A compilation of my TL;DRs (May help you)(TL;DR)

[sneakyninjapnts]

Re: Self-confidence problems

You've really got to work on that. At the moment you're living your life for others, worrying how your actions look to others and worrying that you're not doing good enough for them. One of the sayings that really struck with me was, "don't be concerned about being in people's way or are disturbing them, take up as much space as you want and let them tell you if they have a problem with it." Live your life for yourself, be selfish until given a reason not to be.... don't intentionally bring people down, but NEVER intentionally bring yourself down FOR other people. It's a whole mindset that you need to fix, and it's very, very possible. Most people who seem to have "have it all together" aren't naturally like that, they were right where you are now and have climbed out of it by learning to respect, appreciate and love themselves. If you don't live your life with the directive to make it as happy, enjoyable, pleasureable, and meaningful as it can be - no one else will. Everyone is playing their own game, and you're playing into their hand for absolutely no reason.

The moment you begin to be happy in your own skin is like a breathless air just washes over you and everything just becomes easier. Social interactions become a breeze when people have to prove themselves to you rather than you proving yourself to them. I know anxiety is not something you can magically cure, but at least know where you're trying to go so you can get there easier. Hopefully we can help. Tinder is a good superficial start, knowing that these girls - based only on looks - liked you... you should feel in complete control of the relationship now that they've given up their ONLY power of you as a female.

Anyone who fears that other people might see them on tinder or see that they use it should heed this advice.

Re: Living life

yeah man, take every shot you can and never say no.... do chit just for the story, live safe but adventurously. These stories will keep that little fire burning inside of you to improve and progress at everything else. You shouldn't live to have a good paying job, a secure financial life and retire comfortably.... you should work hard to be able to have fun, enjoy your time when your young, and experience the world. It's a balancing act, but many people waste their time and realize it when it's too late.

strong this..

i just realized that im putting way too much work into my job and getting little out of it.. working 60+ hours a week with no life.. wake up, work, get home, possibly lift if i have energy, then sleep and do it over again.. srsly gone ALL fuarking day. i been putting together my resume today and blasting it out.. must balance life/work or you gon die

Yeah man, I had a similar realization in school. I spent my first year partying my ass off and having fun, got bad (relatively) grades. I spent the next year being more or less a shut-in, taking maximum class load and I did very well. I was unhappy with both, because I failed miserably on part of those years. My 3rd and 4th year, I balanced it well - my grades dropped slightly, but I learned more. I didn't spend all week partying, but I had more fun.

Even now, I work 2 jobs and go to graduate school, but I still find time to do the things I enjoy. Lifting (when I can.... back in about 1 month hnnnnnnnnng), miscing, friends, roadtrips (I've taken at least once a month for about a year now), trips to Vegas, etc etc. I don't kill myself working too hard, but I work efficiently and get what I need out of my professional goals. I do, honestly, spend too much time on the misc and playing video games, but I'm working towards a good balance. I'm glad I realized this young(ish).

Do crazy things, make crazy stories, so that 30 years from now you don't look back on your life and say "man I wish I could go back and re-do it" but rather "man I wish I could go back and relive it". Don't be stupid about it and abandon your professional and personal goals... but balance it correctly. Just don't be shy to experience. Experience is the key to moving forward... you will stall if you focus on soley your work, or lifting, or school, or any one thing in extreme. You will stall, feel miserable, take a long time to figure out why, take longer to figure out how to escape it, and all of a sudden you're 40. Experience it now. Take risks, waste your money on experiences (not things), make new friends, waste your time dating tinder sloots, just do it. You should be able to come back here ina year and write a full thread with interesting stories. If you can't, you've failed yourself.

Re: Motivation

Don't bother, instead take the time to truly look at what you can do every day you wake up and realize that the only thing stopping you is yourself. There are people who can't lift, you can. There are people who don't have the mental stability to do whatever they want, you can. There are people who were born with deformities that you do not have to live with. There are people who were injured in combat so you don't have to (no argument for whether the war is good or not, if no one volunteered you would be drafted). There are people who despite their hard work and determination were born into the wrong country and do not have a shred of the possibilities you have each and every morning.

