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[QUOTE=sjambo;1090320033]Is it worth getting a girl friend when your only 15? Or would you guys suggest waiting and getting better talking to girls first.[/QUOTE] Don't be so focused on getting a girlfriend, Live your life, talk to all the girls. Who knows, one might end up being your girlfriend
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[QUOTE=HelloWorld18;1090116963]1. Why do you see all the hot girls with average normal guys?
2. How can I get the confidence to get my first girlfriend this upcoming school year when I'm only going to school for half the year? I'm going to online school for the first half, then public for the second. But I know almost everyone at the school, so it's not a new school.
3. What do girls look for in a guy and how can I get a girlfriend this upcoming 1-2 school year?
4. Alright, so I don't have the manliest voice out there, my voice sounds high and gay (:() so would this make a girl not like me or not want to date me?[/QUOTE]
Normal guy with hot girl checking in.
1) Believe it or not some girls actually go for nice guys (it's crazy right!?). If you're a nice guy with confidence, good at making conversation, treat her right etc it doesn't matter about your average facial aesthetics - girls are still going to be attracted to you.
2) Confidence is something you can't really fake, it comes mostly from self believe. You have to convince yourself that girls are human beings just like boys, they want to make friends just like boys and they do want to have sex just like boys... Have some faith in yourself and talk to girls. You have a pretty decent body, just be easy going and act natural. Make conversation just like you would with your bros. Become friends with as many girls as you can, worry about a girlfriend once you have lots of options available to you.
3) Girls that are worth your time look for funny, intelligent people with decent aesthetics. Confidence helps a huge amount and you have to be considerate and good at conversation and asking the right questions to get the hot girls. Most hot girls work out or do some kind of sport to keep themselves in shape - so that can be some nice common ground / easy topic of conversation. Remember to always be modest :P
4) Don't worry about it bro. I know a guy a couple years older than me, talks like he's totally bent but scores so many girls. He's a machine. Don't let it get you down or put you off. It's something you can't help and something some girls quite like. My old music teacher at school was so camp you were surprised every time you saw him without a cock in his mouth - but he was actually happily married to a very attractive french lady. Don't let it hold you back.
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Bugler, this is mainly directed at you.
There's a girl I met at church. She seemed really cool, pretty, and I even heard her asking someone about my age. Never went after her. I ended up going after another, which didn't work out. AT ALL. Hurts my ego man.
Fast forward a few months.
I start talking to her a little, follow each other on twitter, a little tweeting here and there. I talk to her one night which seemed to have went well. She was looking at me the entire time, couldn't stop smiling, etc. I invited her to the movies with my friends. She was down for it. Ended up getting her number a few days later. Didn't work out that night with the crew, so she couldn't go. She offered a rain check.
I text her a few days later and it really seemed like a friend convo. I switched the focus and told her she was pretty so I wanted to know when this rain check would happen. She takes like 30min to respond and says umm whenever we i guess! Went downhill from there. When we see each other, we always say hey and my buddy told me last night that she went in for a hug but I didn't notice this. She just said hey and kept walking. She was tweeting recently about how someone said she's not good enough and that she can't read someone. I don't know if I should up my game or move on. Advice bro... Please.
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[QUOTE=RollTideNation;1091081313]Bugler, this is mainly directed at you.
There's a girl I met at church. She seemed really cool, pretty, and I even heard her asking someone about my age. Never went after her. I ended up going after another, which didn't work out. AT ALL. Hurts my ego man.
Fast forward a few months.
I start talking to her a little, follow each other on twitter, a little tweeting here and there. I talk to her one night which seemed to have went well. She was looking at me the entire time, couldn't stop smiling, etc. I invited her to the movies with my friends. She was down for it. Ended up getting her number a few days later. Didn't work out that night with the crew, so she couldn't go. She offered a rain check.
I text her a few days later and it really seemed like a friend convo. I switched the focus and told her she was pretty so I wanted to know when this rain check would happen. She takes like 30min to respond and says umm whenever we i guess! Went downhill from there. When we see each other, we always say hey and my buddy told me last night that she went in for a hug but I didn't notice this. She just said hey and kept walking. She was tweeting recently about how someone said she's not good enough and that she can't read someone. I don't know if I should up my game or move on. Advice bro... Please.[/QUOTE]
Seems like she's interested to me bro - never worry if girls take a while to respond to your texts... That doesn't mean anything. Half an hour probably just meant she went for a shower or some chit.
I would suggest upping your game a bit. Make an effort to talk with her in real life and by text. It's cool that you guys talk on twitter - but try not to reply to everything she posts, because that is just straight up irritating :)
She already said yes to going to the movies, but it sounds like she had a genuine excuse and couldn't go. Rain check is a beautiful thing to have - take her up on it, but I would suggest getting to know her a bit better first.
Make an effort to get to know her - doesn't have to be a movie or dinner or whatever - it can just be hanging out. Talk to her at Church or whenever you next see her and ask her if she wants to come over some time and just hang out, watch a couple movies or whatever. Sounds like she'll almost definitely say yes. (watching movies is good because if the conversation dries up at any stage you can just watch the film whilst you think of something to say - no awkward pauses. Film selection can also be crucial ;))
If you guys hang out and all goes well take her up on her rain check and take her out to the movies (buy her popcorn OP).
I find going straight out to the movies with a girl you hardly know can be a bit awkward - even if you're very confident and a good conservationist. Putting a bit of graft in beforehand can pay off.
I wouldn't worry too much about the tweets and listen brah - even for the best of us it doesn't always work out, so don't sweat if she just wants to be friends or whatever. You win some, you lose some - but if you don't try you don't win any, so you gotta try!
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[QUOTE=Bugler666;1091510093]Seems like she's interested to me bro - never worry if girls take a while to respond to your texts... That doesn't mean anything. Half an hour probably just meant she went for a shower or some chit.
I would suggest upping your game a bit. Make an effort to talk with her in real life and by text. It's cool that you guys talk on twitter - but try not to reply to everything she posts, because that is just straight up irritating :)
She already said yes to going to the movies, but it sounds like she had a genuine excuse and couldn't go. Rain check is a beautiful thing to have - take her up on it, but I would suggest getting to know her a bit better first.
