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08-30-2017, 04:44 AM #241
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08-30-2017, 05:48 AM #242
I am not too impressed when I go on a date and she is flaunting her jugs at me, just screams sl00t and lack of respect for her body IMO. However, when she's got it going on and covers up, I like that, especially on first dates. My position on this does change though once we start dating and say go out for dinner. Yeah, then I want her to look shexy. A truly classy woman will look hnnnnnng without wearing overly revealing clothes. Maybe I'm just weird? My experience has shown that if a good portion of her clothes are revealing, she is a sl00t/attention seeker.
To add to the discussion of keeping her chasing you, I have been known to do the following:
-always end on a high/good note when you talk/text so it allows you to pick up right where you left off and it allows her to correlate that fun experience with you and keeps her wanting to repeat it. You bet she will be thinking about it! Try to end off with some kind of banter.
-do things to keep her thinking about you; tell her you have a surprise for her, delay texts when she is waiting for you to reply to something (especially plans to meet), when appropriate/deserved buy her a small gesture which reminds her of you ie a plant. Many times I've heard "I don't know what it is but I just can't stop thinking about you"
-having meaningful/fun discussion which includes alot of banter which keeps her wanting to talk to you, especially through text. Envision yourself as a mild clown providing entertainment. Many guys don't do this so you stand out and are not boring. Leave the more boring convo for in person. With texts you have time to think it through, so make it count!
-at the start, leave when things are at their peak to keep her wanting more. It takes alot of self control to get up and leave during a heated make out session or a date where you are having a blast. However, such patience pays off bruhs and BIG TIME . Then they sit there and question themselves and strive to know how you feel about them and work harder to please since they suspect you might be on the fence about them. Rest assured, they have NEVER experienced this before so it totally throws them off. Its almost mean muahahaha.
pondus: first off, welcome back and behave will ya lol. I sense that at times you leave big gaps of time between contact with some women (1 week +) which makes them think you ain't interested. I like to be in touch every 2, max 3 days. If she is not texting everyday, it often means you just have more work to do. I have heard women say that they are interested in a guy but he doesn't text so they perceive it as lack of interest/she is option B (and it usually is the case). Not sure if you've just done this to women who you had limited interest in? Your style is similar to mine with the whole banter thing, I'm rather surprised you ain't getting chased more often than not.
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08-30-2017, 07:36 AM #243
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I'm the complete opposite. They are more interested when they meet me. The problem with online dating that I see is that the woman (probably about 70% of the time) just stops messaging back. This is perplexing, because nothing bad was said. It could be a great conversation, and all the sudden they disappear when all signs point to them being interested and engaged in it.
"Is that really a fukin question? Do you need two hands to count your IQ, or is one enough." - residesinAZ
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08-30-2017, 07:43 AM #244
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08-30-2017, 09:36 AM #246
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08-30-2017, 08:09 PM #247
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08-31-2017, 11:42 AM #248
Think about what is difference is your behavior/approach over text and in person.
Looking back, things for me started changing when I realized I was open to a LTR. I think that I stopped being so playful in person and this might be what my problem currently is.
I think it's important that even if you want something serious, don't be serious aka boring. It's all about the emotional response so bland getting to know you conversation is an attraction killer. Obviously the point is to get to know each other, but it needs to come out in ways other than just asking and answering questions.Last edited by pondus_levo; 08-31-2017 at 11:47 AM.
Forever alone? Attraction and keeping the girl chasing you - http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=131498033
You will never know your limits, unless you push yourself past the imaginary lines you have drawn in the sand.
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09-02-2017, 07:15 AM #249
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09-02-2017, 01:43 PM #253
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09-02-2017, 02:45 PM #254
https://forum.bodybuilding.com/showt...4549611&page=7 post 198
but it seems you were one of the first responders anyway. Im going to school 3 hours away in 1 direction, while shes going an hour away in a different direction.Keep mod discussions out of your sig line
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09-02-2017, 03:19 PM #255
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09-02-2017, 05:48 PM #259
Figuring out the logistics of how you are going to communicate and continue seeing eachother while the two of you are away at school is not a commitment talk. It something you SHOULD talk about.
"So once we start school, how often do you want to chat/call/facetime and make time to see each other?"
