For those of you with children (vry srs)

[tentex87]

This may be the worst place to ask this question, but whatever I don't care. At least I may get some real, honest answers here.

My wife and I have been trying to get pregnant for 3 months now. She got off the nuva ring in mid-March and we have been trying since. I have always been under the impression that if pregnancy was going to happen it happens right off the bat. After three months ( I know this is a very short period of time for this) I feel like something is wrong.

I just wanted to hear from others out there (especially if familiar with the nuva ring) how long it took for you and your spouse. I am honestly becoming a little anxious. It's probably just because I don't know anything about it and always assumed it's a very quick process. Feel free to PM me as well.

I appreciate any info or insight.

[NotBigEnough206]

This may be the worst place to ask this question, but whatever I don't care. At least I may get some real, honest answers here.

My wife and I have been trying to get pregnant for 3 months now. She got off the nuva ring in mid-March and we have been trying since. I have always been under the impression that if pregnancy was going to happen it happens right off the bat. After three months ( I know this is a very short period of time for this) I feel like something is wrong.

I just wanted to hear from others out there (especially if familiar with the nuva ring) how long it took for you and your spouse. I am honestly becoming a little anxious. It's probably just because I don't know anything about it and always assumed it's a very quick process. Feel free to PM me as well.

I appreciate any info or insight.

Its not nearly long enough brah, I would start worrying about a year later if nothing happens.

[kimm4]

How long was she on bc before she got off? Is she having normal cycles? Every women is different and getting pregnant doesn't always happen quickly. I would give it a good 6 months and if she's concerned, she can always make an appt with her doctor.

Good luck to you both.

[tentex87]

How long was she on bc before she got off? Is she having normal cycles? Every women is different and getting pregnant doesn't always happen quickly. I would give it a good 6 months and if she's concerned, she can always make an appt with her doctor.

Good luck to you both.

She has been on Nuvaring for 22 months. Her first two cycles since Mid march were normal 28-day cycles. Her most recent was a 25 day cycle. She explained to me that before she got on Nuva ring, she was normally a couple days earlier than a 28-day cycle.

[kimm4]

She has been on Nuvaring for 22 months. Her first two cycles since Mid march were normal 28-day cycles. Her most recent was a 25 day cycle. She explained to me that before she got on Nuva ring, she was normally a couple days earlier than a 28-day cycle.

That's normal, her body is still adjusting so no worries.

Give it more time, I'm sure everything is fine.

[geek23ka]

What kim said.

I had some problems TTC but I think the main factor for me, was age. During that time I read a whole bunch of information and talked with a lot of women about TTC, and 3 months esp after getting off hormonal BC is not long at all. I think 6 months is the bare minimum. Are you using OPKs? (ovulation predictor kits). That can cut the TTC window considerably. You can also chart temp and cervical mucus. That is a more involved way of doing it, but some people prefer it.

[DieselsMom]

Took my husband and I over two years for our first and when we stopped worrying about it because we thought we had to wait for the next steps with doctors and bang it happened. Then after that I swear he looked at me and I got preggy LOL. Being on birth control and mess your GF up and it takes time to regulate it all again.

[mrshester]

I think it's normal for couples to try at least 6 months before they start to become concerned. If her system is normal (no hormone issues, no reproductive issues) I would suggest trying to track her ovulation. She can look into Natural Family Planning (NFP), it teaches you how to tell by her body's signs when she ovulates so you'll know when she's most likely to be fertile and your best chances for conception. Or you could just try the pee sticks that try to detect the hormones in the urine to tell you when she's most fertile. I have PCOS and it took hubs and me 3 years to conceive without any medical intervention other than to check my husband's sperm out and a vaginal ultrasound to have a look at my uterus and ovaries. Hubs was DEF. not the problem :/ I believe the last I read (these things seem to change so much), that it's a good idea to wait a day in between love-making sessions so the little guys can get built back up. Also make sure you're not drinking too much alcohol, that can hinder sperm production.

Hang in there and enjoy the trying It's definitely worth all the "work"

[screwedgenetics]

1. Stop worrying because it is not going to help. Three months is no time at all.
2. Turn off computer and stop searching/asking questions about this issue.
3. Go have sex with your wife
4. Repeat, repeat, repeat all the above steps
5. Your welcome.

[Wyomann]

Depending on if you care who the father this there are options to increase the chance of your wife getting pregnant...

Ok bad joke, but I wouldn't worry about it yet. These ladies have made a good point that 3 months is really not that long after coming off of birth control like that.

[tentex87]

What kim said.

I had some problems TTC but I think the main factor for me, was age. During that time I read a whole bunch of information and talked with a lot of women about TTC, and 3 months esp after getting off hormonal BC is not long at all. I think 6 months is the bare minimum. Are you using OPKs? (ovulation predictor kits). That can cut the TTC window considerably. You can also chart temp and cervical mucus. That is a more involved way of doing it, but some people prefer it.

A lot of things I have read on NuvaRing seem to say that pregnancy can happen a week after you take it out, but I guess they don't tell you about how long it could take for your body's hormones to get back to normal?

[sonti]

In general, it takes a good 12 months before doctors will even consider seeing you for any kind of fertility worries.

It can take many months, even years, when you come off birth control (obviously certain methods faster than others, Depo being the long one) but then it's also random chance. 3 months is not long at all in terms of conception. You'll hear a lot about accidental pregnancies but people don't advertise fertility problems either. It's not uncommon.

For me, #1 took 2 months. #2 took 18 months (!), and #3 took 3 months. Sometimes it just happens, it's frustrating, but even 1-2 years is normal for people without fertility problems.

