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[QUOTE=MMatt2012;1102004133]I see and talk to her at parties and chit but im just not sure what she thinks about me thats the problem. I want to know whether or not im wasting my time or not haha[/QUOTE]
You are always wasting your time. Sitting on this forum, watching tv, taking long showers. It's all wasted time.
Who cares what she thinks about you, if you care too much, you dig a deep hole for yourself.
If there are no signs that she doesn't want you around (and don't try to decipher everything), then grow a pair and talk to her. Compliment her and tease her when she screws up. After that, decide if you actually like her and then ask her to do something small. Get coffee or something. If you're doing everything right, not being a creep, you're relaxed and appear confident, then the only reason she'd reject you is she's shallow or has someone else on her mind.
Regardless, you won't know until you TRY. The person who tries is ONE HUNDRED TIMES the man who only says "what if" and backs down.
You have nothing to lose. This will give you experience for the next go. You don't get better at something until you practice. If you fail this time, think of it as practice for the next one. So what if your friends judge you? Chances are they aren't your good friends and once you go off to college or things get busy in your life, neither side will call to see how things are going. A bro will back you up, support you.
Go get em brah. Even if it doesn't work out, think, what if you need the practice from this one, to get the next girl?
Good luck dude
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[QUOTE=livingforlean;1101879913]Thanks, and I take back what I said...
She just messaged me saying "I want to play that game tonight", haha![/QUOTE]
Hope it went well :)
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[QUOTE=Bugler666;1102351423]Hope it went well :)[/QUOTE]
I don't know man.
Fuk girls.
She acts interested, like the above example, then chooses to reply like 24hrs later other times. Don't know why she does it. Girls are still a mystery.
Fuk them.
:D
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[QUOTE=livingforlean;1102353593]I don't know man.
Fuk girls.
She acts interested, like the above example, then chooses to reply like 24hrs later other times. Don't know why she does it. Girls are still a mystery.
Fuk them.
:D[/QUOTE]
Hate when that happens. Had a convo today that just dropped off randomly. Just can't take it seriously. Keep truckin, don't look for something that isn't there. Know what I mean bros?
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Ok I've been into this girl that works at my gym. However I've been single for gees too long haha and I'm worried ill come off too flirty or something and just mess things up with her. We are just on the hi and bye level right now. Any suggestions for convo bruhs?
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hello fellow miscers
i haven't actually talked to girls besides friends at the gym (haven't tried getting numbers) before so I'm wondering whats a good way to do it?
In other words whats something to talk about there lol
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[QUOTE=zguesmia;1103879593]hello fellow miscers
i haven't actually talked to girls besides friends at the gym (haven't tried getting numbers) before so I'm wondering whats a good way to do it?
In other words whats something to talk about there lol[/QUOTE]
If you mean at the gym, just talk about workouts and gains and compliment them, tell them they are showing great progress already (girls love that ****), don't be awkward and ask them what else do they like to do other than lifting like a hobby or something.
Want a golden advice? Don't arrange what you are ganna say and prepare it before just say the first thing that comes to your mind without thinking. Been brave enough to try this once with that cute tourists, worked like magic and got me hooked up
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[QUOTE=zguesmia;1103879593]hello fellow miscers
i haven't actually talked to girls besides friends at the gym (haven't tried getting numbers) before so I'm wondering whats a good way to do it?
In other words whats something to talk about there lol[/QUOTE]
Don't try hard. If they're busy, don't interrupt them. Usually it's easy if you both have something you can talk about especially if it's there and happening. Don't need to walk up and ask "what are you most afraid of". The more creative you get, the more you can talk about. Build off of stuff, don't make it an interrogation. If she regularly goes to where you're going, just introduce yourself this time and give a compliment. After that, when you see her next time, say hi, start conversations, and ask her for her number assuming the conversation goes well. If this is a one time chance, then ask her then and there for a number.
However, don't constantly compliment her. This is a thing between two people. You want to see each other as equals and as actual people. Don't make yourself too available, too friendly, too prying. If she doesn't respond to a text, pretend like it never happened. Don't throw her up on a pedestal. Space stuff out so you don't seem like a burden. And just google things not to say to a girl.
Think of it like cliff jumping (into water of course), if you keep staring off the edge, you'll never jump. You need to grow a pair, not think too hard, and just jump. It's the only way you'll get it done.
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[QUOTE=livingforlean;1102353593]I don't know man.
Fuk girls.
She acts interested, like the above example, then chooses to reply like 24hrs later other times. Don't know why she does it. Girls are still a mystery.
