This is the key to relationships. No relationship is perfect. There will always be ups and down. As long as there is an up after ever down and the two of you can learn from each other and your experiences together and make your relationship that much stronger. Be in love with each other that much more. You have to constantly work on your relationship, whether it be 6 months, 6 years, or 60 years. Your relationship should be stronger than yesterday, every day.
If everything "feels" fine for an extended period of time and the two of you have just been going about your day living ever day like the last, then everything is NOT fine. It means the two of you have become content. Content is like a downward slope that turns into a 300 ft. cliff. This must be something you learn to recognize so you can turn around and start walking back up the slope before you fall off.
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03-01-2010, 09:28 AM #61Forever alone? Attraction and keeping the girl chasing you - http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=131498033
You will never know your limits, unless you push yourself past the imaginary lines you have drawn in the sand.
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03-01-2010, 09:43 AM #62
well im in a really ****ty mood. met a girl couple months ago, she totally fell for me. she was saying how she really cares about me, how shes in love. i didnt say it back because i felt that she would f*ck me over sooner or later. she kept saying all these beautiful words to me so i finally believed her and told her i really care about her too.
and what do u know? its like she just turned off a switch in her head and fell out of love with me. i promised myself that i would never fall for a girl again after being hurt many times but i just gave into her. i started caring for her and now she doesnt give a flying f*ck about me anymore. im really starting to hate women, this story repeats itself everytime i meet someone.
theyre totally in love with me but i kind of ignore it because i know sh*t will not end well, when they finally make me believe that maybe its something serious and i give into it they just switch 180 degrees. i wonder what im doing wrong. it makes me feel like a loser, like im only good on the outside but once they get to know me they dont like me anymore. just venting, its been a hard day. all you guys keep your head up, maybe one day well meet a girl that will actually care for us
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09-12-2010, 03:35 AM #68
Great posts by wifebeater and guardian.
This just happened to me with a 2 yr relationship. Feelsbadman, but I kinda always knew she wasn't the "one" and her family is completely jerry springer insane, so it's for the best. Now I'm working on regaining my "alphaness" and doing stuff I want to do (travel,hobbies,etc).
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09-12-2010, 09:51 AM #69
Let me clear this up for most of you men.........
Basically you're complaining that you get in a relationship where you're not really acting yourself. Then when you start getting jealous and cant help but to show your true insecure ***gy self she suddenly realises how much of a loser you really are behind all the muscles and bravado and then to top it off you become clingy and push her away from you...
Maybe you lot in here should stop reading books on being 'cool' and just develop real personalities.Last edited by CrazyCallum; 09-12-2010 at 09:58 AM. Reason: Grammer :)
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09-12-2010, 10:28 AM #71
from my experience which is not that great since i have only one relationship under my belt which lasted for 23 months, but to cut the crap and get to tha case, it ended cause we couldnt talk anymore, i mean we could about some stupid things, but deep smart convo was over, sex got borring also (ok we were both guilty for that), everything was just borring same old things every single day. lesson to learn from that relationship is to refresh things daily if not daily than weekly atleast.
no few years after that im with this super cute lovely girl that loves me and i love her more than anything we are together for 4-5 months, know each other for 9-10 months and im noticing that when we spend few days together on 3rd or 4th day there is lots of silence moments its like my brain freezes and i dont know what the fuk to say to her. ok i used to solve those silence problems with sex but this one, she is still virgin, sexually shy and totaly inexpirienced (im her firs real bf) so i still dont have sex as option to pass the time or break the silence, or have marathon of sex for whole day to have fun. its just usual things, watch movie, walk, play some stupid pc games, cook/eat dinner/lunch and some light make out (still stuck on 1st base). idk if matters that she is 5 years younger than me. the main problem is that sometimes i feel like if i tell her something she would eather not understand it or just act shy/stupid about it. example we were in bed kissing etc and i asked her "honey what turns you on, cause whatever i do it seems like either it aint working or u dont want it to work" and reply was "u will find out one day" i mean WTF is this real life did she rly said that. i am willing to w8 for her to open up more sexualy and mentaly, but for how long, im not some sexual freak that needs sex 24/7365 but i would apriciate from time to time to have another hand on my cock rather than my own. oh and talking about sex with her is like talking with deaf man in dark room, u can talk all u want but it just aint working.
wtf should i do.
