Heartbroken ... GF broke up with me after arguement

[youngarab]

because women make decisions based on emotions, at the time she was mad at you, her emotions have calmed down and now she wants to get back with you... youre so naive

Lol everyone always calls me naive ... srs

[AuBrah]

In my situation would you get back with her?

Yeah. As someone said before girls make decisions based on emotion - she was pissed so was acting irrationally. If you love her then stay with her (no beta), give her another chance. Communication and keeping your cool is the key in a relationship, I learnt that the hard way.

[youngarab]

Yeah. As someone said before girls make decisions based on emotion - she was pissed so was acting irrationally. If you love her then stay with her (no beta), give her another chance. Communication and keeping your cool is the key in a relationship, I learnt that the hard way.

Interesting. You think this will happen again if we ever have an argument ... I do love her but I dont wanna have to get in that pathetic state of mind again where im sitting at work in depression and chit for 8-12 hours every day

[MikeDavies84]

Came in expecting Indian or Persian, left satisfied.

[youngarab]

Came in expecting Indian or Persian, left satisfied.

Not Indian or Persian lol ... strong geography

[letshavebabies]

Interesting. You think this will happen again if we ever have an argument ... I do love her but I dont wanna have to get in that pathetic state of mind again where im sitting at work in depression and chit for 8-12 hours every day

then let her know how you felt. tell her that if she does it again she should let you know that she's being very emotional

[Fang2]

She's a decade older than you? Why couldn't you find a girl around your age?

[Collapoppa23]

Here's the deal, OP. Seems she's not with you for money but companionship. She's lonely and is used to being independent. I don't think she wants your money but wants to be taken care of and loved. She knows by being depedant on your money she owes you something she can't give like the money back.

You seem like a good guy to her so maybe don't no contact her but don't try to be in a relationship either unless she wants it. Love her and treat her now and then (yes, beta)

I'd take her out and do cute sht for her but don't get attached it won't end well bruh

[youngarab]

then let her know how you felt. tell her that if she does it again she should let you know that she's being very emotional

Ok ill tell her. Im sure shell call me tomorrow ... she called me 3 times today lol

[youngarab]

She's a decade older than you? Why couldn't you find a girl around your age?

You dont think I've questioned myself about that. I'm telling you dude I cant control my feelings towards someone. I bounced for a year and a half. Have gotten hundreds of numbers (no e brag) Even when I was with this girl id have pretty cute girls constantly come up flirt with me while working at the bar/club. To top it off this chick is always broke lives paycheck to paycheck, cant have kids anymore (hysterectomy), 31 and will age quickly most likely, has a crazy ex husband, can barley have sex due to having a very sensitive vaj. But I still cant help it. Id get into more detail but aside from her being emotionally abused shes like my other half.

[youngarab]

Here's the deal, OP. Seems she's not with you for money but companionship. She's lonely and is used to being independent. I don't think she wants your money but wants to be taken care of and loved. She knows by being depedant on your money she owes you something she can't give like the money back.

You seem like a good guy to her so maybe don't no contact her but don't try to be in a relationship either unless she wants it. Love her and treat her now and then (yes, beta)

I'd take her out and do cute sht for her but don't get attached it won't end well bruh

Why dont think itll end well

[_Muskelberg_]

[ClintMcc]

sounds like you are being used...

[Collapoppa23]

Why dont think itll end well

Switch roles, you're a dude struggling with 3 kids as she's a young girl with options.


She has too much pride to keep taking your financial crutch and would rather be single struggling even if it kills her, it seems. Plus her kids are above you in priority. I think you'll be her friend for a while but won't stick around with her baggage or lifestyle.

Good luck brah, prove us wrong. She's the type that should be treated like a
Queen once in a while for the sht she goes through and struggles.

[youngarab]

Switch roles, you're a dude struggling with 3 kids as she's a young girl with options.


She has too much pride to keep taking your financial crutch and would rather be single struggling even if it kills her, it seems. Plus her kids are above you in priority. I think you'll be her friend for a while but won't stick around with her baggage or lifestyle.



Good luck brah, prove us wrong. She's the type that should be treated like a
Queen once in a while for the sht she goes through and struggles.

