I get alot more respect from men, other guys recognize how hard it is to get big and ripped and are more openly impressed about it generally. Females wont actively approach you but definitely take notice and definitely like getting attention from you if you're not socially inept... It tends to be the bigger person's role to initiate conversation and show that they're friendly and relaxed ya know?
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12-03-2016, 07:10 PM #34
For sure getting bigger has a huge impact on your life, that's why bodybuilding is fuarking awesome. It makes you feel better, have more confidence, get more attention from people and whatnot. Also I think it's pretty refreshing to look in the mirror and appreciate and you see. You know the hard work was worth!
It sucks that people judge by your looks at first sight, but that's how things are. Fortunately nowadays we got all the stuff we need to achieve our goals.
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12-04-2016, 05:39 AM #36
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12-04-2016, 05:46 AM #37
In middle school I was 5'8 and 160
In high school I was 6'4 and 145
Now I'm closer to 215
My granny says I'm more handsome now.
But Srs. I get asked for spots now which makes me feel great, and people you haven't seen since high school are always shocked. so yeah your confidence does grow.Team No Calves
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12-04-2016, 07:19 AM #38
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12-05-2016, 04:59 PM #39
the attention from ladies has definitely increased, especially when i wore a singlet to school. they seemed quite amused. Guys dont push me around anymore, the skinny skater kids who called me druggo when i was like 63kg look intimidated when i walk past them now. Probs cause seeing an asian with some muscle is rare lol (79kg @ 179cm which is like average outside of school)
just realized this thread was created in 2009.. huhLast edited by junosboi99; 12-05-2016 at 05:01 PM. Reason: lol wut
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12-08-2016, 12:33 PM #40
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Something I forgot to mention is that you get eye balled a lot. This occurs at every social setting (gym, city centre, mall, hospital, park, etc) without fall. Some people show you more respect while others resort to being 'haters'. I'm saying this as a guy who dresses moderately and avoid tight stuff. Can imagine a lot more haters when you dress tank tops or tight shirts.
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12-08-2016, 02:06 PM #41
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I think the biggest thing is your own self confidence that you know you can handle yourself if faced with any challenges. the discipline it takes, and hard work gives sense of self confidence as well. A healthy ego is a good thing.
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Used to be a scrawny kid a year back. People would walk all over me. Mocking, ridiculing, laughing, and so on. I don't attribute those actions to the fact that I was scrawny, but to the fact that I had no confidence in myself, and did not think I would be capable of standing up for myself. I made myself a complete pushover.
After going from ~67 kg to 92 kg in 10 months (both muscle and fat gains), people treat me a little differently now. Whenever my friends introduce me to a new group of people (especially adolescents with obnoxious attitudes), they no longer denigrate me with their in-group favoritism, and instead treat me with more respect. In fact, the increase in respect from everyone around, strangers and friends alike, is the biggest change I've noticed in how people interact with me. As a result, it changed my attitude toward myself, and I've begun to have more confidence knowing that people are a little more intimidated by me now and subsequently a little more reluctant to walk all over me. This change in my attitude from building muscle further changed the way people view me, and it's great.***MEDICAL SCHOOL CREW***
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04-05-2017, 02:14 PM #45
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I didn't find that people treated me differently, I guess the key was I didn't change personality wise. Still the same guy, easy going for the most part, go about my business. Some people I knew remarked on my muscle development and what have you, but to me it was just a personal challenge of self improvement. A few people I knew worked out as well and we would talk about our exercise methods and trade muscle mags etc. I was trying to see how well I could improve and increase my strength and muscularity, it was never for others to recognize per se and those who knew me treated me the same Of course, if I met someone new it was impossible to know if treated me different, as they didn't know me before.
Regardless, if people remark on it that's a sign you are doing well. Who doesn't like some positive feedback? Congrats!
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04-06-2017, 03:52 AM #46
Being honest brother...
The thing that changes is You, its not the people its not respect they have to you, etc...
It is you, the more confident you are the more people notice that... When you truly feel yourself and you feel like you are reaching maximum of your potential (body wise, study wise, sport wise) you are like a ball of energy ... people seek this energy and strive for it
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04-06-2017, 04:54 PM #47
Might be in the minority here...if so that's fine. I've been an athlete since childhood, and have remained in the realm of physical fitness since. There were times, despite my "jock" status, when I was picked on by scrawnier peers. There were also times when others labored under the delusion that I dare not be messed with.
If you believe you are something (bigger, stronger), and it's not a belief you have to force (in other words, you drink your own Kool-Aid), others will routinely believe the same thing. Not exactly confidence, but exuding your perception of yourself - whether that is lack of self-esteem or an ego bordering on narcissism. People around you will typically follow suit.
The operative word is "typically," which leads me to a different point. Sometimes it doesn't matter how much confidence you have...people will still treat you the way they were always going to treat you. Say, for example, you hypertrophy every muscle in your body but are 5'3" - your difficulty commanding respect from male peers or attracting a woman might not change much. Further, and only because it's been alluded to in this thread a few times, it seems men have a tendency to believe women care about the male physique as much as men care about womens'. I would argue that facial symmetry/features are (at least) equally important to a woman in this regard. As another example, let's assume you have a physique of the gods, but your nose is slightly enlarged and right eye very slightly higher than your left (quite common, actually). These small imperfections may not be that apparent, but may be glaring to the subconscious. The result is that you were no more desireable than before you began your journey to physical greatness.
All this to say people around you will usually believe what you believe about yourself, but it's not guaranteed.
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04-07-2017, 04:14 AM #48
Yep! Especially as a woman trying to bulk up. I had an eating disorder and weighed around 35kg at 5'1", and people were actually more accepting of that than when I got into bodybuilding and weighed 55kg.
It took my family a few years to get their head around it, and would often say things like, "Don't you think you're getting a bit too big now?" or, "You're getting very manly around the shoulders"
It can be a challenge but you just have to try and remember why YOU are doing it, and forget about what everybody else wants you to do.
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04-07-2017, 04:36 AM #49
Mostly it just improved my mentality and happiness, strength, and endurance for long errands I do. I didn't get any social benefits out of it, i'm still friendless but having a healthy hobby to look forward to everyday has improved my quality of life otherwise. Watching month by month how it changes keeps me coming back for more. I'll train til I can't walk, heh heh.
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04-14-2017, 07:32 AM #50
I know this is an old thread... but I agree with PhysicsK. The biggest change is with yourself. I went from a scrawny 125lbs @5'9" to 168lbs (bulk), and currently sitting at about 151lbs @ 10ish% body fat. Biggest difference I have noticed? I have way more confidence and I have proven to myself that I can do anything. I have realized that I have the necessary determination, motivation, willpower, and strength to make a change in my life if I so choose.
That being said, I also do think that people treat me differently. Definitely get more respect from guys, and seems to help a little bit with the ladies. My ex gf said she wouldn't have even dated me if I wasn't somewhat built lol
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04-15-2017, 06:29 PM #51
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The biggest thing that you will notice is that working out and building muscle will make you more confident. This newfound confidence could potentially impact your life in big ways. You might be more willing to take risks than you were before. Maybe you will go talk to that cute girl, or apply for that new job. It's not just how other people will perceive you... it is how you will perceive yourself.
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