One piece of advice - I wish I knew earlier....

[kineticforce]

Hey ******* dont mouse over....

Is how much or how litte you should react to a woman and her sh*t she gives you. See most guys will bitch out and just be a complete tool. What you fail to see and understand is that she isnt the ONLY piece of @$$ in town. There are more. Yeah yeah I know you live in a SMALL town and there are ONLY 4 chicks and they have boyfriends.... SPARE ME!!!

You go out to a club with your buds, meet some women and get some numbers. Great, good job. The next day you txt them a simple message, you dont blow them up - hey, hey hey hey -- just simple easy txt. And for you advanced game guys - you gave the girl your number and she's txting you. AGAIN - not blowing her up.

See you want to keep things to where YOU'RE not reacting to sh*t she says, YOU'RE not trying to elicit some kind of desperation **click** in her mind. Space that sh*t out - wait - it doesnt matter if you're at home fapping to porn wall or youjizz just wait it out. She aint going no where if she is replying. DONT get desperate with a girl just cause you got her number. YOU want to be different than every other ******* that got her number.

WHO do you think she's going to remember a) desperate guy who goes for the quick kill or b) the funny,charming guy who doesnt care one way or another....

OR - you've been seeing a girl for a couple days/weeks/months/years and than sh*t starts going wrong. You start to get really needy, really annoying cause you feel her "fading" away. YOU react to what shes doing because you feel the "positive" attention will re-inforce your affection for her. NO !! DO NOT do this. If a girl is giving you negative attention you do no reinforce a negative with a positive (this only reaffirms to her a) you're a bitch b) you can be persuaded if she acts up c) reinforcing a bad behavior - which you dont want to do)

You should be "reacting" to her negative reaction with your negative reaction/response - she ignores you for 3 days - you dont TOUCH your phone, ******** or whatever just let it go. YEAH I know its difficult cause you "love" her and you want her to know how much you CARE for her and how much you want her in your life and how much wife material she is AND she's NOT that kind of girl she's a "good girl". Come on guys. NEVER give any woman that kind of benefit. LET them prove to you that they are good enough to be in your life. YOUR life is complete and YOU life is awesome already. She is coming into your already 100% awesome life.

And this is where a lot of you fail - you THINK a woman will fulfill your life (read:make it better) however IF your life was already awesome you wouldnt "need" her per se. You would be open to her and if she left you wouldnt care because your life is awesome. Sucks she came in and couldnt hang but hey it happens

Back to reacting - Lets say your girl throws one of those tests at you and you think damn - I am REALLY pissed, she hit one of those buttons. What would the appropriate reaction/response be? NOTHING... you say and do nothing. You can stare at her or you can just look at her and shake your head. You can even walk away. Hell you "can" say something but you better make sure its gonna sting her.

She comes at you with the typical woman response of using an absolute... you ALWAYS do this. OH REALLY I ALWAYS do XYZ.... tell when else have I done XYZ... silence. Be prepared to get her to shut the fukk up. IF you cant get her to do it cause you know you're in the wrong - its ok to apologize but APOLOGIZE when you need to. AND SPARINGLY. IF you make her cry ok... if she is just wimpering around just be like what? Oh thats nothing... dont always apologize cause then she'll get used to it.

Reacting comes down to you and your own ability to be at peace with yourself(read:centered). Are you ok with your decision to ignore her? Are you ok with losing her? Are you ok that if you dont react she might run out the door? Are you ok with NOT chasing after her?

These are all things you have to be ok with. NOT reacting. LET her come back to you. Let her realize that SHE fukked up. NOT that she fukked up and that YOU are going to apologize for it

SO guys when you're wondering what to do in a situation about you're girl and you getting in a fight - give it a couple days and let her come to you. She cheated on you - dont react - cut the bish free. YOU dont need no cheating ho in your life. She doesnt something that doesnt sit well - ignore her. MOVE ON... there are PLENTY of women - about a billion single women that are out there.

