my wife is leaving me, fuark haven't eaten in like 3 days. srs please help!(UPDATED)

[niiick]

sadly this is what i've been thinking more than anything for her to act this way all of a sudden, out of no where and to have no feelings just all of a sudden.

it wasn't all of a sudden and don't for a second think that she cheated and all of a sudden doesn't want to be with you...

Honestly, she probably did cheat, but the infidenlity is usually the final nail in the coffin... she obviously has been growing to detest you for sometime now.

Stop being a sad sack and laywer up... You have kids too, so this is about them now. Your wife's a whoe, accept it and laywer the **** up.

[UnTrapped]

Life will go on man, you need to look after yourself first and foremost, eat and keep working out. This should spur you on if anything, she sounds like she isn't worth your time and you're better off without her. The kids will be fine, seriously.

Damn bro that really sucks. Thanks for showing me the light though. Now I know I'm NEVER getting married or having kids! Women are so selfish like that guy said. I don't have any advice for you but at least you can feel better that this will never happen to me? Idk, good luck, best wishes.
Oh you should get a new sloot, that might help.

[South Side Stev]

[Maestro]

oh god, this thread is depressing as fuck.

[pumpgun51]

she cheated.

yup everything points to this

i'm sorry man but this might be for the best but i feel legit sorry for the kids who will suffer because their crazy selfish mother had a mid-life crisis


you should def get a lawyer right NOW

[JayRong]

damn man hope u make it...go vent with ur friends or something

[Ronnie87]

Why are you begging her to stay? This woman doesn't give a phuck about you, she's probably cheated on you. Do not contact her except for practicalities, get yourself a job, find you and your son a place to live and keep on with losing weight. You're going to get a good job, get in fantastic shape and she's gonna realise she dun goofed when you have a woman who actually cares about you.

[NotBigEnough206]

Hang on brah, everything happens for a reason, there will be a day when you will be much happier and say to yourself I am glad this happened.

Trust me there will be that day.

Get a lawyer broski.

[deltbrah]

i'm going to be as honest as possible with you. She has lost all respect for you, and how can you blame her, since you lost all respect for yourself.


Seriously dude, quitting your job to be a stay at home dad, so you could save on daycare. Yeah that may seem a good option from a financial standpoint, but you didnt look at it from a social and cultural standpoint.

Men are providers, it is our defined role, to lessen yourself to a househusband showed to her that you do not respect yourself as the head of the houshold. She therefore wants a "real man" in her gender stereotyped perception. Probably some guy from her work or something who knows. This is proven by the fact she said, that she will be with you for 17 years, but wont kiss or have sex etc with you... which means she lost any attraction she had to you as a MAN.

Cash isnt everything, self respect is. once you learn that you wont have these problems.

[NYDiplomat]

This is what scares me most about relationships.

[ProvidenceBrah]

yea dont try going crawling back to her unless you know for a fact she wants you back. call her bluff and act like it doesnt affect you. this is the only way you might still have a chance with her in the future if thats what YOU want. if you start begging now she will just be turned off.

act like this doesnt matter and start setting things in motion and see how she feels. if she starts wanting you back good if not then she really is over you. either way dont beg and just act like it doesnt bother you. win-win

also like others said here lawyer up and see what your options are. dont let her control this situation maybe thats why shes turned off cause you arent controlling things more.

[rspb]

sorry to hear that, brah. don't hold out any hope of persuading her to stay. she's gone. get legal advice and get prepared for a long legal battle

good luck

[Gimme1More]

yup everything points to this

i'm sorry man but this might be for the best but i feel legit sorry for the kids who will suffer because their crazy selfish mother had a mid-life crisis

what i've grown to think happened is this, shes admitted in past relationships that she's cheated and was almost addicted to it. She said that she loved me and never cheated on me, which i believe. But i do think that after that night once she did cheat and that once she was able to cheat on me. She realizes that she doesn't love me enough to stay with me.

[TotalNatty]

Also going to guess she cheated as well because I remember reading a thread you made about becoming fat/lazy again. It sucks and I hope you get through it. You still have your son. Get a lawyer and get back to work. If you have only been out since december I am sure you can find a comparable job to your previous.

[turbodiesel_kai]

First off, I'm sorry to hear this. It sucks beyond all measure when your world blows up like this. I've been there a couple times.
Second, I would Bet almost anything that she's been feeling like this for a while and has been trying to convince herself to stay but for whatever reason she can't. Things were probably too comfortable for her. As bad as it sounds, many women need a certain amount of drama in their lives or else they get bored. Lesson learned.

Third, stay logical. Get a lawyer if you haven't already and make sure you get what you deserve!
Stay in the gym and take out your frustration there

[kkchop28]

I'm truly sad to hear this man. Stay strong and remember to not lose focus of what the future holds. We are all gonna make it.

[Superman Mk II]

i'm going to be as honest as possible with you. She has lost all respect for you, and how can you blame her, since you lost all respect for yourself.


Seriously dude, quitting your job to be a stay at home dad, so you could save on daycare. Yeah that may seem a good option from a financial standpoint, but you didnt look at it from a social and cultural standpoint.

