Vick's Dating Log and Advice Thread v. 3.0 (that escalated quickly!)

[BlackScorpio91]

oh she has been PMing me here on the misc since 2012. i know who you're talking about. i have a few tattoos with plans for more. my tattoos are mostly dumb lmao. but yeah it all makes sense now.

Has she flirted with you in the past?

My tattoos are gonna have meaning to them. They ain't gonna be some fuking anime tattoo bullchit.

[xvicknumber7x]

Has she flirted with you in the past?

My tattoos are gonna have meaning to them. They ain't gonna be some fuking anime tattoo bullchit.

oh yes for sure, but I didn't take offense to it. i thought it was cute. it was nice to be acknowledged as someone worth flirting with way back then. i didnt take it too seriously.

i have a tattoo of a pokemon, a cancer ribbon, and the word "discipline" that covers my entire left forearm.

[Luc1fer]

OP it sounds like your ex gf grinded you down? You talk a lot about regaining confidence and how it's nice to get compliments again.

[xvicknumber7x]

OP it sounds like your ex gf grinded you down? You talk a lot about regaining confidence and how it's nice to get compliments again.

i just don't think i was getting what i need from the relationship, and i certainly think i put in much more effort than she did, which wore me out over time.

[skinnyfat88]

Hello, RH Misc. Some of you may remember me, and some of you may not. I've been on the RH for about 11 years on and off. I started as a bitter, FA high schooler and with the help of a lot of old school members of this sub forum, I really worked to become someone who wasn't just good with dating and women, but with most things social. This section really helped me become the person I am today; I have thousands of friends, am a budding professional in my field, and generally, things are pretty good. As of this writing, I am 10 days out of my longest and overall best relationship to date. At first, it hurt to lose that, since it wasn't my choice. However, over the past few days I have been thinking long and hard about what it is I want out of life, and I think I am willing to try again.

Care to share why she ended it?

I have a feeling my most recent relationship may be coming to an end soon, which would be the first relationship to end not on my terms. I have a kid and I think she is realizing taking the next step is a bit much for her.
Sucks but if that's the case I will try to have a similar mindset to you, although probably not date quite as much.

Glad to hear you seem to be back in the game and staying positive.

[xvicknumber7x]

Care to share why she ended it?

I have a feeling my most recent relationship may be coming to an end soon, which would be the first relationship to end not on my terms. I have a kid and I think she is realizing taking the next step is a bit much for her.
Sucks but if that's the case I will try to have a similar mindset to you, although probably not date quite as much.

Glad to hear you seem to be back in the game and staying positive.

i had never been broken up with before this. it was so abrupt, i cant imagine why it would just end out of nowhere one day. my guess is that she cheated or found someone new she is interested in. or maybe she just actually didn't love me anymore. i'll never know the answer. she literally just told me that she didnt love me anymore and that she wanted to take a break and i told her i don't do breaks and that was that.

[skinnyfat88]

i had never been broken up with before this. it was so abrupt, i cant imagine why it would just end out of nowhere one day. my guess is that she cheated or found someone new she is interested in. or maybe she just actually didn't love me anymore. i'll never know the answer. she literally just told me that she didnt love me anymore and that she wanted to take a break and i told her i don't do breaks and that was that.

Good on you for accepting it, being firm, and moving on.

Sometimes it's best not to know the reason and just accept there's nothing you can do to salvage it in a way that would result in a legitimately happy and long-lasting relationship.

[Luc1fer]

i had never been broken up with before this. it was so abrupt, i cant imagine why it would just end out of nowhere one day. my guess is that she cheated or found someone new she is interested in. or maybe she just actually didn't love me anymore. i'll never know the answer. she literally just told me that she didnt love me anymore and that she wanted to take a break and i told her i don't do breaks and that was that.

Hmmm there's something to learn from the fact it was so abrupt from your perspective. No way it was abrupt from hers.

Either she was hiding and masking her intent/feelings, or you missed signs.

[BlackScorpio91]

i had never been broken up with before this. it was so abrupt, i cant imagine why it would just end out of nowhere one day. my guess is that she cheated or found someone new she is interested in. or maybe she just actually didn't love me anymore. i'll never know the answer. she literally just told me that she didnt love me anymore and that she wanted to take a break and i told her i don't do breaks and that was that.

I like the bolded. Gentlemen take notes.

Only retards will accept a "take a break" proposition from a woman.

[BigBallsMcgee]

Hmmm there's something to learn from the fact it was so abrupt from your perspective. No way it was abrupt from hers.

Either she was hiding and masking her intent/feelings, or you missed signs.

Women do that all the time, theres not always a way to know.

[sloppyjoe1]

Like that you have multiple options going on, that's how ya do it.

[xvicknumber7x]

Good on you for accepting it, being firm, and moving on.

Sometimes it's best not to know the reason and just accept there's nothing you can do to salvage it in a way that would result in a legitimately happy and long-lasting relationship.

yeah man, nothing I can do. i'm confident in my future, but the ego blow was admittedly hard to deal with.

Hmmm there's something to learn from the fact it was so abrupt from your perspective. No way it was abrupt from hers.

Either she was hiding and masking her intent/feelings, or you missed signs.

maybe, don't care anymore though tbh. if ya ask me, i was a great bf. maybe she outgrew me. who knows. i never saw anything that really made me wonder if this was going to last, for what it's worth. and i paid close attention.

