As a woman, losing the drive to lift...

[Neptune34]

I never really liked lifting, but I did it to someday have a body like a fitness model.

As time goes on, the more I want to eat and enjoy good tasting foods, especially in good company. I found myself not wanting to eat at all if I had to eat another mundane chicken breast with a side of snap beans. I no longer had the drive to reduce my body fat with all the other stress in my life. So I ended up a bigger version of my former skinny-fat self.

I find myself less attracted to fitness model types and more attracted to the typical slim model.

I don't like where I'm headed.

[RGoose18]

I never really liked lifting, but I did it to someday have a body like a fitness model.

As time goes on, the more I want to eat and enjoy good tasting foods, especially in good company. I found myself not wanting to eat at all if I had to eat another mundane chicken breast with a side of snap beans. I no longer had the drive to reduce my body fat with all the other stress in my life. So I ended up a bigger version of my former skinny-fat self.

I find myself less attracted to fitness model types and more attracted to the typical slim model.

I don't like where I'm headed.

Sounds like you're heading down the road that society wants you to walk. Either you want it for yourself or you don't, but the taste of accomplishment and success is far greater than any $10 entree at Friday's on a girls night. You're prob. less attracted to the fitness model type because it reminds you of your own failures in the goals you've set for yourself.

Success (on a physical level) is a lonely road, your friends and family WILL not understand, especially being a female.

GL

[Austere]

I never really liked lifting, but I did it to someday have a body like a fitness model.

As time goes on, the more I want to eat and enjoy good tasting foods, especially in good company. I found myself not wanting to eat at all if I had to eat another mundane chicken breast with a side of snap beans. I no longer had the drive to reduce my body fat with all the other stress in my life. So I ended up a bigger version of my former skinny-fat self.

I find myself less attracted to fitness model types and more attracted to the typical slim model.

I don't like where I'm headed.

If you don't mind us asking, what's the motivation you had when you began lifting? Something like "I want to look like a fitness model" isn't strong enough to sustain a routine. You need a source of internal motivation. Something like "There is nothing that makes me happier than the feeling that my capabilities are growing".

[Neptune34]

If you don't mind us asking, what's the motivation you had when you began lifting? Something like "I want to look like a fitness model" isn't strong enough to sustain a routine. You need a source of internal motivation. Something like "There is nothing that makes me happier than the feeling that my capabilities are growing".

I wanted to be proud of my body, after being ashamed of it for so long.

[Over1200]

Just please stay thin.


I know that tons of white knights have truely lowered their standards and will 100% take care of average to heavy bell shaped girls in todays world, it the rarity of thin girls means the rest of men have to really scrap for the few skinny ones.

As a woman, all of your worth is really based on how thin you are. Everyone else is just bonus. Stay thin, and you will be rewarded for it your entire life. Everything will be paid for you in life, except maybe bills via the mail, because they don't realize that you are a thin woman.



It sounds like I'm being a complete jerk, but I just being candid: Being thin for a girl is all that matters.

[Neptune34]

Just please stay thin.


I know that tons of white knights have truely lowered their standards and will 100% take care of average to heavy bell shaped girls in todays world, it the rarity of thin girls means the rest of men have to really scrap for the few skinny ones.

As a woman, all of your worth is really based on how thin you are. Everyone else is just bonus. Stay thin, and you will be rewarded for it your entire life. Everything will be paid for you in life, except maybe bills via the mail, because they don't realize that you are a thin woman.



It sounds like I'm being a complete jerk, but I just being candid: Being thin for a girl is all that matters.

Not that I'm planning on becoming a porker, but WHY such an extreme view?

[Jtbny]

Just please stay thin.


I know that tons of white knights have truely lowered their standards and will 100% take care of average to heavy bell shaped girls in todays world, it the rarity of thin girls means the rest of men have to really scrap for the few skinny ones.
As a woman, all of your worth is really based on how thin you are. Everyone else is just bonus. Stay thin, and you will be rewarded for it your entire life. Everything will be paid for you in life, except maybe bills via the mail, because they don't realize that you are a thin woman.

It sounds like I'm being a complete jerk, but I just being candid: Being thin for a girl is all that matters.

Wow...just wow. Your last line is so disrespectful to all women it not even funny. It's superficial idiots like you that force women to feel like they have to be super thin....

Btw if you haven't heard thin is out. Healthy is in.
I'm usually a very positive person here but that post is such crap I couldn't not say anything.

