got a few questions. I've never met the girl in person, we just met through mutual friends on facebook, and i got her number on there last week. Texted for a week, and she seems interested. So we are gonna meet at the local mall, and have a lunch date. so heres my questions.
First, It would make perfect sense for me not to pay for her right? Like I't seems understandable. I was particular in my wording in my texts. She suggest lunch, and I said "we could meet up and talk." not, "let me take you out to lunch", or anything. Worst case scenario, I just asked her whats shes gonna get from the food court, and I'll say im getting something else and to meet back after we get our food, lol.
Second question. Talking might get boring, and might not leave me much of a chance to progress at her sexually, so I'm thinking of asking her sometime in the date if she wants to help me pick out a shirt for some bs event ill make up. That way hopefully we can get more touching and a better connection, hopefully see me shirtless, lol.. Be like "hey i think this would look good on you" and maybe have her try on something, and touch a boob, or her ass by "accident", lol.
So RH, what you think of my plan? Really not trying to overthink this, but having a outline is always necessary for anything.
05-31-2011, 10:53 PM #1
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id imagine not offerign to pay for her half on a first "date", then going for the boob/ass graze on the first meeting at a mall is going to make you come off like a champ
Personally, id offer to pay for her half as its what 10 bucks? thus makin my intentions clear, and then feel perfectly fine going in for a kiss at the end.
IMO, if youre going to be aggressive physically atleast dont be sleezy about it
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it would not kill you to offer to buy her lunch, thats first off... and as far as worring about where the convo might go, its your first time hanging out, you two could ask so many quiestions about each other and still have many more to go for the next date...
after you eat, walk around the mall and go into some stores... and just keep talking, hopefully she is a talker and not quiet... i would NOT go in to grab her in anyway... see how the whole date goes and if u feel that a hug or maybe even a kiss at the end is a good idead then go for it... if she seems into you and things go well, she might want just that...
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06-01-2011, 12:22 AM #6
Bunch of wk's in this thread. OP don't even be subtle about touching a boob. Just be like "I like the way the shirt really accentuates this right here" and grab her boobs. That's real alpha right there. Real alphas also don't even pay for their own food. Challenge her to rock-paper-scissors to choose who pays for food, if you win you make her pay for your stuff, if she wins you say you were just joking around and tell her to meet you back at your table.
06-01-2011, 12:38 AM #7
The thing I find weird is the tone of this hangout. I get the vibe that it really is just a hang out with nothing sexual going to happen. This is on par with the 'coffee' date that people go on the first time they get together. It's just like going to lunch with your mates.
You shouldn't have done the lunch date thing, should of asked her out to do something in the evening, pool hall, drinks etc.
If I can advice you on anything, is that, keep this short. 1 HOUR.
Just use that time to get to know her a bit better, don't try to hang in there for longer hoping she'll like you even more. It needs to be kept short and simple, have fun and keep it light, nothing serious. At the end of 1 HOUR, say "Alright, it was nice getting to know you a bit but I've gotta run" then say your goodbyes and leave.
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06-01-2011, 12:55 AM #8
mate have a read over coal mans sticky/thread has some really good points
But yeah try keep it to about an hour, tell her you got to run etc but be vague on what it is, to keep her wondering.
As for paying for her food i dunno it's up to you mate, i mean i prefer getting a drink for first dates, booze helps to get them relaxed and it's easier to escape if it turns sour
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Paying for a food court meal would be about $6.
Op is trying to find ways not to pay for her meal but then trick her into touching him afterwards.
I want to slap the women who have allowed men like you to get away with this behavior. It brings the whole scheme of dating to such a low level of trash, I would rather sit home in front of the tv with 10 cats than to date in this world anymore.:/
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I think some people on the RH are cheaper than I think, which is extremely sad. So many people hate paying for a girl's ****.
No WK, but if the fcuking thing is gonna cost both of you under 10 bucks total, it's not a big deal. You can even jokingly say "i had fun, next time we hang out, you can get the next 3 tabs " or something.
You're not taking her to a 5 star restaurant with the finest wine and steaks. It's a ****ty fcuking meal. Just cover it and enjoy the time.
Like the other guy said, take it an hour long, and then get out. Be flirty and confident to show her your intentions. You're going to fcuk it up by making her pick out a shirt, because she will know exactly what you're trying to do. This will work if she wants to bang you ferociously (given that extremely small chance).www.twitch.tv/justiino
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Just pay. Every guy i ever met who doesn't want to pay is on some pua bull****.
You pay for her, you dominate the situation. You don't pay for her, you two are equals. Women prefer not to fuk their equals.
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op , its the food court your going to not some fancy place ; what price we talking max like 6-10$ - I can see it going on in your head as you typed that dribble "what il do is i wont pay for her food as thatl show her im so alpha and ****" - no op in reality it makes you seem rather cheap ...
Im all for a fair split but really at a food court?
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