Official T-Misc Girl Help Thread

[QUOTE=wedo3;1097463643]Call her duh?
If she txts u first then it's cool, about slow txts she could be busy honestly i used to think same as u untill i was quite busy sometime and my crush was txting me and i was taking like lots of time to reply and was like dafaq so it's not what i though, really call her, ask her to hang out and stuff even if she is shy if u talk to her well and be a gentleman and take her slowly she will agree, gl mate.[/QUOTE]
Thanks brah
It's just that she's in a completely different friends group, so it's going to be tricky
On the point of texts, she barely responds to her friends either, so it's not just me
Known her for about 8 months now, and she's NEVER started an in person convo with me. She'll speak in person, but i have to start it. However she starts convos over txt and crap...
She's the perfect girl and she's unobtainable...
Just going to go for it soon...

[QUOTE=JNicko;1097467523]Thanks brah
It's just that she's in a completely different friends group, so it's going to be tricky
On the point of texts, she barely responds to her friends either, so it's not just me
Known her for about 8 months now, and she's NEVER started an in person convo with me. She'll speak in person, but i have to start it. However she starts convos over txt and crap...
She's the perfect girl and she's unobtainable...
Just going to go for it soon...[/QUOTE]
I am a guy and until i became 17 i used to chat with girls over fb but always wait for them to start a convo when it's in person cuz i was and still so shy, she likes u u just make her feel comfortable around u and that she can tell u anything and approache her slowly and she will ease up gl.

Does anyone here have experiences of girls genuinely playing hard to get... As in, you ended up with them afterwards?

If so, please tell.

[QUOTE=JNicko;1097458163]Haven't had a girlfriend in two years, or a female companion... So, i looked around to see who i could talk to. There's a girl i've pretty much never spoken to, and she's shy as fuark. We have the same classes, so, i spark up convo on the al' facebook, you know, asking what the homework was, when i already knew... So, it went from there, we spoke til' stupid hours, she'd pop up, i'd pop up, and then one day her FB went. Thought she did it to ditch me, so i didn't speak to her for about three months. She's so shy it's unreal, so i couldn't really approach in person, i didn't want to scare her away... So, we had a school trip to Switzerland and i tried to make convo. It went from there, and after three days, we were inseparable... Tells me of her last boyfriend, says he's creepy, that she'd never start a convo with someone she doesn't like, because of not wanting to talk and leading on... Ended up with her in her bed, and nothing happened. Get home, and all goes back to normal... I buy a phone, i didn't have one and she's always told me to get one to text... Get her number, speak to her, she's so slow to reply with minimal effort... She says hey first sometimes, so yeah, if what she said on holiday is true, she likes talking... Finished school, probably wont see her again... Feels bad...

>No female companions
>Talk to shy girl
>Get really into talking with her over months
>Blocks FB
>Speak to months later - get number
>Finished school, wont see again unless i go out with her
>wut do?[/QUOTE]

Some people are really social and others aren't. Chances are, you just need to go for it. Ask her to go out for something simple like coffee or something else. Have maybe a couple friends with you too. (Not just guys though) If she doesn't even want to, then don't push too hard.

I have a friend who became pretty good friends with this one girl and they would talk a lot in their study hall. He ended up asking to hang and she ended up thinking he was creepy. He's happier now with a girlfriend because he was introduced to someone.

Keep the standards strong. Have friends help you out. Don't stick to one girl because you don't think you can get better. Also, be careful because sh*t like that could hurt your game since she might not even respond to the right things.

[QUOTE=livingforlean;1097747173]Does anyone here have experiences of girls genuinely playing hard to get... As in, you ended up with them afterwards?

If so, please tell.[/QUOTE]
I do but it was pain in the ass till i got with her

[QUOTE=wedo3;1097753363]I do but it was pain in the ass till i got with her[/QUOTE]

How was she doing it?

[QUOTE=livingforlean;1097778073]How was she doing it?[/QUOTE]Being a bitch sometimes, and acting like she is not interested sometimes even tho she likes me and ****.

[QUOTE=wedo3;1097789623]Being a bitch sometimes, and acting like she is not interested sometimes even tho she likes me and ****.[/QUOTE]

At least you're with her now.

How did you do it?

[QUOTE=livingforlean;1097795373]At least you're with her now.