Think about that and tell me again that you truly appreciate what you've been given. When you realize you don't, and for some asinine reason (it's ok, everyone does it... just do it less) you focus on the negatives instead of the opportunities, you might be able to get upon a new mindset where your passion is geared towards the right goals, and nothing can stop you from taking full advantage of it all.

GL brah.

Re: "Game"

In response to this and other similar comments I'd like to write you an essay. Yes it will be TL;DR but if you are interested in quote unquote game or just learning how to talk to wimmen, take a few minutes and read it.

Let's begin by making the point that the "lines" here, the pictures posted, and the advice given in relation to direct "things to say" are ONLY a crutch for you to fake your way until you learn how to talk to women properly. Now, when I say talk to women properly I don't mean what you say - It's 100% about HOW you say it. You can say ANYTHING to a girl as long as you say it right, and you will have positive results. This is all gained through experience, nothing I or anyone else shows you or teaches you will help you develop the persona/skill to do this, its just experience. This is obviously more elaborately done in real life, but we can also display this in text. The most important aspect here the one mentioned in this article http://www.lifehack.org/articles/lif...r-reality.html

"Your Perception IS Your Reality"
- Between two people, each has a perception of events - and thats what events are, just the result of our perceptions of them - and either you can agree or disagree on them. IF you disagree, which one will be accepted as correct? Whoever has the strongest and most confident portrayal of their perception. When you have arguments - you don't win by using logic, you win by making the other person believe in what you are saying. Flirting, game, whatever, is very much the same way. You enter the situation at a complete disadvantage - she has the choice of any guy on this app, and you just got a chance to talk to her, she knows it and you know it. The only way to have success is to completely flip the switch and gain the power yourself. You need to sell your perception that she got lucky, it wasn't you that lucked out getting a chance to talk to her.

Now in texting, perception is harder to create than in real life, but is very possible and is the only way to run a conversation. It is how you 'get' girls to fall for you, you must alter the conversation so that the reality that is being portrayed is YOURS and not hers. The way you run the conversation - how you talk about yourself, about her, about the things - is how she will remember you and judge you. Women respond more than us on emotion alone - so your portrayal of reality must make her emotions run wild and give her a sense of euphoria that she can always remember when she thinks of you. I've said this earlier but you must give women a roller coaster of emotion in order to increase their overall reaction to you, but if it is more positive than negative, she will remember her entire idea of you as positive. If you make her feel emotionally good 10 times and emotionally bad 9 times, she will remember you as affecting her emotionally positively 19 times.

^ “Because one believes in oneself, one doesn't try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn't need others' approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.” ― Lao Tzu

You CREATE reality. It doesn't exist - you make it exist. That gives you ultimate control over reality, and how people see it themselves. The reason confidence is such an attractive feature - everyone knows it - is because confident people sell their reality to others, a reality in which they are the ultimate prize, they are the top of their game, that YOU got lucky to be in their presence, and not the other way around.

One of the best TED speeches I have ever heard is this one - http://www.ted.com/talks/simon_sinek...re_action.html
Cliffs: - You don't sell the WHAT, the product, you sell the WHY, the passion.

When texting a girl, it doesn't matter WHAT you say as long as it's not extreme (insulting her for no reason, talking gibberish, etc.). The most important facet is how you sell yourself and how you say things. Let's look at an example from last night.

[Example of text game with random chick - too long to post here. Original link: http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showth...post1070732751]

Some of you reading this are thinking I did the following things wrong:

- Turn off our sexual chemsitry (calling her a dude, friendzoning her [at one point I even said "srs, we should friendzone each other so theres no sexual tension], telling her about other girls, etc.)
- Called her ugly at one point, told her to go bang a dude she was talking about, in general make it seem like I'm not interested

And yet, it worked because I was in lead of the conversation - I didn't have to use lines to establish it, but I slowly brought her over to my game rather than playing hers. That's the only way to 'win' at texting. Real life is a similar but much more complex struggle told by your body language and voice and all that good stuff, but texting simplifys it so you just have to learn how to talk, rather than what to say. Again, I cannot teach you how to do it, I can just make you aware of what you need to strive for - and you need to get experience (thats why I fuking love tinder, pressure-free practice) to figure out what works, what doesn't work, and how to portray the persona you want.

tl;dr Be yourself but portray yourself confidently so that she follows your path, and you aren't stuck chasing her down with misguided lines that just make you dig deeper into her web.

