Need some female opinions please.

[Internexus]

All theoretical here but I want to know what is considered the 'norm' here.

If a guy asks you out for an evening, he picks you up and takes you out to a free event that lasts several hours long then afterwards you grab a bite to eat and then into the evening you hit up a bar for some drinks and to enjoy live music. Do you expect him to pay your tab(s) for the entire day? I have heard several variances depending on who made the plans, vs whether it's initial dating or someone you've dated for a while, to depends on how much the female likes the guy etc. Thanks ladies.

[gabytheft]

The way I was taught is whoever asks to go on the date pays.. Which it's usually the guy asking the girl that's why in most occasions the guy pays. but yeah honestly if i was in your situation I would have paid for my own drinks at the end lol just because i'd feel bad.. but yea that's that I think

[sy2502]

All theoretical here but I want to know what is considered the 'norm' here.

If a guy asks you out for an evening, he picks you up and takes you out to a free event that lasts several hours long then afterwards you grab a bite to eat and then into the evening you hit up a bar for some drinks and to enjoy live music. Do you expect him to pay your tab(s) for the entire day? I have heard several variances depending on who made the plans, vs whether it's initial dating or someone you've dated for a while, to depends on how much the female likes the guy etc. Thanks ladies.

I am not your average woman, but I ALWAYS offer to pay my share.

[britchick884]

I'm not comfatable having everything paid for me, I always offer to pay half. If he insists on paying for the meal I'd make sure I paid for the drinks.

[kimm4]

No, I never expect a man to pay for everything.

[Simpy]

It's been so long since I've been on a date with a new guy that I honestly don't have a clue.

[acrawlingchaos]

No, I never expect a man to pay for everything.

Will pay for your half




OP.... you're 28 and not sure if you should carry the tab on a date? If you are taking someone to a free event, and can't pay the tab for drinks... I would question if you have the financial ability to date and would recommend you get your **** together financially.

If you can afford it and didn't pay, I would be dismayed that such disregard for gentlemanly behavior is so prominent.
















In other words.... Yes you should falking pay.

[acrawlingchaos]

It's been so long since I've been on a date with a new guy that I honestly don't have a clue.

Would pay for your half as well.

[sy2502]

OP here's what I'd do if I was you: offer to pay. If she says "no, let's split it" then don't insist and let her pick up her part. That way you don't look like a cheapskate for not even offering to pay. If she doesn't offer to pay her part then you'll have to pay, which is also fair enough since I understand you are the one taking her out. If you generally don't like to pay when you go on dates, then you can either find a woman who finds that attractive, or you need to change your attitude.

[RebeccaG]

It's been so long since I've been on a date with a new guy that I honestly don't have a clue.

This.

No, I never expect a man to pay for everything.

And this.

[DaniGrrl]

I don't think I'd offer to pay for dinner but I'd definitely pick up the tab for drinks. I don't think one person should be expected to pay for dinner and drinks for an entire night.

[MMAnLift]

Will pay for your half




OP.... you're 28 and not sure if you should carry the tab on a date? If you are taking someone to a free event, and can't pay the tab for drinks... I would question if you have the financial ability to date and would recommend you get your **** together financially.

If you can afford it and didn't pay, I would be dismayed that such disregard for gentlemanly behavior is so prominent.
















In other words.... Yes you should falking pay.

Been awhile since I've even browsed this part of the forums, but I guess I found who's the new WK of the female misc

OP, they will usually expect you to pay and not even offer in which case I'd be annoyed pay and probably not talk to them again
If they offer/insist you don't have to pay for everything I'd be fine paying

[acrawlingchaos]

Been awhile since I've even browsed this part of the forums, but I guess I found who's the new WK of the female misc

OP, they will usually expect you to pay and not even offer in which case I'd be annoyed pay and probably not talk to them again
If they offer/insist you don't have to pay for everything I'd be fine paying

Not sure if srs. You seriously think having to pay is white knighting dude? I bet you spend half the day talking about smashing bishes in the misc.

I'm pretty sure we travel on different wave lengths.



Cheap ****.

[kimm4]

OP, they will usually expect you to pay and not even offer in which case I'd be annoyed pay and probably not talk to them again

That's because you date girls, not women...big difference.