Make an effort to get to know her - doesn't have to be a movie or dinner or whatever - it can just be hanging out. Talk to her at Church or whenever you next see her and ask her if she wants to come over some time and just hang out, watch a couple movies or whatever. Sounds like she'll almost definitely say yes. (watching movies is good because if the conversation dries up at any stage you can just watch the film whilst you think of something to say - no awkward pauses. Film selection can also be crucial ;))
If you guys hang out and all goes well take her up on her rain check and take her out to the movies (buy her popcorn OP).
I find going straight out to the movies with a girl you hardly know can be a bit awkward - even if you're very confident and a good conservationist. Putting a bit of graft in beforehand can pay off.
I wouldn't worry too much about the tweets and listen brah - even for the best of us it doesn't always work out, so don't sweat if she just wants to be friends or whatever. You win some, you lose some - but if you don't try you don't win any, so you gotta try![/QUOTE]
Thanks for the response man! Much appreciated. I have a habit of doubting myself when seeking advice, so I'm just making sure you know that I invited her to the movies back like a month or so ago. Didn't talk much after then. The tweeting stuff was like a few nights ago.
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[QUOTE=Bugler666;1090781873]Normal guy with hot girl checking in.
3) Girls that are worth your time look for funny, intelligent people with decent aesthetics. Confidence helps a huge amount and you have to be considerate and good at conversation and asking the right questions to get the hot girls. Most hot girls work out or do some kind of sport to keep themselves in shape - so that can be some nice common ground / easy topic of conversation. Remember to always be modest :P
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How do you bring this up and not sound awkward?
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Is it terrible that the only reason I'm dating this girl is to try to get over my best friend of over a decade who was the only person I'd ever thought of as "wife material"? Worst part is it's not working. At all.
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Alright brahs, this is my first post ever..
Got some serious **** I need major help on. So there's this girl who I always saw in highschool and thought she was fuarking gorgeous, but never had the balls to talk to her. Last year on the day of graduation I talked to her for the fist time ever.. And we kinda hit it off. That night our school held something called project graduation which is basically a lock in for the seniors and all night I was mirin hard and she noticed. By the time we got let out at 4am I wanted in the parking lot talking to my bro about her how it sucked I never got her number and she walked out 5 minutes later and was parked right next to me.. So naturally I asked her if she and her friend wanted to come over to my house and drink a bit. She was down.
She got there and the night was perfect she flirted hard all night and I got her number. we started hanging a lot and I started liking her a good bit. (We had both gotten out of a long serious relationship in the last 5 months) I guess she figured out I was about to ask her out and freaked out since we were going to school 6 hours apart. So **** ended awkward as hell.. We didn't talk for pretty much half a year until this past Christmas.
During Christmas break we talked like every day and she even came over and made me dinner. Then when she went back to school we didn't talk much again because the track season had started for me.
On her way home from school this summer she was In a crazy ass accident and went head on w a semi and ended up having a seizure. She's all good now but can't drive for 5 more months. Right when she got home I was there first night and chilled w her all the time. I drove her everywhere took her to parties and to work and to see all her friends. Everything was going perfect and she started to really like me again so we were basically dating without the label. All her friends ****ing love me and her family loves me too.. They tell her friends how much they like me too so I'm thinking I'm sitting in a great ****ing spot huh? And to make it better I ended up only being 3 hours apart for school and I go to school in our hometown so I can see her whenever she comes home too.
So she goes to the lake with her family about three weeks ago and is texting me like all day everyday and flirting hard. Her aunts and uncles are saying they love me and all this **** ya know? Then two nights before she gets back we both tell eachother how much we like eachother and I tell her how I was scared to talk to her I'm highschool Cus she was so pretty. She said she felt the same about me and that she has never trusted anyone like me or felt so comfortable and protected by anyone ever.. Then she says I better not choose any one else and she is so happy I like her.. Her little cousin steals her phone and says she likes me and we should date and she says she thought that was so cute. So obvi she agreed right?
Well the first night she got back I was supposed to hang w her alone but her friend broke up w her bf and needed to hang w her.. So I got ****ed and had to take then to a party. So after a girl tells you all that **** and you haven't seen them in a week you're obvi going to be all over them right? I was flirty as hell and kissing her all night and she enjoyed it. The night ended great.
Next day she promised me our night alone, but her friend needed to see her again.. Mad **** huh? So I took her and her little sister to dinner (for her little sisters bday because she loves my truck) it was a great date and we had fun. Then we go to a party w some of her friends and the mad **** little friend of hers and my girl is quiet on the way there and acting weird as fuark.. When we get there she is almost avoiding me so obvi I'm confused and annoyed.. By the time we leave I don't say **** on the way home and that didn't fly to well with her apparently. When I get to her house we talk for a second and I apologize for being quiet or whatever and I kiss her goodnight like normal. When I got home I sent her a long text about how my family has money issues(true) and that's why I was quiet because I was worried. She says thanks for telling her but she need space to figure **** out..
2 days later I text her and tell her to come to my cousins house for a party, she does but when she gets there she doesn't hug me or **** and acts weird all night. When she went home she was tired so I never got to talk to her. Then for about a week I asked to chill w her like 4 times and she always had an excuse.. All her friends told her she was being an ass and she said she knew she was but she wanted to figure out what she wants first so she would ignore my texts..
On Monday I asked to see her and she didn't respond so I stopped texting her all together to wait for her to be ready. She texted me yesterday morning and we talked all day then she invited me over last night w a few people.. She said she just wanted to have fun and not talk about the drama, I agreed and went over. When I got there she was already pretty tipsy. But she was dancing on me in the pool and we made out a few times. Then I passed out in her bed and her parents aren't cool w that **** so she just told me to leave when we woke up so I didn't have to talk to them.
When she texted me a little while earlier she said they were pretty pissed I stayed over but didn't really elaborate on it. Then I was just flirtin like normal w her and she stopped me and layed this text on me
( "Wade I can't do this to you anymore. I was drunk and stupid last night. But I know how much you like me and I shouldn'tve been like that. Point is. I can't be with you like I'm leaving in two months an I know you talked to me about that already but I just can't do the long distance thing. It's wont work for me. And honestly Robert has been reaching out to me a little and I need to spend time with him and see how he is and all kinds of other drama. I just don't want to like drag you on. You need to stay open to meeting other girls. I'm not for you..)
Robert is her ex from earlier I talked about, but he hasn't been there for her at all since the accident until like the last week and was a douche when they dated anyways.. (He took her virginity so that plays a role)
The thing is I know she wasn't that drunk last night and she wouldn't have kissed me if she didn't want to. I know I'd be a better gut for her than Robert and so do all her friends but idk what to do.. This girl has been on my mind all day every day for weeks brahs.. Can't eat sometimes Cus of her. Idk what to do to convince her I'm the right one. Where did I go wrong and what do I do?
