ITT: Breakup advice - What I have learned LONG

[CodyKG]

I don't even know the true reasons why she broke up with me. She did it through a text message. I think a relationship of 1 year+ needs to end differently than that.

If she had no respect to do it in person or explain to you, you shouldn't be worried about why she did it. She's not worth your time. My first LT girlfriend did this to me, and when I went to get "closure" I found out she cheated and wanted to date the new guy.

[ryigan12]

If she had no respect to do it in person or explain to you, you shouldn't be worried about why she did it. She's not worth your time. My first LT girlfriend did this to me, and when I went to get "closure" I found out she cheated and wanted to date the new guy.

Even if best friends since 15? Have the same mutual best friend group?

[55]

Just saw my ex for the first time since March, we were together for six years. She was driving by and I caught a glimpse of her. Not sure if anything is really tugging at my emotions or not. She didn't see me.

[DevineBrah]

Just saw my ex for the first time since March, we were together for six years. She was driving by and I caught a glimpse of her. Not sure if anything is really tugging at my emotions or not. She didn't see me.

Havent seen ex in half a year (can't believe its already been that long, damn time flies)

This past Saturday, ex was apparently at the same club I was, my boys told me they saw her but before they could do a double take she bounced probably saw my tall self and gtfo. I know, i know.... cool starry brah!

[55]

Havent seen ex in half a year (can't believe its already been that long, damn time flies)

This past Saturday, ex was apparently at the same club I was, my boys told me they saw her but before they could do a double take she bounced probably saw my tall self and gtfo. I know, i know.... cool starry brah!

I wouldn't mind not seeing her for a long time. I kinda got a little sentimental when I saw her then remembered she dumped my ass so fck it.

[DevineBrah]

I wouldn't mind not seeing her for a long time. I kinda got a little sentimental when I saw her then remembered she dumped my ass so fck it.

I know that exact feel. You get sentimental, remember the good times then you realize that you became an option for someone that was your priority and quickly revert to DGAF mode. Life is beautiful like that.

[55]

I know that exact feel. You get sentimental, remember the good times then you realize that you became an option for someone that was your priority and quickly revert to DGAF mode. Life is beautiful like that.

I like that. **** will probably hurt for a while longer but I can honestly say I'm pretty happy doing my own thing right now.

[_Roidz_]

I like that. **** will probably hurt for a while longer but I can honestly say I'm pretty happy doing my own thing right now.

Good stuff man, the only way to go from here is up!

[realworksuks]

I don't even know the true reasons why she broke up with me. She did it through a text message. I think a relationship of 1 year+ needs to end differently than that.

One thing I've learned is that women will never tell you the real reason anyways. Well mostly all the time. The only time they will tell you why is if they are really pissed at you for some reason. Just up to you to interpret why it happened. Likely it's because you were too needy for her.

[anonymous]

Fcking hell brahs... Spoke to the lady after 3 months "break", we're talking **** out but i'm pretty sure it's headed to a break up.

I'm kind of fine with it atm, but i know that ima be down about her giving up on me. That's probably the worst feel. When you fight your conscience, friend's advice, etc just cause of your feelings. Then the chick leaves you in the dust.

Sigh

[ljr7475]

Fcking hell brahs... Spoke to the lady after 3 months "break", we're talking **** out but i'm pretty sure it's headed to a break up.

I'm kind of fine with it atm, but i know that ima be down about her giving up on me. That's probably the worst feel. When you fight your conscience, friend's advice, etc just cause of your feelings. Then the chick leaves you in the dust.

Sigh

Damn man. I've been there. Don't let her take you for a ride again. Ever.

[anonymous]

Damn man. I've been there. Don't let anyone take you for a ride again. Ever.

Def. 2 girls later, lesson learned.

[Adz91]

This makes me feel a bit better when my ex asked me for 'space/break' . Coz i just finished with her when she asked for that. Not heard from here since the split 11 days ago lol.

