ALCOHOLICS: RECOVERY & FITNESS (Serious Only Please)

[BigDaddy33]

hey guys just reading thru the thread,and felt the need to share.I ain't been to meetings in 15 years,sometimes i miss the little pearls of wisdom that always popped up at them.As bad as i had it ,I go months without even thinking about it.It is amazing to me how with time something that you couldn't even live without,isn't even a blip on the radar screen now.Congrats to all who are doing well and gaining ground......Sac

I get little pearls every meeting. You should stop by one, maybe help someone out with a pearl of wisdom of your own... Good Job!!

[KTManiac]

My Dad is an alcoholic and im afraid that I will be suceptable to it. I drink on occassion with my friends at partys, but I have no urge to drink or to cover up anything emotionally and I can stop myself at any point. Am I headed down the wrong path?

[GreenWave1]

My Dad is an alcoholic and im afraid that I will be suceptable to it. I drink on occassion with my friends at partys, but I have no urge to drink or to cover up anything emotionally and I can stop myself at any point. Am I headed down the wrong path?

If your dad is an alcoholic, you should be concerned. If I were you, I wouldn't drink at all.

Best of luck to you and your dad.

[Freddie Beef]

I have came across my first challenge, and in may I will be sober 6 years. I am in charge of my brothers bachelor party, the good things are that 2 of his buddies are not into drinking at all, the other 6 are. I CANT go into a bar and not drink. I cant do it, it is why I dont go, if I drink, I will be fighting at some point, extreme angry drunk is I. So I had his non drinking buddy take charge a bit, my brother has been having some heart troubles. So I am trying to convince my brother to have a cook out at his apt. And leave it at that. I can do that. It isnt really a challenge, it is just the first time I have had to work around bieng sober.

[plaskowski2002]

I have came across my first challenge, and in may I will be sober 6 years. I am in charge of my brothers bachelor party, the good things are that 2 of his buddies are not into drinking at all, the other 6 are. I CANT go into a bar and not drink. I cant do it, it is why I dont go, if I drink, I will be fighting at some point, extreme angry drunk is I. So I had his non drinking buddy take charge a bit, my brother has been having some heart troubles. So I am trying to convince my brother to have a cook out at his apt. And leave it at that. I can do that. It isnt really a challenge, it is just the first time I have had to work around bieng sober.

hey fred,
from what you said you have been going through lately i wouldnt be incharge of the bachelor party. i think you know what to do, you just have to go do it. it seems to me that even though you are almost 6 years sober you are still as fragile and a first day sober. it seem your quality of life hasnt goten any better. im not trying to be harsh but your playing a very dangerous game. you need to make you sobriety number one among everything and take care of yourself. the hell with that party, phuck that. go to A.A.and get some counseling. and i do wish you the best and we will all be here for you. we are all the same here no mater what are drug of choice is.

[Freddie Beef]

hey fred,
from what you said you have been going through lately i wouldnt be incharge of the bachelor party. i think you know what to do, you just have to go do it. it seems to me that even though you are almost 6 years sober you are still as fragile and a first day sober. it seem your quality of life hasnt goten any better. im not trying to be harsh but your playing a very dangerous game. you need to make you sobriety number one among everything and take care of yourself. the hell with that party, phuck that. go to A.A.and get some counseling. and i do wish you the best and we will all be here for you. we are all the same here no mater what are drug of choice is.

I agree, if the cookout is at my brothers apt. I will be chill. One of his buddies is a HARDCORE catholic, adn the other is a HARDCORE christian. I would chill with them. and laugh at the others, most of them know not to bug me about a drink. Last time one of them did, I punched him in the mouth(serious) I need to get to a meeting, will next week for sure. I get so nervous around alcohol and even thinking about bieng around it. I will let ya guys know how it goes.

[plaskowski2002]

I agree, if the cookout is at my brothers apt. I will be chill. One of his buddies is a HARDCORE catholic, adn the other is a HARDCORE christian. I would chill with them. and laugh at the others, most of them know not to bug me about a drink. Last time one of them did, I punched him in the mouth(serious) I need to get to a meeting, will next week for sure. I get so nervous around alcohol and even thinking about bieng around it. I will let ya guys know how it goes.

im praying for you brother. keep us posted.

[getnfit2007]

First things first, This is March, lets take this a day at a time, there is no gurantee you or I are gonna be here in May. I hope we are. But only our HP knows that. Second

I have came across my first challenge, and in may I will be sober 6 years. .....