I like the bolded. Gentlemen take notes.

Only retards will accept a "take a break" proposition from a woman.

yeah no. you should be wild for me at all times. if ya aint, then it's probably gunna die eventually.

Women do that all the time, theres not always a way to know.

yeah I had no idea, just happened and I moved along.

Like that you have multiple options going on, that's how ya do it.

for sure dude, I have no reason not to. its fun talking to multiple girls and I am not looking to jump into a relationship at all.

[Luc1fer]

Women do that all the time, theres not always a way to know.

Well, if that happens you never actually knew her at all and how she was an actual sociopath. It seems more plausible that you either had a shallow, closed relationship, or were blind to signs.

[xvicknumber7x]

Well, if that happens you never actually knew her at all and how she was an actual sociopath. It seems more plausible that you either had a shallow, closed relationship, or were blind to signs.

i don't think it's that convoluted. i just think she's trying to do something different with her life. in any case, i think there are some things you just can't predict. maybe its a crisis. maybe its the depression. could be anything. not worth the energy.

[Luc1fer]

i don't think it's that convoluted. i just think she's trying to do something different with her life. in any case, i think there are some things you just can't predict. maybe its a crisis. maybe its the depression. could be anything. not worth the energy.

I just don't think these things happen overnight.

[xvicknumber7x]

I just don't think these things happen overnight.

then she did a great job of hiding it.

personally, i think she cheated and was guilty.

[BigBallsMcgee]

Well, if that happens you never actually knew her at all and how she was an actual sociopath. It seems more plausible that you either had a shallow, closed relationship, or were blind to signs.

Nah, you can do everything right and everything seems normal and get dumped. it happens all the time, because women dont always voice concerns until they want to move on.

[Rebel012]

Nah, you can do everything right and everything seems normal and get dumped. it happens all the time, because women dont always voice concerns until they want to move on.

What you described does not happen "all the time." Again, not sure how someone with virtually no real experience with women can come to these conclusions. It does sometimes happen, but if you look back with a magnifier you can almost always find clues and signs, even if you didn't pay much attention to them initially.

[Luc1fer]

What you described does not happen "all the time." Again, not sure how someone with virtually no real experience with women can come to these conclusions. It does sometimes happen, but if you look back with a magnifier you can almost always find clues and signs, even of you didn't pay much attention to them initially.

Or you didn't have an genuinely close relationship. Many relationships, even long term, are superficial.

[BigBallsMcgee]

Again, not sure how someone with virtually no real experience with women can come to these conclusions. I

its almost as if I have friends and family and coworkers and teammates and other examples in my life where the same s*it happens pretty frequently from what I can tell.

[Rebel012]

its almost as if I have friends and family and coworkers and teammates and other examples in my life where the same s*it happens pretty frequently from what I can tell.

Since those weren't your relationships, you have no way of knowing for sure whether the signs were there. You know what the person tells you, but they often need time to process it before realizing that there were issues. For sure, sometimes it might just come without any kind of warning, but that is actually rarer. I'm not talking about a few weeks of dating either.

[BigBallsMcgee]

Since those weren't your relationships, you have no way of knowing for sure whether the signs were there. You know what the person tells you, but they often need time to process it before realizing that the signs were there. For sure, sometimes it might just come without any kind of warning, but that is actually rarer. I'm not talking about a few weeks of dating either.

I can't know, but they obviously do and they're saying they weren't there. these people arent stupid, if there were signs of that they would know.

Women do this all the time, they keep things hidden and then all of a sudden move on in a flash but thats because they had their mind made up after thinking about it already.

[BlackScorpio91]

BigBallsMcgee giving relationship advice is like an obese personal trainer giving fitness and health advice.

Or a surgeon with a nervous twitch performing surgery.

[Rebel012]

BigBallsMcgee giving relationship advice is like an obese personal trainer giving fitness and health advice.

Or a surgeon with a nervous twitch performing surgery.

Lol.

[BigBallsMcgee]

Lol.

I wasnt giving advice you retard. I was just stating what I've observed happen to people like Vick as very common

[Rebel012]

I wasnt giving advice you retard. I was just stating what I've observed happen to people like Vick as very common

Where did I specifically say you were giving advice? I just thought the analogy of an obese personal trainer was funny.

Edit: And true.

[Luc1fer]

I wasnt giving advice you retard. I was just stating what I've observed happen to people like Vick as very common

Actually you were arguing against my position.

Here’s some advice. Don’t believe what people who break up tell you unless you’re close friends and have intimate knowledge of the circumstances. It’s shocking how poor and superficial a lot of relationships are.

[BigBallsMcgee]

Where did I specifically say you were given advice? I just thought the analogy to an obese personal trainer was funny.

Edit: And true.

that was targeted at blackscorpio's ******* a##

[BigBallsMcgee]

Actually you were arguing against my position.

Here’s some advice. Don’t believe what people who break up tell you unless you’re close friends and have intimate knowledge of the circumstances. It’s shocking how poor and superficial a lot of relationships are.

well you're online talking to random people on the internet on a dating forum. Whats the point of doing that if you refuse to believe anyone

[xvicknumber7x]

havent caught up on replies yet but everyone chill the fuuck out. bbm is a personal friend of mine and even if you agree or disagree with whatever is said in the thread, lets be misc brahs and not hate brahs. this is a brotherhood boyos. i love the involvement in the thread but i want everyone working together here.