Idk brah why did she say those things than last night and kiss me and want me to be with her again. And yeah dude ill stick around no matter what. doesnt matter she has a really good heart and always puts people and her kids before others. She doesnt have chit besides essentials.. her life was screwed up ... she made some dumb mistakes but I dont think anyone deserves that

[smoked04]

Op is a straight up idiot. Srs.

Read some of his other threads, it's like he doesn't know how to function in society.

Brb Loses a job after working there for a day.

Brb Gets flat tire on way to work, doesn't call in just doesn't show up, bishes to misc about how his boss is a dick.

Brb Rate my shirt for a formal get together. Wearing a singlet.

Then this thread.

You're not going to make it.

[mujie]

Havent really got back with her but wondering what made her change her mind. She seemed so sure that she didnt want a relationship because my comment brought back all the years of abuse

Naaa,she had you on a short leash all along.You were just too immature to see you were being used.She uses guys like this all the time.Thats why its so easy for her to bail.Grow up and move on

[AlphaKilo6421]

In my situation would you get back with her?

The answer is no. Emphatically no. For the love of God, no. For ****'s sake, no. If you value your mental state, no.

If you don't mind crying to the Misc, everytime she tells you to leave, yes.

[nightwolf6423]

Too much package and too big of an age gap.

/thread

[SKIN__N__BONES]

Gonna get flamed and made fun of trolled whatever but I need to express my feelings somewhere. Dated a 31 year old mother of 3 kids (huge red flag i know) met her at work. She was pretty much starstruck when she was me. She kept moving closer towards me until we were right next to each other and started talking. Got her number. Started going out. after the first date we spent the entire weekend together for the next 2 days. She spent the night at my house , even came with me to work. We did everything together. Even fkin showered together. I loved her because we had the same beliefs and same personality. She also Loved helping people and going to church and reading Gospel. At that point when I really knew how she was I just let my guard down and told myself its ok she loves Christ like we do, she wont ever do anything bad.

Anyways as times goes on and we get comfortable she starts hanging out less because she had lost her roommate and was left alone to pay all the expenses of a apartment and kids. Shes struggled all of her life and doesn't have parents (both dead). She would tell me she cant go out because she has no money for even some of her bills. So I would help her. She would argue and not accept my money but I pretty much convinced her to let me help. I took her to the hospital when she had surgery , I bought her lunch on days I knew she didnt have food to eat (she never asked Id surprised her with it). Literally was always there for her. Fast forward to last week. We had been hanging out and the last 6 or 7 times it was just me helping her so when she called me I kinda raised my voice and said "Why is it everytime we hang out im always helping you" She started crying and said "I knew youd throw it back in my face my ex husband would always do this to me anytime he helped me hed shove it back in my face and make me feel terrible" Than she broke up with me and told me she cant do a relationship.

I apologized several times and told her it wasnt about the money but about not being able to do anything a lot of the time. Went to her work on her lunch break we talked about it in her house and she said "We can be friends but I just cant do a relationship, I have kids and I have so much on my plate I cant sit her arguing and what not"

Have no emotions left in me ... I dont know what to think anymore. I can't believe shed do that. She was the one who was head over heels for me when we met. Just fkin shattered. Its wack I know but I cant help these pathetic feelings. Can't even trust a Christian person anymore.... its been a week. Ive tried everything to get my mind off it. I even went out and got smashed (threw my morals away) the pain was just too much. Nothing helps. Only time will. Its the worst feeling


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Update: She called me last night at around 10 and she was crying and shaking really bad. I go whats wrong. She says she feels like shes her appendix is gonna burst or something in her stomach (she works in medical field and knows symptoms). Got over to her house and literally had to carry her in my car. She couldn't even walk. Get to the emergency room and wheeled her in finally got to the doc. Pain starts getting so bad shes crying in front of me the doctor and nurses. They dope her up on pain meds. And do a ultrasound and a CT scan. Neither showed chit even though they thought her appendix was gonna burst. So they examined her poosy and that caused her a lot of pain too. They now believe its 100% her ovaries. If pain persists they're gonna have to take them out. Anyways we had to sit in the hospital for 8 hours literally. Every time Id leave to go walk around shed text me and say "come back" she had ot have me with her idk why. She kept making comments like "Thank you so much for bringing me it means so much to me no one would ever do this for me, im so used to not being cared for" "Im sorry I upset you today" "im sorry Im so insecure and sensitive" and basically just sat with her comforting her all night (yea yea beta). Than we get back to her house and she asks me to come in. Get in and she feels sick to her stomach. Im just sitting on the couch and she comes and lays down on me. As shes laying down on me she goes "Why are you so nice to me, your like an angel" hit me with the feels. Than she goes " I love you gets up and kisses me" .... chit brahs