My question for you to answer to yourself, not me or anyone here. If your still fighting the drink, what did you leave out in your steps? Did you COMPLETELY give yourself to this simple program? Is there something you held onto in your steps that you haven't talked to your sponsor about? Are you sponsoring people, talking to them on a daily basis? Are you helping the new guy, you have six yrs. experience. Do you read the Big Book?

[Baldiewonkanobi]

I agree...our friend needs to mend one more fence and only he can find the break. I think my 12 step work inside the prison is what snapped me to my senses. From that point on I was no longer a walking time bomb. I have zero desire to ever drink or use again yet I still have to work with my ****ty thinking.

Baldie

[getnfit2007]

I think my 12 step work inside the prison is what snapped me to my senses. From that point on I was no longer a walking time bomb. I have zero desire to ever drink or use again yet I still have to work with my ****ty thinking.

Baldie

at meetings, I look for the new guy, its un-natural for me to approach someone I dont know. As soon as I get out of myself, and put the new guy first, that un-natural thinking is gone. Im doing his work!

[Freddie Beef]

First things first, This is March, lets take this a day at a time, there is no gurantee you or I are gonna be here in May. I hope we are. But only our HP knows that. Second



My question for you to answer to yourself, not me or anyone here. If your still fighting the drink, what did you leave out in your steps? Did you COMPLETELY give yourself to this simple program? Is there something you held onto in your steps that you haven't talked to your sponsor about? Are you sponsoring people, talking to them on a daily basis? Are you helping the new guy, you have six yrs. experience. Do you read the Big Book?

I read the Big Book, never went to AA I just looked at my 3 month old son and said nevermore, basicly. I just stopped. My Dad and Grandpa, and 2 uncles are alcoholics, my wifes mom was an alcoholic, and her dad was a big drug user, bad. I didnt want my son to be around it. I am gonna go to a meeting next week only because I thought I was doing okay, and I thought all teh constant cravings were normal, but I dont think I am quite where I should be.

[getnfit2007]

Thats a good idea. If you need PM, and we'll talk.

[GreenWave1]

I agree, if the cookout is at my brothers apt. I will be chill. One of his buddies is a HARDCORE catholic, adn the other is a HARDCORE christian. I would chill with them. and laugh at the others, most of them know not to bug me about a drink. Last time one of them did, I punched him in the mouth(serious) I need to get to a meeting, will next week for sure. I get so nervous around alcohol and even thinking about bieng around it. I will let ya guys know how it goes.

Excellent job working it out Fred. It is important to recognize your limitations and stay on a path that will help you stay sober.

The fact that you are still holding on shows that you have a lot of strength. A lot of what you say also indicates that you are living close to the edge. Get to a meeting so you can get some help.

May God bless you and guide you on your journey.

[BigDaddy33]

I agree, if the cookout is at my brothers apt. I will be chill. One of his buddies is a HARDCORE catholic, adn the other is a HARDCORE christian. I would chill with them. and laugh at the others, most of them know not to bug me about a drink. Last time one of them did, I punched him in the mouth(serious) I need to get to a meeting, will next week for sure. I get so nervous around alcohol and even thinking about bieng around it. I will let ya guys know how it goes.

GO TO A MEETING TODAY!!! DON'T WAIT UNTIL NEXT WEEK. It sounds like you are walking a fine line line, if you cross it, you may never get back to the other side. 6 yrs of sobriety is great!! But, you need to start being able to take your life back also... Good Luck Fred.. We will be here... KCB

[Freddie Beef]

GO TO A MEETING TODAY!!! DON'T WAIT UNTIL NEXT WEEK. It sounds like you are walking a fine line line, if you cross it, you may never get back to the other side. 6 yrs of sobriety is great!! But, you need to start being able to take your life back also... Good Luck Fred.. We will be here... KCB

I wil do that. I like how you said I need to take my life back, cuz I feel like I barely have it. I appreciate all the support.

[Baldiewonkanobi]

Fred...report back to us about that meeting. A selfish request I know...but it will be good for all of us.

Baldie

[getnfit2007]

Fred...report back to us about that meeting. A selfish request I know...but it will be good for all of us.

Baldie

Baldie a selfish request?

I dont think so, this is a new area of communication, its not like we have numbers. Its the new thing.

Over the last week from finding this thread, I must say. I really like this, its not the bs, I sometimes do in MY other thread. Thank you for creating this place. I hope you all have a great day!

[Freddie Beef]

Fred...report back to us about that meeting. A selfish request I know...but it will be good for all of us.

Baldie

Will do.

