***Official NoFap & NoPorn thread V5.5 (V6 UNDER CONSTRUCTION)***

[CXVII]

Day 1 again. First week is always the hardest. :/

[Thelostbrah64]

Joining the thread or wanting to be put on the list? Or both

The list please.

[CSOleson]

For sure today is day 16. I made sure of it by remembering that last blasted time I messed up. Mtnbike, that was a great post. It is something that I wish motivated me more at times. We spend so much of our time simply looking at what we could have in 5 minutes versus what we could have in 5 years. What a shallow way to live if we live in the moment, no?

[JeromeWeinberg]

For sure today is day 16. I made sure of it by remembering that last blasted time I messed up. Mtnbike, that was a great post. It is something that I wish motivated me more at times. We spend so much of our time simply looking at what we could have in 5 minutes versus what we could have in 5 years. What a shallow way to live if we live in the moment, no?

I think living in the moment has massive value at times, and often we actually can't help but worry/think ahead while in reality we should be enjoying the pleasure of what's at hand (spending time with family/friends, reading to relax after a long day at work, meditating, working out, etc). However, it's true that we definitely do sometimes indulge in instant gratification at the expense of our future. Masturbating is one instance of this.

[gloria7]

The most noticeable change I've noticed is that I can maintain eye contact. Seriously in my 22 years I never managed to look people in the eyes while talking/listening to them, I used to nervously look around. Felt awful 'cause I was giving the impression of being bored/rude/not giving a f* about that person etc. whereas most of the time it was the exact opposite.
I don't know what day I'm on but I won't bother with counting since I've quitted for good

[MickyBoii]

Good stuff man. Keep it up. Just finished day 21.

Good stuff u2 bro ... you got this sh/t ... 3 weeks in ...easier to shoot for glory now than give into the poison.
You just got one hell of an answer below.

Do you seriously need to be reminded? We are doing this because it stops us in almost all areas of our life from reaching our full potential. That dopamine hit takes dopamine away from the things that really make us happy so rather than ever achieving happiness we simply achieve a dopamine surge. It's sucking the very life source from deep within. It shuts out all our creative energy, it sucks out our ability to love others and to love ourselves. Instead of being a living loving human being we become this machine whose only purpose is living for the next hit.

Tax do it for your future, do it for your future spouse do you realize that who you marry will be determined by this addiction. The kind of women you really want wont even be attracted to you because she will sense your beta *******ry. On the other hand the real Tax843 with have no problem attracting an awesome and wonderful person to share your life.

Do it for your future son, your future daughter they are there just waiting to be born, what type of father do you want to be, what kind of home do you want them to grow-up in? Do you realize your ability to be a loving father your ability to give to them will in great degree be determined by the control you gain over this part of your life.

Tax I'm the last person to be lecturing you, I'm speaking as much to myself as I am to you. Do what ever you must to gain control of this, get whatever help you need but do not stop trying. As hard as this is you are only 18 the paths in your brain are still pliable and can easily rebuild any damage. Is that enough reason to keep trying?

One hell of an answer!! ^^^
Enjoyed the motivational vid man. Saved to laptop for future viewing... The start is one my fave scenes in a film of all time. They are Smiths actual words I believe.

Day 50.
Got a tinder match tonight from a girl that I had a big crush on in high school. Now lives a 5 minute walk from my new place, and she gave me her number and wants to hang out with me and my roommate. Every single thing has been going well lately.

Gd job Yash man.... funny how you put the work in and things go well !

[MickyBoii]

The list please.

mntbikedude 9/4/13
MickyBoii
motorvation
Barteh
Tax843
JeromeWeinberg
benmcmc1
Adrogeus
JoshisFresh
Skeeeeet
Steadywayfarer
Nowitsmyturn
Thunderquip
Torien89
spartan5364
TXOC
JonnyStead
gloria7
Silkysmoothe
nick_990
Feverdr
Achieving
Huskertwood
Pioteq
bpaura
Iceman321 9/11/13
Trekhan
Ice32
blunose
Sundawgm

You may also join the chains.cc group by following this link https://chains.cc/groups/H4t7cegq1C3Epzp

EDIT: Anyone is free to join. However, understand that this is most likely not for you if you are just now discovering no fap/no porn, as this is a very serious commitment which many experienced "no fappers" have struggled with themselves. It does not mean you cannot add yourself to the list; but, understand that you will be held responsible to remove yourself from the list and update it ITT if you do fail at any point from now and the new year. We encourage only the most serious of serious join. This group is NOT for anyone with halfhearted intentions. With that being said, good luck & happy no fapping.

