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[QUOTE=Nistanger;984574643]Lettuce be srs, [b]being yourself doesn't get you the girl you want or the girls you want[/b]. Back when I was younger, I was chubby, no girl was interested in me at all, I was myself and everything, friendzoned beyond repair. Brb, 30 lbs less and being more outgoing/noisy, I'm getting told I'm cute all the time by people who never noticed me before. You have to change yourself to get what you want in life, it's a sad truth.[/QUOTE]
Seriously, do guys only try to be themselves when it comes to getting girls?
The whole point is to do your thing, focus on your goals and the girls will come along. Period.
You guys make it seem like, "i'm going to be myself so i can get girls."
There's nothing wrong with change. But life changes you, you don't change because of life.
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[QUOTE=speX94;984589323]in on this.. but sometimes it just seems so hopeless.[/QUOTE]
Everything takes time, one day there will be that girl that has the same interests as you and you will appreciate what you have a lot more because it will be genuine. It does seem hopeless at times though... But I am willing to wait and find someone who will like my personality.
[QUOTE=Mr.Lmnop;984590253]Seriously, do guys only try to be themselves when it comes to getting girls?
The whole point is to do your thing, focus on your goals and the girls will come along. Period.
You guys make it seem like, "i'm going to be myself so i can get girls."
There's nothing wrong with change. But life changes you, you don't change because of life.[/QUOTE]
^^^ true, we all change over time. Obviously one is not going to have the same personality through their teenage years into their adult years. But you are also right with the fact that we (guys) shouldn't just be ourselves when around or trying to get girls, be yourself around your friends and family also. Repped
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But seriously, you guys are all still young as hell. 15-20 years old, including myself.
If there's one thing i learned about girls is that at this age, they are just a bonus. They aren't a goal, nor are they an obligation.
Sometimes you guys make it seem like you gotta get girls in order to breath, in order to survive on this planet. Yes sure we all crave that love and feel lonely at times, but a girl will not solve that problem.
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[QUOTE=AustinThePirate;984586563]I'd say let her have her moment in the spotlight just for a little bit and be as proud and supportive as you can be. If she continues to sort of put you on the back burner, let her know how you feel, make it known that you do not approve of such conduct. If she doesn't understand, and continues to do it, drop her ass like Sprint drops calls.[/QUOTE]
Hopefully itll fade..but thanks brahs.. We are really really open and she knows exactly how I feel about it all. Thats one great thing we have. Nothing is held back.
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[QUOTE=Mr.Lmnop;984591753]But seriously, you guys are all still young as hell. 15-20 years old, including myself.
If there's one thing i learned about girls is that at this age, they are just a bonus. They aren't a goal, nor are they an obligation.
Sometimes you guys make it seem like you gotta get girls in order to breath, in order to survive on this planet. Yes sure we all crave that love and feel lonely at times, but a girl will not solve that problem.[/QUOTE]
id like to correct you..
in order to survive on this planet, humans must mate.
So yeah in a sense you do need a female to breath.. with that being said..
i just had a Dwight Shrute moment.
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[QUOTE=SDtrucker;984582213]Dear LORD what have I been missing out on! Some good stuff in here guys!
In on ALLL of this guys!
But I do have some questions. (This shizz is serious, and long)
Ive been with my girl for almost 3 years. I met her in the hallway, then facebooked, got her number, txtd. She had a BF but he was a dick and she was in a pretty broken homee. Ide know her a little because we live in a small town. So we keep talking. Been a few weeks and she says "Im dumping ^^^^ today" They were only together 3 months and he was a doushhh
So I do the normal, comfort her whatever. Not even a week later she starts getting really sweet, and we start hanging out. Well we start dating. She comes to church with me, we go everywhere together, she lives a block away. Perfect couple all the way through highschool.