[muttytwist]

Fred, I feel for you brother. I'm 5 years sober, also did it without a program. Still won't go to the bar, and its hard to have fun when you keep repeating in your head " I can not drink". AA is a huge help for some, I hope you can use it. Best of luck man.

[...Kennedy]

It's been a little while since I posted in here. I just want to stop in and thank everyone who contributes in this thread. Whenever I feel the urge for a cold one, but circumstances and responsibilities of life and family make doing so a poor choice, I lurk in here to read about you guys who really have your priorities straight.

Just wanted you all to know that by sharing your own trials and challenges, you are helping more people than you may realize. Thank you.

[getnfit2007]

Fred, I feel for you brother. I'm 5 years sober, also did it without a program. Still won't go to the bar, and its hard to have fun when you keep repeating in your head " I can not drink". AA is a huge help for some, I hope you can use it. Best of luck man.

I just want to give you guys something to read from BB, pg. 101 and it says:
"IN our belief any scheme of combating alcoholism which purposes to sheidl the sick man from temptation is doomed to failure. If the alcoholic tries to shield himself he may succeed for a time, but he usually winds up with a bigger explosion then ever. We have tried these methods. These attempts to do the impossible have always failed."

and it further goes onto say...

"So our rule is not to avoid a palce where there is drinking, if we have a legtitimate reason for being there."

Get to a meeting, get active Success happens in numbers.

It's been a little while since I posted in here. I just want to stop in and thank everyone who contributes in this thread. Whenever I feel the urge for a cold one, but circumstances and responsibilities of life and family make doing so a poor choice, I lurk in here to read about you guys who really have your priorities straight.

I would tell ya to get some numbers of people like us. I have found that if i call people on good days and create a pattern, then..IF the day comes when Im tempted. I will still call them people.

[GreenWave1]

I wil do that. I like how you said I need to take my life back, cuz I feel like I barely have it. I appreciate all the support.

You are doing great Fred. I will keep praying for you.

[Freddie Beef]

You are doing great Fred. I will keep praying for you.

Thank you brother, and thank you to all who have been so very supportive.

[michael009]

I've just been given a link to this thread. I'm looking for advice on how to cut down on the amout I drink, curently 1/2 bottle of vodka 5 or 6 night a week, not the most in the world but I feel its been getting too much. reading some of the post on here has helped so thank to you all for that.

[Baldiewonkanobi]

Michael. Welcome. My ancestry is British and I love watching your films. So often I see depictions of Scotts not having much hope in their daily lives or for their future. The directors often film in black and white to make the feeling even more dreary. Now that I am 28 years sober I can make the following evaluation of the situation there. With the rotten economy, unemployment, and rapidly changing British to Middle Eastern culture swing.... I would do EVERYTHING in my power to rise above the common bloke, clear headed, clear eyed, and moraly sound as the Scottish bed rock below my feet. Only sobriety can do that and you know this to your very core. That is the real reason you have joined us my brother. Spend those precious Pounds on a gym, protein suppliments and vitamins/minerals. Why process that crap thru your kidneys and piss those Pounds all over the countryside? You are NOT destined to become just another Scott lying in a piss pile behind the pub. We need you here sharing your gym triumphs and sobriety with us.

Baldie

[GreenWave1]

Hi Michael,
You are concerned and want to make a change. This is great. Now what can you do? Have you tried cutting back? Can you cut back? If not, you may want to consider quitting altogether. I tried managing my situation and would cut back or limit the days I used. All this did was have me holding on for dear life to get to the next time I could use. It is not a fun place to be.

Please let us know how you are doing and where you see yourself going. Where would you like to be?

Best to you.

[getnfit2007]

Welcome Michael,

Do you feel as though you are trying to control how much you drink? I know this may sound like a silly question, but really its not.

[bjc12]

welcome micheal! i don't know a thing about moderation, but would love to help you out on sobriety!

[dirkwright]

My Dad is an alcoholic and im afraid that I will be suceptable to it. I drink on occassion with my friends at partys, but I have no urge to drink or to cover up anything emotionally and I can stop myself at any point. Am I headed down the wrong path?

Well, I've read that the children of alcoholics are 9 times as likely to become alcoholic themselves. My Dad was alcoholic too. I've never had that problem, but I had plenty of codependency to deal with. If I was you, I'd focus on the emotional issues, particularly as they relate to codependency.

[plaskowski2002]

Well, I've read that the children of alcoholics are 9 times as likely to become alcoholic themselves. My Dad was alcoholic too. I've never had that problem, but I had plenty of codependency to deal with. If I was you, I'd focus on the emotional issues, particularly as they relate to codependency.

great post!