[SRS] Depression Discussion and Support Thread Part II

[DassItMan]

Man it's really hard to be an active member of society or feel like you belong if you have right leaning views. Shyts actually kinda depressing cause of the hopelessness. I try to avoid ******** and what not but these kunts invade everything. Can't even support a sports team without these kunts shoving their bullshyt down your throat. At times I wish I never took the red pills in life. The hopelessness that ensues with it kinda sucks

[whiteIveySon]

Hey guys hope everyone is doing well or at least trying..

Thought I leave some tips that are helping me overcome depression and anxiety...

-try to get one person that is just plain positive, a family member or friend if not find someone online.

-I think smashiin said to start smoking weed, for me it was to stop smoking, smoked since I was 16 everyday. I hate it now, thank god.

-get out of your heads, stop thinking so much, it's literally just killing you thinking of all this bullish. It's not real.

Well...Im really bad at writing and explaining myself, feel like a third grader sometimes, anyways just thought some of this stuff can help someone out there.

Oh btw, I start a job tomorrow after being jobless and not being able to work for so long..hopefully I keep this one, nokeep this one...wish me luck!

[Catsanddogs14]

I cant deal with the way I look. I just want to be good looking. I cant deal with loosing weight and I fantasize about dying every day. If jaw surgery + loosing weight doest work I might just end it all.

[BigTimePlayer]

I cant deal with the way I look. I just want to be good looking. I cant deal with loosing weight and I fantasize about dying every day. If jaw surgery + loosing weight doest work I might just end it all.

I have some insecurities I need to work on myself in terms of my height. I'm going to try really hard not to let it get to me anymore. You need to try too as well since we have to find a way to accept who we are.

[eod8989]

I just don't know what happened to me. I quit drinking and smoking and I was fine. But then this crazy depression and pain took over. I know where the depression is coming from but I'm not even remotely the same person. I'm tired and sick of life. Nothing is fun anymore.

[benrhyno1989]

I cant deal with the way I look. I just want to be good looking. I cant deal with loosing weight and I fantasize about dying every day. If jaw surgery + loosing weight doest work I might just end it all.

why not just try losing the weight first and seeing how your jaw looks before committing to surgery? There's hundreds of people lost huge amounts of weight on these forums, you're in the right place

[jamesbwbevis]

been watching a lot of stuff online, about basically the need to cope with the fact that your life isnt what you want it to be in order to be happy. I just don't think I can do that, I keep coming back to the question of what's the point of living if you have to accept a life you dont really want just because reality is you can't have what you actually want. Suicide seems like the rational choice for me, I'm uninterested in what my life has to offer, but I can't do it while my parents alive. After that, unless things change drastically that will probably be my decision.

For now, just going to focus on the handful of things I enjoy as much as possible.

[benrhyno1989]

been watching a lot of stuff online, about basically the need to cope with the fact that your life isnt what you want it to be in order to be happy. I just don't think I can do that, I keep coming back to the question of what's the point of living if you have to accept a life you dont really want just because reality is you can't have what you actually want. Suicide seems like the rational choice for me, I'm uninterested in what my life has to offer, but I can't do it while my parents alive. After that, unless things change drastically that will probably be my decision.

For now, just going to focus on the handful of things I enjoy as much as possible.

I'm sure you've heard this before as we all probably have, but suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
I'm sure there are a lot of things you haven't experienced in life yet, which could give you a great deal of happiness. You're 26. What help have you had to deal with your thoughts and condition? Therapy? Medication? Are you training and exercising? do you work? Have friends? Socialise?

[jamesbwbevis]

I'm sure you've heard this before as we all probably have, but suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
I'm sure there are a lot of things you haven't experienced in life yet, which could give you a great deal of happiness. You're 26. What help have you had to deal with your thoughts and condition? Therapy? Medication? Are you training and exercising? do you work? Have friends? Socialise?

Definitely heard that saying and it's true. It's a terrible option for someone that's just depressed or going through a rough time. I've been thinking a bunch lately though and my issues are much more fundamental. I really don't like myself and and I'm not capable of actually having the life I'd want to live.

I've never done anything, no therapy or medicine, I've thought about it but I'm not sure if I really have a medical issue. I think there's just this massive gap between the life I want and what I have to settle for.

I work but I hate my job and I'm not smart enough to have the career I wanted to put it frankly. I have friends for sure and I socialise but I'm finding that it doesn't balance out. I'm still mostly miserable or "meh" at best most of the time.

[benrhyno1989]

Definitely heard that saying and it's true. It's a terrible option for someone that's just depressed or going through a rough time. I've been thinking a bunch lately though and my issues are much more fundamental. I really don't like myself and and I'm not capable of actually having the life I'd want to live.