How did you do it?[/QUOTE]
Stopped chasing after her and showed her who is the boss haha, when she gets cocky ignored her a bit and stuff and like said stuff that made her feel like i know other girls etc also she found out that her best friend likes me but that wasn't the point just dont give her too much attention and he nice and alpha

[QUOTE=wedo3;1097899743]Stopped chasing after her and showed her who is the boss haha, when she gets cocky ignored her a bit and stuff and like said stuff that made her feel like i know other girls etc also she found out that her best friend likes me but that wasn't the point just dont give her too much attention and he nice and alpha[/QUOTE]

Thanks mate.

I'm in this kind of situation because a girl I like thinks she's won me and now seems to now believe she can do what she likes... Like she's playing games. Gonna cut her off for a bit and see if she changes, to find out if it is the case tgat she's just playing hard to get, haha.

So this girl that I've known and haven't seen for a while (we're friends but not really, I try not to become friends with some girls for obvious reasons) comes up to me in the hall of my HS one day and is like

Her: "OMG. ___ is that you? You're arms are huge!"
*starts feeling me up. she's a touchy girl.
Me: "Aha thanks, yeah I've been working out for a bit"
Her: "Wow that's crazy"

This convo basically ended there...her just repeating "that's crazy" a few times and me smiling and saying thanks. I felt pretty good after, not gonna lie, but did I miss something? What does a girl mean when they say something like that?

[QUOTE=livingforlean;1097747173]Does anyone here have experiences of girls genuinely playing hard to get... As in, you ended up with them afterwards?

If so, please tell.[/QUOTE]

Me. This girl use to play hard to get on me little did I know she was just being a bish and making fun of me with her friends. That went on for months maybe even a year considering it was on and off thing. Needless to say I'm going out and has been the last 3 weeks, still have some problems with her but I know she likes me especially since she's ditched those friends.

[QUOTE=vDa;1097436933]I don't usually post but I kinda like this chick in my gym and don't wanna f*** things up. She is an older girl, probably around 28yo.

So backstory: I've been working out at a new gym (for like 3-4 weeks) saw her a couple of times and she caught me checking her out. Few days go by etc Iive seen her again and we exchanged couple of looks.
So anyway i was working out the other day and she approached me and started talking, she told me that I look like someone she saw in a nearby city's gym (basically an opener) I wasn't paying alot of attention honestly didn't really expect her to come over and talk to me. I was getting my heavy shoulder presses in lol and was out of breath.

So chit chat and small talk, and she introduced herself then I did. And then basically we said "have a good workout".

So next time I see her, Im obviosuly going to say hi, but in all honesty I have no clue on what to do after.
Should I find out if she is single, maybe ask her out? Or is that too soon too fast? I don't want to say or do anything stupid that will mess up my chances. Usually I never really talked to chicks in the gym, for me its a weird atmosphere for some reason.
I also am kinda ****ty at making small talk, and usually not really good as things to say "on the fly" so to speak.

REPS for help/answers fellow miscers
thanks![/QUOTE]

Stats: 6'2, 228lbs. lol wut, just go ask her if you could squat/bench her.


notsrs, like what WhiteKoala said. Approach her next time, have a small chat(must be, especially because you're in the gym) and try get her number. After that just text her/call her. If it goes great you then proceed to ask her out. Best of luck man!

[QUOTE=Fakunkish;1098484003]So this girl that I've known and haven't seen for a while (we're friends but not really, I try not to become friends with some girls for obvious reasons) comes up to me in the hall of my HS one day and is like

Her: "OMG. ___ is that you? You're arms are huge!"
*starts feeling me up. she's a touchy girl.
Me: "Aha thanks, yeah I've been working out for a bit"
Her: "Wow that's crazy"

This convo basically ended there...her just repeating "that's crazy" a few times and me smiling and saying thanks. I felt pretty good after, not gonna lie, but did I miss something? What does a girl mean when they say something like that?[/QUOTE]
......Dude she is into you and trying to make a conversation......you can't just say "ohh thanks, thanks, haha thanks,............" compliment her back and tart talking to her duh!