dont understand the bolded part. In what way did she deceive you? You cant trust a christian girl because she said that she is too dedicated to her children for a relationship at this point? Seems like a completely understandable thing to me


Anyways Id move on based on the fact she can barely even support herself and 3 kids. She is clearly a loser and whoever the kids father is is also probably a loser

Op is a straight up idiot. Srs.

Read some of his other threads, it's like he doesn't know how to function in society.

Brb Loses a job after working there for a day.

Brb Gets flat tire on way to work, doesn't call in just doesn't show up, bishes to misc about how his boss is a dick.

Brb Rate my shirt for a formal get together. Wearing a singlet.

Then this thread.

You're not going to make it.

im never sure when he is trolling or not.

I think he is just fuking around. He seemed somewhat normal in the vid of him eating that big breakfast

[AuBrah]

Interesting. You think this will happen again if we ever have an argument ... I do love her but I dont wanna have to get in that pathetic state of mind again where im sitting at work in depression and chit for 8-12 hours every day

If you let it slide it could, just speak to her and give her an opportunity to open up then go from there. But as I said before, the worst thing you can do with that type of girl is flare up because they'll just shut down.

[stronguy91]

lol too much real life, dealing with a sloot in her mid 30's, has plenty of kids and is into church and crazy ex in prison....fortunately i do not catch beta feelings so i will just fuk her until she gets tired of me

[rocknnrolla]

you are such a creeeeeppp, i cant tell if you just make these stories up or literally spend ur whole day scouting women out

also stop making threads

[CodyLee1337]

Savior complex OP. She doesn't want a relationship, she wants to be taken care of. Sorry man, you're not her husband you shouldn't be investing like you are. This is why you'll end up heart broken. We are all human and can fall for anyone. You're a Christian brah, you are called to guard your heart. Emotionally and physically you've not done so, and you're unequally yolked with her. Much pain will come. Pray about what you should do

[Apollo 13]

Hey you do WTF makes you happy not what the misc thinks. If you are happy with the girl and love her even though she has 3 kids then be with her. If the girl continue to not want to be in a relationship it's time to leave though because it seems like she just wants to keep you around to help her out in need.

[smoked04]

Hey you do WTF makes you happy not what the misc thinks. If you are happy with the girl and love her even though she has 3 kids then be with her. If the girl continue to not want to be in a relationship it's time to leave though because it seems like she just wants to keep you around to help her out in need.

This is horrible advice. You realize op is only 22 right? This bish is ten years older with THREE kids. If he follows what your saying he is going to end up wasting his youth.

[MarinoMike]

Good Job dave OP

[martieboy]

You're young. You have to put yourself on the first place so get her out of your life completely

[MyDue]

Op is a straight up idiot. Srs.

Read some of his other threads, it's like he doesn't know how to function in society.

Brb Loses a job after working there for a day.

Brb Gets flat tire on way to work, doesn't call in just doesn't show up, bishes to misc about how his boss is a dick.

Brb Rate my shirt for a formal get together. Wearing a singlet.

Then this thread.

You're not going to make it.

please post thread. I cant find his latest topics

[GDPONE]

Interesting. You think this will happen again if we ever have an argument ... I do love her but I dont wanna have to get in that pathetic state of mind again where im sitting at work in depression and chit for 8-12 hours every day

Odds are yes it will happen many many times if you continue to see her. It sounds like this is just the type of person she is, and how she handles things. No misc persona but you may really want to think hard about this. Not with your feelings but logically. Being nice to her and helping her in the hospital was just a good thing to do regardless. But watch out and make sure she isnt using you all the time if you dont stay with her.

Also stop being a *******, man up, and tell HER all these things. Not us.