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    3 months at gym and still feeling frustrated

    Hello! Alex here.
    So I'm 40 and three months ago I probably took the best decision in my life in commiting myself to stay fit and strong.
    Despite my age I feel very well, full of energy and my diet rocks (I managed to lose about 45lbs in the last year), I learned to count proteins, calories and I love it.
    So, with much enthusiasm and 100% motivation I decided to take a membership in a local gym for a year, confident that I'd quickly overcome the fact I always considered the gym intimidating.
    I paid 2 personal trainers (!!!) for a total of 7 lessons and 2 routines (total $300), because I started, the first month, in a different gym (same membership) and wanted to start in the right way; I don't regret for the money spent this only shows my motivation, and I was confident that at least it would be good to learn the proper way to exercise.
    Now the problem is that after 3 months, I'm accustomed with the gym, and I really like to go there, in a way I don't feel intimidated anymore by the gym per se, but, by the exercises, and the many theories all the people I hear have!
    I always feel I don't execute well every exercise, I have doubts about the loads, don't know if I chose the right load and if I'm properly targeting the muscle I want; in many exercises, I have the feeling I'm using the triceps instead of the back the chest and so on.
    I'm a perfectionist so I really hate that. I hoped that after 3 months, at least, I had learned the form, techniques, load selection and so on, but to be honest I didn't.
    I'm not saying I don't do nothing, honestly I find some good improvement (and I often find some exercise, for example legs, triceps and biceps, targeting very well).
    As a perfectionist I hate when some random people correct my form even if I know that's something they do to help and I really love this.
    Today a guy told me that for the first 2 years he'd use only machine if he was me, and it's exactly the opposite my personal trainer told me (he loaded my card of dumbbells and barbell).
    So resuming I find quite difficult to understand and be confident about the form, plus I hate the fact that I feel that all the people in the gym seem to my eyes very good in training and I feel clumsy.
    So can you give me some sound advise to overcome this? It's not a motivation problem, I'm still loving it but I've the feeling I'm not leaving the novice phase. Another thing to say is that I'm skinny fat 21,5% bodyfat so I decided to cut (albeit I'd prefer the bulking phase as I want to get big).
    Thank you very much to all the fellows who'll answer.
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    There is a gold mine of info on YouTube. Find a video channel you can relate to and watch, study, learn.

    Bodybuilding books and articles can help.

    As far as trainers go, you can do the same things different ways…keep that in mind.
    "A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another. "By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another."

    Old Guy deadlifting: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6zMrim-0Dks
    bench press https://youtu.be/GaRzfueJVJQ

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