[ziggaman91]

fuk was on day 7.

Day 1.

This **** is the single greatest thing in being an alpha male only when done with no pr0n.

[Malfurion]

Day 46

[Malfurion]

The most noticeable change I've noticed is that I can maintain eye contact. Seriously in my 22 years I never managed to look people in the eyes while talking/listening to them, I used to nervously look around. Felt awful 'cause I was giving the impression of being bored/rude/not giving a f* about that person etc. whereas most of the time it was the exact opposite.
I don't know what day I'm on but I won't bother with counting since I've quitted for good

Exact same thing happened to me, I literally never used to be able to hold eye contact, especially not with a girl. It was the first significant change that I noticed.

[mntbikedude]

I believe this is the current, up to date list of the Cheeky Kunt No Fap Crew. For those of you unaware of what the CKNFC is about, we are a group of no fappers attempting to abstain from masturbation/porn until (at the very least) the new year. Anyone is free to join.

mntbikedude 9/4/13
MickyBoii
motorvation
Barteh
Tax843
JeromeWeinberg
benmcmc1
Adrogeus
JoshisFresh
Skeeeeet
Steadywayfarer
Nowitsmyturn
Thunderquip
Torien89
spartan5364
TXOC
JonnyStead
gloria7
Silkysmoothe
nick_990
Feverdr
Achieving
Huskertwood
Pioteq
bpaura
Iceman321 9/11/13
Trekhan
Ice32
blunose
Sundawgm
Thelostbrah64

You may also join the chains.cc group by following this link https://chains.cc/groups/H4t7cegq1C3Epzp

EDIT: Anyone is free to join. However, understand that this is most likely not for you if you are just now discovering no fap/no porn, as this is a very serious commitment which many experienced "no fappers" have struggled with themselves. It does not mean you cannot add yourself to the list; but, understand that you will be held responsible to remove yourself from the list and update it ITT if you do fail at any point from now and the new year. We encourage only the most serious of serious join. This group is NOT for anyone with halfhearted intentions. With that being said, good luck & happy no fapping.

[Dude069]

**** guys. I went over a month without fapping or watching any porn. I even got a girlfriend during that time! However, like a week ago, my girlfriend left for 2 weeks, job reasons, and I felt like I needed a release. So I watched some porn and fapped. Gotta be honest with you. It felt great. During AND after the fap. I felt euphoric as phuck. I was like "this no fap thing is a joke". So a few days later I watched porn again. Tbh I didn't even need to fap, my tolerance was so low I just came without even touching my dick. Again felt really euphoric and happy after the orgasm. Then the gaps between my porn viewing shortened 2 days turned to one day and yesterday when I fapped again, I already felt a small amount of sadness after I finished. Today it was even worse and I have to admit I am addicted again... It is so hard to turn away once you've started again and I already feel my mind clouding. What I am afraid of the most is if I am even able to perform properly after my GF comes back in a few days because of porn. Hopefully everything will be ok. Day 1 starts tomorrow, so day 0 right now. Will post tomorrow to update on progress. First week or 2 are seriously the hardest.

Would it be a good idea to tell my GF about my addiction?

E: put me in the list. I wanna aim for new year.

[JonnyStead]

**** guys. I went over a month without fapping or watching any porn. I even got a girlfriend during that time! However, like a week ago, my girlfriend left for 2 weeks, job reasons, and I felt like I needed a release. So I watched some porn and fapped. Gotta be honest with you. It felt great. During AND after the fap. I felt euphoric as phuck. I was like "this no fap thing is a joke". So a few days later I watched porn again. Tbh I didn't even need to fap, my tolerance was so low I just came without even touching my dick. Again felt really euphoric and happy after the orgasm. Then the gaps between my porn viewing shortened 2 days turned to one day and yesterday when I fapped again, I already felt a small amount of sadness after I finished. Today it was even worse and I have to admit I am addicted again... It is so hard to turn away once you've started again and I already feel my mind clouding. What I am afraid of the most is if I am even able to perform properly after my GF comes back in a few days because of porn. Hopefully everything will be ok. Day 1 starts tomorrow, so day 0 right now. Will post tomorrow to update on progress. First week or 2 are seriously the hardest.