[Austere]

Wow...just wow. Your last line is so disrespectful to all women it not even funny. It's superficial idiots like you that force women to feel like they have to be super thin....

Btw if you haven't heard thin is out. Healthy is in.
I'm usually a very positive person here but that post is such crap I couldn't not say anything.

In terms of attractiveness, being thin is the most important thing now. Because of the fattening of America is uglifying the nation, a lot of men have lowered their standards to the point that any skinny girl, however plain, will suffice.

Anyways, being a fat woman and not doing anything about it is just shameful: it shows that you have no desire to better yourself as a person.

Also I suggest you check out this link.
http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2008/...lame-for-game/

[Fit1NYC]

At 125lbs you are fine. Keep lifting just don't diet so hard. Live a little. Fitness should enhance your life so cheat on your diet and keep working out

[Neptune34]

In terms of attractiveness, being thin is the most important thing now. Because of the fattening of America is uglifying the nation, a lot of men have lowered their standards to the point that any skinny girl, however plain, will suffice.

Anyways, being a fat woman and not doing anything about it is just shameful: it shows that you have no desire to better yourself as a person.

Also I suggest you check out this link.
http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2008/...lame-for-game/

Okay, where I'm from, fat women are definitely the minority. My city is full of pretty and thin women.

I'm not so sure I like being thicker (with more muscle). I mean, even if I WERE motivated, I probably wouldn't go too low body-fat wise. The look I like is that of Miss Prestin (even though she's too fake for my tastes) but I think her body fat levels would be too much trouble to maintain. So I wonder if it's worth the bother.

[RGoose18]

Wow...just wow. Your last line is so disrespectful to all women it not even funny. It's superficial idiots like you that force women to feel like they have to be super thin....

Btw if you haven't heard thin is out. Healthy is in.
I'm usually a very positive person here but that post is such crap I couldn't not say anything.

Agreed, out of line but I understand where the poster is going. Women in this country do tend to balloon up after their mid 20's and blame it on "baby fat" or "stress", which in my mind is complete bs. Baby fat 2-3 months after giving birth is ok, but 2-3 yrs later is just an excuse

As far as being thin is "the only thing that is important" is pretty stupid. You make men look like a bunch of neanderthals with comments like that. And to be honest I doubt the OP has (or will have) any issues w/ any of this being that she's on a forum like bodybuilding.com.

OP you know what your goals are. Whatever they may be, don't let laziness or social pressures take them away. Also, don't live your life by the ruler of what meatheads "want" you to look like. Define your goal, go after it, and attain it.

[Jtbny]

In terms of attractiveness, being thin is the most important thing now. Because of the fattening of America is uglifying the nation, a lot of men have lowered their standards to the point that any skinny girl, however plain, will suffice.

Anyways, being a fat woman and not doing anything about it is just shameful: it shows that you have no desire to better yourself as a person.

Also I suggest you check out this link.
http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2008/...lame-for-game/

The link is a joke...it's a word press blog which looks like it was written by a frat boy.

I just noticed you are 19. Makes more sense now. You have a lot to learn my friend. Being superficial is usually a trait associated with youth. As you age you will learn to judge women by their character rather then their bodyfat. Good luck.

Sorry op I semi hijacked your thread.

[jwla80]

Just please stay thin.


I know that tons of white knights have truely lowered their standards and will 100% take care of average to heavy bell shaped girls in todays world, it the rarity of thin girls means the rest of men have to really scrap for the few skinny ones.

As a woman, all of your worth is really based on how thin you are. Everyone else is just bonus. Stay thin, and you will be rewarded for it your entire life. Everything will be paid for you in life, except maybe bills via the mail, because they don't realize that you are a thin woman.



It sounds like I'm being a complete jerk, but I just being candid: Being thin for a girl is all that matters.

You utter legend!! Its complete BS of course, but legendary BS is still legendary!

[sshin]

I never really liked lifting, but I did it to someday have a body like a fitness model.

As time goes on, the more I want to eat and enjoy good tasting foods, especially in good company. I found myself not wanting to eat at all if I had to eat another mundane chicken breast with a side of snap beans. I no longer had the drive to reduce my body fat with all the other stress in my life. So I ended up a bigger version of my former skinny-fat self.

I find myself less attracted to fitness model types and more attracted to the typical slim model.

I don't like where I'm headed.

All in all, it really boils down to what you really want. Figure out that, and then initiate. If you are unsatisfied from what you are doing, you will be unsatisfied to dooms-day. I would suggest you sit down and think hard about what you REALLY want. Do you want to be a fitness model? Do you really want to be the typical fake plastic that's all over the media advertising to little girls to look like them? (that was a little whacked). But the important thing is, what makes you happy?