She is super shy, ZERO friends and shows horses. Shes not a 10 but she is good looking and super kind. Couldnt hate a fly. What we have is crazy. I used to be super confident. In us, in myself, in life. I never ever doubted her, or didn't trust her. And she was always looking up to me. Like I was the good looking half and stuff. Then some ugly stuff happened. She was talking to another guy, not like cheating but saying stuff that shouldn't be said when your in a relationship Instantly my trust, confidence, all of that was GONE. And shes gotten so much more beautiful. She is a complete 8-10 now. Much more confident, and getting fairly famous locally. She shows horses all over the country(Horse showing is BS because the more money you spend on the horse the more you win, period.) and she is an oral interp stud. She won a local beauty pagent and getting all kinds of attention. She is competing in a state pagent in january and IDK if we will be able to make it through. I find myself with ZERO trust, and ZERO confidence in myself. Feeling like she is wayy to good for me, and like she fells the same way. Ya know? When she won, and she was up on stage, my blood was BOILING. She promised to come find me right away and I sat there for 30 minutes before I drove home RAGING. That night killed me. So many thoughts were going through my head. "Is she moving on? Are we losing it? Whats going on?"
Any one have any idea whats going on? Any personal experience?
Plz no flaming..[/QUOTE]
I understand what you're going through.
First of all, just know what you're going through is normal. And i'll tell you why. I'm going to assume that you're around my age. Correct me if i'm wrong, sorry.
I'll tell you what happened. Life. People will part for reasons beyond human comprehension but reality is, if you are meant to love each other and be with each other, it will happen. We can't control love no matter how hard we try. It's just one of those things, but we can choose to love again.
Yes, i have experienced this before. I have been left out cold by a girl that was so damn close to my heart. But i learned that everything happens for a reason. And as i grow i learned that whatever reasons she had to leave me cold, it wasn't because of her. It was because of life. It was because that's the way it was supposed to be.
You owe it to yourself to be available for when the right person does come along. Whatever is happening between you and her, it's something you have to accept as hard it may sound. Life just goes on. We have to as well.
And in the end, if she's still around, then well.. she's still around.
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[QUOTE=speX94;984594043]id like to correct you..
in order to survive on this planet, humans must mate.
So yeah in a sense you do need a female to breath.. with that being said..
i just had a Dwight Shrute moment.[/QUOTE]
Lawl you have a point there brah. But you know what i mean. ;)
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[QUOTE=Mr.Lmnop;984595163]I understand what you're going through.
First of all, just know what you're going through is normal. And i'll tell you why. I'm going to assume that you're around my age. Correct me if i'm wrong, sorry.
I'll tell you what happened. Life. People will part for reasons beyond human comprehension but reality is, if you are meant to love each other and be with each other, it will happen. We can't control love no matter how hard we try. It's just one of those things, but we can choose to love again.
Yes, i have experienced this before. I have been left out cold by a girl that was so damn close to my heart. But i learned that everything happens for a reason. And as i grow i learned that whatever reasons she had to leave me cold, it wasn't because of her. It was because of life. It was because that's the way it was supposed to be.
You owe it to yourself to be available for when the right person does come along. Whatever is happening between you and her, it's something you have to accept as hard it may sound. Life just goes on. We have to as well.
And in the end, if she's still around, then well.. she's still around.[/QUOTE]
Wow man. Thanks. Ive been thinking and talking. If we are supposed to be together we will, but at the same time you have to fight for what you want. Ive come to a point(didnt use to feel this way because i do nothing in my life. Work lift hunt have buddies and build cars. No sports activities or any comps and she does and wins all of them) that I am not missing anything else. Im not changing. Im not backing down. Of we work out we work out. If not im going to be proud of myself and the things I do. Something I cant now because i feel shadowed by her. But Ive built a custom rat rod, I started drivin semi when I was 14( no lie), i do so many mechanical things that no 18 year old could ever dream of. So why am i so hard on myself? Is it all because im not as successful as her??
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[QUOTE=SDtrucker;984598163]Wow man. Thanks. Ive been thinking and talking. If we are supposed to be together we will, but at the same time you have to fight for what you want. Ive come to a point(didnt use to feel this way because i do nothing in my life. Work lift hunt have buddies and build cars. No sports activities or any comps and she does and wins all of them) that I am not missing anything else. Im not changing. Im not backing down. Of we work out we work out. If not im going to be proud of myself and the things I do. Something I cant now because i feel shadowed by her. But Ive built a custom rat rod, I started drivin semi when I was 14( no lie), i do so many mechanical things that no 18 year old could ever dream of. So why am i so hard on myself? Is it all because im not as successful as her??[/QUOTE]
Yeah, i think what you're feeling is belittled. You feel almost intimidated. You feel that her success is greater than the success of your own. You're putting yourself in the position where you feel like in order for this feeling to go away, you need to be on the same level as her. But that's just what it is, a feeling.