Would it be a good idea to tell my GF about my addiction?

E: put me in the list. I wanna aim for new year.

Personal choice - depends on the relationship really. I haven't shared my struggle but I am used to being private about stuff. If you think it will help you beat this, then talk to her. Only you can judge that.

2 complete weeks in a few hours for me - can't wait. Laters all.

[Dude069]

Personal choice - depends on the relationship really. I haven't shared my struggle but I am used to being private about stuff. If you think it will help you beat this, then talk to her. Only you can judge that.

2 complete weeks in a few hours for me - can't wait. Laters all.

Well she used to simply assume that I was watching porn, because "everybody does or lies about it". And I was like: naaw, not me. been clean for almost 2 months now. ...Well, no longer.

[MickyBoii]

Well she used to simply assume that I was watching porn, because "everybody does or lies about it". And I was like: naaw, not me. been clean for almost 2 months now. ...Well, no longer.

I believe this is the current, up to date list of the Cheeky Kunt No Fap Crew. For those of you unaware of what the CKNFC is about, we are a group of no fappers attempting to abstain from masturbation/porn until (at the very least) the new year. Anyone is free to join.

mntbikedude 9/4/13
MickyBoii
motorvation
Barteh
Tax843
JeromeWeinberg
benmcmc1
Adrogeus
JoshisFresh
Skeeeeet
Steadywayfarer
Nowitsmyturn
Thunderquip
Torien89
spartan5364
TXOC
JonnyStead
gloria7
Silkysmoothe
nick_990
Feverdr
Achieving
Huskertwood
Pioteq
bpaura
Iceman321 9/11/13
Trekhan
Ice32
blunose
Sundawgm
Thelostbrah64
Dude069
You may also join the chains.cc group by following this link https://chains.cc/groups/H4t7cegq1C3Epzp

EDIT: Anyone is free to join. However, understand that this is most likely not for you if you are just now discovering no fap/no porn, as this is a very serious commitment which many experienced "no fappers" have struggled with themselves. It does not mean you cannot add yourself to the list; but, understand that you will be held responsible to remove yourself from the list and update it ITT if you do fail at any point from now and the new year. We encourage only the most serious of serious join. This group is NOT for anyone with halfhearted intentions. With that being said, good luck & happy no fapping.



Now you in believe in yourself.... you have nothing to be afraid off bro.

[Torien89]

Week 1 Complete
Day 8

Yesterday me and my flatmate went to camden to help a girl from university with some stuff. I thought it would be a bit awkward because we had a bit of history, she was the first girl I kiss-closed since I started getting into PUA material. But it turned out to be really cool, we were just joking around a lot and chilling, she's really slooty (and also has a BF) so i'm not really interested in doing anything else with her but it was good to be able to enjoy a potentially uncomfortable social situation without zero anxiety.

Hopefully the effect continues. We're hosting a little gathering at our place on sunday next week with a few girls coming so I need to be as social as possible to make the most of it.

[DarDardz]

Damn that list is getting spammed big time lol.
I wonder how many people off that list will actually last.
Hopefully more than I am expecting lol.

[JeromeWeinberg]

Damn that list is getting spammed big time lol.
I wonder how many people off that list will actually last.
Hopefully more than I am expecting lol.

At least one

[Yashkovich]

Would it be a good idea to tell my GF about my addiction?

When I had a gf I didn't tell her it was an addiction. I shared the views that pornography is a damaging tool and something that I avoid, and that for the majority of guys porn and fapping are connected and that was my reasoning for stopping both. Got + respect for that.

Gd job Yash man.... funny how you put the work in and things go well !

