Official T-Misc Girl Help Thread

[QUOTE=TheGreatRussian;1167234953]God, I'm so beta I ask bb.com for help ahwell.

-OP likes a girl.
-OP friends with her.
-Huge ****ing crush on her.
-She has a boyfriend.
-Since I'm a beta, even tho I lift( ****ty stats but people in sweden are skinny *******s that dont lift, atleast my age. (15) ) I dont want to ask her out, cause of major fear of rejection.
-Sometimes depressed over her.
-Have a huge dillema, whether keep being friends with her and friends only and feel ****ty about it, or just stop hanging with her and lose contact cus, not-friends for me is better than friendzone, to much pride and ****.[/QUOTE]

One year from now, you're gonna have wished you told her now.

[QUOTE=HeavyMetalLover;1164545243]This is one of my bigger issue. I can't tell much because it goes deeper than that, but that's how it is. As far as I'm concerned, I don't have any other more concerning issue. I like some girls, but I don't know how to approach them in a relationship kind of way.

Repost

Been lurking for the past months.

I need a serious help on starting a relationship. I'm now in college, and I ALMOST HAVE ZERO PROBLEMS with approaching girls and befriend them since I was 13. To add up to that, girls enjoy my company and they like my ''I love approaching girls'' attitude. I have a couple of best female friends. I have never been in a love relationship before, and I really need to catch up on the experience at this time of my life.

Here's the catch, I'm bisexual, leaning mostly towards homosexuality. But I'm really sure and I believe I can be ''in love'' with girls, but probably not enough to get my jimmies tingled.

So Tmisc, help me on how to start a love relationship. I have a few candidates, some are friends and some are quite stranger. Which type would be best to start a relationship? How should I start it? How should I approach them? What should I do. I hate the idea of cliche dating like giving gifts and such, but I'm fine with hanging out with girls.

Do note that this would be my first time.[/QUOTE]

Honestly, have you ever considered if you're gay, not bisexual? Your inability to form romantic relationships with females may be a result of your desire to form romantic relationships with males. From experience, most bisexual people I know are clearly gay/lesbian, they only identify as bisexual. Just something to consider.

I meet girl lives far only way of seen is through church event srs. We been texting when I found her on insta she seems interested abit. Not sure yet . How can I her attention. Srs question kinda bad explained but what would you do if you were in my shoes.. Only way to communicate is texting for now.. Atleast

[QUOTE=Dangaaa;1167625783]I meet girl lives far only way of seen is through church event srs. We been texting when I found her on insta she seems interested abit. Not sure yet . How can I her attention. Srs question kinda bad explained but what would you do if you were in my shoes.. Only way to communicate is texting for now.. Atleast[/QUOTE]

Maybe ask her out to get to know her better.

Or ask to skype or facebook.

As we say in Holland you have no but you could get yes..

>OP sits next to girl he likes throughout whole class, last lesson.
>OP finds out him and said girl have almost same political views during class discussion on education/healthcare
>Lesson finishes early.
>OP and girl walk out at same time.
>OP and girl talk for good 5+ minutes whilst she's on her way to have rant/argument with teacher she hates, she initiates conversation (if it means anything)

-What do next? OP likes girl but doesn't want to bridge into deep friend zone by mistake.
-OP doesn't spend a whole lot of time with girl so OP doesn't know if he's in danger of friend zone or not.
Help misc.

[QUOTE=PatrickWayne96;1168641373]>OP sits next to girl he likes throughout whole class, last lesson.
>OP finds out him and said girl have almost same political views during class discussion on education/healthcare
>Lesson finishes early.
>OP and girl walk out at same time.
>OP and girl talk for good 5+ minutes whilst she's on her way to have rant/argument with teacher she hates, she initiates conversation (if it means anything)

-What do next? OP likes girl but doesn't want to bridge into deep friend zone by mistake.
-OP doesn't spend a whole lot of time with girl so OP doesn't know if he's in danger of friend zone or not.
Help misc.[/QUOTE]
ask the girl if she would like to go for a coffee or lunch with you , because you think she was interesting to talk with and would like to talk more with her.
GL

[QUOTE=Andresthetic1;1168898543]ask the girl if she would like to go for a coffee or lunch with you , because you think she was interesting to talk with and would like to talk more with her.
GL[/QUOTE]

Might even happen, thanks.

