Turn off the TV and hang out with your family.
Lots of good/fun things you can do other than drink. Exercise with the kids...local parks and run around, take them sledding when it's snowy, hike, fish, bike...
Find other friends that don't make drinking a big part of their life and do things with them.
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12-17-2012, 10:57 AM #5581Journal- One of the Ogres
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12-17-2012, 11:22 AM #5582
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If drinkin and druggin is getting in the way of you becmoing the person you KNOW you can be, then I recommend seeing what life can be like without drugs and alcohol. Go to AA and sit and listen. You might meet some people who you can relate to. Just know that when you quit, you have to be ready to fill that part of your life and your heart with something good and healthy. Most of us here choose God or a power greater than ourselves to put our trust in.
Simply putting the drug/drink down will only make a man go crazy. We need more.Jesus/Gators/ManUtd/Investing
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12-17-2012, 11:58 AM #5583
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Thanks.
Actually went to my first AA meeting this morning. While I was out playing cards last night, some guy just randomly told me that he goes to this place every morning at 7am and does all kinds of good things. I thought it was funny he told me randomly, so we got to talking, and I basically told him what I wrote in this forum. He said I should just go and check it out.
So I decided to go. It was a pretty easy decision. I was only a little nervous. Didn't feel out of place. I did tell myself that I need to go because if I was serious about getting sober, then I need to take action and do something that will show that I'm serious.
Anyways, I can't believe some of the stories I heard in there. God bless some of those guys man.www.grazethesky.com
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12-17-2012, 12:15 PM #5584
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Not sure if anyone remembers me. Been struggling with alcohol for a long long time. I was VERY resistant to go to AA and no one could even mention it without offending me. Enough crap has gone on in my life and on Tuesday I'll have 4 months, via my fellowship with AA.
I hope to come back to posting here and getting my workouts back on track. I'm struggling with working tremendous hours, being in the middle of a bout with MS, and going to AA pretty much every night. I'm going to do my best to fit it in. I miss it. I figured coming back here was my first step. I've made some drunken posts here too (well bb, not this thread that I am aware) and that has kept me away due to shame. I have a lot of shame in so many areas of my life.
I stopped posting in this thread because I was afraid a client would recognize me if they made the fb/bb connection. I don't care anymore. I'm proud to be sober, it's a lot better than what I was. Sorry if this is quick and babbling, at work and trying to run out so I can actually hit the gym for the first time in forever. I miss this place very much.~Beth
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12-17-2012, 01:12 PM #5586
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12-17-2012, 01:25 PM #5587
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I don't get it, you don't have to time to do coping stratagies like working out because you work two jobs and have a family but you drink because you're bored and need to pass the time? Which is it?
If I was in your shoes I would try to get a job with less hours or a better schedule. You have to balance your time in the gym with your family and I'm sure they are willing to compromise if it means you stay sober and when your bored use some of that time with your kids (assuming your not drinking while with them). I have my own gym in my basement and workout at lunch which frees up family time.
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12-17-2012, 04:33 PM #5588
KJ II- I'm glad you made it past that craving and saw it for what it was. It's an illusion. Alcoholism is cunning, baffling and powerful. In the midst of life getting better it tries to drag us back down.
krete- glad you made a meeting!
GI- good news! I wondered where you had been. Stress, not getting enough rest, and heat seem to be the main triggers that I have watched a few of my fellow AA'ers with MS deal with. They rarely seem to have bouts when they stay consistent with their AA program, working out an appropriate amount and staying well rested. Prayers from me to you.Journal- One of the Ogres
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12-18-2012, 06:02 AM #5590
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Thanks guys, it is a great relief to be back, and I'm glad to have this site for two great reasons!
Indeed! check, check, check! This little bout started about 2.5 months ago, so it should be gone very soon fingers crossed. Did the gym thing last night and went to my meeting smelly haha.... they don't care there. Always just so glad to see you!
Have a great day folks, again, so glad to be back!~Beth
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12-20-2012, 08:27 PM #5597
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An Instant Classic...
Hey Gang,
New to this thread but sober since 3/17/85. At my favorite men's meeting tonight it was newcomer's night and a kid with a year spoke. It's a large meeting and we get lots of young guys from local Halfway houses, rehabs, etc. Started off talking about how his head was filled with this Mayan nonsense until he got sober, went through the steps and came to know God. As he was telling his story he said this about his drinking days:
"...I told my friends I would sell drugs until 2012 and if the world didn't end...I'd go to school." The place fell apart.
Isn't that just like an alcoholic? Is that funny or what?
He was a nice kid and seems to have good handle on the program.It's 80% diet, 20% workout and 100% in the mind.
If you can read or carry on a conversation, you ain't working out.
To be different the only thing you have to do is stand fast when the herd moves.
Parking your s**t on a bench ain't the same thing as using it!
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12-20-2012, 09:29 PM #5598
I have a former friend who is seriously ****ed in the head from drugs/drinking.. and for the last 3 years his excuse for doing NOTHING with his life is that the world is ending today/tomorrow.
He's 29 lives in his friends parents house rent-free, doesn't have a job, drivers license, high school education, nothing..
I use to feel bad for him, but now I have zero sympathy, he likes to sit around and have a pity party for himself, and literally blames the world for everything. He could slip in the shower and think of a reason it's someone elses fault.
I've told him to get professional help for years, he won't listen, then he claims nobody cares about him. Should be interesting to see what he does when he wakes up tomorrow to realize the world has not ended. I hope he will get his **** together, but I seriously doubt it.
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12-22-2012, 10:24 PM #5605
I'm struggling right now. My friends that don't really know how bad I got started to try to convince me I didn't have a problem. After going through withdrawals, rehab, and aa there is no doubt in my mind that I'm a full blown alcoholic. An alcoholic is an alcoholic. I'm going back to school in a few weeks and these are the friends I will be dealing with. Maybe they are dumb and maybe alcoholic themselves but they are my true friends. How do you guys deal with your pride telling you to defend your decision to people? I just wanna hear some wisdom before I go to bed because I am seriously shaken up after this discussion
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12-23-2012, 06:21 AM #5606
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Last edited by zakatak333; 12-23-2012 at 06:37 AM.
The muscles i value most are the ones directly surrounding the spine, the hips, the scapula, the femur and the tibia... in that order.
Basically the whole body minus chest and biceps... pretty much the opposite of what your local gym looks like on a typical Monday.
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12-23-2012, 02:46 PM #5610
Some of these dudes may not be your friends, it's surprising how many people think getting wasted every week is the same as true friendship.
One thing I did was made sure to talk with some of my friends one on one to let them know how serious I was. In a group, guys can get less serious and think everything's a joke, but in private you can work something out.
But seriously if you tell them you're serious about not drinking and they ignore you they either 1) don't listen to you or 2) don't care about you, so **** 'em.
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