Thanks brah, it's espescially funny because if I hadn't been looking for girls on tinder I wouldn't have
A:Found that my oneitis from when I was 13 lives a 5 minute walk from me
B:Got in touch with her and made plans to hang out

It's all about identifying what you want and going out and getting it. The vast majority of guys want to be getting laid, but there are still large numbers content with sitting around waiting until they meet a girl that they hit it off with where they're essentially giftwrapped sex. **** that weak mentality, if you want something go out and get it. This applies for EVERYTHING.

Example: I want to be a powerlifter. Leading up to my tonsillectomy I was on my way to having decent numbers, but I don't fukking want decent numbers, I want to have great numbers. Successful powerlifters at my height are usually between 220-242 with lower weight classes being dominated by shorter guys. I realized that if I want to be where I want to be I'll have to gain a ****load of weight. This prompted me to decide to bulk on 5-6k calories until I'm where I want to be. If the scale stops moving I'll just add more calories because it's what I need to do if I want to succeed.

Applying this same concept to nofap. We all know our weaknesses, we all know when we are most likely to relapse and what is most likely to trigger it. For all of us, there are sacrifices that can be made to help ensure our success, yet so many of us go streak after streak failing, not willing to do what it takes. For me personally I always relapsed in bed at night or first thing in the morning. I combated this by sleeping in a tight pair of old jeans that I wouldn't even be able to fit my hands down. Those jeans wouldn't come off until I would get into the shower, and I don't know about you guys but I've never been a shower fapper. Some of you relapse from hnng threads, you don't need to be miscing. We can all be doing things to help ourselves out brahs.

I've been ranting for a while here, but just to sum things up I'll say this.
Identify what you truly want
Identify what you'll need to do to get what you want
Identify the sacrifices that you'll have to make and fukking embrace them
Just fukking do it

<3 you all and sorry about the wall of text

[mntbikedude]

At least one

Yeah JW you have to go the distance brah I need your help to much now. : )

[mntbikedude]

. For me personally I always relapsed in bed at night or first thing in the morning. I combated this by sleeping in a tight pair of old jeans that I wouldn't even be able to fit my hands down. Those jeans wouldn't come off until I would get into the shower, and I don't know about you guys but I've never been a shower fapper.

now that is dedication

Identify what you truly want. (your most excellent desires)


Identify what you'll need to do to get what you want (count the cost)


Identify the sacrifices that you'll have to make and fukking embrace them (do I want this bad enough to give up something chitty to get something 100000 x better ?)

Just fukking do it (this)

Good points Yash and that brahs is why Yash is making it.

[Trekhan]

Personally I find that counting the days as detrimental, I often fall into the trap of rationalising fapping the closer I get to that new record. This time Im just going to think of the CKY list, that said I think its best to put this on your periphery and not get stressed about it too much.

On another note,

I started SSRI's this week, that along with ongoing counselling at my university to get a hold of my anxiety and depression.

Does anyone here have any experience with Prozac?

[socrates07]

**** guys. I went over a month without fapping or watching any porn. I even got a girlfriend during that time! However, like a week ago, my girlfriend left for 2 weeks, job reasons, and I felt like I needed a release. So I watched some porn and fapped. Gotta be honest with you. It felt great. During AND after the fap. I felt euphoric as phuck. I was like "this no fap thing is a joke". So a few days later I watched porn again. Tbh I didn't even need to fap, my tolerance was so low I just came without even touching my dick. Again felt really euphoric and happy after the orgasm. Then the gaps between my porn viewing shortened 2 days turned to one day and yesterday when I fapped again, I already felt a small amount of sadness after I finished. Today it was even worse and I have to admit I am addicted again... It is so hard to turn away once you've started again and I already feel my mind clouding. What I am afraid of the most is if I am even able to perform properly after my GF comes back in a few days because of porn. Hopefully everything will be ok. Day 1 starts tomorrow, so day 0 right now. Will post tomorrow to update on progress. First week or 2 are seriously the hardest.

Would it be a good idea to tell my GF about my addiction?

E: put me in the list. I wanna aim for new year.

that's what happened to me to an extent minus the gf. Once you're in the clear you gotta stay focused, that clear will vanish before your very eyes if you don't stay tight

remember this those of you that read this that have never made it to this point, this will happen to you if you are not prepared. Now you know, no excuses understand that you're truly never in the clear.