-HUGE oneitis of mine asked me to help her with school stuff last winter (like 10 months ago)
-I spent a few days with her, studying with her
-she offers to take me out (chinese restaurant) to thank me for the help, ofc i accept
-after that, random conversations every now and then in Facebook/school (she seems really interested everytime we talk)
-finally asked her out last summer (5 months ago)
-everything went great, we spent like 6 hours together and ended up in the gym (a keeper, huh?)
-I waited for two weeks before asking her to hangout again (I know... tried to be alpha or something...)
-she was busy (for real) and asked to reschedule it to another day
-told her I was busy that day
-a week later she asked again but we couldn't get our timetables to match (I'm pretty sure both of us were just playing hard to get)
-that happened about 4 months ago
-after that, we haven't really talked that much (i see her in the school everyday but it'd awkward as fk to approach her cause we are never alone)
-started a FB conversation with her a month ago
-lots of smileys, but she was studying for an exam (this was true, we're on the same course) so the conversation died down pretty quickly
-(usually she leads the conversation and brings up new subjects to talk about)

I don't know wtf I'm supposed to do now. It'd be awkward af to just ask her out again because we haven't had a real conversation since the last summer. I'm not awkward IRL or anything but I find it pretty hard to keep a conversation going. That's the only reason why I didnt ask her to hangout right after the first date. I had already "used" all the subjects I came up to discuss with her. Sounds very stupid, i know.

Any ideas? Inb4 tldr.

[QUOTE=Juge;1169891563]-HUGE oneitis of mine asked me to help her with school stuff last winter (like 10 months ago)
-I spent a few days with her, studying with her
-she offers to take me out (chinese restaurant) to thank me for the help, ofc i accept
-after that, random conversations every now and then in Facebook/school (she seems really interested everytime we talk)
-finally asked her out last summer (5 months ago)
-everything went great, we spent like 6 hours together and ended up in the gym (a keeper, huh?)
-I waited for two weeks before asking her to hangout again (I know... tried to be alpha or something...)
-she was busy (for real) and asked to reschedule it to another day
-told her I was busy that day
-a week later she asked again but we couldn't get our timetables to match (I'm pretty sure both of us were just playing hard to get)
-that happened about 4 months ago
-after that, we haven't really talked that much (i see her in the school everyday but it'd awkward as fk to approach her cause we are never alone)
-started a FB conversation with her a month ago
-lots of smileys, but she was studying for an exam (this was true, we're on the same course) so the conversation died down pretty quickly
-(usually she leads the conversation and brings up new subjects to talk about)

I don't know wtf I'm supposed to do now. It'd be awkward af to just ask her out again because we haven't had a real conversation since the last summer. I'm not awkward IRL or anything but I find it pretty hard to keep a conversation going. That's the only reason why I didnt ask her to hangout right after the first date. I had already "used" all the subjects I came up to discuss with her. Sounds very stupid, i know.

Any ideas? Inb4 tldr.[/QUOTE]

You took No Contact too far, too soon. That works best when the girl's already invested with you, so then when you cut her off for a bit she realises she's developed a need for you. You should have made plans no more than a week after you first hung out.

As for now having stuff to talk about, you've just got to meet the right girl for your personality. I'm not the most talkative person in the world, but my girlfriend's very chatty and so we never fall short of conversations to have.

If you really want this girl, you have to stop trying to become her boyfriend through text/Facebook. I only really use those things to arrange meet ups; if the girl wants to know what's been going on in my world lately or wants to talk to me about her own, she can tell me in real life where I can use the full range of my charm, body language and general flirting that's only really possible person-to-person. Arrange to hangout, get talking. Then after the date tell her you'll text her in the week to hangout again.

>OP is shy as ****, never really talked to a girl
>OP has serious self-confidence issues
>OP goes to new High School, joins in 10th grade
>no friends in new school..large school, not the type where everyone knows everyone..yet, it seems that many people know each other somehow
>seems like people know each other through middle school? Or their Mormon communities (I'm not Mormon)?
>OP has a huge crush on this girl
>Never even talked to her, she doesn't know who I am
>we sit far from each other in the one class we have together
>she's always talking to her friends
>no way I could possibly start a conversation unless I randomly came up to her after class when she was walking to her next class in the busy hallway..not that I'd even know what to say

>OP is sad :(

Tmisc, never posted here before because, well before i didnt many problems with getting girls. before i could go chat up any bish and get their number, and mess around with them. Nowadays i find it so hard, i keep getting blown off and idk why. Theres even this one girl that showed interest in me and weve been talking 2 weeks and she kinda lost interest. what the fukc is up?

