You look like that because you don't have a life outside the gym

[bodyhard]

Is what I was told yesterday when I went to my wife's family gathering. My wife was invited to a family get together where they met family members they never met before. It was in New Jersey at a fancy house (seems Patty has family with lots of money)

So as the night went on and people were drinking (Irish people drink a lot!!) one of Patty's male cousins (he had it out for me since he met me I could tell) approached me and and said "Yeah you look good with all those muscles, but anyone could look like you if they live in the gym, I bet you don't have a life outside the gym" Patty put her two arms on his shoulder and sprung him around and led him away from me.

Why do people think, just because a person is in shape he/she doesn't have a life outside the gym? If this guy only knew how way off he was.

[Bo_Flecks]

I've heard it. "You look great! But I don't want my life to revolve around working out..." I just smiled and accepted it as a compliment.

[bodyhard]

I've heard it. "You look great! But I don't want my life to revolve around working out..." I just smiled and accepted it as a compliment.

Yeah seems like there is always a negative connotation following the compliment. But why?

[babylotionbrah]

Some ppl are dumb a workout last no longer than 2 hours and in those 2 hours they probably just watch tv

[Bo_Flecks]

Yeah seems like there is always a negative connotation following the compliment. But why?

Maybe basic human nature to pacify themselves when they believe it's something they can't have, can't achieve, or simply just don't want to make whatever sacrifice they think it might take.

I stopped trying to defend a fitness lifestyle a long time ago. I just smile and move on now.

[bodyhard]

Some ppl are dumb a workout last no longer than 2 hours and in those 2 hours they probably just watch tv

I would not go as far as calling them dumb, just uninformed.

[MissHolly]

Yeah seems like there is always a negative connotation following the compliment. But why?

Because they don't place the importance on fitness that you do. Not saying that you live in the gym or backing up what that guy said. They are justifying to themselves (and out loud) why they don't do what you do. Unfortunately, some folks lack tact and should really keep their insecurities to themselves.

Hee hee, Irish huh? You like them fiery redheads for sure.

[bodyhard]

Maybe basic human nature to pacify themselves when they believe it's something they can't have, can't achieve, or simply just don't want to make whatever sacrifice they think it might take.

I stopped trying to defend a fitness lifestyle a long time ago. I just smile and move on now.

I hear ya.

Because they don't place the importance on fitness that you do. Not saying that you live in the gym or backing up what that guy said. They are justifying to themselves (and out loud) why they don't do what you do. Unfortunately, some folks lack tact and should really keep their insecurities to themselves.

Hee hee, Irish huh? You like them fiery redheads for sure.

But if they don't place the importance why look for a negative on the folks who do? Imagine if you walk up to a person who is out of shape and say something negative to them? People would look at you as insensitive and an ashh0l3.

LOL. I'll tell you Holly there were some hot f'cking white girls at the gathering, a lot of them were eyeing me, but I was a good boy

[Cass40]

Also, media shows bodybuilders always in a certain way.

Like, I went to a movie yesterday "Train Wreck" and the main character was dating a bodybuilder. He was portrait as a typical meathead, a little dumb, vain, self obsessed etc. (when she asked him talk dirty, he started talking about protein shakes)..so obviously they were making fun of him.
The same thing with a book I'm currently reading. The main character is dating a "fitness fanatic" and he is shown as very obsessed and self involved. It's always like that.

But low behold you do yoga for two hours a day chanting, you are some kind of spiritual mother Theresa kind of person.

[Mark1T]

Most people are over-weight. So, using the same logic, they only look that way because they can't stay away from the kitchen

Tell that person to stay away from the cake.

[JimmyJonny]

It's nothing but jealously........ you should be flattered.

[x-trainer ben]

So what is it about folks lately giving you these underhanded compliments. Is it a New York thing, or do you think it has to do with you and "the vibe" that you give off? I know insecure people are gonna insecure as the MISC says but this chit is getting ridiculous.

[Keoking]

BH, non-lifters are far too busy with far too little free time to work out.

By default, you "making time" to work out means:
1. You don't work very hard at your career.
2. You care more about yourself than your family.
3. You couldn't care less about your kids.
4. You don't like having fun.

Goddamn, you are so selfish that I'm getting pissed just thinking about it.

Not srs.

[jhass515]

"Yeah you look good with all those muscles, but anyone could look like you if they live in the gym".

