Official T-Misc Girl Help Thread

Got dumped last night over a text. Feels like ****, it took me completely by surprise, especially considering I only got some bull**** reason. Literally 2 hours before she dumped me she was talking about what we were going to do for prom. Yet she said she had been thinking about it for awhile. Can barely even talk to my friends, because they have been acting flaky as **** recently. They barely invite me to parties, and just to hang out anymore. I can't wait until university to get out of this town, or maybe just joining the military when I turn 17.

[QUOTE=canuckkid;991273843]Got dumped last night over a text. Feels like ****, it took me completely by surprise, especially considering I only got some bull**** reason. Literally 2 hours before she dumped me she was talking about what we were going to do for prom. Yet she said she had been thinking about it for awhile. Can barely even talk to my friends, because they have been acting flaky as **** recently. They barely invite me to parties, and just to hang out anymore. I can't wait until university to get out of this town, or maybe just joining the military when I turn 17.[/QUOTE]

literally. the exact same thing happened to me when I was 16. A few weeks later I found out he had been hooking up with someone else. The people I was friends with are long gone (thank god), and I haven't talked to my ex since. Until last year I was still upset about it til I realized how great life was without them. Look at it as a blessing in disguise. If people are flaking, you don't need them in your life. If she can't give you a real reason, she's not worth it either.

Keep in mind that girl's minds are whacked. Guys hormones control their minds in terms of sex, and I think that girls hormones simply make them psychotic. They're indecisive and never pleased. Focus on bettering your life. High school is a time to grow and find yourself, don't let some girl inhibit that.

[QUOTE=fit4aprincess;991283773]literally. the exact same thing happened to me when I was 16. A few weeks later I found out he had been hooking up with someone else. The people I was friends with are long gone (thank god), and I haven't talked to my ex since. Until last year I was still upset about it til I realized how great life was without them. Look at it as a blessing in disguise. If people are flaking, you don't need them in your life. If she can't give you a real reason, she's not worth it either.

Keep in mind that girl's minds are whacked. Guys hormones control their minds in terms of sex, and I think that girls hormones simply make them psychotic. They're indecisive and never pleased. Focus on bettering your life. High school is a time to grow and find yourself, don't let some girl inhibit that.[/QUOTE]

strong opinions. i'd never cheat on you ;-)

[QUOTE=grux12;990804393]It's only weird if you think it's weird. Find an innocent reason to get to know her. For instance, is she in any clubs? You might consider joining one of them. If she's a tutor or something, pretend you need a little help with something, then break the ice. How? Well, contrary to popular belief, pick up lines [I]do[/I] work, but really only if they're super-corny and the delivery is right. My absolute favorite pick-up line to use with girls I have a rapport with is called "the bunny story":



This pickup line is GOAT, and since it's corny and funny, if this girl has [I]any[/I] sense of humor at all, she'll find it endearing.

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That pickup line is pretty hilarious and awesome, Id rep but im red:(

[QUOTE=jz416;991315923]That pickup line is pretty hilarious and awesome, Id rep but im red:([/QUOTE]

What you talkin' bout? You're green. <3 ;)

[QUOTE=canuckkid;991273843]Got dumped last night over a text. Feels like ****, it took me completely by surprise, especially considering I only got some bull**** reason. Literally 2 hours before she dumped me she was talking about what we were going to do for prom. Yet she said she had been thinking about it for awhile. Can barely even talk to my friends, because they have been acting flaky as **** recently. They barely invite me to parties, and just to hang out anymore. I can't wait until university to get out of this town, or maybe just joining the military when I turn 17.[/QUOTE]

Bro look at it from all angles, did you get flakey on your bros to hang out with your gf?
A guy in my group of friends went full retard and just spent time with his gf and never came out for months, now they broke up and he wonders why we dont call him anymore.

Dont be a fair weather friend if thats what you did.

quick question,

is it creepy if I tell my girl she makes me happy?

[QUOTE=Mr.Lmnop;991319893]What you talkin' bout? You're green. <3 ;)[/QUOTE]
A very awesome person came and repped me, and i have now repped grux.

[QUOTE=livetoplay396;991324573]quick question,

is it creepy if I tell my girl she makes me happy?[/QUOTE]

why would you need to tell her? your actions should show it, and hers should reciprocate that equally.

[QUOTE=livetoplay396;991324573]quick question,

is it creepy if I tell my girl she makes me happy?[/QUOTE]

Only if it's out of the blue or you don't really talk. Wait until the right moment. If she says something that makes you think "this girl makes me smile" then you could say it. I wouldn't recommend randomly sending "you make me happy" though as it might come off weird.