[QUOTE=puremichigan1;973635653]My gf went to a party when she told me she was hanging out with 2 of her friends. What should I do brahs?[/QUOTE]

Hey bro, I would just ask why she felt like she had to lie to you.

[QUOTE=Juge;1169891563]-HUGE oneitis of mine asked me to help her with school stuff last winter (like 10 months ago)
-I spent a few days with her, studying with her
-she offers to take me out (chinese restaurant) to thank me for the help, ofc i accept
-after that, random conversations every now and then in Facebook/school (she seems really interested everytime we talk)
-finally asked her out last summer (5 months ago)
-everything went great, we spent like 6 hours together and ended up in the gym (a keeper, huh?)
-I waited for two weeks before asking her to hangout again (I know... tried to be alpha or something...)
-she was busy (for real) and asked to reschedule it to another day
-told her I was busy that day
-a week later she asked again but we couldn't get our timetables to match (I'm pretty sure both of us were just playing hard to get)
-that happened about 4 months ago
-after that, we haven't really talked that much (i see her in the school everyday but it'd awkward as fk to approach her cause we are never alone)
-started a FB conversation with her a month ago
-lots of smileys, but she was studying for an exam (this was true, we're on the same course) so the conversation died down pretty quickly
-(usually she leads the conversation and brings up new subjects to talk about)

I don't know wtf I'm supposed to do now. It'd be awkward af to just ask her out again because we haven't had a real conversation since the last summer. I'm not awkward IRL or anything but I find it pretty hard to keep a conversation going. That's the only reason why I didnt ask her to hangout right after the first date. I had already "used" all the subjects I came up to discuss with her. Sounds very stupid, i know.

Any ideas? Inb4 tldr.[/QUOTE]

Next time u hear about a party ask her if she's going then get hammered before u go and u will have no problem talking to her

[QUOTE=2010JW;1171922243]Tmisc, never posted here before because, well before i didnt many problems with getting girls. before i could go chat up any bish and get their number, and mess around with them. Nowadays i find it so hard, i keep getting blown off and idk why. Theres even this one girl that showed interest in me and weve been talking 2 weeks and she kinda lost interest. what the fukc is up?[/QUOTE]


Unfortunately with teen girls keeping their interest is hard. If you show too much interest they lose interest. I wouldn't worry about it. Keep your confidence up and don't settle on any girl, the right one will come along eventually. You should never feel like you have to keep someone's interest. You yourself are interesting. This goes for guys and girls. If you feel you have to work for someone to see your value then screw them! I wish I had realized this earlier, seriously. I might be a girl but it's true for all people.

[QUOTE=EGamComp;1171865643]>OP is shy as ****, never really talked to a girl
>OP has serious self-confidence issues
>OP goes to new High School, joins in 10th grade
>no friends in new school..large school, not the type where everyone knows everyone..yet, it seems that many people know each other somehow
>seems like people know each other through middle school? Or their Mormon communities (I'm not Mormon)?
>OP has a huge crush on this girl
>Never even talked to her, she doesn't know who I am
>we sit far from each other in the one class we have together
>she's always talking to her friends
>no way I could possibly start a conversation unless I randomly came up to her after class when she was walking to her next class in the busy hallway..not that I'd even know what to say

>OP is sad :([/QUOTE]

The answer is simple, and you already know it.
Talk to her. You've just got to suck it up sometimes.

Go up to her after class, tell her she's cute and ask if she wants to chill; girls love confidence.

[QUOTE=Shkimabobs;1173036353]The answer is simple, and you already know it.
Talk to her. You've just got to suck it up sometimes.

Go up to her after class, tell her she's cute and ask if she wants to chill; girls love confidence.[/QUOTE]
There's no way on earth I'd ever be able to do something like that...maybe after I lift for a year I'll have greater confidence...