[sy2502]

OP, they will usually expect you to pay and not even offer in which case I'd be annoyed pay and probably not talk to them again

How's that working out for you in the "getting laid" department?

[Internexus]

Thanks for all of the responses people, it certainly helps to apply a more clear perspective to the situation. One thing I did note was that the majority of women that specified they would split it or opt to pay for the drinks if he covered dinner was that you were all above the age of 30. I wonder if this is a late maturity thing as my experience with women in their 20's they appear to feel that they should be handed literally everything while they sit there and enjoy themselves. It's almost as if it's a code they live by of some sort..

OP.... you're 28 and not sure if you should carry the tab on a date? If you are taking someone to a free event, and can't pay the tab for drinks... I would question if you have the financial ability to date and would recommend you get your **** together financially.

If you can afford it and didn't pay, I would be dismayed that such disregard for gentlemanly behavior is so prominent.

In other words.... Yes you should falking pay.

acrawlingchaos: Thanks for portraying me as a cheapskate that needs to reevaluate my life on both the levels of finance as well as the dating scene as if you're aware of who I am let alone any knowledge about me. I was with/married to my high school sweetheart for 10 years and haven't been divorced all that long, you maybe shocked at your lack of dating knowledge when you aren't doing it for almost a third of your life... As far as my finances and how solid they are.. Apparently the age of 28 automatically defines that you should have endless funds, great logic but why don't you apply someone that does 20+ of professional school to be a doctor and let me know of all the spare money I likely have lying around.

You come off as an ignorant punk to say the least of your demeanor, proceed to insert your entire foot into your mouth.

[MMAnLift]

How's that working out for you in the "getting laid" department?

If guys are actually having to take a girl out to get laid they're doing it wrong

[sy2502]

If guys are actually having to take a girl out to get laid they're doing it wrong

True, I hear you don't have to take prostitutes on a date. Also your hand doesn't need to be taken out either...

[5more]

I'd pay for mine. If he offered I'd let him pay, but I'd be buying his drinks all night. I'd offer to pay his if he diddnt offer to pay mine. If he had me pay for dinner and drinks all night I would feel he was taking advantage of me. I wouldn't want any man to feel I was taking advantage of him so I try to keep it even.

[sy2502]

Thanks for all of the responses people, it certainly helps to apply a more clear perspective to the situation. One thing I did note was that the majority of women that specified they would split it or opt to pay for the drinks if he covered dinner was that you were all above the age of 30. I wonder if this is a late maturity thing as my experience with women in their 20's they appear to feel that they should be handed literally everything while they sit there and enjoy themselves. It's almost as if it's a code they live by of some sort...

I think we get more practical and realistic with age. I work very hard, so I know exactly what it means to earn my money, so I don't feel like I have a special claim on someone else's money.

[MMAnLift]

True, I hear you don't have to take prostitutes on a date. Also your hand doesn't need to be taken out either...

ITT A woman argues with someone who's main point she agrees with :P

[sy2502]

ITT A woman argues with someone who's main point she agrees with :P

We were arguing? I guess I didn't get that memo...
Well then, bring it on buddy!!!

[nvrstopworking]

We were arguing? I guess I didn't get that memo...
Well then, bring it on buddy!!!

Nice gif! Lulz.

As someone who knows what you carry in your purse I will be the first one to warn MMAnLift not to mess with you....

[latebloomingmom]

if its kind of a spur of the moment after the concert kind of thing? then its ok if she offers to pay half..if she does not offer then you will have to pay..if you asked her out for dinner and a movie..you will more than likely have to pay for it..unless she offers to buy the popcorn

[GoldsSel]

I always offered to pay half, but I think a Gentlemen should always pick up the bill. If you ask him out though and choose the venue don't expect him to cover the tab! Lol.

[MMAnLift]

Nice gif! Lulz.

As someone who knows what you carry in your purse I will be the first one to warn MMAnLift not to mess with you....

Inb4 she carries da BBC

[FlyingDagger]

All i'm seeing here are conflicting answers from different women. So he's not going to find the answer he's looking for, since this thread shows women are different.

OP, Just make sure you know who you're going on a date with. Not randoms.

It's the only way to be sure