LIVE YOUR LIFE on your own terms NOT someone elses terms.

[Ascendent]

This should be stickied.

[AutoSave]

dang. good advice...should be stickied

[GadyLaLa]

I actually took the time to read,, good post
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[jacketfan]

the easiest way for me to act like this is serial dating, which is kinda expensive. but if i just concentrate on my life and say one cute girl i like, i **** it up bad. but if im chatting up a few girls at one time, then i just react to everything much better as i naturally dont have to care as much.

[dxw]

But there are only 3 chicks in my town in Senegal, who all happen to have boyfriends...

[MatTheCur]

Well said, OP.

Vote 4 sticky.

[Acesopro]

Upped

[Piranha89]

Well said, bro.

I think this is frame of thought only truly happens once you've experienced sh!t and have that confidence. After nearly 2 years of getting with girls and constantly improving, I honestly don't give a sh!t anymore whether I hook up with her or not. Of course I'll try and I'll go out and make myself known. i'm a guy. But in the grand scheme of things, it won't matter.

Funny thing about you comment on pissing chicks off.

6 weeks ago I was at a party and I sort of knew this chick i saw dancing and thought she was stuck up and conceited. (Probly low sewlf esteem.)

I grin at her and go over and say "Hey, Centerfold's (Strip Club) is that way (Pointing), here's a few dollars for your torubles. (Threw two $1 bills at her and walked off laughing without even letting her respond.)

I was drunk at the time and had pretty much forgot about that meeting between the two of us. I see a gorl that looks familiar at a bar and she's staring at me. She comes over to me and calls me an *******. Me not having the slightest clue who exactly she was she fills me in. It goes seomthing like this:

"Do you remember meeting me like.. a month ago?? "

"Uhh No"

"You blah blah and then blahh blh."

"hahaha Holy sh!t now i do. I can't be held accountable when I'm borderline blackedout so if there is a apology you ar elooking for too bad."

"I have you know I get witrh a lot of guys (Strong WTF, yes insecure)

Silent Staring

"I think you're the type that doesn't get girls"

Even more silience and staring, now I'm grinning about to laugh my ass off

She gets up from the table PISSED and proceeds to hook up with two more guys looking back at me as if I give a rats @ss.

What I learned: Girls are so insecure saying nothing is infinitely better than handing back any trash talk.

That chick just tucks her head in embarrassment now everytime I see her. Dumb bish.

[rob112]

Pretty solid read there K Fed. Currently trying to hone some of those skills now(not reacting when pissed). A lot better as I age, but still not all the way there. Good stuff brotato

[driley145]

This should be required reading.

[nognig]

LIVE YOUR LIFE on your own terms NOT someone elses terms.

The key to this is dating multiple chicks at once UNTIL you find one worth focusing on.

When you date 3+ women at a time, you don't have to fake not giving a sh|t, you literally DON'T give a sh|t.

NN

[Bracket199]

The "reacting part" is my failed part in this. It's not that the tests fcuk me up. It's that if we ever have a talk, I always have that attitude of being right (being stubborn). It bothers me because it always happens even when I try and force myself not to be.

How do you help this? This only comes out with her. If my father told me something I'd listen since I trust his intelligence.

[HayZues Christi]

every relationship i have ever been in i have been accused of not giving a fukc. I have never been dumped.

[gswarrior510]

every relationship i have ever been in i have been accused of not giving a fukc. I have never been dumped.

this..although i rarely get into ones

every time I hear "you don't care about me, you never take me out, you never respond to my texts, you dont like my friends"

ok, well you are coming back so wtf do you want..While your ex boyfriend who you dumped for me was a ***got who called you 24/7 and sucked up to you and your friends.

[Aedius]

needed this advice--been stressin over a chick lately when I should more focused on myself, thanks for the quality post brah.

