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01-09-2016, 09:52 PM #31
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01-09-2016, 09:57 PM #32
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01-09-2016, 10:01 PM #33
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01-09-2016, 10:01 PM #34
That's what has surprised me. I tell men that I'm in a sexless marriage up front ALWAYS because for some men they say it's against their religion, and I respect them. I would feel terrible if I made a Christian or Jewish man sin without him knowing up front. I have no idea why I would attract Harvard/Cornell educated, attractive men with muscles who could easily pull 8s and 9s.
I'm guessing it's because I work in hi tech and lift, but I don't know, I'm lost. Before I started lifting in 2010, I did not attract as many hot men in their 20s. Some yes, but definitely 1-3 points below in the rating scale for looks and future earning power.
A man with a moral compass could ask me to leave my unhappy marriage for him, but they don't It's not like the movies.
Anyhow, I've been celibate for a month and using the time to figure out marriage counseling or divorce.
For the OP, I think the pickiest women are in the 18-22 age group from what I read on here. Obviously women over 30 are going to not want a male model as much but more of a equal provider in terms of income, someone who is there for her emotionally, someone who is good with her children (because most single women over 30 will have children).
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01-09-2016, 10:07 PM #35
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That's what you don't seem to get.
No, they won't.
They see you as a cheating whore and want absolutely nothing to do with you.
The men you attract are low quality men who will sleep with anything they can get their dick in. I don't care where they were educated or how much they make. They are desperate and insecure, like you.Motorcycle crew
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01-09-2016, 10:09 PM #36
Doesn't apply to me personally, since I don't date younger women, or at all. It just comes across as femenist propaganda to try and shame men that do choose to date younger women.
And I've known plenty of Doctors who are interesting people. Can't say the same for lawyers, so I guess I agree with you on something :/
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01-09-2016, 10:12 PM #37
Then how do so many women monkey branch in marriages? I see it happen all of the time. Married woman has an affair, then leaves her husband for the affair partner. Granted, those fail in 95% of the cases.
Well that isn't very nice calling us desperate and insecure. Right now I'm celibate and working to change my life. I thought I had the best of both worlds -- the stability of a marriage and ability to see my child daily, and a single life to meet sexy men for drinks and pretend that I'm single in my head as an escape from a bad marriage. But now I realize that life led to a life of misery for everyone involved.
Not to mention I felt like a phony, like Princess Diana putting on a front of a happy marriage but both she and her husband had affairs.
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01-09-2016, 10:20 PM #38
ehh, blue collar isn't a make or break deal, but idk, more academic professions are more appealing. really, money isn't everything but if you have a specific passion for what you do, you can reveal how smart and interesting you are, like if you can demonstrate specific knowledge in things. it's just that white collar professions allow people to do this more easily. even then, it's not a huge deal, as men are valued for hard work in general.
and yeah, guys can hit their primes in their 30's-40's if they take care of themselves (i.e. no beer gut basically). you don't even have to be cut or anything like that. just dress well and carry yourself confidently
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01-09-2016, 10:24 PM #39
A lot of the men over 30 I explain we are in a sexless marriage, and they understand as many of them were towards the end of their divorce. I just can't date them openly and my schedule only allows one night a week to see anyone.
So if I divorce, force my daughter to go back and forth between 2 homes, causing her mental distress, then I won't be seen as a cheating whore to quality men? Sounds like my daughter is the one who suffers the most for a quality stepfather.
She even told her therapist that her worst fear is mommy and daddy divorcing. She told me numerous times she wants us to work things out and get back together.
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01-09-2016, 10:26 PM #40
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01-09-2016, 10:26 PM #41
Lol progress yay!
I'm not trying to shame anyone, but sometimes ppl don't see whats actually hurting them or they're chances or whatever. When you free yourself from all of societies expectations and bull crap life is soooo much better! Actually what really bugs me is when guys who are like early 20's look at women for their "mother" potential....like huh? Your 20 something go have fun! Its kinda crazy that men have developed a whats it called?? Paternal clock? It used to be women at that age eager for a family now its men because they don't want to have kids in H.S at like 50. Which is understandable but I see so many go after that goal the totally wrong way.