As for diet, don't restrict yourself too much from having some good food. Life is about moderation, so eat food you want to eat. Just be sure you don't go overboard on the chocolate or sweets (I have a terrible weakness for Cookies unfortunately).

[Austere]

Okay, where I'm from, fat women are definitely the minority. My city is full of pretty and thin women.

I'm not so sure I like being thicker (with more muscle). I mean, even if I WERE motivated, I probably wouldn't go too low body-fat wise. The look I like is that of Miss Prestin (even though she's too fake for my tastes) but I think her body fat levels would be too much trouble to maintain. So I wonder if it's worth the bother.

Heh, sorry about that. Most people on this blog are American, and seeing as overweight rates are over 60%...obesity annoys a lot of body-conscious people here.

[Uberknee]

Do you know what IIFYM means?

[Neptune34]

Do you know what IIFYM means?

Not all foods will come with a nutrition label, especially not foods prepared by other people!!!!

[Uberknee]

Not all foods will come with a nutrition label, especially not foods prepared by other people!!!!

Can you keep it to one or two of these meals a week? I know its harder for girls than guys socially, with your cafe's and your restaurants and your 'high teas'. Wtf is the difference between normal tea and high tea anyway?

If you basically try to not each much total cals on your cheat meals, and drop cals on other days. You can still be in a deficit. I drink hard/ go to a restaurant once or twice a week. Still cutting hard.

[eightpac3]

Stick to it. I think you set your goals too high. Take little tiny steps and really small goals, weekly etc. Don't even think about looking like a fitness model atm.

[PaulWog]

You can have it all if you're happy with a healthy lifestyle.

Just keep on at it. I've had my quitting moments in lifting and eating properly, but I keep on getting myself back at it. Just keep that relentless attitude toward lifting. It's an uphill battle a lot of the way, but I say keep on pushing.

If you truly feel that it's not something you want at all anymore, I'd still say keep up at least a good healthy lifestyle which doesn't disclude lifting, cardio, and eating properly on most occasions.

I've got to say the best motivation for myself (though I am male) has simply been the same sort of motivation I have in continuing my university education, or pursuing meaningful relationships: There are certain things in life which are a long-term commitment, but they offer such a better quality of life. If I didn't have an education, it wouldn't be far-fetched to say I might be struggling with a job I don't like. If I didn't seek meaning in my relationships, it would be fair to say I might be a lonely person. And if I didn't pursue a healthy lifestyle, same sort of thing applies.

[Neptune34]

You can have it all if you're happy with a healthy lifestyle.

Just keep on at it. I've had my quitting moments in lifting and eating properly, but I keep on getting myself back at it. Just keep that relentless attitude toward lifting. It's an uphill battle a lot of the way, but I say keep on pushing.

If you truly feel that it's not something you want at all anymore, I'd still say keep up at least a good healthy lifestyle which doesn't disclude lifting, cardio, and eating properly on most occasions.

I've got to say the best motivation for myself (though I am male) has simply been the same sort of motivation I have in continuing my university education, or pursuing meaningful relationships: There are certain things in life which are a long-term commitment, but they offer such a better quality of life. If I didn't have an education, it wouldn't be far-fetched to say I might be struggling with a job I don't like. If I didn't seek meaning in my relationships, it would be fair to say I might be a lonely person. And if I didn't pursue a healthy lifestyle, same sort of thing applies.

It's funny you say that because I've had a problem lately with motivation in other areas of my life, especially school and relationships. Maybe it's just an overall slump in my life.

[Neptune34]

Stick to it. I think you set your goals too high. Take little tiny steps and really small goals, weekly etc. Don't even think about looking like a fitness model atm.

I think I'll try to do a little lifting in my life but not focus on it. Some compounds lifts here and there, cardio and getting in the good cals. I'll just go for a happy medium between fitness model and a body fat I can comfortably maintain.

[pattycake9]

get up, look up and never give up. ask yourself this question "Do i want it?" if the answer is yes, it all comes down to discipline and staying strong when its so much easier to collapse and fail. if it was easy, everyone would look good. Remember, be your own person. DO what YOU want to do.

[HevEw8]

<3 montreal... dated a girl that lived off sherbrooke by the hyatt (i think it was the hyatt)...

Yes montreal is full of gorgeous women...

pick a goal YOU want and work towards that.