I've never done anything, no therapy or medicine, I've thought about it but I'm not sure if I really have a medical issue. I think there's just this massive gap between the life I want and what I have to settle for.

I work but I hate my job and I'm not smart enough to have the career I wanted to put it frankly. I have friends for sure and I socialise but I'm finding that it doesn't balance out. I'm still mostly miserable or "meh" at best most of the time.

Well I'm kinda glad you said that because at least you know there's a whole world of therapy & medicinal "treatments" that you can look into and at least give them a go before even considering something with such finality. Even if treatments take a year or two, and have a small % chance of helping you, it's worth risking it for even a 1% chance, as you don't get another chance if you kill yourself (save some reincarnation beliefs that are much less likely than the chances of therapy and medication working). Hell, I even tried to kill myself as recently as the 2nd January - I'm so glad it didn't work out that way.

have you tried mindfulness and meditation? Do you have any hobbies you really love? Join a sports team and expand your social circle?
If you want to get smarter and get a more stimulating career, put the time in and improve yourself. The effort you put in might even distract you from how miserable you feel and the net result is positive, regardless of the outcome.

[jamesbwbevis]

Well I'm kinda glad you said that because at least you know there's a whole world of therapy & medicinal "treatments" that you can look into and at least give them a go before even considering something with such finality. Even if treatments take a year or two, and have a small % chance of helping you, it's worth risking it for even a 1% chance, as you don't get another chance if you kill yourself (save some reincarnation beliefs that are much less likely than the chances of therapy and medication working). Hell, I even tried to kill myself as recently as the 2nd January - I'm so glad it didn't work out that way.

have you tried mindfulness and meditation? Do you have any hobbies you really love? Join a sports team and expand your social circle?
If you want to get smarter and get a more stimulating career, put the time in and improve yourself. The effort you put in might even distract you from how miserable you feel and the net result is positive, regardless of the outcome.

Wow, I'll probably PM you on your experience. Scary as hell to think you tried but and regret it.


I haven't tried meditation or mindfulness formally, but I have done some things like that and they worked for awhile, but now I feel like it's just a form of delusion if that makes sense. I definitely have hobbies I enjoy, and I've specifically thought about those things as a reason that my life is worth living. Not sure if it is, but I've thought about it for sure.

The job thing is a rough one, I've failed so many times to get what I want in terms of jobs/career(and other things as well), that I've lost hope. I don't think I can get the things I want no matter what I do, so it's really demotivating and part of the reason I've gone down this road. But it seems true, I can't pretend like it isn't. Most people don't get what they want in life, but they find ways to accept it it's getting harder and harder for me

[DassItMan]

I cant deal with the way I look. I just want to be good looking. I cant deal with loosing weight and I fantasize about dying every day. If jaw surgery + loosing weight doest work I might just end it all.

slow down there. First lose weight and then see if you have a nice jaw or not. You may surprise yourself. If you're still unhappy with your jaw shoot me a message and I can help you out.

There's a member who's name is "deadhead6391", google "deadhead6391 transformation" if you need inspriation on how getting lean can change your face.

[BigTimePlayer]

Anyone else feel that health issues have ruined their life? I can't remember the last time I felt completely normal. I just don't see a way out of this. I've been robbed of living a normal life. What's the point if everyday will be the same thing where I'll never be able to do or get the things I want?

[eod8989]

Anyone else feel that health issues have ruined their life? I can't remember the last time I felt completely normal. I just don't see a way out of this. I've been robbed of living a normal life. What's the point if everyday will be the same thing where I'll never be able to do or get the things I want?

Yeah my neck is fuked up and I am slightly dizzy and disoriented most of the time. That's one of the reasons I don't talk to people. It's just stupid my whole life has just been a struggle in one way or another

[2RDEYE]

Anyone else feel that health issues have ruined their life? I can't remember the last time I felt completely normal. I just don't see a way out of this. I've been robbed of living a normal life. What's the point if everyday will be the same thing where I'll never be able to do or get the things I want?

sort of. i've had eczema since birth. so when i work up a sweat or i'm just sitting there i'm always itching somewhere, mostly my head. it's not that bad though. it's just i wonder what it's like to not be itchy at times. not a bad health issue compared to others however. like if i'm talking to someone i suddenly just start scratching my neck or my head. and like right now i can't stop scratching my groin area and my forehead.

[MrDevereaux]

I honestly don't give a single fukk anymore. Ready to embrace the void.

[fretslayer]

I just don't know what happened to me. I quit drinking and smoking and I was fine. But then this crazy depression and pain took over. I know where the depression is coming from but I'm not even remotely the same person. I'm tired and sick of life. Nothing is fun anymore.