And for the record being a feminist is a good thing. If you had (or have) a daughter you'd want her to stick up for her rights, right? We owe a lot to those women back in the 60's and 70's and people have forgotten that due to this "negative" thing that's attached itself to women's rights recently. Its just kind of sad to me, its not about stomping on men, its about women being true to who they are. I feel like as a society we are moving backward and its just really scary from a woman's perspective...sorry to go all off topic but this is important. Sigh. Someones going to hate on this I know they are. But its fine we chicks are used to it, we're tougher then you think.
(p.s i'm cool with like tv gore but hearing about surgery is really not ok on a date! haha!)
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01-09-2016, 10:33 PM #42
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01-09-2016, 10:42 PM #43
I work in a field almost nobody seems to work in that pays well. Looks like I have that going for me. I also spend a lot of time studying, so, ironically, it gives me a whole lot to talk about and I can offer something other than just opinions.
and yeah, guys can hit their primes in their 30's-40's if they take care of themselves (i.e. no beer gut basically). you don't even have to be cut or anything like that. just dress well and carry yourself confidentlyAd astra per aspera
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01-09-2016, 10:51 PM #44
She doesn't see it that way. She sees it as having to spent 1/2 of her time and go back and forth between houses, and she said that she talked with other kids at school who had divorced parents. They told her they missed their Dads and generally were unhappy at the arrangment.
I have no clue why my husband hasn't divorced me. I've been waiting for years for him to serve me papers. He threatened it after the 24 year old was caught in our house.
My husband is a great guy, we met when I was 15 and have a lot in common (share an awesome daughter, both athletes, both work for the same company). I lost attraction for him when he refused to lift weights and I felt that I was 2nd to soccer, so he told me to go play tennis instead so he could play soccer 5 nights a week. I resented and complained to my Mom instead of him, which was immature. idk if a miracle could path that up.
She has seen her Dad date other Moms from her school, and it's confusing to her. I at least tried to keep it to guys we didn't know, except the gym front desk guy ( and that was a BAD decision because he opened his mouth to the world).
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01-09-2016, 10:57 PM #45
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I would tend to agree with this. I don't see any guy's 30-35 having problems with dating younger or older, all depending on your preference.
OP also made a comment about losing attractiveness at that age and I don't agree with that. I think men that age are quite attractive.
Keep doing what you're doing!National Level Competitor (Female BB)
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01-09-2016, 10:59 PM #46
well that sounds like a pretty cool lawyer!! Idk all the ones I dated were like no expression lol, just speaking from my own experience. But then again I do tend to go for the guy who likes to jump off cliffs lol so maybe thats why! Or maybe what this entire thread boils down to is we are all different lol and we all like something different. not that crazy of an idea!
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01-09-2016, 11:20 PM #47
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01-09-2016, 11:21 PM #48
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01-10-2016, 01:48 AM #49
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01-10-2016, 10:40 AM #50
So the younger woman you're dating has to deal with your baggage? Or don't you have any, even though you are in your 30's?!
I've noticed that a lot of men on this site assume women in their 30s have baggage, which is a pretty daft assumption.
Younger women who date much older men usually do so for the following reasons;
a) They have daddy issues.
b) The man has money.
c) His social status.
Very rarely is a 20something genuinely attracted to a receding hairline and an ever-expanding gut. Yeah, some guys look great in their 30's & 40's, but most don't.
This is why men are losing. They use their money to attract women, and then, when their life takes a turn for the worse and things aren't going as well for them, the woman bails (because all she really cared about was the $$$). The man then hops on the "sloots gon sloot" bandwagon, bitching and whining about "women these days", not quite grasping the fact that when you use material things to get someone, you can't complain if they ditch you when the money is no longer there... or if a better suitor comes along and "outbids" you.
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01-10-2016, 11:32 AM #51
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01-10-2016, 11:34 AM #52
Yes, you're totally right! Feminism isn't about stomping on men. That feminist who posted the hashtag: "Kill all white men", wasn't trying to stomp on men at all. Women wearing t-shirts that say: "I bathe in the tears of men" aren't trying to stomp on men either, you're completely right.
Excellent point about the owing it to women in the 70's who fought for the rights of women. The same principle can be applied to the US military. You guys agree that the US military fought for our freedom in World War 2, right? Therefore, it is completely unreasonable for you to be opposed to any action that the US military has taken part in since World War 2, as it would make you opposed to freedom! WITHOUT FEMINISM WOMEN WOULDN"T HAVE THE RIGHT TO VOTE, PRICKS!!!!