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08-25-2011, 09:08 PM #76
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in a nut shell always let a girl know she is second, third or 4th. like fuk u bish, its me, my career, my mom, the rest of my fam, my car, my xbox and her.
live your life full speed for you, and never slow down for a bish.Psalm 64:1-6
Hear my voice, O God, in my prayer: preserve my life from fear of the enemy. Hide me from the secret counsel of evildoers, From the tumult of those who do iniquity, Who have sharpened their tongue like a sword. They aimed bitter speech as their arrow, To shoot from.
MFC: They hate us because of our freedom.
I carry a .40S&W because i couldn't make up my mind.
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08-30-2011, 10:26 PM #79
I love these posts (and others on page 2 after completely reading the thread), specially the being on the same page and running the race together and finishing at the same time part. Maybe it's because I want a girl who'll do everything with me and I can love her and actually show her that I love her without playing games. Only way to keep an attraction going in that type of relationship going is to do new and interesting things all the time in order to avoid being in a boring/stale relationship.
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08-30-2011, 11:12 PM #80
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Psalm 64:1-6
Hear my voice, O God, in my prayer: preserve my life from fear of the enemy. Hide me from the secret counsel of evildoers, From the tumult of those who do iniquity, Who have sharpened their tongue like a sword. They aimed bitter speech as their arrow, To shoot from.
MFC: They hate us because of our freedom.
I carry a .40S&W because i couldn't make up my mind.
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08-30-2011, 11:21 PM #81
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Lot lot lot of truth in this thread. My 4 year just coming to a close and pretty much followed that list exactly, I had to laugh.
I even dug up an old IM conversation where she kept trying to suck affectionate comments out of me and I wouldn't budge, was a real prick, and she was crazy about me.
I made the mistake of thinking after ~3 years she would grow the **** up and I wouldn't need to pull that **** as much - live and learn.
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08-31-2011, 12:20 AM #83
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Wise words. But perhaps it is better to never ever center your life on your girl. Throughout the relationship you still focus on yourself and only occasionally focus on her (the things that really matter to her). That way even if she leaves you, it is not a gigantic loss and thus the hole in your heart is more like one made by a tiny needle than that made by a knife.
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08-31-2011, 12:28 AM #84
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Good thread OP and a good basic template!
as Dawgs says the person has to have the same values and aspiraions as you, they also need to respect you. you both need to drop your guard to a certain degree as you learn to trust each other but I do believe a to of guys drop it too far and become a bit slack, the guy still has to be the man and its that which retains the attraction.
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08-31-2011, 12:29 AM #85
I've always thought of relationships like this neither side should try to be independent of the other, dependent on the other both sides should strive for interdependence.
In an interdependent relationship, all participants are emotionally, economically, ecologically and/or morally self-reliant while at the same time responsible to each other.
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just something I want to add.
Never change yourself for anyone, let alone a girl, unless it's a change that's going to make YOU better. Your girl doesn't like that you drink too much? That's a change for a better. I mean if you're drinking like once a week and she has a problem with that then tell her to go **** herself, but if you're the type of dude that's getting drunk 4-5 times a week and you're 21+ then you should probably get your **** together and start to focus on your career that you should probably have soon.
Basically, just do you. If you know that you're a good person and you're happy with the choices that you're making in life(you know that they're good ones I mean), then disregard everyone and do whatever the **** that YOU need to do. You will always come before someone else, because at the end of the day if you're not happy with yourself then you won't be happy with someone else.-Misc Firearms Crew-
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08-31-2011, 04:45 AM #88
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Damn.... this may be the best thread that I've read in this forum so far.
Reps to OP and Guardian for their contributions. Sensible, helpful stuff. Wish I could have read something like this when I was 20. LOL.
A LOT of guys here and in the big Misc. that are living this right now. ^^^^
Great stuff here too.... esp. in bold. I know that I fukked up a relationship or two in my past because of this exact reason.Last edited by nvrstopworking; 08-31-2011 at 04:52 AM.
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I doubt I'll be getting married, if I do, it'll be a pre-nup only setup.
My buddys long term girlfriend who lives with my buddy in HIS OWN HOUSE, WHICH HE PAYS FOR, that if they got married and broke up she'd 'only take half of the house' LOL
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