Fuk them.
:D[/QUOTE]
This happens to the best of us.
I had a girl kept doing that to me, asked her friends about it and apparently they all get really annoyed at her too. She does it all the time. I was like fair, this girl is just retarded to the core.
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Please forgive the english it is not my first language... Ok so I met this girl at a party 1 month ago and we both found out we were interested into each other so we exchanged numbers and started dating. Everything was fine on the first 3-4 times we saw each other, was really smooth and she even wanted us to be officially in couple but i said i wanted to know her more before (I think that's where i messed up..) and she seemed pretty ok with it. Then we see each other on 2 other ''dates'' but she wanted to go with me and my friends, sounded stranged but i rolled with it, she seemed kinda distant on these two occasion and i told her about it and all she said was ''im just not used to be in a relationship'' so im like ok and the following week each time i want to see her she comes up with something so we cant see each other. Then comes last Sunday, I say to her I want us to see each other alone and she seems ok with it but plans change later that day so we go to the restaurant with two friends. After that we agree to meet up at my place later so when im alone with my ''gf'' I ask her if something's wrong and she says she only needs time to think if she really wants to be engaged in a relationship in the long term but she says she still wants it to work with me. So im starting to have a bad feeling about this and i was right since when she got back home that night she texts me she wants to stop the relationship there since she was starting to see me more as a friend ( Was acting less BF-like because when she got a bit distant i feeled like i rushed her a bit.). So T-misc. I just got into that friendzone but not too deep, is there a way to get her back???
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[QUOTE=WalrusAndStuff;1104450573]Please forgive the english it is not my first language... Ok so I met this girl at a party 1 month ago and we both found out we were interested into each other so we exchanged numbers and started dating. Everything was fine on the first 3-4 times we saw each other, was really smooth and she even wanted us to be officially in couple but i said i wanted to know her more before (I think that's where i messed up..) and she seemed pretty ok with it. Then we see each other on 2 other ''dates'' but she wanted to go with me and my friends, sounded stranged but i rolled with it, she seemed kinda distant on these two occasion and i told her about it and all she said was ''im just not used to be in a relationship'' so im like ok and the following week each time i want to see her she comes up with something so we cant see each other. Then comes last Sunday, I say to her I want us to see each other alone and she seems ok with it but plans change later that day so we go to the restaurant with two friends. After that we agree to meet up at my place later so when im alone with my ''gf'' I ask her if something's wrong and she says she only needs time to think if she really wants to be engaged in a relationship in the long term but she says she still wants it to work with me. So im starting to have a bad feeling about this and i was right since when she got back home that night she texts me she wants to stop the relationship there since she was starting to see me more as a friend ( Was acting less BF-like because when she got a bit distant i feeled like i rushed her a bit.). So T-misc. I just got into that friendzone but not too deep, is there a way to get her back???[/QUOTE]
Same exact thing happened to me. One of,the best girls I've met. Said fuk the bish and moved,on. Plenty of girls out there ill find better.
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Hey guys. I know this says girl help, and I'm a girl, but I need some GUY help. Hopefully you guys won't get too mad at me posting this. :o Idk if there is a guy help on the female misc but I really want teen guys opinions on this.
Anyways about three weeks ago one of my friend's "boy toy" texted her and he asked her if her, him, me, and a friend of his wanted to go to beach and hang out. She asked him about the friend and he found me on instagram and thought I was cute.
Well even though he found me on instagram he didn't follow me or anything. So I followed him and then he followed me back. I liked a picture of him and then when I posted a selfie he liked that. My friend told me to get his number from her boy toy and but I didn't want to do that. I decided to add him on Facebook. He accepted, but I got no messages, comments, likes, etc.
It's been about 2 weeks or so since he accepted my request and he hasn't liked any of my other instagram pictures and he hasn't posted any of his own. So we've had no "activity" between each other since then.
So I'm honestly confused. He said I was cute and wanted to hang at the beach with me, my friend, and his friend, but I had to do all the work. I feel like if he really was interested in me he would have gotten my number from his friend or at least messaged me on FB or commented on one of my instagram pics.
So should I just move on? Or should I message him on Facebook or something? I don't want to come off as desperate or creepy though...
I know I probably should just move on, but sadly not many guys think I'm cute and want to hang at the beach with me. And this guy is pretty cute and I don't want to blow any chance I might have at a relationship or getting to know a new guy just because I don't want to come off as desperate or creepy haha.
What do you guys think about this whole situation?
