Another good quality of a wife...don't think I can read your mind!
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09-18-2008, 06:25 AM #66
Why do people always think its bad to have a stay at home mom? I mean what if that is what your wife wants to do? Is it wrong for her to want to devote her full attention to raising your children and taking care of the house?
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09-18-2008, 06:28 AM #68
I think it's a great thing, the children are happy and well taken care of also things are less stressful around the house because there is more time to take care of personal business.
If this is what a woman wants to do I think it's to be admired. Of course if they want a career that's great too. In today's economy it's a luxury for someone to be able to it though.
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09-18-2008, 06:30 AM #69The Beast Journey to Elite
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09-18-2008, 06:33 AM #70
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09-18-2008, 06:48 AM #71
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i love all of these responses, the south rocks, thank god im texan
one i haven't seen though, i really need someone that can say something funny or laugh when things get really tense. When the **** hits the fan, i always take a step back and say something funny or do something goofy, because that's just how i am. Too many girls i've been around get mad when i do this, like they want to PRESERVE their bad mood, so i need a girl that can understand that just because im trying to lighten to mood doesn't mean im mocking her...
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09-18-2008, 06:57 AM #72
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09-18-2008, 07:46 AM #73
i am not sure if this is in response to my post because I am the only one that has used the word "submissive" and would like to explain why I said that.
being submissive to someone isn't something from the old ages by any means, it's about giving one self to the other through love and devotion. both partners respect eachother not based on gender or because he is the man and I have to do what he says....NEVER gonna happen. i'll never just agree with him just because he is the man, i would expect a very deep conversation based on both opinions and valued equally as such but in the end if there is no compromise or final agreement, he makes the decision. being married isnt about roles or your the man and im the woman, it's about supporting, loving and taking care of the person which comes with trust and respect on both sides.It's funny, isn't it? How one moment can change a million after it.
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09-18-2008, 07:48 AM #74
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This is more in line with what I was trying to say. I don't find it necessary to give up my identity to make someone happy, nor would I want to be with someone who wanted me to be different than who I was before marriage. And I mean whatever that may be. Women can choose to do different things (stay at home vs. work, clean vs. hire a maid). As long as it is their choice and it makes them happy, that is what counts.
Just because you are married doesn't mean you need to have sex whenever the other person feels like it. As for withholding, depends on your definition of withholding. Are there times when I will not have sex? Yes. Is it withholding? No. It's when I am upset or angry with my spouse and I don't feel the emotional connection. I don't consider that withholding.
Agreed!
I don't think most people see it as bad. I think it is more of a reaction to the bad image women who work get. I have been told by many people that I am not doing the right thing by working and not staying home with my kids. Well, I don't want to. I would be absolutely miserable doing that. I enjoy my job and I do more for my kids than a lot of women I know who do stay at home. It wouldn't be fair to my kids to be unhappy around them all the time. People need to stop assuming that there is a one size fits all for wives and mothers.https://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=17995794
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09-18-2008, 07:49 AM #75
The people saying never withhold sex probably don't mean 2-3 times a day 30, 7 days a week.
They say that because some women will use sex no differently from a hooker. The 'husband' has to 'buy' his sex with things for the wife. Diamonds, jewelry, ect. (Basically becoming a b1tch so he can be 'rewarded with sex'.)
I can understand you want an independent woman, but do you want a woman who bangs you up the ass with a strapon? Or who only lets you have sex if you buy her something or something along those lines?
Also often partner A) will refuse sex for awhile, causing partner B) to get their sexual desires filled elsewhere. Honestly, if your wife makes you go months without sex or a BJ or anything, and one day you meet an amazing women who's single, up for sex anytime, and holds all the other qualities you hold dear, are you saying you aren't going to cheat/potentially leave your wife for her?
I don't think couples HAVE to have sex all the time, every day, but the ones that withhold sex from each other are more likely to eventually quit having sex, have relationship problems, and potentially end up splitting because they've found someone else who can satisfy them sexually. And people do need to have sex, its one of our basic instincts, the same as eating.
Its kind of arrogant to think your beliefs are whats right, and everyone else's are wrong.Last edited by guest89; 09-18-2008 at 07:51 AM.