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[QUOTE=wWade24;1091972093]Alright brahs, this is my first post ever..
Got some serious **** I need major help on. So there's this girl who I always saw in highschool and thought she was fuarking gorgeous, but never had the balls to talk to her. Last year on the day of graduation I talked to her for the fist time ever.. And we kinda hit it off. That night our school held something called project graduation which is basically a lock in for the seniors and all night I was mirin hard and she noticed. By the time we got let out at 4am I wanted in the parking lot talking to my bro about her how it sucked I never got her number and she walked out 5 minutes later and was parked right next to me.. So naturally I asked her if she and her friend wanted to come over to my house and drink a bit. She was down.
She got there and the night was perfect she flirted hard all night and I got her number. we started hanging a lot and I started liking her a good bit. (We had both gotten out of a long serious relationship in the last 5 months) I guess she figured out I was about to ask her out and freaked out since we were going to school 6 hours apart. So **** ended awkward as hell.. We didn't talk for pretty much half a year until this past Christmas.
During Christmas break we talked like every day and she even came over and made me dinner. Then when she went back to school we didn't talk much again because the track season had started for me.
On her way home from school this summer she was In a crazy ass accident and went head on w a semi and ended up having a seizure. She's all good now but can't drive for 5 more months. Right when she got home I was there first night and chilled w her all the time. I drove her everywhere took her to parties and to work and to see all her friends. Everything was going perfect and she started to really like me again so we were basically dating without the label. All her friends ****ing love me and her family loves me too.. They tell her friends how much they like me too so I'm thinking I'm sitting in a great ****ing spot huh? And to make it better I ended up only being 3 hours apart for school and I go to school in our hometown so I can see her whenever she comes home too.
So she goes to the lake with her family about three weeks ago and is texting me like all day everyday and flirting hard. Her aunts and uncles are saying they love me and all this **** ya know? Then two nights before she gets back we both tell eachother how much we like eachother and I tell her how I was scared to talk to her I'm highschool Cus she was so pretty. She said she felt the same about me and that she has never trusted anyone like me or felt so comfortable and protected by anyone ever.. Then she says I better not choose any one else and she is so happy I like her.. Her little cousin steals her phone and says she likes me and we should date and she says she thought that was so cute. So obvi she agreed right?
Well the first night she got back I was supposed to hang w her alone but her friend broke up w her bf and needed to hang w her.. So I got ****ed and had to take then to a party. So after a girl tells you all that **** and you haven't seen them in a week you're obvi going to be all over them right? I was flirty as hell and kissing her all night and she enjoyed it. The night ended great.
Next day she promised me our night alone, but her friend needed to see her again.. Mad **** huh? So I took her and her little sister to dinner (for her little sisters bday because she loves my truck) it was a great date and we had fun. Then we go to a party w some of her friends and the mad **** little friend of hers and my girl is quiet on the way there and acting weird as fuark.. When we get there she is almost avoiding me so obvi I'm confused and annoyed.. By the time we leave I don't say **** on the way home and that didn't fly to well with her apparently. When I get to her house we talk for a second and I apologize for being quiet or whatever and I kiss her goodnight like normal. When I got home I sent her a long text about how my family has money issues(true) and that's why I was quiet because I was worried. She says thanks for telling her but she need space to figure **** out..
2 days later I text her and tell her to come to my cousins house for a party, she does but when she gets there she doesn't hug me or **** and acts weird all night. When she went home she was tired so I never got to talk to her. Then for about a week I asked to chill w her like 4 times and she always had an excuse.. All her friends told her she was being an ass and she said she knew she was but she wanted to figure out what she wants first so she would ignore my texts..
On Monday I asked to see her and she didn't respond so I stopped texting her all together to wait for her to be ready. She texted me yesterday morning and we talked all day then she invited me over last night w a few people.. She said she just wanted to have fun and not talk about the drama, I agreed and went over. When I got there she was already pretty tipsy. But she was dancing on me in the pool and we made out a few times. Then I passed out in her bed and her parents aren't cool w that **** so she just told me to leave when we woke up so I didn't have to talk to them.
When she texted me a little while earlier she said they were pretty pissed I stayed over but didn't really elaborate on it. Then I was just flirtin like normal w her and she stopped me and layed this text on me
( "Wade I can't do this to you anymore. I was drunk and stupid last night. But I know how much you like me and I shouldn'tve been like that. Point is. I can't be with you like I'm leaving in two months an I know you talked to me about that already but I just can't do the long distance thing. It's wont work for me. And honestly Robert has been reaching out to me a little and I need to spend time with him and see how he is and all kinds of other drama. I just don't want to like drag you on. You need to stay open to meeting other girls. I'm not for you..)
Robert is her ex from earlier I talked about, but he hasn't been there for her at all since the accident until like the last week and was a douche when they dated anyways.. (He took her virginity so that plays a role)
The thing is I know she wasn't that drunk last night and she wouldn't have kissed me if she didn't want to. I know I'd be a better gut for her than Robert and so do all her friends but idk what to do.. This girl has been on my mind all day every day for weeks brahs.. Can't eat sometimes Cus of her. Idk what to do to convince her I'm the right one. Where did I go wrong and what do I do?[/QUOTE]
Read the whole thing and I find your situation very interesting. Why does this never happen to me? The whole part about you seeing a gorgeous girl and you hit it off. When I talk to a very attractive girl, she is like "Ehh no. Hell no." Fml
Anyways, you haven't done anything wrong. It sounds like the leaving thing has been on her mind and she doesn't want to be in a long distance relationship, so she's trying to get rid of her feelings. She doesn't want to fall for you anymore, and she wants to not like you anymore.
As for what you should do, that's up to you man. If you like her like her a lot, you should call her and tell her how you feel and that your life wouldn't be complete without her in it. But there's a chance she wants to be with her ex more than you, and is trying to keep from hurting you. I'm sure someone else will have a say-so in this, but you know her best. If you think she's trying to "undevelop" feelings for you, do what I said. But if you think she's going after her ex, gotta start the moving on process.
Seriously, this never ****in happens to me. Lol
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[QUOTE=wWade24;1091972093]Alright brahs, this is my first post ever..