Well, a few days ago I went to the beach with some friends. We met up with a bunch of my friends' (girl) friends from his old school - he moved here a few months ago. They were all girls and mostly talked between each other, although I managed to talk for a few minutes with them while 2 of my friends played football, leaving me and the kid who knew them sitting there. Three of the girls there were pretty, one more than the others but she was all over my friend the whole time so I couldn't talk to her, but I talked with this girl for a few minutes until she had to leave. So we all left within a few minutes of each other, and us guys talked about who was the hottest girl there - my friend who knew them all told me the third cute girl said I was cute... Problem is I barely know her LOL. What should I do? Hope we go to the beach with them again and try to hit it off with at least one of them? I feel I would be able to with more time, but don't feel like asking my friend "You wanna go to the beach with your (girl) friends again?". Should I reactivate my Facebook and message them on there? Wut do tmisc?

EDIT: He told me she said I was cute after they left us, I most likely would have said something if he told me earlier to her haha

[QUOTE=Achieving;1100451903]Well, a few days ago I went to the beach with some friends. We met up with a bunch of my friends' (girl) friends from his old school - he moved here a few months ago. They were all girls and mostly talked between each other, although I managed to talk for a few minutes with them while 2 of my friends played football, leaving me and the kid who knew them sitting there. Three of the girls there were pretty, one more than the others but she was all over my friend the whole time so I couldn't talk to her, but I talked with this girl for a few minutes until she had to leave. So we all left within a few minutes of each other, and us guys talked about who was the hottest girl there - my friend who knew them all told me the third cute girl said I was cute... Problem is I barely know her LOL. What should I do? Hope we go to the beach with them again and try to hit it off with at least one of them? I feel I would be able to with more time, but don't feel like asking my friend "You wanna go to the beach with your (girl) friends again?". Should I reactivate my Facebook and message them on there? Wut do tmisc?

EDIT: He told me she said I was cute after they left us, I most likely would have said something if he told me earlier to her haha[/QUOTE] Ask your friend for her number

[QUOTE=Achieving;1100451903]Well, a few days ago I went to the beach with some friends. We met up with a bunch of my friends' (girl) friends from his old school - he moved here a few months ago. They were all girls and mostly talked between each other, although I managed to talk for a few minutes with them while 2 of my friends played football, leaving me and the kid who knew them sitting there. Three of the girls there were pretty, one more than the others but she was all over my friend the whole time so I couldn't talk to her, but I talked with this girl for a few minutes until she had to leave. So we all left within a few minutes of each other, and us guys talked about who was the hottest girl there - my friend who knew them all told me the third cute girl said I was cute... Problem is I barely know her LOL. What should I do? Hope we go to the beach with them again and try to hit it off with at least one of them? I feel I would be able to with more time, but [B]don't feel like asking my friend "You wanna go to the beach with your (girl) friends again?"[/B]. Should I reactivate my Facebook and message them on there? Wut do tmisc?

EDIT: He told me she said I was cute after they left us, I most likely would have said something if he told me earlier to her haha[/QUOTE]

Why's that brah?

If you can't meet her again in that environment then either get her Facebook or her number from your buddy and talk to her for a while. Arrange to meet up again. She thinks you're cute, thinks you're making an effort. You're in there brah.

[QUOTE=ghjk24;1100609743]Ask your friend for her number[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=Bugler666;1100626713]Why's that brah?

If you can't meet her again in that environment then either get her Facebook or her number from your buddy and talk to her for a while. Arrange to meet up again. She thinks you're cute, thinks you're making an effort. You're in there brah.[/QUOTE]

My friends one of those kids who will randomly blurt things out which is why I wouldn't want to say that to him lol. We might go to the beach again soon, I'll see if she shows up - if not I'll add her on FB and take it from there.

[QUOTE=Achieving;1100686743]My friends one of those kids who will randomly blurt things out which is why I wouldn't want to say that to him lol. We might go to the beach again soon, I'll see if she shows up - if not I'll add her on FB and take it from there.[/QUOTE]

Facebook should not be underestimated as a tool, however it shouldn't be your primary tool. Just a heads up. Several of my friends have made that mistake.

Ive liked this girl and in recent days have had simple convo's about random stuff over facebook. She recently told me about another guy who constantly messages her and how it annoys her. I dont want to end up like this guy but i still want to chat to her. Im not sure what she thinks about me tbh and i want to get to know her better but i dont know how to exactly start the conversations and stuff plus i dont want to get annoying. Any help Brahs?