I disagree. Just because you go to the gym doesn't mean you do the right things to look good and get strong.

I don't have this problem. No one even notices.I work out.

[ajdahlheimer]

The funny thing is, I bet BH's actual "time spent in the gym" is maybe 8 hours a week or less (just a guess). Really a small amount of time when you think about how many hours in a week. Peeps who don't lift probably believe you have to spend 8 hours A DAY in the gym to look like BH, cuz they don't understand it's about the quality of work put in--not the quantity. That's why so many people fail when trying get in shape because they think it is just about "putting time in". You can go to a gym for 3 hours and really not do anything for yourself if you are just going through motions with light weights, machine to machine, for short durations, etc. Or you can go for 40 minutes and absolutely kill it (like BH in his vids).


I will say that since I started my first real cut in April, diet is certainly something that it is hard to have a life outside of (if you are serious about it). The gym is fun part IMO.

[Mark1T]

I don't have this problem. No one even notices.I work out.

That's too bad.

[Cass40]

I disagree. Just because you go to the gym doesn't mean you do the right things to look good and get strong.

I don't have this problem. No one even notices.I work out.

People say "you don't workout every day?" and I'm like "yeah, I can't workout more than four times a week, one hour max a day because my muscles grow when I'm sleeping", and then they Bert stare me all weird..

[t_raven]

People are clueless.

People believe you instantly lose muscle if you miss a work out and that muscle turns to fat when you get old.

Can't stand talking about fitness or nutrition, or anything for that matter. I hate people

[hope27]

Is what I was told yesterday when I went to my wife's family gathering. My wife was invited to a family get together where they met family members they never met before. It was in New Jersey at a fancy house (seems Patty has family with lots of money)

So as the night went on and people were drinking (Irish people drink a lot!!) one of Patty's male cousins (he had it out for me since he met me I could tell) approached me and and said "Yeah you look good with all those muscles, but anyone could look like you if they live in the gym, I bet you don't have a life outside the gym" Patty put her two arms on his shoulder and sprung him around and led him away from me.

Why do people think, just because a person is in shape he/she doesn't have a life outside the gym? If this guy only knew how way off he was.

I think people who make comments like that might be more jealous than anything else
You definitely shouldn't feel as if you have to justify yourself
I think there is a negative connotation because most people don't have the ability to sustain the effort to look good and we all know it's not just about what you do in the gym, but how you eat as well

[TheFuarkingBoss]

Just pure jealousy, thats it, funny thing is I do more now than I ever did.

[Cass40]

Just pure jealousy, thats it, funny thing is I do more now than I ever did.

Why would they be jealous if they don't do anything to get those results?

It's like me saying I'm jealous of you having a great career and money when I haven't done anything to get that same thing.

It makes no sense to me. If they think someone's sweating at the gym and eating tilapia, rice, and broccoli when they are relaxing and drinking beer, they are probably relieved they don't have to do it.

Now, I would understand being jealous of someone who was just born under lucky stars, esthetic and blessed. But why would anyone be jealous of someone who works hard and makes sacrifices? They probably consider themselves lucky they don't have to do it.

[Fishman15]

Also, media shows bodybuilders always in a certain way.

Like, I went to a movie yesterday "Train Wreck" and the main character was dating a bodybuilder. He was portrait as a typical meathead, a little dumb, vain, self obsessed etc. (when she asked him talk dirty, he started talking about protein shakes)..so obviously they were making fun of him.
The same thing with a book I'm currently reading. The main character is dating a "fitness fanatic" and he is shown as very obsessed and self involved. It's always like that.

But low behold you do yoga for two hours a day chanting, you are some kind of spiritual mother Theresa kind of person.

I always...always use 2 scoops of protein powder. I really like to blend in things like bananas and blueberries or even strawberries. The other day I blended in a peach....that was hot. Sometimes I will throw in a supplement in powder form that doesn't taste good but my protein shake is so good you can't taste the bad stuff.

Are you even remotely turned on yet Miss Cass? lol...on spread

[Fishman15]

Is what I was told yesterday when I went to my wife's family gathering. My wife was invited to a family get together where they met family members they never met before. It was in New Jersey at a fancy house (seems Patty has family with lots of money)

So as the night went on and people were drinking (Irish people drink a lot!!) one of Patty's male cousins (he had it out for me since he met me I could tell) approached me and and said "Yeah you look good with all those muscles, but anyone could look like you if they live in the gym, I bet you don't have a life outside the gym" Patty put her two arms on his shoulder and sprung him around and led him away from me.