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[QUOTE=crazygal17;1104608303]Hey guys. I know this says girl help, and I'm a girl, but I need some GUY help. Hopefully you guys won't get too mad at me posting this. :o Idk if there is a guy help on the female misc but I really want teen guys opinions on this.
Anyways about three weeks ago one of my friend's "boy toy" texted her and he asked her if her, him, me, and a friend of his wanted to go to beach and hang out. She asked him about the friend and he found me on instagram and thought I was cute.
Well even though he found me on instagram he didn't follow me or anything. So I followed him and then he followed me back. I liked a picture of him and then when I posted a selfie he liked that. My friend told me to get his number from her boy toy and but I didn't want to do that. I decided to add him on Facebook. He accepted, but I got no messages, comments, likes, etc.
It's been about 2 weeks or so since he accepted my request and he hasn't liked any of my other instagram pictures and he hasn't posted any of his own. So we've had no "activity" between each other since then.
So I'm honestly confused. He said I was cute and wanted to hang at the beach with me, my friend, and his friend, but I had to do all the work. I feel like if he really was interested in me he would have gotten my number from his friend or at least messaged me on FB or commented on one of my instagram pics.
So should I just move on? Or should I message him on Facebook or something? I don't want to come off as desperate or creepy though...
I know I probably should just move on, but sadly not many guys think I'm cute and want to hang at the beach with me. And this guy is pretty cute and I don't want to blow any chance I might have at a relationship or getting to know a new guy just because I don't want to come off as desperate or creepy haha.
What do you guys think about this whole situation?[/QUOTE]
Likely you're just overthinking it. If you haven't even met the guy yet (seems like you didn't end up going to the beach?), there's nothing to go on. Talk to him.
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So this isn't about a girl I like, it's just a really close friend who's started acting like a complete and total bitch for no apparent reason.
It started with another friend, call her A. She recently broke up with a guy after 3 years, and I found out said guy was fooling around with A's best friend. I used to be tight with the guy but not so much anymore after a few dick moves. I didn't want to tell A right away, so I told her twin sister, B, who I'm also really close to. B was shocked, and didn't know what to do. I asked her not to tell anyone yet, because I wanted to get A's best friend to admit it to her so that she'd feel a bit better.
Instead, B can't keep it in and goes and tells a common friend of mine and hers, call her C. C and I have been really tight, like extremely close. She recently broke up too and I was there for her throughout, through all the cutting and ridiculous amounts of weed she's been smoking, helping her put her life back together. It's been like a year since I've been close to her and I took more care of her than you would a baby.
So I'm a little pissed, because C is very emotional and I expected her to tell A right away about her ex and best friend. I told B that she'd made the wrong move. C read that message and thought that I considered her to be stupid and a blabbermouth, when all I said was 'you shouldn't have told C, she's going to tell A soon.' And she did, btw.
So I let it go. I wasn't planning to apologize when she was overreacting like this. After a week of giving her space, I spoke to her today. She was like, 'You don't care enough to try and sort it out with me. You think you're right, so you don't mean your apology. I'm not forgiving a guy's ego again, like I did for 8 months with my ex."
So I sarcastically said, "Yeah, and who helped you through that with your sanity intact?"
And after that she's not talking to me, saying we're 'done'.
What the ****? Seriously? People just forget **** you do for them so easily? I'm in half a mind to never help anyone again. Jesus Christ, I feel like snapping every dumbbell in my gym.
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[QUOTE=ardee2124;1104609563]Likely you're just overthinking it. If you haven't even met the guy yet (seems like you didn't end up going to the beach?), there's nothing to go on. Talk to him.[/QUOTE]
Yeah I tend to do that. :o And yeah we never went to the beach. I guess I might as well talk to him then...should I message him on Facebook or get his number from my friend's boy toy?
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[QUOTE=crazygal17;1104612643]Yeah I tend to do that. :o And yeah we never went to the beach. I guess I might as well talk to him then...should I message him on Facebook or get his number from my friend's boy toy?[/QUOTE]Don't be insecure i bet you look cute as he said.
Now firstly as a girl you shouldn't really follow a guy on instagram and then add him on fb and stuff it makes u seem kinda over attached to him since u didn't even talk and stuff, did u meet him on the beach? if so talk to him on fb but if he reply with just short answers and seem blunt leave it.
You should make him go after you not the opposite, and don't rush being in a relation it will happen in the right time.
You can ask your friend to maybe like set something up so you would both hang out in a group or something.
a little question, what is a "boy toy"
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[QUOTE=ardee2124;1104611123]So this isn't about a girl I like, it's just a really close friend who's started acting like a complete and total bitch for no apparent reason.