[letsdoit101]

Day 1 again. First week is always the hardest. :/

Tell me 'bout it bro! :-( Lately I seem to eff up around the 5th day into NF. IDK why. e.g. I last fapped on Sat nite. Tonite will be the 5th nite since & this morn I woke up with morning wood & wanted to edge so bad! But, I didn't! I'm trying to not edge at all for 1 week to see if I can do it though it feels like an eternity! Mind you I'm srsly contemplating testing out that experiment rZi (#61) wrote about~

Here is a video I really found motivating. big77 posted it back when I had my major relapse. I went back today and was reading thru the thread from then and there were a lot of awesome posts. I wanted to share this for all of us that need to be encouraged to keep trying and get up one more time.

Very inspirational post mtbikedude! :-) Love it & the background music too!! X-ray Dog's "The Journey" is 1 of their best, which I loved ever since I first heard it on the trailer to "Evening" (2007)! :-) *sigh*

[JonnyStead]

2 weeks in ! Rock

Have a good day all - we all gonna make it.

[NemisisChild]

FFS these failed attempts keep piling up and my day counts are getting worse. Feels like chit. Gonna keep checking in everyday for a week or so, to pile up some days and at least start a little momentum this time.

[Yashkovich]

now that is dedication

Identify what you truly want. (your most excellent desires)


Identify what you'll need to do to get what you want (count the cost)


Identify the sacrifices that you'll have to make and fukking embrace them (do I want this bad enough to give up something chitty to get something 100000 x better ?)

Just fukking do it (this)

Good points Yash and that brahs is why Yash is making it.

Thanks a lot brah, much appreciated

[CSOleson]

I think living in the moment has massive value at times, and often we actually can't help but worry/think ahead while in reality we should be enjoying the pleasure of what's at hand (spending time with family/friends, reading to relax after a long day at work, meditating, working out, etc). However, it's true that we definitely do sometimes indulge in instant gratification at the expense of our future. Masturbating is one instance of this.

I'm not saying never to live in the moment. However, you can always live in the future and make plans to live in the moment. Let me explain. Today I plan on working hard in class, the gym, studying, etc. I'm not worried about having fun or enjoying it all but using it to further who I am. During the weekend I am going to hang out with my friends and allow myself to enjoy the healthy little pleasures in life. I'm not saying I don't enjoy daily life, but I am saying I have to learn to control the desire for pleasure otherwise it will control me. I do not wish to be a slave, and if I simply live for pleasure, I am the slave of simple chemical reactions in my brain. I wish to be free, and for that reason I must abstain momentarily for what can bring greater pleasure later on.
Eric Thomas once said

You have to be willing to sacrifice at any moment who you are now for who you will become

[Devon501]

Mntbikedude, I just read your post in the last thread, I can't believe you noticed my chain I'm actually rather taken back but thank you so much that's a much needed pick up. I'm now on 10 days brah, meaning you must be on 9 Good job!

10 days is actually the longest I've ever gone. It's been hard but also very rewarding, I know it's only 10 days but it's the start to greater things. I just want to give a brief insight into why I started no fap, just to remind myself and motivate myself to keep on going if more than anything.

As a youngster/teenager I always struggled with confidence. My mother died when I was young and my Dad was always busy working, he never really talked to me, gave me advice or showed much interest. Not that I'm ungrateful, it must have been exceptionally difficult for him raising three kids as a single parent while working full time. While he may find it difficult to show his emotions I have always known he loves me so I can't blame him for anything.

I don't remember what age I started fapping, must be early teens, I would fap constantly, several times a day and never considered it to be a problem. This carried on throughout all my teen years, towards the end I started to realise this was becoming a problem for me, especially when all my friends started to become sexually experienced. The worst part is I wasted a lot of opportunities, Ok all the opportunities I was offered with girls. When girls showed interest in me I was to beta to do anything about it, if they made a pass I would make out with them but was scared to get more intimate. When I look back at these opportunities I absolutely kick myself, I can't believe I threw them away. I had a few close friends at school and a small social life but I wasted far too much time on the internet, addicted to runescape for many years.