Why do people think, just because a person is in shape he/she doesn't have a life outside the gym? If this guy only knew how way off he was.

My favorite response to this topic with people is this..."It's amazing how much extra time I've found in life since I turned the tv off and got up off the couch." You can see the steam building coming out of their ears and that pretty much ends that...lol

[Keltron]

Is what I was told yesterday when I went to my wife's family gathering. My wife was invited to a family get together where they met family members they never met before. It was in New Jersey at a fancy house (seems Patty has family with lots of money)

So as the night went on and people were drinking (Irish people drink a lot!!) one of Patty's male cousins (he had it out for me since he met me I could tell) approached me and and said "Yeah you look good with all those muscles, but anyone could look like you if they live in the gym, I bet you don't have a life outside the gym" Patty put her two arms on his shoulder and sprung him around and led him away from me.

Why do people think, just because a person is in shape he/she doesn't have a life outside the gym? If this guy only knew how way off he was.

Who cares what he thinks? His comments are rooted in jealousy. He doesnt have something that you have. He wants that thing that you have but he can't (not 'cant' in a physical sense but 'cant' in a sense that he lacks the discipline) so he rationalizes it by making it seem like you have to not have time for things in life in order to have you what you have.

You should've just said, "I workout 5 days/week for 90 minutes. Minus the time I spend sleeping and working, I have 56 hours in a week to do other things. Only 7.5 of those hours are spent in the gym. See, it's not that the gym rules my life. I'm just disciplined enough to keep going even when I don't want to. Even when I'm crippled and can barely walk. You might go for a few months and then stop going after finding a far less severe excuse. It's not about having the time to look like this. It's about having the discipline to stick w/it."

[TheShadowMan]

I think every statement is all about perspectives, opinions, or experiences.

Perspectives - speaking from a position where you think based on what you believe you know. Like say if you've been influenced or brainwashed by the media and their expressed image of what bodybuilding is, means, and stands for.

Opinions - an idea you created based on either influence or some other thought, be it logical or illogical. Not always based on anything factual, but makes for a nice debate on a topic.

Experiences, a belief or thought formed based on something observed or applied, having more solid ground than perspectives or opinions. Always based on non-fiction events, but often times an unfair judgement or generalization can come by sharing experiences.

Question is, which of these three concepts are they using as a basis for their comments? Personally, i'd just smile and laugh about it. Someone else took it upon themselves to attempt to bring me down, but they also gave me a tremendous compliment by saying I had all that muscle. They acknowledged all the hard work I put into my craft, and it got to the point where people couldn't ignore what i'd become. That guy was in a way, letting you know he thinks you look really good. Almost as if he was saying, "dang, I wish I was him, I wish I did what he did, and looked like that. That guy is freakin cool."

[paolo59]

There is some jealousy involved. It is misplaced. Jealousy normally is. Most people don't realize that it doesn't really take all that much effort. I hit it hard in the gym, but it's no huge endeavor. It's something you do regularly. Like brushing your teeth or taking a shower! A lot of 'middle aged' folk have just sort of 'let themselves go.' When they see someone who hasn't, it is a reminder that calls attention to that fact.


LOL The comment has nothing to do with you, it has to do with the commentator!

[ChazWood]

[bodyhard]

So what is it about folks lately giving you these underhanded compliments. Is it a New York thing, or do you think it has to do with you and "the vibe" that you give off? I know insecure people are gonna insecure as the MISC says but this chit is getting ridiculous.

I get this a lot, from family, from friends, from my old co-workers (I try to hide my build as best as I can at my current job) and I am sure people in great shape hear it as well. The only difference is, is that I will post about it, where most wont for fear they are trying to "brag" about themselves, but I don't care about that. Because when I want to brag I just do it, hence my thread "51 never looked so good".

[ElrondHubbard]

My favorite response to this topic with people is this..."It's amazing how much extra time I've found in life since I turned the tv off and got up off the couch." You can see the steam building coming out of their ears and that pretty much ends that...lol

That pretty much does it. Most people spend far more time in front of the TV than any bodybuilder spends in the gym.

[pryme]

Am I the only one who mindlessly tried to use my thumb to slide this to the left to check time stamps of these texts lol

I've heard stuff like this before and a few times I reply that I dont even workout. And keep a blank face. Imagine that.