I'm gonna guess the booze and smoking were a big band aid over the depression underlying. You took off the bandage and now the Depression is free to breath, hence how you feel. When hit the point of getting no pleasure out of anything, that's a sure sign of being in over your head with depression. Been there, meds and therapy helped me out of it in the past.

Still struggling with it of course, but my point being is that there is hope.

[Smashiin]

Smoke weed erryday. Seriously, smoking some green can help you with your depression and make you feel better. It's a plant from the earth, not some man made synthetic chemical. Doesn't hurt to try.

[BigTimePlayer]

Man something has to change. How am I ever supposed to live a normal life like this? This is just ridiculous now. My life is just passing me by with no changes. All my health issues just stay with me no matter what I do so how am I supposed to get better? I don't want to have to force myself to do things my entire life, I want to be able to actually enjoy it.

[benrhyno1989]

Man something has to change. How am I ever supposed to live a normal life like this? This is just ridiculous now. My life is just passing me by with no changes. All my health issues just stay with me no matter what I do so how am I supposed to get better? I don't want to have to force myself to do things my entire life, I want to be able to actually enjoy it.

sorry if you answered but what are your health issues?

[BigTimePlayer]

sorry if you answered but what are your health issues?

Some fukked up jaw/ear issue where I get bad burning in my head & ears. A nerve is definitely being affected somewhere but every single doctor I've gone to hasn't been able to help. It's like my mind can't even process thoughts like it used to. I just have a blank state in my mind as well as not even being able to feel anxiety like i used to like my nervous system is fuked up. I seriously thought I had brain damage so I had a brain mri done last year but it came back normal. So since then I've been completely clueless as in what to do anymore. I've been to different primary doctors, dentists, oral surgeons, neurologists, an allergist. No one has helped me. I've seriously had it up to here with this bull**** man. Everyday that goes by just feels like another wasted day. I hate the fact that I'll have to force myself to do **** possibly for the rest of my life without feeling well. I just want to feel normal already. I'm beyond sick & tired of dealing with this stuff & no one ever can do anything for me.

[Vishca]

For anyone suffering serious depression, i highly recommend this 4 minute video.

This video will help you out, if you have half a brain are open minded, you'll receive all the tools needed to go grow.

[eod8989]

I'm gonna guess the booze and smoking were a big band aid over the depression underlying. You took off the bandage and now the Depression is free to breath, hence how you feel. When hit the point of getting no pleasure out of anything, that's a sure sign of being in over your head with depression. Been there, meds and therapy helped me out of it in the past.

Still struggling with it of course, but my point being is that there is hope.

Yeah man I didn't notice any devastating after effects when I quit drinking other than I just felt ****ty for 3 months but when I quit smoking I literally changed as a person. I became very anti social the week I quit. And now I don't talk to anyone.

I have other problems causing my depression but I have become a hermit since I quit tobacco. Smoking made me able to be in the moment and enjoy it and talk to everyone but now I just feel dead

[Beauuu]

dropping out of school for the 2nd time this year

[SteadyWayfarer]

Man something has to change. How am I ever supposed to live a normal life like this? This is just ridiculous now. My life is just passing me by with no changes. All my health issues just stay with me no matter what I do so how am I supposed to get better? I don't want to have to force myself to do things my entire life, I want to be able to actually enjoy it.

I feel the exact same way. I've given myself years to see if my health/pain would improve, but I'm in the exact same spot. I just don't have any hope that this will improve anymore. I feel like my best days are behind me. No matter how much I try to improve my situation/health/pain, it's out of my control.

[Smashiin]

dropping out of school for the 2nd time this year

Damn that sucks. Go to therapy and get on meds for a while until you improve and start to feel better about yourself. Then go back to school. If you don't have a degree in something then you won't get far in your field of work.

[Beauuu]

Damn that sucks. Go to therapy and get on meds for a while until you improve and start to feel better about yourself. Then go back to school. If you don't have a degree in something then you won't get far in your field of work.

tried that fall semester


clearly didn't work

[Smashiin]

tried that fall semester


clearly didn't work

Well I don't know what else I could suggest to you. Sounds like you have no faith in yourself or belief in yourself. You must teach yourself to believe. No one else can do it for you.

[eod8989]

I feel the exact same way. I've given myself years to see if my health/pain would improve, but I'm in the exact same spot. I just don't have any hope that this will improve anymore. I feel like my best days are behind me. No matter how much I try to improve my situation/health/pain, it's out of my control.

Same here all the alcohol and Miles on my body caught up to me. And the wreck I was in destroyed my neck. I feel like an old man at 28. It's awful

[BigTimePlayer]

Think I might have to quit my job soon. Feel like I'm getting worse these days. I'm starting to get the bad pure o ocd intrusive thoughts again. I don't know what I'm going to do at this rate. My mental health is so bad.