What you're doing is amazing. You don't seem lazy, you're taking control of your life, that's solid right there. I wish i knew more about cars like you did.
I'm sure you care about her, and i'm damn sure she cares about you. It's like that saying, "if you love someone, set them free, if they come back, they're yours."
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[QUOTE=tehblasian;984587413]Better to be yourself and to find someone who will like you for "you" rather than be something you're not and have someone like you for that false persona.
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This could not be more accurate.
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[QUOTE=tehblasian;984587413]Better to be yourself and to find someone who will like you for "you" rather than be something you're not and have someone like you for that false persona.
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This is true! So many girl like me cuz of my physique or my money.. Always one or the other.....
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[QUOTE=SkitheEast;974916873]Ok fix my problem, how do I know if I'm good looking? I've had numerous girls call me hot to my face, but I really don't see it. Also I have a really high sex drive and a strong love for estrogen, I could use zero to no sex drive/attraction to the opposite sex. How would I go about achieving that?[/QUOTE]
whether you're good looking or not if you have a good personality everything about you becomes beautiful.
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[QUOTE=Mr.Lmnop;984591753]But seriously, you guys are all still young as hell. 15-20 years old, including myself.
If there's one thing i learned about girls is that at this age, they are just a bonus. They aren't a goal, nor are they an obligation.
Sometimes you guys make it seem like you gotta get girls in order to breath, in order to survive on this planet. Yes sure we all crave that love and feel lonely at times, but a girl will not solve that problem.[/QUOTE]
repped. theres more important things to worry about at this age such as education.
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[QUOTE=bogui94;984509993]Why didn't you get that mod rep? =/
You deserve more recognition. I'd trade my reps with yours if I could.[/QUOTE]
There are several people who deserve mod reps but I highly doubt they will ever get them. There were a few people in that thread who really deserved them. And I mean REALLY deserved them. I thought that thread was more of a "knowledge about training" kind of deal. I am the only one out of the entire group who consistently gives training advice, except for jericoe. But then you have other guys who post about other topics and amaze me at the quality of their posts... I could make a list of people who deserve mod reps but it would do no good. My best advice to you gentlemen is to not worry about it. I doubt you will get reps from that thread, nobody will. Mods recently did the crackdown on rep trading and abuse of the system, but I honestly saw no other way to recognize the good posters. They chant "Good posts will get you repped" and "The rep system is designed to recognize quality posters and their rep power will show it". I call BS. If we actually recognized good posters and increased their rep power depending on the quality of their posts, you would see a lot less 10ks and 20ks around here. This site is starting to annoy me. I guess the only way to actually get reps is to be popular, post funny gifs, and be part of hnng threads.
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[QUOTE=Nistanger;984574643]Lettuce be srs, being yourself doesn't get you the girl you want or the girls you want. Back when I was younger, I was chubby, no girl was interested in me at all, I was myself and everything, friendzoned beyond repair. Brb, 30 lbs less and being more outgoing/noisy, I'm getting told I'm cute all the time by people who never noticed me before. You have to change yourself to get what you want in life, it's a sad truth.[/QUOTE]
i feel the same way. im down 50lbs from last december and im getting a little more attention from girls and some girls have even said im cute but i just still dont have the confidence to do anything about it. being a teenager really is tougher than a bih. i mean, heres the issue i have. everybody just says you need to have confidence and be yourself. how the hell am i supposed to have confidence when im 0 for every girl ive taken a shot at?
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[QUOTE=HammerDance45;984805923]i feel the same way. im down 50lbs from last december and im getting a little more attention from girls and some girls have even said im cute but i just still dont have the confidence to do anything about it. being a teenager really is tougher than a bih. i mean, heres the issue i have. everybody just says you need to have confidence and be yourself. how the hell am i supposed to have confidence when im 0 for every girl ive taken a shot at?[/QUOTE]
Lol, I know that feel. Brb, over the summer I was talkign with a girl when she suddenly just cuts contact and I have no idea wtf happened.