Got some serious **** I need major help on. So there's this girl who I always saw in highschool and thought she was fuarking gorgeous, but never had the balls to talk to her. Last year on the day of graduation I talked to her for the fist time ever.. And we kinda hit it off. That night our school held something called project graduation which is basically a lock in for the seniors and all night I was mirin hard and she noticed. By the time we got let out at 4am I wanted in the parking lot talking to my bro about her how it sucked I never got her number and she walked out 5 minutes later and was parked right next to me.. So naturally I asked her if she and her friend wanted to come over to my house and drink a bit. She was down.
She got there and the night was perfect she flirted hard all night and I got her number. we started hanging a lot and I started liking her a good bit. (We had both gotten out of a long serious relationship in the last 5 months) I guess she figured out I was about to ask her out and freaked out since we were going to school 6 hours apart. So **** ended awkward as hell.. We didn't talk for pretty much half a year until this past Christmas.
During Christmas break we talked like every day and she even came over and made me dinner. Then when she went back to school we didn't talk much again because the track season had started for me.
On her way home from school this summer she was In a crazy ass accident and went head on w a semi and ended up having a seizure. She's all good now but can't drive for 5 more months. Right when she got home I was there first night and chilled w her all the time. I drove her everywhere took her to parties and to work and to see all her friends. Everything was going perfect and she started to really like me again so we were basically dating without the label. All her friends ****ing love me and her family loves me too.. They tell her friends how much they like me too so I'm thinking I'm sitting in a great ****ing spot huh? And to make it better I ended up only being 3 hours apart for school and I go to school in our hometown so I can see her whenever she comes home too.
So she goes to the lake with her family about three weeks ago and is texting me like all day everyday and flirting hard. Her aunts and uncles are saying they love me and all this **** ya know? Then two nights before she gets back we both tell eachother how much we like eachother and I tell her how I was scared to talk to her I'm highschool Cus she was so pretty. She said she felt the same about me and that she has never trusted anyone like me or felt so comfortable and protected by anyone ever.. Then she says I better not choose any one else and she is so happy I like her.. Her little cousin steals her phone and says she likes me and we should date and she says she thought that was so cute. So obvi she agreed right?
Well the first night she got back I was supposed to hang w her alone but her friend broke up w her bf and needed to hang w her.. So I got ****ed and had to take then to a party. So after a girl tells you all that **** and you haven't seen them in a week you're obvi going to be all over them right? I was flirty as hell and kissing her all night and she enjoyed it. The night ended great.
Next day she promised me our night alone, but her friend needed to see her again.. Mad **** huh? So I took her and her little sister to dinner (for her little sisters bday because she loves my truck) it was a great date and we had fun. Then we go to a party w some of her friends and the mad **** little friend of hers and my girl is quiet on the way there and acting weird as fuark.. When we get there she is almost avoiding me so obvi I'm confused and annoyed.. By the time we leave I don't say **** on the way home and that didn't fly to well with her apparently. When I get to her house we talk for a second and I apologize for being quiet or whatever and I kiss her goodnight like normal. When I got home I sent her a long text about how my family has money issues(true) and that's why I was quiet because I was worried. She says thanks for telling her but she need space to figure **** out..
2 days later I text her and tell her to come to my cousins house for a party, she does but when she gets there she doesn't hug me or **** and acts weird all night. When she went home she was tired so I never got to talk to her. Then for about a week I asked to chill w her like 4 times and she always had an excuse.. All her friends told her she was being an ass and she said she knew she was but she wanted to figure out what she wants first so she would ignore my texts..
On Monday I asked to see her and she didn't respond so I stopped texting her all together to wait for her to be ready. She texted me yesterday morning and we talked all day then she invited me over last night w a few people.. She said she just wanted to have fun and not talk about the drama, I agreed and went over. When I got there she was already pretty tipsy. But she was dancing on me in the pool and we made out a few times. Then I passed out in her bed and her parents aren't cool w that **** so she just told me to leave when we woke up so I didn't have to talk to them.
When she texted me a little while earlier she said they were pretty pissed I stayed over but didn't really elaborate on it. Then I was just flirtin like normal w her and she stopped me and layed this text on me
( "Wade I can't do this to you anymore. I was drunk and stupid last night. But I know how much you like me and I shouldn'tve been like that. Point is. I can't be with you like I'm leaving in two months an I know you talked to me about that already but I just can't do the long distance thing. It's wont work for me. And honestly Robert has been reaching out to me a little and I need to spend time with him and see how he is and all kinds of other drama. I just don't want to like drag you on. You need to stay open to meeting other girls. I'm not for you..)
Robert is her ex from earlier I talked about, but he hasn't been there for her at all since the accident until like the last week and was a douche when they dated anyways.. (He took her virginity so that plays a role)
The thing is I know she wasn't that drunk last night and she wouldn't have kissed me if she didn't want to. I know I'd be a better gut for her than Robert and so do all her friends but idk what to do.. This girl has been on my mind all day every day for weeks brahs.. Can't eat sometimes Cus of her. Idk what to do to convince her I'm the right one. Where did I go wrong and what do I do?[/QUOTE] Very interesting situation you are in, if i was in your shoes i would do exactly what RollTideNation suggested, if you really like her then tell her, lay all the cards out on the table. If she sticks to her guns and doesn't want to be with you then i would let her go, in my experience it will hurt less in the long run. She sounds like a nice girl, but very confused about what she truely wants. Good Luck, hope everything works out for you.
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[QUOTE=RollTideNation;1091543713]Thanks for the response man! Much appreciated. I have a habit of doubting myself when seeking advice, so I'm just making sure you know that I invited her to the movies back like a month or so ago. Didn't talk much after then. The tweeting stuff was like a few nights ago.[/QUOTE]
I don't see why it would matter that it was a month ago. If you've been tweeting her recently she's probably thought about you a couple times, go ahead with the plan and just ask her over some time :)
Honestly bro, such an enormous amount of this chit is to do with self confidence. So long as you're confident in yourself and you're showing interest in her you will get this girl. Have some faith in yourself.
[QUOTE=PatrickWayne96;1091575613]How do you bring this up and not sound awkward?[/QUOTE]
You have to use your conversational skills to wheel the conversation and make yourself an opportunity.
I like to complement a girl on the way she looks, then mention I used to be fat all through my childhood and until I was about 15. It takes a cold-hearted bitch not to return a complement at that point. This creates a perfect window to ask if she plays team sports or goes to the gym or whatever.
