantee you as soon as she walks toward the door she already annoyed because she knows your gonna ask. Too much of your energy is focused on her and that is never good. Learn some self control, giver her a little breathing room, and if its meant to be it will work itself out.

[visc3ral]

Seems like it's due to exhaustion. It takes a while to adjust to long work hours. But you should really talk to her about it since things tend to sour if one person just keeps their feelings pent up too long. Just make sure you don't make her feel like she's being attacked or accused of choosing to not keep up your sex life. It'll be worse if she starts feeling guilty about not doing it out of exhaustion (which she might already feel).

[Kev1972]

Its over brah. She isn't less interested in sex.

She's less interested in sex with YOU!

[crackersmaker]

I don't know if I can pull of the "show less interest yourself". I am horny as **** all the time when we don't do it everyday.

Also, does this even work?

if she is truly attracted to you it'll work, if she's not your sex life will just die out

[freuddcoco]

work so fukkin much my greatest fear is ima die alone

[HI_KKM]

Its over brah. She isn't less interested in sex.

She's less interested in sex with YOU!

honeymoon period is definitely over

would she be turning down sex with brad pitt?

[oscarsx]

she works, u dont, she's the alpha now.

[AdamOm]

Dude your cliffs are chit, no wonder she is cheating on you. Cliffs are not supposed to lead in to a long story, they are a substitute for a long story.

She is cheating on you, now it is your turn to decide whether or not to be in denial.