It started with another friend, call her A. She recently broke up with a guy after 3 years, and I found out said guy was fooling around with A's best friend. I used to be tight with the guy but not so much anymore after a few dick moves. I didn't want to tell A right away, so I told her twin sister, B, who I'm also really close to. B was shocked, and didn't know what to do. I asked her not to tell anyone yet, because I wanted to get A's best friend to admit it to her so that she'd feel a bit better.
Instead, B can't keep it in and goes and tells a common friend of mine and hers, call her C. C and I have been really tight, like extremely close. She recently broke up too and I was there for her throughout, through all the cutting and ridiculous amounts of weed she's been smoking, helping her put her life back together. It's been like a year since I've been close to her and I took more care of her than you would a baby.
So I'm a little pissed, because C is very emotional and I expected her to tell A right away about her ex and best friend. I told B that she'd made the wrong move. C read that message and thought that I considered her to be stupid and a blabbermouth, when all I said was 'you shouldn't have told C, she's going to tell A soon.' And she did, btw.
So I let it go. I wasn't planning to apologize when she was overreacting like this. After a week of giving her space, I spoke to her today. She was like, 'You don't care enough to try and sort it out with me. You think you're right, so you don't mean your apology. I'm not forgiving a guy's ego again, like I did for 8 months with my ex."
So I sarcastically said, "Yeah, and who helped you through that with your sanity intact?"
And after that she's not talking to me, saying we're 'done'.
What the ****? Seriously? People just forget **** you do for them so easily? I'm in half a mind to never help anyone again. Jesus Christ, I feel like snapping every dumbbell in my gym.[/QUOTE]
Damn you got a lot to learn....
Rule #1: Girls can't hold secrets more than 48 hours, i don't care how nice they are they just can't as you can't take a bullet to the head and live they can't keep a secret.
Rule #2: If you know something bad that is happening to a girl go tell her directly not her friends or she will hate you forever
Rule #3: Never talk bad about a girl infront of her good/best friends cuz she will know and she probably too your msgs as that u meant she is not trustworthy
Apologize to C and A and tell A you were just worried about her and scared of her reaction and how she would feel.
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[QUOTE=cuzimjj;1102435083]Hate when that happens. Had a convo today that just dropped off randomly. Just can't take it seriously. Keep truckin, don't look for something that isn't there. Know what I mean bros?[/QUOTE]
Yeah I know exactly what you mean! Haha
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[QUOTE=wedo3;1104713193]Damn you got a lot to learn....
Rule #1: Girls can't hold secrets more than 48 hours, i don't care how nice they are they just can't as you can't take a bullet to the head and live they can't keep a secret.
Rule #2: If you know something bad that is happening to a girl go tell her directly not her friends or she will hate you forever
Rule #3: Never talk bad about a girl infront of her good/best friends cuz she will know and she probably too your msgs as that u meant she is not trustworthy
Apologize to C and A and tell A you were just worried about her and scared of her reaction and how she would feel.[/QUOTE]
1. It wasn't meant to be for more than a couple of hours until we got ahold of the ex's new f-buddy and made her tell A herself.
2. I thought about that, but came to the conclusion it'd be best coming from the friend who was actually doing the cheating, A's best friend/ex's f-buddy.
3. I didn't say anything bad at all. All I said was that she shouldn't have told C anything because she can't keep her yap shut about stuff like this.
I don't have a problem with A and B, they're taking my side, they know I didn't say anything wrong, and C is overreacting like crazy.
C only found out because she was going through B's phone while B was in the bathroom.
I tried an apology but she thinks I don't 'mean' it. Why? I apologized after the incident but she didn't reply. Gave her space for a few days and tried again. Now she's saying I should've kept trying, and because I waited I 'don't care'. Wtf?
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QUICK QIESTION FOR YOU ALL ...
how would you approach making new friends (srs)
how would you approach find a new girlfriend, when you lost alot of freinds and your gf over some stupid chit ?
the one thing i know is the harder you try the less it all happens in these type of situations imo
thanks all
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[QUOTE=ShreddedBrahhh;1105655823]QUICK QIESTION FOR YOU ALL ...
how would you approach making new friends (srs)
how would you approach find a new girlfriend, when you lost alot of freinds and your gf over some stupid chit ?
the one thing i know is the harder you try the less it all happens in these type of situations imo
thanks all[/QUOTE]
Well you go to the gym and probably college and stuff, so just start a conversation with the guy next to you or something, for example in the gym just ask him about an exercise or just talk about anything gym or fitness related, ask him how long he has been lifting. I talked to those 2 guys like once about why they use protein shakes and we are pretty much friends since then and the help me with doing stuff correct form and spot me and stuff.