[Davesnow]

I don't even know the true reasons why she broke up with me. She did it through a text message. I think a relationship of 1 year+ needs to end differently than that.

I know that feel brah, although it was half as long.

Usually I never talk about past relationships...since I am now, it's a good sign for me. Likely you too, if you were the same.

[ryigan12]

One week single/nc feel ok but do miss her since she's been around since age 15.

[GoldenBoy10]

So me and my girlfriend of 2 years have been on a break for about 3.5 weeks or so. We were fighting alot and it was just getting worse, to the point where the relationship diddnt feel the same anymore so she said she needs a break/space to think. Im not sure where we stand at this point because I have not been initiating anything with her. She texted me a few times within the 3.5 weeks just asking how my weekend was or if i saw the hockey game and small stuff like that and I would just reply with minimum answers and never allow the convo to start really. Trying to do no contact but diddnt wanna blow her off completly to show her I was hurt by her.

We both made mistakes in the relationship I guess. This being my first serious relationship I know I made the mistake by being to available to her, and fell into a routine. I also kinda stopped doing my own thing and now I know this is wrong, you always need to put yourself first no matter what. She pretty much stopped showing the same affection to me and things got old I guess for her. Near the end I can tell she wanted to be more free and do her own thing and not have to answer to anybody. Probably all the fighting was making her feel like this.

This morning I get a text from her saying that we should meet up sometime this week because she will be out of town for the next 3 weeks for work. I dont know what the reason for this is. Maybe its to break up and say its over, im not sure but it probably is...
There was a thread here awhile ago talking about the different stages of relationships, not knowing any better I think I kinda made that mistake. Wish I found that thread long time ago.

What is the best thing to do here?

[Speww]

So me and my girlfriend of 2 years have been on a break for about 3.5 weeks or so. We were fighting alot and it was just getting worse, to the point where the relationship diddnt feel the same anymore so she said she needs a break/space to think. Im not sure where we stand at this point because I have not been initiating anything with her. She texted me a few times within the 3.5 weeks just asking how my weekend was or if i saw the hockey game and small stuff like that and I would just reply with minimum answers and never allow the convo to start really. Trying to do no contact but diddnt wanna blow her off completly to show her I was hurt by her.

We both made mistakes in the relationship I guess. This being my first serious relationship I know I made the mistake by being to available to her, and fell into a routine. I also kinda stopped doing my own thing and now I know this is wrong, you always need to put yourself first no matter what. She pretty much stopped showing the same affection to me and things got old I guess for her. Near the end I can tell she wanted to be more free and do her own thing and not have to answer to anybody. Probably all the fighting was making her feel like this.

This morning I get a text from her saying that we should meet up sometime this week because she will be out of town for the next 3 weeks for work. I dont know what the reason for this is. Maybe its to break up and say its over, im not sure but it probably is...
There was a thread here awhile ago talking about the different stages of relationships, not knowing any better I think I kinda made that mistake. Wish I found that thread long time ago.

What is the best thing to do here?

if you still want to get back together... i guess your only option is going to see her. if she ends it just act cool and say your goodbyes, walk out.

if you have accepted it is over and want to move on, however, going to see her is only going to set you back. then again, since your relationship technically isnt "over" you should probably talk to her face to face one last time to end it, your call.

[realworksuks]

if you still want to get back together... i guess your only option is going to see her. if she ends it just act cool and say your goodbyes, walk out.

if you have accepted it is over and want to move on, however, going to see her is only going to set you back. then again, since your relationship technically isnt "over" you should probably talk to her face to face one last time to end it, your call.

Ya, maybe she came around. I'd probably go listen to what she has to say if you want her.

[CodyKG]

Fukk bros. Currently talking to a girl I'm crushing on. She really wants a relationship. She is definitely a girl I could see myself with, but I don't know if I could get in another relationship so soon, or even anytime in the near future just because I have nothing to tie me down. Part of me wants to because she really is GF material, but the other part of me wants nothing to do with females.