At sixth form, although never officially diagnosed I am certain I started suffering from depression. I never wanted to be officially diagnosed, thinking this would legitimise my problems and cause me to feel even sorrier for myself. I managed to get through sixth form and secure a place at university. I didn't do as well as I could have done as I lacked motivation and ambition. It wasn't until university that I began figuring out who I was as a person and beginning to feel more comfortable with myself. I made a ton of friends and was relatively happy throughout university. Yet I was still excessively fapping (at least 3 times a day). I was never reaching my potential or living life to the fullest, I was just existing.

Following three years at uni I started a new job, I've been there a year now. I have made a ton of friends and I feel like a completely different person to my younger self. I interact easily with people, I have more confidence, I'm happier etc etc. Yet I still fap to much, following years and years of this I'm sexually inexperienced and scared of being intimate with girls. I discovered the no fap thread sometime last year I think. I read the information and pretty much confirmed what I've always known. Fapping is a problem and holds me back in life. So I jumped onto no fap full of determination, I was sure this was a magic bullet that would solve all my problems. I must have made it to 5 days the first time before relapsing. I was very annoyed with myself, asking myself why was this so hard? Why did nothing change in them 5 days? Why did it not work? etc etc I tried again, and relapsed after a few days. This cycle went on for a while before I fully gave up, I had convinced myself I wasn't able to properly commit to no fap, that it was too difficult. I accepted that I would always suffer from this.

10 days ago it was my nieces second birthday party, I was sat there in the garden, it was a nice warm day, everyone was having fun, bbq, drinks etc. A few family members were round and a lot of my sister and her fiancés friends who I didn't know.. I was sat in the corner, insecure and self conscious surrounded by people I didn't know who were all having a good time. I couldn't believe that I wasn't interacting with anyone. I thought I was over my social awkward teenage years yet here I was acting like a complete beta loser with nothing to offer and no confidence. I was so annoyed with myself that I left after only being there 30 minutes. As I drove home I had the crashing realisation that things needed to change. I knew I had to start on no fap again and do it properly.

Here I am 10 days on, I'm noticing some very good signs. On top of starting no fap I have started lifting consistently. I don't know why but I feel like I have a new outlook on life. I have goals in my head which I'm desperate to reach. I can already see no fap helping me with a number of these goals. I kind of feel exciting for the future, yet I'm terrified of relapsing and accepting a dull lonely life. I will not let that happen I'm gonna make it brah's. I'm gonna make it.

[mntbikedude]

Mntbikedude, I just read your post in the last thread, I can't believe you noticed my chain I'm actually rather taken back but thank you so much that's a much needed pick up. I'm now on 10 days brah, meaning you must be on 9 Good job!

10 days is actually the longest I've ever gone. It's been hard but also very rewarding, I know it's only 10 days but it's the start to greater things. I just want to give a brief insight into why I started no fap, just to remind myself and motivate myself to keep on going if more than anything.

I woke-up this morning and I was pretty depressed and then I saw your name come up as the last post in the no fap thread and it gave me a big smile. I've always noticed your chain Devon, you were one of the first CK's and I remember how excited you were, we all were. I can still remember how much it hurt to have to take your name off of the list. I must be in beta ******* mode this morning because I'm all teared up.

Here I am 10 days on, I'm noticing some very good signs. On top of starting no fap I have started lifting consistently. I don't know why but I feel like I have a new outlook on life. I have goals in my head which I'm desperate to reach. I can already see no fap helping me with a number of these goals. I kind of feel exciting for the future, yet I'm terrified of relapsing and accepting a dull lonely life. I will not let that happen I'm gonna make it brah's. I'm gonna make it.

It's good to be back and it's good to have you back. I feel like we are both very similar in how fapping affects us. Like you I'm also terrified of relapsing. I feel like this redemption is do or die if I relapse now I feel like there is no coming back. So Devon let's do it, no grandious plan of never fapping again. Just a simple plan of making it a day at a time. So join with me mate and commit to another day. And with that I too will take another 24. And Devon with your permission I would like to add you to the Cheeky Kunt Redemption list. I know you/we can do it if we just take it one day at a time. Check in everyday and if you are struggling post or PM me.

And congrats on making it to double digits.