Graduated college, moved across country for job, became FA as fuk and lonely wut do?
Cliff notes:
-had great time in college lots of friends and chit to do, super easy to meet people and make good friends
-graduated college, took job on west coast, moved 3,000 miles across country to Seattle and basically left all friends behind
-job is awesome, getting paid very well, but kinda just plopped down in a new city all my myself, nomsaying?
-most coworkers are older (28+) and I'm 22
-very hard to meet other people your age who are not younger and doing their own thing at college, or older and buying houses and ****
-have nice apartment and good car and good quality of life but end up sitting here miscing or cooking chit or going to the gym (nobody else my age goes after 5pm b/c no work)
-very hard to make friends and build like-minded community, plus Seattleites tend to be kinda anti-social which blows becuause I'm outgoing
-currently resort to just cold-approaching people around town and trying to make friends with people that look cool/my age with mixed success/bertstares
-wondering why fuking nobody wants to just live life and get aesthetic and kill it with the crew instead sit around in apartment
-now I am succumbing to this chit too, and sit around FA at apartment cooking, go to gym, drive car by myself for fun, so fuarcking bored
Any brahs have pro tips or a good routine to help get a community established in a new city? Worried about becoming permanently FA here...
inb4 stop crying and fist yourself
For your time:
Are we all gonna make it?
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09-07-2013, 01:43 PM #1Registered User
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Graduated college, moved across country for job, became FA as fuk and lonely wut do?
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09-07-2013, 01:46 PM #2Registered User
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cmon misc
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09-07-2013, 01:48 PM #3On dat der cut
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You could try going to some of the events on sites like Meetup.com and find people with similar interests to hang out with
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09-07-2013, 01:48 PM #4Registered User
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guess we're not all gonna make it...
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09-07-2013, 01:48 PM #5Banned
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welcome to life after college. that's why men and women start looking for a life long partner because they realize the real world is not supportive of friendships like college was and they get lonely
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09-07-2013, 01:48 PM #6Registered User
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Go to bar.
Drink.
Talk.
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09-07-2013, 01:48 PM #7Registered User
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Know this feel.
Some hobbies outside the gym help, I have met people skiing and mountain biking.
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09-07-2013, 01:50 PM #8Registered User
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ah, nice. repped. Will check out site. Can't be worse than cold-approaching rando people I see aroundOriginally Posted by megadeth20
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09-07-2013, 01:50 PM #9Bulking ->Strength->Cut
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this.Originally Posted by megadeth20
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09-07-2013, 01:51 PM #10Registered User
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This was the most obvious... but I'm on that Crohn's disease time and no alcohol. Do you think it would be *******y to just go to the bar and drink non-alcoholic drinks??? Lol...Originally Posted by Kev1972
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09-07-2013, 01:52 PM #11Registered User
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Who would know? Just order a jack and coke, hold the jack.Originally Posted by bignaj
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09-07-2013, 01:52 PM #12Registered User
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Do you really think life after college is always like that?Originally Posted by WalkingPharmacy
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09-07-2013, 01:52 PM #13Registered User
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get involved in ****, mma, marathons, ultimate Frisbee, rugby, etc
if it is to be it is up to me
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09-07-2013, 01:53 PM #14
I live in Seattle ATM if you like i can be your wingman and we can get chicks
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09-07-2013, 01:53 PM #15Registered User
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Alright brah, might just do that. Brb paying 8 dollars for cup of coke, but money isn't the important thing here really.Originally Posted by Kev1972
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09-07-2013, 01:53 PM #16Registered User
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2 choices.
Go to bar get club sodas or whatever wont bother you.
Find miscrs in your area.
btw there are tons of cool brahs in the Seattle area.Biden 2020
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09-07-2013, 01:53 PM #17FEELS GOOD MAN
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whats your major, job?
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09-07-2013, 01:54 PM #18confirmed rollbread
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i can see how this would not go well at alOriginally Posted by bignaj
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09-07-2013, 01:54 PM #19Registered User
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We're all gonna make it. Just learn to make the best of your time. I moved across the country as well and go to community college. Friends and HBBs came when I just took up personal hobbies, learned to do new things, explored new places, etc. Why don't you take a road trip over the weekend to somewhere? Get a learners guitar? Take a class on how to ride a motorcycle? Stick shift? Horseback riding? Painting? Drawing? Etc etc. Like I said, you'll make it. You're still extremely young. Most importantly never be afraid to fly solo... whether that be going to a movie alone or going to a bar alone. That's the best way to do it
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09-07-2013, 01:54 PM #20Registered User
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That avi.... is that real??Originally Posted by Whatisdis
s-s-sure...
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09-07-2013, 01:55 PM #21ayyyy lmao
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strong aviOriginally Posted by Whatisdis
I would say Seattle is a pretty hard place to make friends in your situation. People here are a bit anti social I guess...
I met my two closest friends doing martial arts - maybe try muy thai or mmawatchout your comments boyo ↓
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09-07-2013, 01:56 PM #22Registered Goomba
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No that's absolutely false. Maybe it's because i'm in NYC, idk, but everyone I know has connections and friends, usually through their work. Sh!t my brother, 30 years old still hangs out with his friends from high school. It may not be as often as it used to be, but it does happen.Originally Posted by bignaj
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09-07-2013, 01:57 PM #23(He/Him)
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should have gotten a roommate in ur apartment
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09-07-2013, 01:57 PM #24Big Poppa Pump
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exactly... I grew up in the burbs, moved to big city, had friends but wanted to expand. played volleyball and met so many new peopleOriginally Posted by SwissRicola
I rep back everyone 1k+... just sayin
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09-07-2013, 01:59 PM #25Bob Loblaw
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where do you work? Been looking for a new job myself, same general area
just do the above- join a mma/boxing gym, etc. Go where people have similar interests.God bless/science be with our military
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09-07-2013, 02:02 PM #26Registered User
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Don't know why you don't have tinder yet.
Tinder = problem solved. OP
Get it brah then we will all make it.
Boom.
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09-07-2013, 02:02 PM #27Registered User
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This. I didn't realize before I came here but it's so true. I'm literally talking to everyone and I get a lot of bertstares... someone's gotta make the effort though right? Doing sports is definitely something I could do. I play pickup soccer but most are college kids and their schedule doesn't align with mine.Originally Posted by iwant2beswole
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09-07-2013, 02:03 PM #28Registered User
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I came from the NYC area.. and if I was there I would still have a lot of community.. but moving 3,000 miles away to a new city kinda throws a loop in there, gnome saying? I think that's the main issue. Literally starting fresh.Originally Posted by gmenfan40
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09-07-2013, 02:04 PM #29Registered User
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Repped.Originally Posted by Suit
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09-07-2013, 02:04 PM #30because MERICA that's why
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People think because you're in a bar you have to drink..you don't. Know one is going to come up to you and give you **** for not drinking. But if you've never done it, just order and beer to have in your hand.
As for everything else:
-You just have to change your approach. What ends up happing is that people get so used to the process of making friends in college that they don'tknow how to make friends outside of school.
-It's not creepy to cold approach people outside of school, a lot of people do it and it's not a big deal, so don't make it a big deal. Just talk, do community sheet,,,etc.
---The key thing is to never get scared to do things alone. You're old enough to give a sheet what others think, so fawk everyone and do you brah.
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