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There is a semi formal dance happening at my school this week. Normally everyone shows up drunk or high and then girls end up grinding with a LOT of different guys. I cannot go to this one because I already have different plans but my girlfriend is. I really don't want her to go because I know what goes down at these things, would it be controlling if I told her not to go?
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[QUOTE=canuckkid;984855833]There is a semi formal dance happening at my school this week. Normally everyone shows up drunk or high and then girls end up grinding with a LOT of different guys. I cannot go to this one because I already have different plans but my girlfriend is. I really don't want her to go because I know what goes down at these things, would it be controlling if I told her not to go?[/QUOTE]
Yes. I know how you feel hard core. But let her go. Get good buddies to keep an eye on her..and some sober girls to tell you what goes down. If she is faithful then you have a winner. If she does something stupid then its time to have a talk
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[QUOTE=canuckkid;984855833]There is a semi formal dance happening at my school this week. Normally everyone shows up drunk or high and then girls end up grinding with a LOT of different guys. I cannot go to this one because I already have different plans but my girlfriend is. I really don't want her to go because I know what goes down at these things, would it be controlling if I told her not to go?[/QUOTE]
Ino this feel brah.
Just let her go, IMO.
If you aren't gonna let her go, she's gonna be like wtf, and yeah it would be pretty controlling (put yourself in her shoes).
Something tells me you don't have full trust in her, understandable if she's getting chitfaced, anything could happen.
However, consider it a test of how much she's into you, if she fuks up, and doesn't seem to care as much as you'd think, then it's a reflection of what she thinks of your guys relationship.
And as above, get friends to keep an eye on her.
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[QUOTE=TeFusion;984863063]Ino this feel brah.
Just let her go, IMO.
If you aren't gonna let her go, she's gonna be like wtf, and yeah it would be pretty controlling (put yourself in her shoes).
Something tells me you don't have full trust in her, understandable if she's getting chitfaced, anything could happen.
However, consider it a test of how much she's into you, if she fuks up, and doesn't seem to care as much as you'd think, then it's a reflection of what she thinks of your guys relationship.
And as above, get friends to keep an eye on her.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=SDtrucker;984860003]Yes. I know how you feel hard core. But let her go. Get good buddies to keep an eye on her..and some sober girls to tell you what goes down. If she is faithful then you have a winner. If she does something stupid then its time to have a talk[/QUOTE]
Yeah I just talked to her and told her that I trust HER but for her to watch out for other guys because I don't trust them. It seemed to go over well, Plus I'm having one of my bros and a girl I'm good friends with to look after her.
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[QUOTE=daniel2754;984861523]I have a question for princess.
This is a 100% srs question. No trolling.
Do girls care about the size of a penis? Or if the penis is a little curvy?
I am 100% serious.[/QUOTE]
i had a hilarious gif to post to this, but idk how to embed it
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[QUOTE=HammerDance45;984881823]i had a hilarious gif to post to this, but idk how to embed it[/QUOTE]
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thanks but the moments ruined
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[QUOTE=daniel2754;984861523]I have a question for princess.
This is a 100% srs question. No trolling.
Do girls care about the size of a penis? Or if the penis is a little curvy?
I am 100% serious.[/QUOTE]
Oh lawd, this should go well.
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[QUOTE=daniel2754;984861523]I have a question for princess.
This is a 100% srs question. No trolling.
Do girls care about the size of a penis? Or if the penis is a little curvy?
I am 100% serious.[/QUOTE]
Uh I don't know. I don't think about it ever and I don't want to start now. I dont think either extreme is good
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[QUOTE=fit4aprincess;984888693]Uh I don't know. I don't think about it ever and I don't want to start now. I dont think either extreme is good[/QUOTE]
What if a guys really good at doing kegel exercises? Does that impress the ladies?
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Define "a little curvy". Are we talking about a yaw or an all out hard right.
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[QUOTE=powercage;984891003]Define "a little curvy". Are we talking about a yaw or an all out hard right.[/QUOTE]
90 degree angle bro he dont fux around
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[QUOTE=HammerDance45;984892353]90 degree angle bro he dont fux around[/QUOTE]
That must be a nightmare when you go to the bathroom half asleep
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At messed up penis guy - Please, be safe during intercourse.
@Powercage- idk who you are, but I would gladly rub oil all over both of our bodies and wrestle to the death.