Was driving him to pick up his car from mechanic.
Needed petrol.
Pull up to 7/11.
Get out of car.
Go to fill up.
He gets out and stops me.
"What are you doing i specifically said not to go to 7/11"
-> He never said anything
-> Why the **** not
"Oh why not 7/11?"
"7/11 is run by nazi's, the whole system is a scam."
I don't argue and ask him where i should go instead.
Tells me to go to the BP.
I'm extremely low on petrol and nearest BP is 20 minutes away.
Don't argue cos its girlfriends dad obv.
Around 8 minutes into the journey to BP i ran outta gas and car stops.
At this stage he looks at me and says " Why didn't you just ****ing fill it up at 7/11"
I walk back to the 7/11 and get a cannister of petrol.
Walk back to car and resist urge of killing GF's Dad.

wut do now?

[QUOTE=SamiMate;1178319863]Was driving him to pick up his car from mechanic.
Needed petrol.
Pull up to 7/11.
Get out of car.
Go to fill up.
He gets out and stops me.
"What are you doing i specifically said not to go to 7/11"
-> He never said anything
-> Why the **** not
"Oh why not 7/11?"
"7/11 is run by nazi's, the whole system is a scam."
I don't argue and ask him where i should go instead.
Tells me to go to the BP.
I'm extremely low on petrol and nearest BP is 20 minutes away.
Don't argue cos its girlfriends dad obv.
Around 8 minutes into the journey to BP i ran outta gas and car stops.
At this stage he looks at me and says " Why didn't you just ****ing fill it up at 7/11"
I walk back to the 7/11 and get a cannister of petrol.
Walk back to car and resist urge of killing GF's Dad.

wut do now?[/QUOTE]

poison the bitch

Hi, until about 3 months ago i was very overweight (260 pounds) guy so i didnt want girlfriend, i know that I was ugly **** but didnt nothing to help it. I have "gift", im very good in conversations with everyone, so girls were happy to chatting/speaking with me, but i was every time only FRIEND. we just laughed, they were saying me that their boyfriends are cheating them and what kind of clothes they like and stupid stuff. I was happy,but now thinks changed, i lost about 50 pounds and my body is starting look better, Im 17 years old, but there is the problem. From past time, i have no experience with kissing, touching and stuff. I think i can be interesting for them via conversation, but then when we are dancing together or we are close, I start feel nervous and do nothing (maybe, theyre expecting something), then because my good speaking gift put me to "FRIENDZONE" category, and sayin stupid things about other guys. (meh, i hate sentence "wish I will meet guy like u someday").

And all girls i know thinks im just "friend", because they know me only from my past "fatshyt" piece of me.
What should i do?
Thanks.

get shredded and find new girls, sometimes even the most beautiful mother****er cant get out of the friendzone, i don't want to sound like a d*ck but to them you will be remembered as a fatty for quite a while

good to see this thread after all the homo threads i've recently noticed

[QUOTE=phagbasher;1180165833]good to see this thread after all the homo threads i've recently noticed[/QUOTE]

True dat, bro. I was starting to worry.

Ok so theres this really hot girl in my university whos a sophomore (im a freshman) and she lives in Australia (im from pittsburgh) and I've been trying to win her over. any tips/suggestions?

Me and my girl, we got this relationship. I love her so bad, but she treats me like sh..

any advice would be great. imma try to make this short

bg: girl I talked to in class only last year, interested but told myself I'll try her next year. This school year we have 2 classes together.

fast forward to now
-she gets my number from someone else, text game begins
-we flirt in class, text game continues
-by mid to end september its clear she's at least a bit into me
-october arrives. first time alone with her at her place cause she asked me to help with chemistry. had lunch with her maybe twice, alone again.
-shes obviously still into me even if I haven't made a move
-November arrives, I go full retard (beta) in a text convo and stop texting her after that for just 1 day.
-friend of mine who works with her tells me she's jelly of another one of my girl friends and she's upset cause I hadn't texted her (again only 1 day).
-text her that evening, she wanted to see me that night but couldn't and made plans for Monday
-Monday, 1 day before my nyc class trip, we kiss. also kiss next morning before leaving.
-next week at school after trip, we kiss a few times in school. people around go full retard and clap after a kiss, she's leaves embarrassed.
-next day, no school, go to her place for cuddle/make out session. look on her face says she's so into me
-she goes cold for almost a week and a bit awkward for both of us in school, ask her what's up. she says she's "mixed up", "wasnt it easier when we were just friends"
- im rustled, upset. things go cold for almost a month.
-last day of school before break, she asks me to have lunch with her and we spend the rest of the day at school together. she let me have my hand on her thigh and arm around her waist. no kiss.
-hope is still restored in me
- now been trying to see her during the break but hasn't happened. few days ago I asked if she's free on X day, says she's working. then i ask what days are good for her and no reply since.