Men are providers, it is our defined role, to lessen yourself to a househusband showed to her that you do not respect yourself as the head of the houshold. She therefore wants a "real man" in her gender stereotyped perception. Probably some guy from her work or something who knows. This is proven by the fact she said, that she will be with you for 17 years, but wont kiss or have sex etc with you... which means she lost any attraction she had to you as a MAN.

Cash isnt everything, self respect is. once you learn that you wont have these problems.

sad but true brah, exactly how women's minds work, come to a logical conclusion financially to better yourself as a couple, she agrees with the logic but the women In her reverts to default. She will regret it when she sees you in a few months/years, and you're happy with a more attractive women, you will make it.

[topperstyle]

Unfortunately you staying home when she got a promotion was a mistake. Whatever problems she could blame on you show now has leverage and power over you. The good news is you can find someone who cares about you unlike her.


I wish you well

[BitterBrah]

Never getting married

[lordstart100]

she said all this after "venting to her friends the night before" , something happened. its either she never went to her friends and has been seeing someone behind your back or those other sluts have stuffed her head with all kind of non sense.

Anyways , dont beg or ask her to stay anymore. **** the kids. i know you love them and everything, but you need to be smart regarding this matter. Leave her to be . leave things on neutral. tell her that youve thought about it and you think it is better to get a divorce . divide both your times on who will be taking the kids. and move out.MOVE THE FUKC OUT OF THE HOUSE. trust me, next thing youll see is her dragging some drunk home and having loud sex with him in the other room.

Its time to take a quality decision.

gl

[HMFIC_BROWSIN]

Lesson learned Opie: never get married again.

Misc was right, etc.

[Imaneya]

ahh the married life. never getting married crew.

also, sadly this -

[] i'm going to be as honest as possible with you. She has lost all respect for you, and how can you blame her, since you lost all respect for yourself.


Seriously dude, quitting your job to be a stay at home dad, so you could save on daycare. Yeah that may seem a good option from a financial standpoint, but you didnt look at it from a social and cultural standpoint.

Men are providers, it is our defined role, to lessen yourself to a househusband showed to her that you do not respect yourself as the head of the houshold. She therefore wants a "real man" in her gender stereotyped perception. Probably some guy from her work or something who knows. This is proven by the fact she said, that she will be with you for 17 years, but wont kiss or have sex etc with you... which means she lost any attraction she had to you as a MAN.

Cash isnt everything, self respect is. once you learn that you wont have these problems.[/b]

[newleaseonlife]

I think this is a fear that a lot of us have. It may not be out in the open, but it's definetly in the back of our minds. I would offer this, She killed the relationship, not you. You are ready, willing and able to fight, and that's admirable, but if she's not willing to fight as well it's futile. If this were any other relationship and that type of trust was gone, you would probably reconsider that relationship. No one just falls out of love, it's a process, and when it happens over a series of petty things then the love probably wasn't strong on one end. We all do it, every single relationship has bruises, everyone has arguments, but the deciding factor is the honor one places in maintaining the relationship. Like the other guys said, protect yourself, and your family, but do not be weak with this. You love this woman, and want to be with her, but she made the decision to end it, and don't you wear that for one second. Take your time and analyze things to the best of your ability, and make the right decision for you, and your son moving forward. I don't know what I'd do at this point if my wife decided to up and leave, I would probably be in the same position as you, but this isn't your fight to win her back. If you messed up, and had to grovel that's one thing, but she made the bed.

It's friday, you ain't got no job, you ain't got chit to do...SO... call up the boys and get super yucky!

[reyes12]

We're a brother hood @ the misc. It might not seem like it cause of how much it changed. But at the end of the day, we're here for you brah.


Please take the advice in the thread. Lawyer up, and have the last laugh. She sounds like a kunt anyways.

I know how it feels to get cheated on.. You probably did, but just take some time to think straight. Meditate; there's a great thread about it here - use it to help you get a hold of yourself.

[Vhagar]

Get a divorce attorney now!!!

Looks like you can keep the kids, house and a little alimony. You are accustomed to the life she provided you as it was the role you assumed as a stay at home dad. I hate she doesnt feel for you anymore, pull the band-aid off now instead of making everyone involved miserable.

http://cordellcordell.com/

All of this

[AimHighWillis]

Did you call Saul yet OP?

[NWA19]

shes admitted in past relationships that she's cheated and was almost addicted to it.

First mistake was wifin this whale slut up

She said that she loved me and never cheated on me, which i believe.

second mistake, well you know.

[D4ZlTMANE]

Well do you love her OP? Do you still have feelings?
You should consider talking to her 1 on 1

[rise21]

Sorry op her venting was with a male. Get the divorce now and take her to the cleaners. If you wait til August you will get screwed over.

[Jim Jitsu]

Fuark man, strong feels. I am divorced (about a year and a half ago). It was tough but I learned a lot and have tons of self-confidence and respect now. You don't need a woman brah. Just keep things good for your kids and that's it.