[DaniGrrl]

How old is she? If 35 or over, she should talk to her doctor after 6 months of trying with no luck. If younger, fertility specialists won't see you unless you've been trying for a year which is the average time it can take even when both parties are ok with no issues causing the problem. Do some people get pregnant just by looking at each other, or so it seems? Yes. And it especially seems that way when you're ttc yourself with no luck. But my fertility specialist told me there's really only a 20% chance of getting pregnant each cycle. Which means there's an 80% chance of not.

If her cycles have returned to normal after stopping BC, you have a lot more time before you need to worry. It took me 18 months for my first child, 6 months of that with help from a fertility doctor, and 11 months for #2, 4 months of that with help. I'm sure everything is ok - just give it time.

And just a word of advice to everyone - when someone is having trouble ttc, the WORST thing you can tell them to do is to just relax. Yes, that does work for some couples but sometimes there are problems that all the relaxing in the world is not going to get that person pregnant. Everyone is well meaning but trust me - the relax and go get drunk and have sex advice really doesn't help or make a person feel better. Infertility is a very painful thing, and a situation close to my own heart since I dealt with it myself

Good luck, OP!

[mrshester]

How old is she? If 35 or over, she should talk to her doctor after 6 months of trying with no luck. If younger, fertility specialists won't see you unless you've been trying for a year which is the average time it can take even when both parties are ok with no issues causing the problem. Do some people get pregnant just by looking at each other, or so it seems? Yes. And it especially seems that way when you're ttc yourself with no luck. But my fertility specialist told me there's really only a 20% chance of getting pregnant each cycle. Which means there's an 80% chance of not.

If her cycles have returned to normal after stopping BC, you have a lot more time before you need to worry. It took me 18 months for my first child, 6 months of that with help from a fertility doctor, and 11 months for #2, 4 months of that with help. I'm sure everything is ok - just give it time.

And just a word of advice to everyone - when someone is having trouble ttc, the WORST thing you can tell them to do is to just relax. Yes, that does work for some couples but sometimes there are problems that all the relaxing in the world is not going to get that person pregnant. Everyone is well meaning but trust me - the relax and go get drunk and have sex advice really doesn't help or make a person feel better. Infertility is a very painful thing, and a situation close to my own heart since I dealt with it myself

Good luck, OP!

This! I wish I had a switch that I could have hit to make me stop worrying and wanting a baby so bad...I had practically given up hope right before our son was conceived. Not finally relaxing, but actually resigning myself to possibly never becoming a mommy without adoption (which is a wonderful thing too, but not what I wanted at the time).

[Kiwi10]

I'm sure it's all been said, but anyway up to 12 months is considered 'normal'. Here in Nz your doctor won't even discuss anything with you until you have been trying a year.
We were lucky to get pregnancy quickly both times, and both times I used ovulation tests (cheap pee on the stick type) to figure out exactly when I was ovulating. This is the time to get busy!
I also, as stupid as it sounds, would stick a pillow under my bum and chuck my legs in the air for twenty minutes straight 'after'. Sounds ridiculous, and will never know if that's what helped but it certainly didn't do any harm
Good luck!

[rendylee]

Stress maybe....Our first son was concieved within a few months....second pregnancy, 5 years after, had tests done, no issues. We in the meantime adopted a beautiful newborn son, and decided that two was enough for us, and went into have a tubal, found out I couldn't becasue I was pregnant (srs)...had our son, and without trying, pregnant again within 3 months...no rhyme or reason, still can't explain it, except to say stress possibly....4 wonderful boys.

Good luck, and have fun trying

Tubal now done

[lynore]

I wish you lots of luck with this. Coming off any kind of bc your system needs time to adjust. And as screwedgenetics wisely mentioned: please stay off the internet. Along with helpful info there is so much incorrect and scary info on this subject it will make you crazy!!!

Wish there was such a thing as a " don't worry" button.

[latebloomingmom]

I have 8 years in between my sons. Number one son? conceived two months into the marriage and one month off the BC. then I did not take anything or use anything for 8 years and no more babies..about the time I gave up and accepted that my son was going to be an only child..whamo son number two

[IowaGuy]

Wife and I got pregnant on the first try.

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[mangiventofly]

with our first child, it took my wife and i about 6 months or so to conceive. she was on the pill prior. we were not comfy with the other types of BC. we felt anxious as well when things didn't go as we'd hoped. we are Christians. we decided one day to just let go and let God do it on His own time. from that point on we didn't try, and we didn't NOT try. we were young. we just spent time together and enjoyed each other. we made love without fear or expectation. we had made the stuation about having a baby, when it should have been about US. we conceived shortly after. so my advice is (whatever your faith) to relax and enjoy each other. stop worrying about it. just be together and have fun! if it doesn't happen, then please accept it and consider your options. there are an enormous number of orphans in this world. more are produced every day. just because the child doesn't come from your body, doesn't mean that it is not your child. and if you are planning to have a baby in a hospital (we had four home births), that costs about as much as adoption does anyway!

[Kemo1990]

was she on top? cause you know she cant get pregnant if shes on top right...? due to gravity and all

[BrotherWolf]

Wife and I got pregnant on the first try.

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tough luck man ....

was she on top? cause you know she cant get pregnant if shes on top right...? due to gravity and all

totally... I read it on the internet, sperm aren't salmons after all

[Candees]

I have 8 years in between my sons. Number one son? conceived two months into the marriage and one month off the BC. then I did not take anything or use anything for 8 years and no more babies..about the time I gave up and accepted that my son was going to be an only child..whamo son number two

You went 8 years without any form of birth control and no pregnancies in between?
Amazed.