[henryk21]

Fukk bros. Currently talking to a girl I'm crushing on. She really wants a relationship. She is definitely a girl I could see myself with, but I don't know if I could get in another relationship so soon, or even anytime in the near future just because I have nothing to tie me down. Part of me wants to because she really is GF material, but the other part of me wants nothing to do with females.

I got 2 words for you, don't do it.

Srs it's summer, just keep banging her and other bishes on the side.

[Italian.Muscle]

I got 2 words for you, don't do it.

Srs it's summer, just keep banging her and other bishes on the side.

Agree with this. Or at the very least drag it out for a bit longer just to make sure a relationship is gonna be worth it/if you can handle another.

[CodyKG]

I got 2 words for you, don't do it.

Srs it's summer, just keep banging her and other bishes on the side.

Will do this. Don't think I could get into that right now.

Agree with this. Or at the very least drag it out for a bit longer just to make sure a relationship is gonna be worth it/if you can handle another.

Thanks for your input as well bro. You two and Roidz have been helping me since day 1. Even when I'm pretty much over my ex I don't think I'll ever stop coming in here for advice.

[ryigan12]

Mutual best friends group with the ex and I, I can get information pretty easy. Found some **** out last night that made me absolutely fuking rage. This is a text to her best friend, and my best friends wife.

"I just didnt love him, he is kind of immature when it comes to relationships and his personality wasnt very attractive to me the more I got to know him, hes a great guy but I just dont think were meant to be together"

worked out so hard last night after reading that I am pretty sure My shoulder is dislocated. hits ya deep guys, especially when she would always say she loves you then to find out she doesnt love you. fuk

[CodyKG]

Mutual best friends group with the ex and I, I can get information pretty easy. Found some **** out last night that made me absolutely fuking rage. This is a text to her best friend, and my best friends wife.

"I just didnt love him, he is kind of immature when it comes to relationships and his personality wasnt very attractive to me the more I got to know him, hes a great guy but I just dont think were meant to be together"

worked out so hard last night after reading that I am pretty sure My shoulder is dislocated. hits ya deep guys, especially when she would always say she loves you then to find out she doesnt love you. fuk

Females gonna female. Forget her brah. She wasn't worth your time. If anyone tells you anything about your ex, stop them. Don't ask either. Why should you care what she's doing? She's out of your life.

[ljr7475]

Goddamit. For about the last week I was able to block out thoughts about my ex completely and I thought I'd be done with this **** pretty soon since my whole perception of her was changing. But today's my birthday and I got really bummed out last night about how I wouldn't see her or hear from her at all today for some reason. I guess because she doesn't give a fuk but only a few days ago it felt like I wouldn't have cared.

[NHammondDesign]

The ups and downs will continue for a while but you'll start to get over them. Again, I'd post links but my count isn't high enough yet. Go look up the RSD (Real Social Dynamics) videos on youtube. They will give you the biggest confidence boost you can possibly get by just watching a video.

I will never forget one thing they were saying about how the only reason you feel like crap now about the breakup is because you were mutually exclusive. Your brain is hard wired to pass on your genes and breed, so when your body all of the sudden realizes that it might not be able to do that, or won't have sex in a while, it freaks out on you. That's what makes you "beta".

Focus on yourself and build up your self esteem, once chicks see that you're comfortable with yourself again is when you'll be able to do better in clubs/bars and in so many other aspects of life. It's just a giant game and you have to fight through it. You're a man for a reason!

[TheLondoner]

Thanks op, wish I had read something like this earlier.

Will use in all of my future breakups srs

[_Roidz_]

Thanks op, wish I had read something like this earlier.

Will use in all of my future breakups srs

Great advice coming from everyone here!

[ryigan12]

Fawk, having a hard last couple of days. Last night was horrible, add no sleep with a bad day at work just topped it off. Help brahs, feel like my head is in a hole.

[GoldenBoy10]

When your girlfriend wants a break do you guy think its because she wants to distance herself so she can emotionally check out of the relationship so that she can break up within a few weeks?