In college and other places just find a topic related to the place not that hard, don't try hard and over do it and get nervous just when you find someone who is cool and stuff for u the conversation will flow and you will be friends.
For gf just like talk to a couple of girls and stuff, since u had a gf before u should be good at this, then ask them out lol
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[QUOTE=ShreddedBrahhh;1105655823]QUICK QIESTION FOR YOU ALL ...
how would you approach making new friends (srs)
how would you approach find a new girlfriend, when you lost alot of freinds and your gf over some stupid chit ?
the one thing i know is the harder you try the less it all happens in these type of situations imo
thanks all[/QUOTE]
If you live in a small town, it sucks. Try new activities or things to get you up and out. You're gonna have to take the first step.
I had a bro for years and years and we stopped being friends midway through my senior year. This guy was like my best friend of all time and I didn't have anyone half as close. Fortunately, I had some people who I would hang out with time to time.
Then, I signed up for college courses this summer (yeah I'm a try hard when it comes to school). But, I met a bunch of new people and made a handful of friends instantly. The truth is, you have to be outgoing, smile a lot, and joke around.
You're gonna have to look outside of your current situation for a girlfriend. If you join something new, just stay calm, smile, take it easy. If you smile at a girl and she smiles back, introduce yourself, compliment her. After talking a bit, get her number.
You gotta feel the vibe of the situation. If it's light and fun, be light and fun. If it's casual, be casual. If it's serious, be serious. You don't have to NOT try hard, just make sure the things you say aren't out of place and don't rush to do things.
And most importantly, don't take things personally or too hard. There are going to be dead ends and failed attempts, but they're all gonna lead you to where you wana be. So keep your head up bro. We're all gonna make it, brah.
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Just wondering how i can get a bit more confident with girls, never really been confident with them at all :(
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[QUOTE=Louhetherington;1105818493]Just wondering how i can get a bit more confident with girls, never really been confident with them at all :([/QUOTE]
i used to be chronically shy. to the point where i was kept back when i was in primary school (elementary school or something i guess for americans?). im just a person that naturally doesnt say things i guess. the way i started was making myself go out with the boys to parties and just talking to anyone. its not hard, they're all drunk as fuk and dont care what you say. just laugh and be normal i guess.
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Hey brahs. Last night my buddies parents had a party, and I met this girl there. She was pretty awesome, and we talked for a while, but she had to leave really quickly and I never got a chance to get her number. When I woke up this morning I saw that she followed me on twitter. I HATE talking to ppl over social media, but do you think it would be okay if I sent her a private message or something? If so what should it say? Mealie reps for help! Thanks!
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[QUOTE=bigfluffy29;1106111733]Hey brahs. Last night my buddies parents had a party, and I met this girl there. She was pretty awesome, and we talked for a while, but she had to leave really quickly and I never got a chance to get her number. When I woke up this morning I saw that she followed me on twitter. I HATE talking to ppl over social media, but do you think it would be okay if I sent her a private message or something? If so what should it say? Mealie reps for help! Thanks![/QUOTE]Dude why are u even nervous? she followed you on twitter, what more sign do you want? a french kiss? xD
Dude ofc it's normal to msg her and follow her back if you want.
Msg her saying her i didn't get a chance to get your number and stuff last night or like hey had great time with you at that party you are pretty cool wanna hang out? or whatever you wanna tell her lol she won't bite.
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[QUOTE=Louhetherington;1105818493]Just wondering how i can get a bit more confident with girls, never really been confident with them at all :([/QUOTE]
Assuming you're confident enough around guys, just think of them in a similar way. They aren't out to make you feel bad or make you feel awkward and they are probably just as nervous as you at times.
Tell yourself that they like you and you'll start to believe in yourself.
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[QUOTE=bigfluffy29;1106111733]Hey brahs. Last night my buddies parents had a party, and I met this girl there. She was pretty awesome, and we talked for a while, but she had to leave really quickly and I never got a chance to get her number. When I woke up this morning I saw that she followed me on twitter. I HATE talking to ppl over social media, but do you think it would be okay if I sent her a private message or something? If so what should it say? Mealie reps for help! Thanks![/QUOTE]
You could message her to ask for her number if you'd prefer to text/call her then ask her to meet up with you.
It's always 100x better seeing them in person so do so ASAP if you can then they won't lose interest or forget about you.
