bf just called another girl a dumb*** at the gym

[Cherrybomb2]

So I was spotting my bf on shoulder press ,and he had ninety pound dumbbells in each arm. In the middle of his sit some girl, who is a personal trainer at my school gym, came up to me and told me I should be spotting him at the wrist, not around his elbows. Note that this is when my bf was still doing his set.

So my bf fires back "No she shouldn't"
girl fires back "Yes she should"

Then the girl tells my bf he doesn't know what he's talking about, so he called her a dumbass. This is all happening while he is still doing his set. Some guy nearby tells my bf to watch his mouth, my bf gets up from his bench and I follow him telling him to apologize, but he refuses.

I storm upstairs, stretch, and cool down. I'm pretty embarrassed at this point, and I hate any type of confrontation. We had a mild argument after the gym, and he said he'd apologize to her if he ever saw her again.

This girl had a group with her, who she was training, and she honestly does not look like she has picked up weights over ten pounds. Most of the trainers at my school are a joke. I've seen this chick training people and it's kinda sad.

I mean I know he should not have called her that, but she was arguing with him in the middle of his set. I still feel embarrassed at my bf called a girl a dumbass in the middle of the weight room though.

What would you have done in this scenario?

[Wyomann]

Whatever Squatticus would do, I'm surprised he hasn't replied yet.

[mingzie]

if she said he didn't know what he was talking about, he is in the right for calling her a dumbass.

[Sporklift]

if she said he didn't know what he was talking about, he is in the right for calling her a dumbass.

lol i agree, but instead i wouldn't call her a dumbass i would say, "Ok if your so good why don't you try to press these 90 pound dumbells while i spot you from the wrist."

[tnelson1134]

let your bf beat the **** out of the guy who told him to watch his mouth.. she should have minded her own business in the first place if you guys didn't ask for any training advise

[Phily4321]

She was in the wrong. He had every right to say what he did

[paqua17]

I think your bf needs to cut back on his cell tech and learn to avoid petty arguments

[ShortDave]

She was/ most likely still is being a dumbass, your boyfriend was simply making a factual observation while she was promoting incorrect spotting technique. She should apologize to him.

If this scenario happened to me she would be chewed out publicly for giving bad advice and hopefully she would leave in shame.

[Squatticus]

Whatever Squatticus would do, I'm surprised he hasn't replied yet.

trust me she doesnt want to know what i have to say about this

[oldskooler]

I think your bf needs to cut back on his cell tech and learn to avoid petty arguments

Could he have handled it differently? Sure. He didn't go looking for it though. She came to him. Even putting the spotting aside, she was a dumbass for interpreting while he was in the midst of a set (which could have caused injury). As a personal trainer she should know better. Shame n the wk who yelled at the bf as well. I'm sure the wk had no clue what was going and just heard "dumbass" and his wk senses went off.

[Hkhan93]

dumb b!tch.... Dont give advice to anyone in the gym unless they ask for it.. It was dumb advice too. Your bf was right to call her a dumbass.

[BrandyM30]

The fact that she argued with him telling him he was wrong was where she went wrong. It's ok to give advice and it usually ends up with a nod from the person expected to take the advice.. However when she over stepped her boundaries by telling he he was wrong I think she deserved to know she was out of line. She may think twice before walking over to someone she isn't training. She should be putting her efforts into the people she is training, not to others in the gym. Your boyfriend is right in how he feels. He could've held it back but I guarantee because of this she will think twice before acting as a know it all. Don't blame your guy. Mine would've done the same. You two do what works for you in your work out sessions. My boyfriend lifts a lot of weight so we have to compromise in order to make sure I'm spotting him correctly. I think your man was not in the wrong here.

[Cherrybomb2]

Thanks guys. I've thought about it, and even though his wording was off, someone who is a personal trainer should know better than to distract and argue with someone who has 90 pounds in their hands.

If he hadn't been in the middle of his set, he probably would not have said that to her.

[Cherrybomb2]

Shame n the wk who yelled at the bf as well. I'm sure the wk had no clue what was going and just heard "dumbass" and his wk senses went off.

Lol my bf actually did refer to that guy as a white knight later.

[thenightskies]

dat cell tech rage

[mhockey9090]

Yeah id be mad as fuk too if she came up while i was in the middle of a set. She was wrong period.

[aintevenmad]

This seems like a situation where the silent treatment would have been the best response.