[QUOTE=bogui94;990010133]Where have you been?

@fit, he might be able to save the picture if his phone can take screenshots[/QUOTE]

Didnt see this, I get bored and had college stuff to do, but Im back baby! Christmas hols and all that

[QUOTE=TierAlpha;991326083]why would you need to tell her? your actions should show it, and hers should reciprocate that equally.[/QUOTE]
But still, girls are people too. I'm of the belief that it's not enough to show someone or simply tell them that you love them/they're important to you, you have to do both. You have to make them feel wanted.

inb4 Hunter Hayes

[QUOTE=grux12;991329503]But still, girls are people too. I'm of the belief that it's not enough to show someone or simply tell them that you love them/they're important to you, you have to do both. You have to make them feel wanted.

inb4 Hunter Hayes[/QUOTE]

Yes they are people too, do you tell your best friend, you make me happy?
You just chill with them and its an unspoken truth.

[QUOTE=TierAlpha;991330393]Yes they are people too, do you tell your best friend, you make me happy?
You just chill with them and its an unspoken truth.[/QUOTE]
I often tell my best friend that she's important to me and she makes me happy. Why wouldn't I?

[QUOTE=grux12;991330883]I often tell my best friend that she's important to me and she makes me happy. Why wouldn't I?[/QUOTE]

I meant do you say it to your guy friends if not you are treating her different?

[QUOTE=TierAlpha;991332273]I meant do you say it to your guy friends if not you are treating her different?[/QUOTE]
Would it be bad if I said it to my guy friends? Coincidentally, I do, but not as often.

Regardless, the guy we responded to asked about [I]his[/I] girl, so I assumed he meant his girlfriend, in which case it would be even more appropriate for him to say that she makes him happy. What I'm saying is that you have to both tell someone they're wanted as well as show them. Yes, (s)he should know it without it having to be said, but it still needs to be said.


EDIT: brb eating lunch will continue this later

fit4aprincess, thanks for the candy canes.

[QUOTE=jz416;991374353]fit4aprincess, thanks for the candy canes.[/QUOTE]

hahaha I'm glad you understood. I was unsure whether or not a boy would get that.

[QUOTE=fit4aprincess;991326173]Only if it's out of the blue or you don't really talk. Wait until the right moment. If she says something that makes you think "this girl makes me smile" then you could say it. I wouldn't recommend randomly sending "you make me happy" though as it might come off weird.[/QUOTE]
understood

Ladies and gents, my sports training thread has been stuck. That is all.

[QUOTE=fit4aprincess;991436773]hahaha I'm glad you understood. I was unsure whether or not a boy would get that.[/QUOTE]
tbh, i dont know if i should be emberassed for understanding. haha

[QUOTE=jz416;991469113]tbh, i dont know if i should be emberassed for understanding. haha[/QUOTE]

what was the comment? you didnt quote it.

[QUOTE=TierAlpha;991496423]what was the comment? you didnt quote it.[/QUOTE]

it was a rep

[QUOTE=fit4aprincess;991498113]it was a rep[/QUOTE]

oh, lol. felt like I was unaware of what people had been talking about.

[QUOTE=neverquit2012;990635613]Hey guys,

gotta problem and was wondering if ya'll could help. I know it's long, but my first girlfriend just broke up with me and I could really use some help. Here goes:

8 months ago, I joined a new school. One of the girls in my grade started inviting me to a lot of social events and stuff and hanging around me. After 3 months of getting to know her, i told her i had feelings for her, and she said she had feelings for me too. This was back in June. We entered into a relationship and things were going perfectly. She loved me, her family and friends all loved me, and everyone thought we were a perfect couple. She was my first girlfriend, and the first girl i ever had true feelings for. Well, fast forward to Thanksgiving week. We were at a restaurant, and she suddenly told me outta the blue that "I think you're a great guy, and you're definitely the best guy friend i've ever had. I've kinda lost feelings for you though, and I think we should just be friends from now on. Please know it's not your fault and it's not because of anything you've done. You've been awesome. My feelings have just changed and i'm not sure why".

I went home that night in a daze. I couldn't understand what had happened. JUST THE WEEK BEFORE, she had been telling me how much she liked me and how she was so happy i was her boyfriend. Things had been going perfectly. Then, outta nowhere, she lost feelings for me??? It doesn't make sense. She said I didn't do anything, but i MUST have done SOMETHING. Her feelings couldn't just 'change' like that. The past two weeks have been hell. I've lost 5 pounds, felt sick to my stomach, and dreamed about her every night. Going to school is miserable. Every time i see her i get a lump in my throat and heavy feeling in my chest. I know i need to move on with life and get over it, but I'm struggling.