[QUOTE=MMatt2012;1100998573]Ive liked this girl and in recent days have had simple convo's about random stuff over facebook. She recently told me about another guy who constantly messages her and how it annoys her. I dont want to end up like this guy but i still want to chat to her. Im not sure what she thinks about me tbh and i want to get to know her better but i dont know how to exactly start the conversations and stuff plus i dont want to get annoying. Any help Brahs?[/QUOTE]

You absolutely reek of insecurity. Don't worry about it.

Ask to play a game with her next time you're talking with her. The game is she can ask you any question she wants and you have to answer honestly. After her question you get to ask her. It's a really good way to talk with girls. Should help you to get some conversation going.

Secret is though mate, you have to actually meet up with her. Don't be a total creep and talk to her entirely online. Once you get to know her a bit ask if she wants to meet up - then you know where you stand :P

[QUOTE=Bugler666;1101190763]You absolutely reek of insecurity. Don't worry about it.

Ask to play a game with her next time you're talking with her. The game is she can ask you any question she wants and you have to answer honestly. After her question you get to ask her. It's a really good way to talk with girls. Should help you to get some conversation going.

Secret is though mate, you have to actually meet up with her. Don't be a total creep and talk to her entirely online. Once you get to know her a bit ask if she wants to meet up - then you know where you stand :P[/QUOTE]

This advice wasnt for me, but that "game" thing failed haha.

Was going well (as it usually does and has been for quite a while now) then that caused her to instantly stop replying!

Hahaha.

[QUOTE=livingforlean;1101588213]This advice wasnt for me, but that "game" thing failed haha.

Was going well (as it usually does and has been for quite a while now) then that caused her to instantly stop replying!

Hahaha.[/QUOTE]

You serious?

Man... That game has worked really well for me and a couple of my mates. We all rave about it.

[QUOTE=Bugler666;1101711883]You serious?

Man... That game has worked really well for me and a couple of my mates. We all rave about it.[/QUOTE]

It might work with other girls... Maybe depends on what their personalities are like.

What sort of questions would you ask if you're doing it yourself?

[QUOTE=livingforlean;1101736803]It might work with other girls... Maybe depends on what their personalities are like.

What sort of questions would you ask if you're doing it yourself?[/QUOTE]

Start off with friendly general questions and try to learn things about them

"what are you most afraid of?"

"which was your favorite year in high school and why?"

"your house is burning down, everyone got out okay but you only have time to save 3 things. What would those things be?"

"best day of your life so far?"

Progress slightly...

"what would your ideal date consist of"

^useful chit for later on right there

Eventually you can ask about just about anything. I played this game with my current girlfriend when we were getting to know each other. Worked really well for me. Sorry it didn't work out for you :(

[QUOTE=Bugler666;1101870653]Start off with friendly general questions and try to learn things about them

"what are you most afraid of?"

"which was your favorite year in high school and why?"

"your house is burning down, everyone got out okay but you only have time to save 3 things. What would those things be?"

"best day of your life so far?"

Progress slightly...

"what would your ideal date consist of"

^useful chit for later on right there

Eventually you can ask about just about anything. I played this game with my current girlfriend when we were getting to know each other. Worked really well for me. Sorry it didn't work out for you :([/QUOTE]

Thanks, and I take back what I said...

She just messaged me saying "I want to play that game tonight", haha!

[QUOTE=livingforlean;1101879913]Thanks, and I take back what I said...

She just messaged me saying "I want to play that game tonight", haha![/QUOTE]

Good bro. Just make sure you don't interrogate her. Build off each question as much as you can because usually entire conversations can come from one small question. Good luck dude

[QUOTE=cuzimjj;1101886243]Good bro. Just make sure you don't interrogate her. Build off each question as much as you can because usually entire conversations can come from one small question. Good luck dude[/QUOTE]

Yep! Cheers.

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[QUOTE=Bugler666;1101190763]You absolutely reek of insecurity. Don't worry about it.

Ask to play a game with her next time you're talking with her. The game is she can ask you any question she wants and you have to answer honestly. After her question you get to ask her. It's a really good way to talk with girls. Should help you to get some conversation going.

Secret is though mate, you have to actually meet up with her. Don't be a total creep and talk to her entirely online. Once you get to know her a bit ask if she wants to meet up - then you know where you stand :P[/QUOTE]

I see and talk to her at parties and chit but im just not sure what she thinks about me thats the problem. I want to know whether or not im wasting my time or not haha