is paying for a girl on a date a good or simp move?

[blueberryboy]

Let's say you went out with a girl a few times..maybe bought her some small items like ice cream or coffee..but next date you invite her out to dinner at a decent but not fancy place

Is it simp to just be like " I got it and pay the bill " ? Granted you have disposable income etc and aren't hurting financially

Every time I been on a date and the pay thing has come up I realized I just feel like a total cheap ass when I dont just pay the whole shot .

And im talking like dating , not a girl you've lived with for years where splitting finances would be more common.

And im not talking about a 500 dollar meal either probably more like 50

[Karl_Hungus]

What is a "simp"?

I guess I need to brush up on kiddie misc slang.

[Caldef]

Guys who don't pay just look cheap and/or broke

Noone expects you to spend hundreds of dollars

But if you can't front up $5 for a coffee it's pretty damn sad

[blueberryboy]

What is a "simp"?

I guess I need to brush up on kiddie misc slang.

A simp basically a man who has to compensate in some way especially financially to gain a womens attention etc

[blueberryboy]

Guys who don't pay just look cheap and/or broke

Noone expects you to spend hundreds of dollars

But if you can't front up $5 for a coffee it's pretty damn sad

Agree first date bought her Starbucks 2nd was no purchases third bought her ice cream
And I invited her out to eat next time so I'll get that too

I just dont care that much about a bit of money to be all up on the principle of " lets make this even " lol and im the guy and she is the girl ...

[Jtbny]

A simp basically a man who has to compensate in some way especially financially to gain a womens attention etc

Like working out, getting educated, a good job, driving a nice car?

If you invited her out, offer to pay.

[mtpockets]

What does she look like? Any chance of getting laid??

































^^^^^ Totally not serious




I am old school, I would pay for her meal


Was at breakfast with a group of fellows this morning, it was my treat, there was an elderly lady eating alone, when I paid for ours. I included hers, of course I didn't tell her, she would find out when she went to pay. Hope it made her smile.

So a hot chick I was on a date with hell ya.. lol J/K I don't mind buying someone a meal

[bustasinclair]

What is a "simp"?

I guess I need to brush up on kiddie misc slang.

Yeah, I guess I'm a simp cause I have always paid for the entire date when I was dating......either that or I'm old. I'll go with old, lol.

[weiss1967]

You already sound cheap for even asking. And what a name blueberryboy. You sure you are on a right forum...

Now, having said that, you know, being a man and all, good girl (the keeper type) would always insist on covering at least part of the bill. That is from my experience. I don't know why, good ones do that. Also watch if she can walk away from unfinished bottle of wine. There are some beautiful shaven pussy blonde types, who are also full-blown alcoholics. This is proven to drain your finances quicker than footing occasional restaurant bills.

[Karl_Hungus]

A simp basically a man who has to compensate in some way especially financially to gain a womens attention etc

Paying for a $50 meal falls pretty squarely within the realm of perfectly normal -- It doesn't seem like an extravagance that is going to draw a woman's attention beyond what she would otherwise give. Just don't go buying expensive gifts early on.

Yeah, I guess I'm a simp cause I have always paid for the entire date when I was dating......either that or I'm old. I'll go with old, lol.

Same.

[steffo99]

There are some beautiful shaven pussy blonde types, who are also full-blown alcoholics.

So where exactly are these poor souls right now? Asking for a friend.

[weiss1967]

oh, Steffo, you don't want to know, it hurts to think remembering those ones. I could point to, and I am sure you will be welcomed, but man I don't hate you.

[steffo99]

Whatever is the case, we must explore all options to help our friend in need.

[AlBHappy]

Pay. Especially if you asked her out.

[blue9steel]

It's a sellers market, so yes you're going to be the one paying. Even if you prefer to split costs long term, generally the socially acceptable play is to pay for the first several dates. Once you're "going steady" then you can have a conversation about it if you want and most girls are going to be pretty reasonable about it at that point.

[Tommy W.]

Men pay unless you're hung like a horse and look like Brad Pitt

[x-trainer ben]

Let me make this SIMPle for you, proper etiquette is for you to pay for the date or cancel ahead of time if you don't want to go and pay.
Good luck.

[GrouchyUSMC]

If you are in the early stages of dating, in my personal opinion a man should absolutely pay. Especially if you're the one who asked her out.

Maybe I'm "old school" for thinking that but if we are on a casual date my card comes out and I would handle it all.

When you are in a long term relationship, you can work it out among the two of you at that point.

[xbluexhawkx]

Definitely pay for the first date.

[KeepItMoving]

One way or another, you're gonna pay.

[Mark1T]

I have done some things, but I have never had to pay a girl to out with me.

I'm the one that takes care of things.

I'm in charge.



At least 47% of the time.

[KeepItMoving]

I have done some things, but I have never had to pay a girl to out with me.

I'm the one that takes care of things.

I'm in charge.



At least 47% of the time.

We have the strength. Women have the power.

[HayZues Christi]

If you asked and picked the place, you pay.

Now if you both agreed on a meeting spot, dutch is fine.

[TolerantLactose]

Just to clear up the term, SIMP stands for suckers idolizing mediocre p*ssy. I think it arose with Twitch and Only Fans.

[nick5569]

The easiest way to figure it out is like this:

Don't pay for anything and see if the woman is still interested in you and willing to have romantic relations with you


If she is, then there's no problem with paying for her now and again because she is actually interested in you


If she refuses to see you without you paying for her, then you shouldn't pay for her because she is trying to use you as an ATM

[Mark1T]

We have the strength. Women have the power.

True

[mtpockets]

There are some real gentlemen ITT and some cheap bastards

[SmashinYoungVag]

If you asked and picked the place, you pay.

Now if you both agreed on a meeting spot, dutch is fine.

This. If you ask her out and pick an expensive play that people wouldn’t go to normally and then expect her to pay you look like you’re mooching.