[sneakyninjapnts]

I was asked about a situation IRL where a brah ran into a girl in the supermarket and asked what he should have done when she asked him to move his cart, heres my reply which might help some of you brahs IRL

In case you haven't read it, http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showth...post1070732751

The general concept is this: make her feel good. If she feels good, she wants to be around you. If this situation, you want her to feel happy she had to talk to you - normally you don't want to chat up people in a supermarket but she should be happy she had to talk to you incidently. How? Being funny, making jokes, and not doing it creepily. Of course attraction has a play in this, but even if she isnt attracted to you (granted you don't smell, have a scary injury, etc etc) she can have a good time even if she doesn't want to suck your dik right that moment. The best play here would have been to joke around with her, an advanced player would say "nah you can't" with a cheeky smile so that she knows your kidding and goes "omg haha so funny" but in general you should have just made a joke like "yeah sure I'll be here for an hour looking at these nutritional facts trying to figure out what they mean" and then she'd be like haha they are very confusing arent they, and then you can take it from there... situationally, you could say something like "yeah you wanna help me with these?" and then when you guys make a bit more small talk, ask her for her number.

There are a number of ways and levels to ask for her number, if you were a pro with enough confidence just say "cool thanks for the help, let me get your number and I'll take you out sometime". If you can say that comfortably and confidently, bishes will be all over your nob. At a lower level, just simply saying "cool thanks, how about you give me your number if I have any more questions" with a cheeky smile. Worst case scenario just say "Listen I gotta run, but I think you're cute so give me your number." The general idea is a) say it like its already guaranteed b) don't make it creepy

You'll learn with experience, and develop your own style of 'game' in which you can bounce off unexpected things (like the cart) to making good convo, but if you dont know what to say just start with the standard easy stuff. This will help you figure out that 'game' with experience, and also allow you to become more comfortable with your conversations.

The major thing that you need to have flawless 'game' is to be comfortable with what you're saying, confident that she will receive it positively (and in return, she will, unconsciously), and saying it all without looking creepy. The worst thing you can do is seem creepy, but most of that is learned simply by doing. Get out there, get comfortable by practicing.

Hope this helps a bit brah, if you need any more specific answers feel free to shoot me a PM again.

Again via cold approaches

Well brah, texting is an entirely different game for sure, but the same CONCEPTS hold true. I also posted a good cold approach post in the thread (i'll try to find it for you, but its the 1st post on one of the last 20 pages). In general, it's as simple as this: be confident, create an aura of fun/enjoyment, 0 levels of creepiness and don't say anything stupid. It's complicated to do them all, of course, and you won't start with these naturally, but practice will help you if you know what you're working towards.

The best way to fail is to give out any levels that you aren't comfortable. If you are 1% uncomfortable, she will be 100 times more uncomfortable just from the demeanor you put out. This is ONLY gotten through experience and mindset. I can maybe help you instill the correct mindset (I hope), but the experience is, well, experience with failure. You know what you're doing and you aren't ashamed of it.

Next most important (and tied in with above), you have to be confident. Again, you know what you are doing talking to her, you know what you want, and you aren't ashamed of it. You KNOW she will give you her number, it's just a matter of you putting in the work. You know confidence is the sexiest thing to a woman, and don't let anyone tell you different - it truly is. Take pride in your work and people will love it. The major result of being confident is that YOU PORTRAY YOUR REALITY, and in turn she will respond accordingly. You portray the fact that hitting on her isn't just normal, it's what you are SUPPOSED to be doing as an attractive male looking for dem sugar walls. You are just fulfilling your own fuking destiny and she should in response be happy to be part of it. Confidence my man. Experience will improve this, but mindset is 90% of it. Experience will just improve your mindset which in turn will fill you with the confidence YOU FUKING DESERVE.

Other two, people are attracted to fun. The life of the party has a bunch of different qualities, and each person is different - but they share ONE quality every time - they are having the most fun out of anyone there. If you portray a fun demeanor, she will as well. And don't say anything stupid.... just experience brah.

Work on these things, improve your mindset, conquer your fears, and you will be bathing in puscy like ya boy dave. Just don't tape that ****. But if you do it send it to me.