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09-18-2008, 07:59 AM #76
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Personally, I think you have the bolded part backwards. IMO, if a couple isn't having sex, it's because there are problems in the relationship. The relationship doesn't start having problems because they stop having sex. Nor is the cheating the result of not having sex. It is the result of the lack of a solid relationship.
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09-18-2008, 08:32 AM #81
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I AGREE with everything you've said here. Excellent post! BTW, angry sex has been some of the BEST sex I've had EVER! I'm sure there's at least a few here that will agree on that one!
You have no idea how many married men come at me..sayin "donno what happened...we used to do it all the time...now all she does is b*tch and complain...and give me sex when SHE feels I'm good"! Sex IS part of your obligation in a marriage....if you don't GIVE IT UP...someone else WILL and you are so right...He/She WILL eventually get it somewhere else and you'll have yourself to blame for that. If your man aint doin right or pissing you off...try WITHHOLDING conversation...STFU a little more...and LISTEN...perhaps you'll get more out of him!
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09-18-2008, 08:37 AM #82
Ha ha.. I love that song.
Yes.. "withholding sex" is often a tactic to get what you want from someone, which is cruel, and it is understandable why someone would look elsewhere for their needs if that was the case... but "just not feeling like it".. like after you've worked all day and just want some sleep.. is absolutely justifiable!... just because you want sex constantly now doesn't mean you will for the rest of your life.. people's sexual appetites change as they move through different stages.
Of course, being a maid and a cook suits some women just fine, and that's their choice.. and some men love being used and led on by their woman.. its all a matter of personal taste and compatibility.You don't lose weight to get healthy. You get healthy to lose weight.
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09-18-2008, 08:48 AM #83
[QUOTE=bambifox;220787851]I love you....that is all.
Uhhhh...ya..I would! I like a man who "takes control"..sorry, its just my nature. TBH, I'm not married, but as a single woman, I'm truly tired of meeting men used to rigid woman who use sex like a carrot to a rabbit. You make vows to love, honor, trust and obey...well...does anyone actually listen to what they say at that alter? If your man likes a home cooked meal...a backrub, a good bl*wjob or other forms of sexual communication when he comes home from a hard days work...I don't see what's so "stereotypical" about giving it to him...it's not like your not having fun too...or is it? If his sex is good to you...I really can't comprehend "I don't FEEL like it" unless the sex is mediocre or lousy! That's like sayin..."I don't feel like having $100 million dollars"...wut???
I was saying that to a man. You obviously love, love, love sex all the time..and if you asked me in my early twenties I would have said the same thing.. but my body changed and 3 or 4 times a week is plenty for me now. I can't help it. If that's how you like to live, then fine.. but I come home from a hard day's work just as often as he does.. and I have to go to bed on time so I can do it again the next day... I am fulfilled sexually but I also need to be mentally and creatively.You don't lose weight to get healthy. You get healthy to lose weight.
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09-18-2008, 08:50 AM #84
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Nothing wrong with that at all. Did someone say their was? I may have missed that post. It is a joint decision a husband and wife need to make. My wife works part time (25 hours a week / 3 days a week / Mon, Tue, Wed). We wanted some extra income but at the same time, my wife can devote some extra time to our children.
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09-18-2008, 08:58 AM #86
My wife works part-time as a fitness instructor and also does some free lance painting as well. As such she has a very flexible schedule. I was just saying that some women are happy at home and it doesn't make them submissive or mean that they feel forced into that role. Some feminist think this is a weakness and its really just a choice.
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09-18-2008, 09:05 AM #87
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Quote me where I said anything LIKE this. I said people can live however they want. I said that I find some ways of doing that personally distasteful. I said that's not what I'd want in a wife.
Don't assume that because I disagree with you that I reject your right to lvie your life the way you want.
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09-18-2008, 09:11 AM #90
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You're right, some people do think that. Different things make different people happy. As long as you recognize what it is that makes you happy, that's all that counts. I was just illustrating that opposite standpoint as it is what I have experienced. There is a lot of judgement in the world. If everyone was alike, it would be boring.
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