[HayZues Christi]

this..although i rarely get into ones

every time I hear "you don't care about me, you never take me out, you never respond to my texts, you dont like my friends"

ok, well you are coming back so wtf do you want..While your ex boyfriend who you dumped for me was a ***got who called you 24/7 and sucked up to you and your friends.

the key is truly not giving a fukc. not just pretending to cause you read a thread on the misc about it. There really is no reason to give a damn about these bitches. they are a dime a dozen. if you really think she is special, give me her number and a week. ill prove you wrong.

[Bracket199]

the key is truly not giving a fukc. not just pretending to cause you read a thread on the misc about it. There really is no reason to give a damn about these bitches. they are a dime a dozen. if you really think she is special, give me her number and a week. ill prove you wrong.

How do you not give a fcuk, but you get tempted to want to bang?

I think what kicks in with my GF is that she's a great girl and all. But when we have busy schedules and we haven't banged, I really don't care about what she says much. I really just want to bang after being on a dry spell for so long?

She never taunts me with sex, but if she comes over she may be like "let's do X before we bang?" I'd rather just get to it right away.

[gswarrior510]

yea i dont 95% of the times, but like i said..im a bitch for personality. I need to get over it and I know it, but if I'd say i truly dont care about (for example) that chick i was talking about in the chat thread, i'd be lying. I can act like I dont care but I do..for whatever reason.

[HayZues Christi]

How do you not give a fcuk, but you get tempted to want to bang?

I think what kicks in with my GF is that she's a great girl and all. But when we have busy schedules and we haven't banged, I really don't care about what she says much. I really just want to bang after being on a dry spell for so long?

She never taunts me with sex, but if she comes over she may be like "let's do X before we bang?" I'd rather just get to it right away.

i dont just have one girl to ****, so if one girl is being a bitch and not puttin out, i just **** a different one.

there are a lot worse things than your girl wanting do whatever "x" happens to be before you bang though.

i love sex. sometimes you got **** to do though.

[Bracket199]

i dont just have one girl to ****, so if one girl is being a bitch and not puttin out, i just **** a different one.

there are a lot worse things than your girl wanting do whatever "x" happens to be before you bang though.

i love sex. sometimes you got **** to do though.

She's not a hardcore gamer, but I have like every Nintendo in my house from when I was a kid. So we boot it up and play.

We have lots of time to chill Wednesday, but first thing she wants to do is play. First thing I want to do is bang. I don't want to tell her this because then I get antsy and think I'm just in this for sex all the time.

[HayZues Christi]

yea i dont 95% of the times, but like i said..im a bitch for personality. I need to get over it and I know it, but if I'd say i truly dont care about (for example) that chick i was talking about in the chat thread, i'd be lying. I can act like I dont care but I do..for whatever reason.

i havent seen you post about the girl.

dont get me wrong. i care alot about my girl. but its never once crossed my mind that it wouldnt be HER loss if **** went bad. Because of that thought, ive really always been supremely secure and never worried about her leaving or losing her. And when she is going off about some **** or being a bitch, ill just ignore her. I only react to postitive behaviour. Its like training a dog.

[gswarrior510]

I'm the opposite..I love sex and all, but if a girl has a great personality and is into the right things (hiking, sports, active **** in general) I'd rather do that with her and then have sex. It makes for a much better experience in the end imo

[HayZues Christi]

She's not a hardcore gamer, but I have like every Nintendo in my house from when I was a kid. So we boot it up and play.

We have lots of time to chill Wednesday, but first thing she wants to do is play. First thing I want to do is bang. I don't want to tell her this because then I get antsy and think I'm just in this for sex all the time.

lol. eventually you will get bored of ****ing her. srs. so enjoy this huge desire you have for her while it lasts.

challenge her to mario kart. If you win she sucks your dick. she wins youll suck her pussy.

[gswarrior510]

i havent seen you post about the girl.

dont get me wrong. i care alot about my girl. but its never once crossed my mind that it wouldnt be HER loss if **** went bad. Because of that thought, ive really always been supremely secure and never worried about her leaving or losing her. And when she is going off about some **** or being a bitch, ill just ignore her. I only react to postitive behaviour. Its like training a dog.

eh don't bother they are spread out on like 50 pages. It's mostly a function of not meeting enough girls with personalities that I get along with..This is the first one probably ever that I can talk about anything without her being a tomboy type of chick.

that's a good quote. People should follow that more.