[paqua17]

I love how most of the responses are his reaction was the right one. It was a childish response to a bad situation. He should have just ignored her, finished his set and then told her what she said was wrong and why it was wrong not called her a jack*** which just raises everyone's defenses.

It's sad how the first reaction for many people is an aggressive one. If you feel this is the right reaction then I recommend you say the same thing to your boss when you're working hard knowing what you're doing is right and he/she questions what you're doing (if self-employed give your client the same response when they disagree with what you've worked on and want some changes). Alternatively if you have kids react why not call them a jack*** when they question you (which happens all the time).

[Jetigen]

I love how most of the responses are his reaction was the right one. It was a childish response to a bad situation. He should have just ignored her, finished his set and then told her what she said was wrong and why it was wrong not called her a jack*** which just raises everyone's defenses.

That's human nature; and it only means two and only two things: UNPREDICTABLE and IRRATIONAL. How many times people got hurt, shot, killed and locked up over some stupid arguments that they wouldn't even remember a year later? I agree Cherry's boyfriend is no better than that female trainer.

Now I read this thread, I need to watch again "Dumb and Dumber" movie.

[liuzhoudragon]

so he called a dumbass a dumbass?

sounds like the shoe fits.

[acrawlingchaos]

I love how most of the responses are his reaction was the right one. It was a childish response to a bad situation. He should have just ignored her, finished his set and then told her what she said was wrong and why it was wrong not called her a jack*** which just raises everyone's defenses.

It's sad how the first reaction for many people is an aggressive one. If you feel this is the right reaction then I recommend you say the same thing to your boss when you're working hard knowing what you're doing is right and he/she questions what you're doing (if self-employed give your client the same response when they disagree with what you've worked on and want some changes). Alternatively if you have kids react why not call them a jack*** when they question you (which happens all the time).

That's human nature; and it only means two and only two things: UNPREDICTABLE and IRRATIONAL. How many times people got hurt, shot, killed and locked up over some stupid arguments that they wouldn't even remember a year later? I agree Cherry's boyfriend is no better than that female trainer.

Now I read this thread, I need to watch again "Dumb and Dumber" movie.

[video=youtube;rOFjCWEB52M]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rOFjCWEB52Mvideo]

Serious question.

If a male trainer walked up to you with a group of clients and; corrected your form with bad advice, kept INSISTING you were wrong in the middle of a heavy working set. At what point would you just tell them to f*ck off?

[Jetigen]

If male trainer walked up to you with a group of clients, and corrected your form with bad advice, and kept INSISTING you were wrong. At what point would you just tell them to f*ck off?

Right away, but in a polite manner without resorting to name calling.

[acrawlingchaos]

Right away, but in a polite manner without resorting to name calling.

I guess this is where we differ. I firmly believe some people just need to be told to stfu.

In the real world... polite only goes so far. Some people just don't get it.

[orangegoblin]

I believe that seated dumbbell presses may be spotted at the wrists.

It makes me wonder how he treats you, and women in general. I disagree with the other male responses and think that his response was inappropriate for the situation. Then again, I don't hate women as much a lot of men on this site seem to.

[Jetigen]

I guess this is where we differ. I firmly believe some people just need to be told to stfu.

In the real world... polite only goes so far. Some people just don't get it.

Real gym rage. Good it didn't get to blows and gun fire.

[orangegoblin]

Right away, but in a polite manner without resorting to name calling.

Yeah, like this.

[Suxirc]

You must live a great life if this type of sh*t upsets you.

[SammmyChannnnnn]

There's nothing wrong with spotting below the elbow. I would even prefer it to someone holding my wrist. I may lose balance and control if someone holds my wrist and tries to spot but does it wrongly and off-balances my hand.

Also no one, and I mean NO ONE should give an advice in the gym to someone who's in the middle of a heavy set of exercise, especially one requiring free weights. Dumbass trainer.

[kimm4]

I believe that seated dumbbell presses may be spotted at the wrists.

This is correct.^^

The proper way to spot any version of a db press is at the wrists, not the elbows.

[*ShaGGs*]

Your boyfriend is right for calling her a dumbass after she said that he didn't know what he was talking about. You should apologize to your boyfriend for getting angry with him.

Spotting someones wrists is horrible for spotting purposes. It does nothing but **** my wrist. I always make sure if someone is spotting me on dumbbells that they spot my elbows.