But yes, she will probably turn it into a commitment talk, which is fine. It's okay to tell her you are still interested in dating her even though it's going to be long distance.Forever alone? Attraction and keeping the girl chasing you - http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=131498033
You will never know your limits, unless you push yourself past the imaginary lines you have drawn in the sand.
Knee Dragger - '06 GSX-R750
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09-02-2017, 07:21 PM #260
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09-03-2017, 06:42 AM #262
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So I moved back to university yesterday without making any progress with Y or R. Y is a masters student in my home city and was not really giving me any indication it was going to go any further from the replies I was getting. I did not get time to message R before I saw her Snapchat story the next morning which showed her travelling to another city a few hours away. So that option is probably gone now, although maybe for the best as she seemed to give off an attention seeker's vibe from when we met.
I have been walking to J more often recently, with her often initiating the conversation more often than not. Got talking about when she was going to visit me and she asked "Am I only coming for the day?". I replied asking if she wanted to start for longer and her reply was along the lines of "I would do, but my bf would get mad at me". (Yeah, too right!). Answered with "Wouldn't he be mad for you visiting for the day then?" and she replied about "He doesn't control my life".
So there's some red flags here. Rest of the convo was her saying about how badly her bf treats her and how he's really controlling. (Apparently he deleted one of her college friends from her ******** because they talked too much lol). I said that I didn't want to be a home wrecker but she needed to resolve her relationship problems. Anyways, she is going on holiday to America this week so any visit wont be happening until end of September. Hope I've played this situation he best I can.
Also had some good small talk with my neighbours in the accommodation complex yesterday as I moved in. I'll probably go introduce myself to them properly today, although I probably should have done so yesterday. (It's been a busy few days so I'm running on fumes right now).
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09-03-2017, 08:48 PM #263
well i think we had this talk
i asked her if she wanted to hangout one last time cause you know summer was ending and stuff and she hit me back with a thats pretty depressing to think about, and that i was "breaking her heart"
so i told her well if its not gonna be the last time you know youll have to still hit me up once schools back and of course she gave me a " we'll see " but im assuming the winkey face is a good sign and she just didnt wanna come right out and say ok (were both weird like that)Keep mod discussions out of your sig line
Misc 2018 and 2019 NFL Pick Em Champion- Better luck next year fellas
Resident miscer for the Super Bowl 57 CHAMPION LA Rams.
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09-05-2017, 05:23 AM #264
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09-05-2017, 07:35 AM #268
So this weekend I caved in and downloaded 2 dating apps. Lots of interesting things to say, but I'll keep it short.
A lot of men have kids especially in their profile picture, sorry not into that. I swiped left on a guy I work with that is definitely married and has 2 daughters. He also lied about his age, strong WTF. I by passed a few good looking dudes because they are way too good looking for me. 1 match wanted my number after the 1st message, way too aggressive for me.
There is 1 guy I may have a chance with. Nerdy half-Asian computer programmer that seems interested. I can tell he is pretty shy, because it took him 2 days to give me his number. I'm giving him a chance, because he's at my pace level.
The other guy that matched with was really intrigued that I mentioned a book I liked and music that I listen too. He said he doesn't meet a lot of Libertarian rock music loving people. He wanted to meet right then, but I told him that's too fast for me. We may meet this weekend? I hope he doesn't lose interest cause he seems pretty cool.
I will gave the apps 2 more weeks and if I don't have any success, I will delete them.
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09-05-2017, 08:33 AM #269
Things are looking up, good to see. Got a good feeling you are better looking than you make yourself out to be and the recent online interest has confirmed this. Lettuce be cereal, you wouldn't be getting interest from anybody if you were "not so good looking".
Exposed the guy at work hard, can't believe he takes that chance. What if his wife's friends see him? 20% of his pay or else, nomsayin?
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09-05-2017, 08:50 AM #270
We work in different departments. I keep my head down and do work. Maybe crack a joke here and there. I don't get involved in petty stuff here, I'm trying to move up.
Like I said before, if I was hot I would've had a boyfriend by now. Also the guys that I matched with could be looking for a quick lay soooooo.
I really hope this works, I haven't had a bang/sorta BF in more than 2 years.
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