[HayZues Christi]

eh don't bother they are spread out on like 50 pages. It's mostly a function of not meeting enough girls with personalities that I get along with..This is the first one probably ever that I can talk about anything without her being a tomboy type of chick.

that's a good quote. People should follow that more.

you sound dangerously close to putting this girl on a pedistol. Im sure she is cool, which makes her worth getting to know n ****. but she isnt irreplaceable. There are other girls out there even cooler and better looking than her.

and never forget the number 1 thing to look for in a woman... how much she likes you.

[Bracket199]

lol. eventually you will get bored of ****ing her. srs. so enjoy this huge desire you have for her while it lasts.

challenge her to mario kart. If you win she sucks your dick. she wins youll suck her pussy.

I gotta figure out how to beat her. She's asian and has mario kart at home. Her favourite game. She's been dummying me in it somehow.

Bout that whole "react to positive behaviour". I need to do that more. She has lots of more negative behaviour, and I get a short fuse for it. I don't flip out, but my mood changes like I just don't want to talk. It's hard for me to ignore. I need to control it.

[jamestown0101]

The "reacting part" is my failed part in this. It's not that the tests fcuk me up. It's that if we ever have a talk, I always have that attitude of being right (being stubborn). It bothers me because it always happens even when I try and force myself not to be.

How do you help this? This only comes out with her. If my father told me something I'd listen since I trust his intelligence.

The sec you rage on bitches is where she knows your buttons and how to **** with guys. Due to a lack of intelligence and men + their feelers, they let women run wild or **** with them without consequences. I will **** her one last time and then next her. If she is a cheat or a whore, I wont bother, and just disregard her. Set boundaries and if she crosses them, you know what to do.

the key is truly not giving a fukc. not just pretending to cause you read a thread on the misc about it. There really is no reason to give a damn about these bitches. they are a dime a dozen. if you really think she is special, give me her number and a week. ill prove you wrong.

Exactly. When you know that she isn't the only pussy out there, not a **** is given, and if she gets out of line, you drop her. I disregard girls all the time. Girl flakes. Girl has excuses. Girl plays games. The **** women do today and men & their tolerance blows my mind. I seen one ******* on here about giving his girl another chance after she cheated?

i havent seen you post about the girl.

dont get me wrong. i care alot about my girl. but its never once crossed my mind that it wouldnt be HER loss if **** went bad. Because of that thought, ive really always been supremely secure and never worried about her leaving or losing her. And when she is going off about some **** or being a bitch, ill just ignore her. I only react to postitive behaviour. Its like training a dog.

RESPECT. Its so true. Few guys step up today. Most cry about their feelers or some ******* having beee cheated on. Girl flakes, attention whores, monkey branches off his friends, ****s around, and disregards the guy till she wants someone to tell her issues too after getting ****ed & chucked. I am with you man. If **** goes sour, what can you do? There will be other girls. Its not cool and the sort of situation you hope for but, you know you will get past it and other options will present themselves.

[DatAzz]

every relationship i have ever been in i have been accused of not giving a fukc. I have never been dumped.

The one who cares the least, has the most power.

sad but true

[gswarrior510]

you sound dangerously close to putting this girl on a pedistol. Im sure she is cool, which makes her worth getting to know n ****. but she isnt irreplaceable. There are other girls out there even cooler and better looking than her.

and never forget the number 1 thing to look for in a woman... how much she likes you.

I dont know why I'm stuck on her. Well not really stuck because I'm talking to other chicks, but my brain is stuck on her. My brain's will is stronger than my dick's will. I never get stuck on hot chicks, I only get stuck on good personalities.

i'm just trying to figure out how can i change that mindset, rather than pretend that i dont care