So my questions are:

1. Should i try and be friends? Seeing her at school hurts so bad, and we haven't really said anything other than 'hi' since the breakup. I'm worried that if i try and be friends with her it's going to make the 'healing' process take longer.
2. Do ya'll really think her feelings just 'changed'? I can't help but think i did something.
3. For you brahs who have been through breakups, how long did it take you to get over it?[/QUOTE]

I know this feel so hard.... sucks brah. take a measly from me. I was in this situation a year ago last month. She had already found another guy and was with him the day after. Oh well, glad it happened though. It really changes you when you know how to deal with it.

1. You can be friends LATER. That's if and ONLY if she tries to be friends first. Like always starting conversation with you and trying to talk to you. Don't even say "hi" in the hallway. I did this and the girl (same as above) brought me to the side one day and said she's sorry if I hated her and all the horrible things she put me through. She was upset that I never even said hi or acknowledged that she existed anymore and how people thought I hate her and such. Felt so damn good hearing that, because that basically meant I won in my mind.
2. I think she may be looking at another guy or her friends stopped liking you. That's the bull**** with highschool girls, if her friends don't like you then she isn't allowed to like you either any more. It's not your fault trust me. You probably did nothing wrong.
3. It took me about a month and a half from girl above (she was leading me on a first still saying she loved me) That girl and I dated for a whole year. Then one day she told me to "**** off" and that's what I did. Idk what happened, but I just snapped and stopped giving a **** all together. I starting making friends with other girls after that and she got pissssssed. lol. Some of which were seniors, while I was a sophomore. Feels so damn good bro when they're mad because you're happy.

[QUOTE=PrinceOfTmisc;990648953]any advice for the shy guys?[/QUOTE]

My advice is to go to a mall with a buddy who isn't shy. (assuming that one of your friends isn't shy) Then have him show you some ropes. I've gotten to the point with some girls where I have said "Hey stand up so that way I can look at your ass." Sadly they normally just laugh hah.

But, you have to just talk. Once you start you have all the power. Make fun of people. Be an *******. It's much more simple than you think. This is coming from a guy to hardly had any friends at one point in time, didn't talk to girls, got great grades. But people naturally like me and I just try to me nicely-mean. As stated above^ this was another time I just snapped and completely changed overnight.

[QUOTE=canuckkid;991273843]Got dumped last night over a text. Feels like ****, it took me completely by surprise, especially considering I only got some bull**** reason. Literally 2 hours before she dumped me she was talking about what we were going to do for prom. Yet she said she had been thinking about it for awhile. Can barely even talk to my friends, because they have been acting flaky as **** recently. They barely invite me to parties, and just to hang out anymore. I can't wait until university to get out of this town, or maybe just joining the military when I turn 17.[/QUOTE]

Read what I said to neverquit2012 if your looking for a bit of advice with the girl. But guy friends tend to flake when stuff goes on with girls because their perception of you changes it seems to me. Look for new friends, only invite the ones places that invite you places. Hopefully you understand what I'm trying to say, I don't know another way to word it.

[QUOTE=livetoplay396;991324573]quick question,

is it creepy if I tell my girl she makes me happy?[/QUOTE]

Not at all. Make sure you say it the right way though.

Already be on the topic of happiness and the just say "yanno what really makes me happy?" "insert her response" "you" *cheeky half smile* then kiss and act like it never happened. srs. works every time lol.

These girls won't get off my nuts.

Help.

[QUOTE=Mr.Lmnop;991654173]These girls won't get off my nuts.

Help.[/QUOTE]

give them my number say its your new number
srs though.

tell them you are now in a relationship. Just dont tell any of them who.

Then you can raom free!

dont tell em who you are dating. Dont give any name. Nothing. Just say you are in a relationship.

[QUOTE=speX94;991655373]give them my number say its your new number
srs though.

tell them you are now in a relationship. Just dont tell any of them who.

Then you can raom free!

dont tell em who you are dating. Dont give any name. Nothing. Just say you are in a relationship.[/QUOTE]

They still persists even if i would tell them i have a girlfriend. Lawl.

[QUOTE=Mr.Lmnop;991654173]These girls won't get off my nuts.

Help.[/QUOTE]

Send them my way ill deal with them accordingly