If you didn't used to be fat like I always was you could say you always used to be really skinny, or you always used to be really un-athletic - got picked last at basketball practice or some chit.
Anyways, she'll probably ask you the same questions - if you gym or play team sports. Remember to be modest about it. Even if you go to the gym seven days a week be like "yeah, I go to the gym sometimes". Don't pretend to be too much of a fukking expert about things either - just say you know your way around a gym :)
[QUOTE=grux12;1091858663]Is it terrible that the only reason I'm dating this girl is to try to get over my best friend of over a decade who was the only person I'd ever thought of as "wife material"? Worst part is it's not working. At all.[/QUOTE]
That is pretty terrible, but one of my best friends is like that. She's been super hung up over a guy for years - but this guy and his gf are super happy together and have been together like 2 years now, no sign of breaking up. She's going out with another dude (actually a pretty nice guy) - but all she can think about is the other dude. It's pretty terrible.
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[QUOTE=wWade24;1091972093]*cutting all the chit out to save y'all scrollin'*
Robert is her ex from earlier I talked about, but he hasn't been there for her at all since the accident until like the last week and was a douche when they dated anyways.. (He took her virginity so that plays a role)
The thing is I know she wasn't that drunk last night and she wouldn't have kissed me if she didn't want to. I know I'd be a better gut for her than Robert and so do all her friends but idk what to do.. This girl has been on my mind all day every day for weeks brahs.. Can't eat sometimes Cus of her. Idk what to do to convince her I'm the right one. Where did I go wrong and what do I do?[/QUOTE]
Just read your essay.
First of all, that really sucks man. I totally know how you feel too, I've been through pretty much this - hit it off with a girl wayy to fast (should have suspected it was a rebound), but I was really into her and continued to pursue. She lead me on for a little while before coming to the conclusion she was going to get back with her Ex (Ex who cheated on her multiple times). Words cannot describe how much that stung - so I really feel for you here brah.
Girls are chitty sometimes man. You have three real options here
1) Pour your heart out / guilt tactic. Tell her you've been here for her all this time, whilst her Ex has been nowhere to be seen, you've been making the effort whilst he's been sat on his ass elsewhere. You've spent a lot of time and money on her and her family and you've done that because you really like her, if she didn't think anything could result from this she should have called it off much earlier. You have genuine feelings for her and only the best intentions. You could try some really gay speech about why you like her so much - her quirks, what makes her different from other girls, good moments you've had together. Get all that chit together and let your emotion show.
2) Tell her what a bitch she is / guilt tactic. Very similar to above, but instead of trying to win her back just tell her she's a ****ing whore for taking advantage of your good nature and doing this to you.
3) Silence treatment. Don't say a word to her, message her friends and family if you want to (don't cut those ties, they're hard to re-form) but just don't say a word. Wait for her to think it through. She will feel pretty chitty going back to her Ex after everything you've done for her - she might realise of her own accord that she's made a mistake and come after you.
Third one has worked for me before. You have to know the girl to know how she'll react, but if she has any kind of a heart she'll feel guilty about it. If she doesn't feel guilty about getting back with her Ex after everything you've done she's not worth your time anyways brother.
You win some, you lose some. Stay in the game, keep being a nice guy and it will work out in the end. If you keep holding up your end of the deal, looking out for nice girls and trying your best with them that's all you can do. Good luck in your future endeavors! :)
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I get you man. You're right. I have a fear of rejection because I was a VERY insecure kid and never got any girl attention.
Just to let you know, I haven't tweeted her. That was all a while ago. But I feel you. I'm going to step up my game and finish this once and for all. I must know if she is in it or not. Because I'm sick and tired of this wondering.
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[QUOTE=RollTideNation;1092462383]I get you man. You're right. I have a fear of rejection because I was a VERY insecure kid and never got any girl attention.
Just to let you know, I haven't tweeted her. That was all a while ago. But I feel you. I'm going to step up my game and finish this once and for all. I must know if she is in it or not. Because I'm sick and tired of this wondering.[/QUOTE]
Just do it man. Don't waste any more time. Maybe send her a subtle text at some point before you ask her, just so she'll subconsciously think about you a few times before you ask her over or whatever :)
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Attention:
The cold approach is a VERY difficult thing to master. Chances are, if a girl is in your school and you have a relatively small school, things aren't going to work smoothly unless you're in the same click.
The easiest way to get a girl is to have a friend introduce you. My friend got introduced and it worked REALLY well. The thing about this is if the girl is from another town, the pressure is off. You may never see her again. You can experiment, be free, be you, and not fear that you'll be judged as soon as you walk back into school. Since you were introduced, there is effort coming from both sides too.
Give it a try. :D
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**** getting girls... lift weights
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Hey brahs. So i began a lifeguarding job today at a nadatorium near my house. I was walking past one of the stands today, and there was a really cute blonde on duty. I was probably about 50 feet away from the stand. As I was approaching the stand, she looked my direction and we made eye contact for a full 5 seconds, and she kinda looked me up and down. I maintained eye contact for the full 5 seconds and after 5 seconds she quickly turned her head away. For the next hour, I caught her staring in my direction several times.
I don't want to mis read things. She might've just been staring at me since i'm a new lifeguard, i'm 6 ft 6, 230 pounds, lean, and had my shirt off lol. I'm not great with girls, but I kinda thought she seemed interested. Watchu brahs think? 1.5k reps for help
PS- was goign to go talk to her, but she left before my shift was over.
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[QUOTE=neverquit2012;1092939663]Hey brahs. So i began a lifeguarding job today at a nadatorium near my house. I was walking past one of the stands today, and there was a really cute blonde on duty. I was probably about 50 feet away from the stand. As I was approaching the stand, she looked my direction and we made eye contact for a full 5 seconds, and she kinda looked me up and down. I maintained eye contact for the full 5 seconds and after 5 seconds she quickly turned her head away. For the next hour, I caught her staring in my direction several times.
I don't want to mis read things. She might've just been staring at me since i'm a new lifeguard, i'm 6 ft 6, 230 pounds, lean, and had my shirt off lol. I'm not great with girls, but I kinda thought she seemed interested. Watchu brahs think? 1.5k reps for help
PS- was goign to go talk to her, but she left before my shift was over.[/QUOTE] Only one way to figure out, talk to her!
