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    How to get rid of nervousness around the girl that I like

    After this week, I noticed a few things.

    1. When I really like a girl, I start to think of her. Like the majority of the time in school. When I am about to talk to her, a feeling of nervousness comes out and my gut starts playing games with me and then I pussy out of talking to her. In other words, anxiety starts to hit on me and then a whole lot of **** goes on my mind.

    2. I have no problem talking to average/ugly chicks. I can talk with confidence and say whats on my mind, no trouble being myself.

    I've realized now that It's all mental. Guys really what should I do to get rid of this ****? I can talk fine to regular chicks, but girls that I find attractive, I start to fkin get nervous, and to be honest I am sick of it. To be honest, I want to be able to have little/to no emotion for talking to ANY girl. That way, if they reject me(which they have, been brushed off, friendzoned, etc) I won't think about it as much.

    What do you guys do to avoid being pulled in by your feelings for a girl? What do you guys do?
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    stop putting her on a pedestal as many would say... =\
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    Should I try to practice calming down(deep breaths in and out)? What happens is that I get anxious, and sometimes it's tough to control.

    When I am calm, try to avoid thinking about people, I can talk better to almost anyone.. Do you guys feel this is the best way?
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    Originally Posted by Janemba8888 View Post
    Should I try to practice calming down(deep breaths in and out)? What happens is that I get anxious, and sometimes it's tough to control.

    When I am calm, try to avoid thinking about people, I can talk better to almost anyone.. Do you guys feel this is the best way?
    wait are u talking about like nervousness as in "**** i think shes too good for me and i dont know wat to say"

    or nervousness as in like SERIOUSLY nervousness AKA panic attacks (which is actually a medical illness)

    cuz if ur talking about the 2nd one, then you shud see a doctor, its probably a condition you have and yes, breathing will help regulate your speeding heart rate and you will calm down..

    as well, dont overthink it when you're talking to a girl man, just be the more alpha one and dont ever go into like feelings and **** with her unless you're lookin to get friendzoned... throw really light negs often so that she gives you a good response by hitting you lightly or something and then your confidence will boost up cuz you'll probably perceive that as a good sign...

    if theres an awkward silence, just pretend theres some **** on her chest or hair or neck and be like "don't move.. you have a bunch of white stuff there.." and then she'll stop and be like "take it off for me" or w/e and then you just pretend to take some **** off and you'll intiate kino as well. but the most important thing is you've bought urself some time to think of something to say
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    I used to get that same feeling around my freshman year in high school when I really started hanging out with girls. It is God awful. Honestly, it just takes time
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    Originally Posted by yondy12 View Post
    wait are u talking about like nervousness as in "**** i think shes too good for me and i dont know wat to say"

    or nervousness as in like SERIOUSLY nervousness AKA panic attacks (which is actually a medical illness)

    cuz if ur talking about the 2nd one, then you shud see a doctor, its probably a condition you have and yes, breathing will help regulate your speeding heart rate and you will calm down..

    as well, dont overthink it when you're talking to a girl man, just be the more alpha one and dont ever go into like feelings and **** with her unless you're lookin to get friendzoned... throw really light negs often so that she gives you a good response by hitting you lightly or something and then your confidence will boost up cuz you'll probably perceive that as a good sign...

    if theres an awkward silence, just pretend theres some **** on her chest or hair or neck and be like "don't move.. you have a bunch of white stuff there.." and then she'll stop and be like "take it off for me" or w/e and then you just pretend to take some **** off and you'll intiate kino as well. but the most important thing is you've bought urself some time to think of something to say
    Thankfully its the 1st one. I tend to have those(shes to good for me ) thoughts, and thats what brings up the anxiety/nervousness.

    I can definitely work out of getting out of an awkward silence. When I talk to her, she seems to be interested, unlike other chicks who give me one word answers. What are some other ways to avoid being in the friendzone. Is she supposed to think that I am interested in her?
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    Some other questions too. How do I prevent myself from being uninteresting/boring? I do have a mysterious type of persona, but what should I do to keep her interested?

    And I have the girl on facebook and had alittle chat with her yesturday(she couldnt stay for long cause she had to go somewhere). But how many times should I say, text her? I want to talk to her, but I dn't want to seem desperate either.
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    Its all a mental game. You're putting these pussy on a pedistal. It comes with practice also. I would suggest just going out and find the hottest girl you can find and starting up conversation. You'll get to the point you will be comfortable in doing so.
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    Now that I think about it, I believe that im kinda obsessed with this girl(in that shes all ive thought about).

    The other pretty chicks that I were interested in(before this girl) sadly though friendzoned me, or made signs that they werent interested in me. (been a total of 9 right now, for this semester anyway)

    There is though one girl in one of my classes who smiled at me when I looked at her. eh, maybe i'll start talking to her.

    There are plenty other girls in my classes, now that I think about it, who i could talk to, but they just seem unapproachable(shy, don't talk a lot). Damn oneitis.
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    Originally Posted by Janemba8888 View Post
    Now that I think about it, I believe that im kinda obsessed with this girl(in that shes all ive thought about).

    The other pretty chicks that I were interested in(before this girl) sadly though friendzoned me, or made signs that they werent interested in me. (been a total of 9 right now, for this semester anyway)

    There is though one girl in one of my classes who smiled at me when I looked at her. eh, maybe i'll start talking to her.

    There are plenty other girls in my classes, now that I think about it, who i could talk to, but they just seem unapproachable(shy, don't talk a lot). Damn oneitis.
    Fist of all, don't be nervous. What is the worst she can say? No? Once you get past that then you're good to go. BTW a girls friend-zone is not neccisarily a No. Most often it is a reserve. If she friend-zones you pay special attention to her (no stalker type gifts or anything) and make sure she knows she is the top of your list for anything. Always make sure she is the first person your ask to dances and gala's and such. If you are making plans for hanging out always invite her along too. Eventually you'll get over your nervousness and she'll see you real feelings for her. Then it is only a matter of you and her acting on it.

    In brief, don't start out by just asking a woman if she'll "go out with you," start out by asking her out to something innocuous and being her friend.
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    hmmm...i see.
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    ahhh. Ima do my best to not be nervous tomorrow, but IYO, what should I try to do to hide it? Should I just not think about at her throughout the day(till I see her).?
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    Originally Posted by Janemba8888 View Post
    ahhh. Ima do my best to not be nervous tomorrow, but IYO, what should I try to do to hide it? Should I just not think about at her throughout the day(till I see her).?
    Think about this:

    At this moment she wants to fart but doesnt want to because alpha me is here and she's afraid that i might leave her for another girl.
    I did it for teh lulz
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