Shorter cliffs if too lazy to read:
-girl is into me
-spend a few times alone with her
-she's definitely into me
-finally make a move before leaving on a trip
-spend a day cuddling and kissing the week after
-goes cold the next few days then tells me she's mixed up, etc.
-nothing happens for about a month, then she shows interest in me again
-doesnt respond when i ask her to hang

what do? keep trying? n/c? honestly don't understand how it went from almost bf/gf status to that.

[QUOTE=otehblasian;1184970481]any advice would be great. imma try to make this short

bg: girl I talked to in class only last year, interested but told myself I'll try her next year. This school year we have 2 classes together.

fast forward to now
-she gets my number from someone else, text game begins
-we flirt in class, text game continues
-by mid to end september its clear she's at least a bit into me
-october arrives. first time alone with her at her place cause she asked me to help with chemistry. had lunch with her maybe twice, alone again.
-shes obviously still into me even if I haven't made a move
-November arrives, I go full retard (beta) in a text convo and stop texting her after that for just 1 day.
-friend of mine who works with her tells me she's jelly of another one of my girl friends and she's upset cause I hadn't texted her (again only 1 day).
-text her that evening, she wanted to see me that night but couldn't and made plans for Monday
-Monday, 1 day before my nyc class trip, we kiss. also kiss next morning before leaving.
-next week at school after trip, we kiss a few times in school. people around go full retard and clap after a kiss, she's leaves embarrassed.
-next day, no school, go to her place for cuddle/make out session. look on her face says she's so into me
-she goes cold for almost a week and a bit awkward for both of us in school, ask her what's up. she says she's "mixed up", "wasnt it easier when we were just friends"
- im rustled, upset. things go cold for almost a month.
-last day of school before break, she asks me to have lunch with her and we spend the rest of the day at school together. she let me have my hand on her thigh and arm around her waist. no kiss.
-hope is still restored in me
- now been trying to see her during the break but hasn't happened. few days ago I asked if she's free on X day, says she's working. then i ask what days are good for her and no reply since.

Shorter cliffs if too lazy to read:
-girl is into me
-spend a few times alone with her
-she's definitely into me
-finally make a move before leaving on a trip
-spend a day cuddling and kissing the week after
-goes cold the next few days then tells me she's mixed up, etc.
-nothing happens for about a month, then she shows interest in me again
-doesnt respond when i ask her to hang

what do? keep trying? n/c? honestly don't understand how it went from almost bf/gf status to that.[/QUOTE]
What if

she has a bf?

[QUOTE=JNicko;1184997111]What if

she has a bf?[/QUOTE]

what if i told you, she doesnt. lol

[QUOTE=otehblasian;1185022241]what if i told you, she doesnt. lol[/QUOTE]
Her using the term "I'm mixed up" makes me believe that there's a second dude

[QUOTE=JNicko;1185023081]Her using the term "I'm mixed up" makes me believe that there's a second dude[/QUOTE]
i guess that's always a possibility

Broke up with old girlfriend before I started working out (~14), It was kinda of one of those first "real" type relationships that lasted about 6 months. I thought she was cheating on me because she had like no interest towards the end (I was the one to pull the gun). So after that we were still friends until it was too awkward to keep up, then she started just talking trash about me behind my back. We ironically haven't had any classes together since then, and have both been dating around. But recently i have been making a lot of positive attention for myself in school (popular from sports?! I think). Then I get a message from her after getting the silent treatment for some time saying "Wow you made some serious gainz want to ****!"(not srs) but she basically said I've changed a lot since freshman year and is getting all flirty. Im posting this here because my friends have either always been "meaty studs"(no homo?) or don't lift.

For you guys on tmisc that have made transformations have you ever got back with an ex, was it sucessful? Or did you just tell them to fuark off and lolz!
(Btw she's a sexy bish/10)