Thanks to op.. I've been wanting to read these again but they have been gone for ages! I just broke up with a girl, this will definitely boost my confidence.
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07-18-2010, 09:47 AM #91
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07-21-2010, 03:05 PM #96
There's two things you need to learn to do efficiently to really get a girl on your d-ick.
Comfort and Attraction
Building comfort is all about building rapport. Breaking the ice, then having a conversation with her, getting to know her a bit. Stuff that you truly don't give a flying fuvk about, but is necessary to break down her boundaries initially.
Most guys who end up really liking a girl, only to find out they're in the friend-zone often build too much comfort and NO ATTRACTION! This is the kiss of death. This is where you'll hear the girl say stuff like:
"I only see you as a friend"
"your like a brother to me"
"I don't think of you like that"
The reason she's saying all that stuff is because you have not created any physical chemistry. You spent all your time talking about boring stuff (what do you like to do, where do you hang out, what school do you go to) and now she starts to associate those boring conversations as part of who YOU are.
That's why its KEY to find a good balance between comfort and building attraction. Things that build attraction are wide and varied, but playfully pushing her, touching her, portraying dominance etc. Its a tight wire act to correctly balance between these two crucial elements to get girls. Most guys do too much of one or the other. As mentioned above, too much comfort and your in the friend zone. Too much attraction building aka sexual suggestions, touching, etc without comfort and your the creepy pervert who doesn't get the hint.
But when your able to find that fine balance.... ahhhhh... its a great feeling. Because every girl because your personal porn star.
Lots of young guys completely act differently around girls, thinking they can't be sexual, or they act extra nice aka nice guy syndrome in hopes of getting something in return.
Focus on first building comfort in your conversation, get her smiling and laughing. Then start building attraction, touching her, teasing her etc. While every girl requires a different amount of each to get her, in the end each and every girl is the same, its figuring out what the balance is that trips up most guys.
SH
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07-21-2010, 04:26 PM #97
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07-22-2010, 03:42 AM #98
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thanks sauce head. you truly are a god amongst men. im going on holiday again for 3 weeks in a few days so im going to try and approach as many people as possible seeing as i will never see them again. im getting realy pissed off at myself though. i started a new school last year and acted like an alpha without even knowing. but then i took a load of knocks to my confidence and became a afc. i think i just need to boost my confidence really.
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07-26-2010, 09:00 PM #101
Yes, a lot of good info, like a self-help book, for free. As an (older) woman, I have to say that, even though I *know* how this works, it still works - if the guy is really living up to it. but like the guy above, I don't agree with all of it. for example about the never paying for coffee or whatever. I'll offer to pay my share, or just go ahead and do it, but if a guy makes it really clear he's willing to be that rude about it, I'd walk away. because low down meanness isn't hot, and I wouldn't leave someone else hanging and feeling embarrassed.
so, if you want to **** hot, mean girls, then he's got the prescription. but if you want to **** hot sweet girls, you have to mix in a little kindness with your confidence. Still be cocky and risky, but don't be truly mean unless that's your true nature (and then meet your own kind).
that's my perspective from when I was young - I liked the unexpected, and being knocked off centre a bit, even if it meant getting hurt when he didn't stay. but I walked away from true *******s (as well as too nice guys). Only women who have been ****ed over too much too early in life really want to date cold hearted *******s. and I think hot, sweet girls really enjoy sex more than the mean ones, and are more giving in bed.
and ... if you do want a girlfriend, which isn't what this thread is about, then the confidence is still crucial. but you have to be able to bring your heart a little too. All those 'romantic' things that don't work for beginners *do* work if the woman is already totally hot for you and into you. However, the minute she expects it or takes it for granted, you have to pull it right the **** back. I was so happy, for a long long time, with a man who never took ANY **** from me, but who could really be there the rest of the time, and I'd do anything to keep him happy.
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08-03-2010, 10:58 AM #109
Onto the second page, already learning so much from this. Absolutely no experience with girls since, you hit the nail on the head, I'm a shy guy and act on it. That said, at a party a few days ago I unwittingly talked to the other girls in a group of chicks, and wouldn't you know it the one who I didn't talk to first was the one that was in my bed later that night. Had brewer's droop so couldn't make the most out of it, but we're gonna be meeting eachother over the holiday so it should evolve into something. Now time to read this thread and apply it...
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08-06-2010, 05:09 PM #118
Unless you have been consistently and blatantly obvious you are not interested, then no, she wont think your are not interested.
In addition, how is not begging to go with her show disinterest? The example is is not saying that she asked him to go with her and he rejected her, she merely hinted. Sounds more like a test to me, which you would have failed miserably.
Age: 17. How about you stop being a know it all and learn... remember this moment in a few years you realize you are a supplicating chump and let women walk all over you and always end up on the friend zone.Forever alone? Attraction and keeping the girl chasing you - http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=131498033
You will never know your limits, unless you push yourself past the imaginary lines you have drawn in the sand.
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08-07-2010, 01:42 PM #119
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08-09-2010, 08:50 AM #120
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It's good info and all that but there's just one thing:
Over-analysation!
Looking into things toooo much will **** you up. I've been there and done that. I've tried every method that was in the 'seduction Community'. Was in that community for over 3 years.
No matter how much you read or how much you follow any advice, if she isn't physically attracted to you then there is NOTHING you can do. All these techniques are just a layer of a cake. If you haven't got the base sorted (i.e your looks) then you're making the cake from upwards>downwards and you'll never reach the bottom.
Good looks are made and not always traits that people have been born with. Concentrate on looking good and then go and talk to women without rushing things. You will get laid, guarrenteed!Firefighter crew
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