Yesterday evening I saw a woman walking down the street. A white man (#Killallwhitemen) and asked her, "You're not trying to be true to who you are, are you?". She told him that she was indeed being true to who she was. Said white man punched her in the face for that!!!! Unbelievable!!!
Anybody opposed to our feminist posts are obviously a hater, and probably big fans of patriarchy, oppression, and rape culture.
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01-10-2016, 11:36 AM #53
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https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_..._relationships
In August 2010, Michael Dunn of the University of Wales Institute, Cardiff completed and released the results of a study on age disparity in dating. Dunn concluded that "Not once across all ages and countries ... did females show a preference for males significantly younger than male preferences for females" and that there was a "consistent cross-cultural preference by women for at least same-age or significantly older men".Motorcycle crew
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01-10-2016, 11:48 AM #54
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Age is irrelevant if you're FA. Toxic mindset will always outweigh age, wealth, physical appearance, etc.
That being said, 30-35 is where I've had the most women who seem to be attracted to me. In reality, a lot of that is probably because I'm more socially aware of it than I was when I was younger. A lot of it is also confidence in the sense that I care less now than I did when I was younger because I'm more sure of myself. If you maintain your physical appearance as you age, you'll have a wide variety of women who are interested. You'll have the young ones who like older guys, ones in their mid twenties who are looking for mr. right and then ones in the late twenties and early thirties who rode the penis-train for the last decade and are now looking for someone to settle down with.
In other words, in your mid thirties, you actually get to choose which direction you want to go when it comes to dating as opposed to being relegated to the young ones who have the yolo lifestyle. It's refreshing but it also means a lot of crappy dates before you meet someone worth a ****.
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01-10-2016, 11:53 AM #55
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01-10-2016, 11:57 AM #56
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I've dated from 10 years younger to 7 years older. One thing I've noticed is that age and maturity have ZERO correlation when it comes to anything relationship related. The most insane women I've ever had the displeasure of talking to was actually older than me. One of the best chicks I've ever dated was quite a bit younger than me. A lot of people have the misunderstanding that a woman has to get dicked down for 10+ years and then decide she's ready to "settle down" before she's mature. It's not true.
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01-10-2016, 12:11 PM #57
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01-10-2016, 12:12 PM #58
God look at what I unleashed upon the world!
The problem, as always, seems to be that there's a big disparity between what the "vocal" and "silent" groups do. The more vocal group, which tend to speak only for themselves, seem to buck the trend, while the silent crowd seems to fall into these broader social patterns as ascertained by various research studies. I suppose that's the problem with me even asking the questions I ask, because the folks who respond tend to be people who'd refute any premises I may put forth.
One benefit I see coming my way is that I've become a little less self-conscious. I'm a bit more comfortable with who I am and I've carved out a little identity for myself that I own. My hope is that as the "picture" of who I am becomes clearer, there'll be women out there who view me with clarity and can decide whether I'm worth pursuing a relationship with.Ad astra per aspera
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01-10-2016, 12:15 PM #59
I've known numerous men, who are 35-40 and date females 20-25 consistently. Most of them look good for their age and most dont even make big bucks. Do I know women who do the same? Not even one. I mean, obviously, a hot 40 year old female can get laid with a 20 year old horny dude, but relationship? Not even close.
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01-10-2016, 12:41 PM #60
I have to take a stance against the people in this thread saying that women aren't into dating older men. Lol, what? Why do younger women date older guys? Because people are hypergamous as hell.
Two things that women find attractive is confidence resources. The older the man, the more resources and confidence he has, most of the time. This is why you see women dating older guys in high school. The older guys are more mature, thus they have more confidence. Additionally, the older guys have cars and driver's licenses.
Then when girls are in University you often see them dating guys who are in trades and are already established in well paying careers. These guys also have houses and vehicles of their own and are more confident than the hipster sitting beside her in Intro to psychology who is focused on where and when he can get his next bong toke.
Then if you're on an online dating website and you take a look at a 28 year old female Uni graduate's profile she will often have stated that she will date guys who are in their mid thirties. Why? Probably because there are established lawyers, doctors, etc. in that age bracket and she wouldn't have to worry if if those guys are going to "make it" or not.
And why do older guys date younger girls? Because high value women are hard to get, therefore why would a guy not just take what comes to him without a hassle. Also guys value a sexy body/face over resources and confidence, generally.
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