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[QUOTE=neverquit2012;1092939663]Hey brahs. So i began a lifeguarding job today at a nadatorium near my house. I was walking past one of the stands today, and there was a really cute blonde on duty. I was probably about 50 feet away from the stand. As I was approaching the stand, she looked my direction and we made eye contact for a full 5 seconds, and she kinda looked me up and down. I maintained eye contact for the full 5 seconds and after 5 seconds she quickly turned her head away. For the next hour, I caught her staring in my direction several times.
I don't want to mis read things. She might've just been staring at me since i'm a new lifeguard, i'm 6 ft 6, 230 pounds, lean, and had my shirt off lol. I'm not great with girls, but I kinda thought she seemed interested. Watchu brahs think? 1.5k reps for help
PS- was goign to go talk to her, but she left before my shift was over.[/QUOTE]
I'm confused? Why didn't you talk to her whilst she was looking at you bro? Were you expecting her to write her number on a paper plane and throw it to you or some chit?
The info you've told us is pretty much useless. She could have been looking at you like "wow, that guy is hot. If he came over here right now I'd offer him a blow job" or she could have been like "who is that fuccking freak of nature and why is he looking at me. If he comes over here I'm gonna call my 6'8 250lbs lean boyfriend to kick his ass".
You see what I mean? It's impossible to know what she was thinking from what you've told us. It's very normal to look somebody up and down when they're shirtless, so that doesn't mean anything either.
Go talk to her next time. Just say hey, I've just started here. Ask how she likes her job, how long she's worked there etc.
Then be all like "Nice talking to you, but I have to lifeguard, that kid looks like he's about to chew the floats. Put your number in my phone and we'll talk later"
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[QUOTE=Bugler666;1093322303]I'm confused? Why didn't you talk to her whilst she was looking at you bro? Were you expecting her to write her number on a paper plane and throw it to you or some chit?
The info you've told us is pretty much useless. She could have been looking at you like "wow, that guy is hot. If he came over here right now I'd offer him a blow job" or she could have been like "who is that fuccking freak of nature and why is he looking at me. If he comes over here I'm gonna call my 6'8 250lbs lean boyfriend to kick his ass".
You see what I mean? It's impossible to know what she was thinking from what you've told us. It's very normal to look somebody up and down when they're shirtless, so that doesn't mean anything either.
Go talk to her next time. Just say hey, I've just started here. Ask how she likes her job, how long she's worked there etc.
Then be all like "Nice talking to you, but I have to lifeguard, that kid looks like he's about to chew the floats. Put your number in my phone and we'll talk later"[/QUOTE]
I couldn't talk because we were both on shift, and the management gets pretty pissed whenever lifeguards who are on duty talk to each other. According to my manager we're supposed to keep our mouths shut and our eyes on the water and not chat with anybody. Since it was my first day I definitely wasn't going to go break any rules. After every two shifts, you get a 20 minute break. Our breaks didn't overlap though, and every time I was on break she was on shift. By the time my day was over she had already lift. I literally had no chance to talk to her. hopefully she'll be at work thursday or friday and we'll have a break together...
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[QUOTE=neverquit2012;1093345093]I couldn't talk because we were both on shift, and the management gets pretty pissed whenever lifeguards who are on duty talk to each other. According to my manager we're supposed to keep our mouths shut and our eyes on the water and not chat with anybody. Since it was my first day I definitely wasn't going to go break any rules. After every two shifts, you get a 20 minute break. Our breaks didn't overlap though, and every time I was on break she was on shift. By the time my day was over she had already lift. I literally had no chance to talk to her. hopefully she'll be at work thursday or friday and we'll have a break together...[/QUOTE]
Woah, a genuine excuse for not talking to a girl.
I think this is a thread first :')
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Alright... 1st post in a misc. thread - lets see how this goes haha
So last summer I met this awesome girl at a summer camp (where you live there for x amount of weeks). The 1st week there we only saw/talked to each other at lunch or during games, but by the 2nd week and mostly the 3rd, we were spending most of our free time together! Anyways, during the 3rd week I could pretty much tell that she was really interested and also her friends kept teasing the both of us about it so that was a good sign.
After camp was over, we would talk/skype with each other almost every day and everything seemed great. However, in early September she suddenly stopped replying to my messages and chit. I was getting kind of upset and worried about it. Here's what really killed it: I asked one of her friends to text her asking about how things were going between us (without making it seem like i asked him too ofc) and she replied to him that I was being clingy and that she ****ing hates clingy people. I was shocked and confused because of how she acted when we were together at camp.
Fast forward to now, I'm heading back to camp for another 3 weeks in a little less than 3 weeks and I know that she's gonna be there. We haven't spoken to each other since early last fall. My question is: how should I approach her and play these cards? I don't want things to be awkward between us, for sure. Any help/advice is appreciated!
tl;dr
>met girl last year at summer camp
>got along really well with her and she was most definetly VERY interested
>talked with each other frequently after camp had ended
>suddenly stopped replying, she told a friend that I was being clingy and that she hates clingy people
>confused, because she was basically clinging to me at camp
>haven't spoken to her since early last fall
>going back to camp soon, she'll be there
>what do i do?
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first post in this section and my problem isnt nearly as complex as wade's up there ^^, so this girl (6.5/10) was in my year in school, and kind of im my group of friends, hyper as fuark around her girlfirends but shy around guys, ended up working with her for a few weeks and got to be her friend (didn't have any feelings for her then so was just a friend) texted a couple times, one day there was really good weather and she was gonna come to my house, only catch is her friend came aswell who's loud as fuark and takes all the attention 100% of the time. her friends out of town this week but she works like every day (i know this for a fact) so its hard to organise a time, so i suggested we go to the cinema and she said 'yeah probably :)', not sure if if im friendzoned with this one brahs, advice?
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[QUOTE=stayingpositive;1094300863]first post in this section and my problem isnt nearly as complex as wade's up there ^^, so this girl (6.5/10) was in my year in school, and kind of im my group of friends, hyper as fuark around her girlfirends but shy around guys, ended up working with her for a few weeks and got to be her friend (didn't have any feelings for her then so was just a friend) texted a couple times, one day there was really good weather and she was gonna come to my house, only catch is her friend came aswell who's loud as fuark and takes all the attention 100% of the time. her friends out of town this week but she works like every day (i know this for a fact) so its hard to organise a time, so i suggested we go to the cinema and she said 'yeah probably :)', not sure if if im friendzoned with this one brahs, advice?[/QUOTE]
tbh when it comes to girls, if she is interested she will make time for you, or at least tell you she has work and will try to plan another day
the answer you got isn't the best, can't be 100% sure but honestly it looks like you have been friend zoned at least for right now
You need to get more alone time with her tho thats for sure
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[QUOTE=otehblasian;1093946733]Alright... 1st post in a misc. thread - lets see how this goes haha
So last summer I met this awesome girl at a summer camp (where you live there for x amount of weeks). The 1st week there we only saw/talked to each other at lunch or during games, but by the 2nd week and mostly the 3rd, we were spending most of our free time together! Anyways, during the 3rd week I could pretty much tell that she was really interested and also her friends kept teasing the both of us about it so that was a good sign.