Cliffs:
Set up late lunch/dinner date(4pm) at restaurant area
Worried if she was genuinely interested in me or just talking
Worried about what to talk about/common interests/how to make it interesting

Firstly brah, I can help you determine if shes actually interested or not romantically if you write or upload pics of the convo. The way girls say things are very emotionally based, and easy to read with enough experience (most girls, that is.)

For the date, these are the things you get with experience so in my opinion don't go in with a booklet of things to ask or something like that... just ask her about stuff you GENUINELY wanna know, and everything will go smoother than you can imagine. Make a list of things you wish your future wife had (taste in music, taste in sports, likes to do on her freetime, family relations, etc.) and get to know these thigns about her.... the other parts of the conversation should stem naturally from her answers. If she's being short with you, she isnt interested and you shouldn't worry about it, but if she agreed to go 'out' with you, chances are higher than she has some interest.

The #1 best advice anyone can give you for a first date is this - pretend you've known the girl your entire life. Don't be afraid to tease, make fun of her, say stupid things, make stupid jokes, ask personal questions (but you should either know whats too personal and stop at any sense of hesitation or you will learn this in time), etc... things you would do with a girl you grew up with as kids. The more comfortable you are with her, the more comfortable she will be with you and the better the date will go.

Also, don't be worried. There is absolutely NO REASON to worry if she geniuinly likes you or not .... if she does, you're prepared for it, if she doesn't, nothing you do will change it, just be yourself, have a good time, and let her/the fates decide if it matters in the end. There is no reason to worry, there is nothing beneficial from doing it. Don't worry about making it interesting, just worry about having fun yourself and enjoying the date.... if you do these, it will NATURALLY be interesting and you will find things to talk about.

Go in there with a happy, comforting, and confident mindset and I promise you she will respond accordingly and feel comfortable. Whenever I hang out with a girl for the first time, they always tell me they feel comfortable. Just the last weekend, a girl tells me she is usually very uncomfortable around new people and feels "weirdly" comfortable around me, she didnt even understand why. I've heard it a lot, and it's because I've learned through many failures that the comfort levels of the date do not depend on anything but MY own mindset. The girl is naturally on a lower peg in terms of contributing to the date's fun and comfortableness/smoothness, and she will respond in accordance with YOUR reality. If you follow this, TRULY let go of your illogical fears, and have a good time, there is no way she won't (unless you hit her in the head with a minigolf club like I did).

Have a great time man, let me know how it goes. Just remember, if you are confident and comfortable, she will be yours for the taking.

[sneakyninjapnts]

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[DatFeelGuy]

[Vertebro]

Looks solid bro, will read later

[sneakyninjapnts]

Looks solid bro, will read later

Hope it helps brah.

[sneakyninjapnts]

Instead of repping me please bump the thread so more people see it brahs

[KyDrumGuns]

Damn good thread. Would rep if not out.


Bump.

[Mazkulin]

going to read when home OP

[Aperture]

[ggMoe]

read 4 of the posts. thanks for compiling them

unrelated: reply to my pm's you phaggot

[sneakyninjapnts]

read 4 of the posts. thanks for compiling them

unrelated: reply to my pm's you phaggot

Will do sorry brah

[Bunk247]

Big fan of your TL;DRs. i remember that conversation a few weeks ago about getting more stories, i've made a start.

Edit: Seems an appropriate thread for my 1000th post. Keep 'em coming.

[sneakyninjapnts]

Big fan of your TL;DRs. i remember that conversation a few weeks ago about getting more stories, i've made a start.

Edit: Seems an appropriate thread for my 1000th post. Keep 'em coming.

grats brah

[mortalcyrax]

Good read brah

[boulderCObrah]

bump, snp helped me out, solid advice ITT

[godsangina2]

Interesting idea.

[Lewisfan]

Thank you based sneaks

[RCAK]

good stuff, bumped for others

[Voylol]

textgame master of ****ing PEACE brah mirin

[Actioncutter]

thanks for helping us out man

[MehAesthetics]

but who was reading

[epixs]

hnng content brah. repped.

[aekest]

Wow, this is the best charity work I have seen anyone on misc do.

Thank you OP

[Samevans7]

in on 1rd page

[Unr1valed]

Interdasting

[LaxinAround]

[dirtysteve864]

in.

[sneakyninjapnts]

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Loled

[axiom15]

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No matter how many times I see this pic, I still look at the shirt thinking its going to say tldr