After camp was over, we would talk/skype with each other almost every day and everything seemed great. However, in early September she suddenly stopped replying to my messages and chit. I was getting kind of upset and worried about it. Here's what really killed it: I asked one of her friends to text her asking about how things were going between us (without making it seem like i asked him too ofc) and she replied to him that I was being clingy and that she ****ing hates clingy people. I was shocked and confused because of how she acted when we were together at camp.
Fast forward to now, I'm heading back to camp for another 3 weeks in a little less than 3 weeks and I know that she's gonna be there. We haven't spoken to each other since early last fall. My question is: how should I approach her and play these cards? I don't want things to be awkward between us, for sure. Any help/advice is appreciated!
tl;dr
>met girl last year at summer camp
>got along really well with her and she was most definetly VERY interested
>talked with each other frequently after camp had ended
>suddenly stopped replying, she told a friend that I was being clingy and that she hates clingy people
>confused, because she was basically clinging to me at camp
>haven't spoken to her since early last fall
>going back to camp soon, she'll be there
>what do i do?[/QUOTE]
Does she know you're gonna be there?
The mistake you made was trying to maintain whatever it was you guys had on the internet. That was never going to work without actually meeting up with her a few times. You can't have a relationship through the internet. If you'd not spoken to her since last camp both of you would be really excited to see each other and she'd probably be thinking about you a lot, which would be good.
Instead of that she just thinks your some clingy **** who doesn't stop messaging her.
So what do? I would try and avoid her until you can have a conversation alone with her. Tell her it's really nice to see her again and maybe apologise for coming across clingy - explain that wasn't your intention. See if you guys can just resume from where you left off.
I strongly fukking suspect she's met a new boy - and that's why she's getting annoyed by all your messages, but on the off chance she hasn't and you're just genuinely annoying her then hopefully she'll have the heart to forgive you.
If she's a bitch about it, make sure your face gives her hell. Work hard to mug her off and ruin her camp :L
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[QUOTE=Bugler666;1094342863]Does she know you're gonna be there?
The mistake you made was trying to maintain whatever it was you guys had on the internet. That was never going to work without actually meeting up with her a few times. You can't have a relationship through the internet. If you'd not spoken to her since last camp both of you would be really excited to see each other and she'd probably be thinking about you a lot, which would be good.
Instead of that she just thinks your some clingy **** who doesn't stop messaging her.
So what do? I would try and avoid her until you can have a conversation alone with her. Tell her it's really nice to see her again and maybe apologise for coming across clingy - explain that wasn't your intention. See if you guys can just resume from where you left off.
I strongly fukking suspect she's met a new boy - and that's why she's getting annoyed by all your messages, but on the off chance she hasn't and you're just genuinely annoying her then hopefully she'll have the heart to forgive you.
If she's a bitch about it, make sure your face gives her hell. Work hard to mug her off and ruin her camp :L[/QUOTE]
1st of all, thanks for the reply ! Yeah, I assume that she knows I'm coming -- 100% sure. I guess that you're probably right about it being a bad idea to try to keep things alive; I thought I had a shot at it but I guess it wasnt the best idea. I'll keep your advice in mind when I see her in a few weeks and hopefully she wont give a **** about what happened :b Thanks again.
P.S if anyone wants to give more advice, feel free to :p
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[QUOTE=HelloWorld18;1090116963]1. Why do you see all the hot girls with average normal guys?
2. How can I get the confidence to get my first girlfriend this upcoming school year when I'm only going to school for half the year? I'm going to online school for the first half, then public for the second. But I know almost everyone at the school, so it's not a new school.
3. What do girls look for in a guy and how can I get a girlfriend this upcoming 1-2 school year?
4. Alright, so I don't have the manliest voice out there, my voice sounds high and gay (:() so would this make a girl not like me or not want to date me?[/QUOTE]
Hey, first off i know alot of guys in my high school who have pretty guaaaaay voices but girls love em regardless, try'n train your voice as much as you can, at least don't lisp. . .slip and die.
And i had found out that no matter what if you hadnt been in a relationship before, just about 99.99% of the time its gonna be awkoe to start out, you'll get through those awkward moments, now or then.
But don't invest yourself into it to much, cause most likely the firsts arnt gona last that long, but who knows.
Some huge confidence rectal probe aint gona come and just shoot up yonder ye back side young one, you just gota do it, stay loose, repeat, stay loose and have fun and don't care to much\
Good Luck
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I know i will get called **** for this but i can't help it and need an advice
Unlike most people my problem is not only one girl, i am a bit shy and i can't find topics to talk about aka i fail at making a conversation with them even just keeping it alive especially if i like the girl weird thing is i can talk to girls who are 2-3 years older normally not sure why.
I even make it hard on myself by aiming too high, like really ****en high.
Let me tell u an example(try to hold your rage and not call me a ***got alright? :P):
well mainly all my friends say i am so lucky with girls even tho i suck with them and this is why:
For example a year ago i started going to my basketball training again after leaving for 2 years and for some reason when we played with the girls team most of them or atleast some of them liked me (even some people told me that) i dont even look good or ripped or any**** so not sure why.
Anyone so i really liked that one of them and we kept joking, well she started joking but i used to tell her ohh u will miss it u wont score bla bla and after 2 month she was with that 19 years old girl and i went and said hi and stuff and kept talking to the older girl for like 15 min and a bit with the girl i like and then the older girl left and after like walking with the one i like for 5 mins i ran out of topic and awkward silence so i pretended i had to go some where same thing happened again with her after a week. What piss me off is that i was sure she like me she is one of those popular girls and she was giving me all the signs and when she like walks in with a couple of guys and girls to where i am she would leave all the guys that are there and come to say hi to me and talk to me first and always jking around anyway i screwed it up as usual, after 4 more month there was that blonde popular one which all guys are drolling on and for some reason she liked me ( i dont ****en get it what the **** do they like in me?) anyway she would like leave her friends and come sit in a place next to where i am playing and keeps looking at me and smiling then looking away quickly and that type of **** and ofc i was a dumb ****er again and didn't do any move even tho she started talking to me once Tada a medal for me for failing.
there are some other stories but this is the worst: so a girl i liked in the basketball team came and told me the ball you are playing with looks pretty small for a big guy like u wanna try mine? to start a convo i guess i was like yea and while shooting she kept asking me stuff and told me "try to shoot a bit with lower strength even when u are that far since i was at half court because u have strong arms and she smiled and i was like k, anway after 10 mins he friend came and started talking to her about sth i got nervous and left and went to run in the track lol.
I know this is so long so medal for the ones who will read it without cursing at me :D
So any advice, help, notes, slaps, therapist any freakin thing before i end up as a lonely ****er on some island alone? xD Reppin for help.
I am 17 btw
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[QUOTE=wedo3;1095466273]I know i will get called **** for this but i can't help it and need an advice
Unlike most people my problem is not only one girl, i am a bit shy and i can't find topics to talk about aka i fail at making a conversation with them even just keeping it alive especially if i like the girl weird thing is i can talk to girls who are 2-3 years older normally not sure why.
I even make it hard on myself by aiming too high, like really ****en high.
Let me tell u an example(try to hold your rage and not call me a ***got alright? :P):
well mainly all my friends say i am so lucky with girls even tho i suck with them and this is why:
For example a year ago i started going to my basketball training again after leaving for 2 years and for some reason when we played with the girls team most of them or atleast some of them liked me (even some people told me that) i dont even look good or ripped or any**** so not sure why.
Anyone so i really liked that one of them and we kept joking, well she started joking but i used to tell her ohh u will miss it u wont score bla bla and after 2 month she was with that 19 years old girl and i went and said hi and stuff and kept talking to the older girl for like 15 min and a bit with the girl i like and then the older girl left and after like walking with the one i like for 5 mins i ran out of topic and awkward silence so i pretended i had to go some where same thing happened again with her after a week. What piss me off is that i was sure she like me she is one of those popular girls and she was giving me all the signs and when she like walks in with a couple of guys and girls to where i am she would leave all the guys that are there and come to say hi to me and talk to me first and always jking around anyway i screwed it up as usual, after 4 more month there was that blonde popular one which all guys are drolling on and for some reason she liked me ( i dont ****en get it what the **** do they like in me?) anyway she would like leave her friends and come sit in a place next to where i am playing and keeps looking at me and smiling then looking away quickly and that type of **** and ofc i was a dumb ****er again and didn't do any move even tho she started talking to me once Tada a medal for me for failing.
there are some other stories but this is the worst: so a girl i liked in the basketball team came and told me the ball you are playing with looks pretty small for a big guy like u wanna try mine? to start a convo i guess i was like yea and while shooting she kept asking me stuff and told me "try to shoot a bit with lower strength even when u are that far since i was at half court because u have strong arms and she smiled and i was like k, anway after 10 mins he friend came and started talking to her about sth i got nervous and left and went to run in the track lol.
I know this is so long so medal for the ones who will read it without cursing at me :D
So any advice, help, notes, slaps, therapist any freakin thing before i end up as a lonely ****er on some island alone? xD Reppin for help.
I am 17 btw[/QUOTE] It is easier said then done, but don't be so shy! Do whatever you can to keep a conversation going. It sounds like these girls really like you so they will be willing to talk about pretty much anything. For the girls that play basketball, talk to them about basketball! The more you talk to girls the more confident you will get and then it will all come natural. Good Luck
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[QUOTE=wedo3;1095466273]I know i will get called **** for this but i can't help it and need an advice
Unlike most people my problem is not only one girl, i am a bit shy and i can't find topics to talk about aka i fail at making a conversation with them even just keeping it alive especially if i like the girl weird thing is i can talk to girls who are 2-3 years older normally not sure why.
I even make it hard on myself by aiming too high, like really ****en high.
Let me tell u an example(try to hold your rage and not call me a ***got alright? :P):
well mainly all my friends say i am so lucky with girls even tho i suck with them and this is why:
For example a year ago i started going to my basketball training again after leaving for 2 years and for some reason when we played with the girls team most of them or atleast some of them liked me (even some people told me that) i dont even look good or ripped or any**** so not sure why.
Anyone so i really liked that one of them and we kept joking, well she started joking but i used to tell her ohh u will miss it u wont score bla bla and after 2 month she was with that 19 years old girl and i went and said hi and stuff and kept talking to the older girl for like 15 min and a bit with the girl i like and then the older girl left and after like walking with the one i like for 5 mins i ran out of topic and awkward silence so i pretended i had to go some where same thing happened again with her after a week. What piss me off is that i was sure she like me she is one of those popular girls and she was giving me all the signs and when she like walks in with a couple of guys and girls to where i am she would leave all the guys that are there and come to say hi to me and talk to me first and always jking around anyway i screwed it up as usual, after 4 more month there was that blonde popular one which all guys are drolling on and for some reason she liked me ( i dont ****en get it what the **** do they like in me?) anyway she would like leave her friends and come sit in a place next to where i am playing and keeps looking at me and smiling then looking away quickly and that type of **** and ofc i was a dumb ****er again and didn't do any move even tho she started talking to me once Tada a medal for me for failing.
there are some other stories but this is the worst: so a girl i liked in the basketball team came and told me the ball you are playing with looks pretty small for a big guy like u wanna try mine? to start a convo i guess i was like yea and while shooting she kept asking me stuff and told me "try to shoot a bit with lower strength even when u are that far since i was at half court because u have strong arms and she smiled and i was like k, anway after 10 mins he friend came and started talking to her about sth i got nervous and left and went to run in the track lol.
I know this is so long so medal for the ones who will read it without cursing at me :D
So any advice, help, notes, slaps, therapist any freakin thing before i end up as a lonely ****er on some island alone? xD Reppin for help.
I am 17 btw[/QUOTE]
Want to help you, but that enormous wall of text all badly punctuated is making it hard.
Spelling is chit. Try and write in full sentences, start new sentences with a capital letter, don't use 'u' instead of 'you'. Even if you're not good at spelling or English browsers have a built-in spell check. Sort yourself out bro.