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Try to replicate that feeling you get when you're semi drunk. I don't know if you know that feel but just develop a funny personality and don't back down from it.[QUOTE=Louhetherington;1105818493]Just wondering how i can get a bit more confident with girls, never really been confident with them at all :([/QUOTE]
how can you find out if a girl is in a relationship without asking her ?
"without asking her" srs
[QUOTE=ShreddedBrahhh;1107804633]how can you find out if a girl is in a relationship without asking her ?
"without asking her" srs[/QUOTE]
well most post that on Facebook so start there that's what i do. then if no luck ask her friend
[QUOTE=bigfluffy29;1106111733]Hey brahs. Last night my buddies parents had a party, and I met this girl there. She was pretty awesome, and we talked for a while, but she had to leave really quickly and I never got a chance to get her number. When I woke up this morning I saw that she followed me on twitter. I HATE talking to ppl over social media, but do you think it would be okay if I sent her a private message or something? If so what should it say? Mealie reps for help! Thanks![/QUOTE]
This is easy man :)
Follow her back first
Then message her like "Hey, you're the girl from last night right? You seemed really cool, wanna *get a drink* tomorrow night?"
Swap in whatever first date ideas you have :)
[QUOTE=bigfluffy29;1106111733]Hey brahs. Last night my buddies parents had a party, and I met this girl there. She was pretty awesome, and we talked for a while, but she had to leave really quickly and I never got a chance to get her number. When I woke up this morning I saw that she followed me on twitter. I HATE talking to ppl over social media, but do you think it would be okay if I sent her a private message or something? If so what should it say? Mealie reps for help! Thanks![/QUOTE]
Lol. This should literally be so easy. If she took the time to find you on twitter, she has some kind of interest and it seems like you all made a decent connection. Send her this:
"Hey, it was nice getting to meet you last night"
She will say- "You too!" Maybe something more elaborate
You- decide what your aiming to go for. a date? meet up? Send her something like- "If you'd be up for it, I'd love to see you again sometime"
If she says yes, get the #. If not, then OP dun goofed.
[QUOTE=Louhetherington;1105818493]Just wondering how i can get a bit more confident with girls, never really been confident with them at all :([/QUOTE]
TBH, facial aesthetics, confidence, speaking skills, how interesting you are, and how well you can hold a conversation are the most important things. Work on the areas out of these you are weaker in and look to improve them.
I seem to reply to a lot of stuff in this thread - thought I might try and kill a few birds with the same stone and post up some more general advice...
My 5 tips for all around winning:
1) Brains: knowledge is power. Put your intelligence on display by taking a girl to an art gallery, beer tasting, or anywhere else you know the terrain.
Not sure about the gym though lads.
2) Money skills: Big paycheck or not, a financial plan demonstrates control and ability to provide. That is sexy.
3) Generosity: Obviously pay for drinks when the two of you go out, but try buying a round on your next double date. It shows you're the kind of guy who invests in relationships.
4) Honesty: Always be straight up about everything; including your romantic intentions. It will show that you're self confident and genuine. It also shows you don't have to resort to deceiving others to achieve your goals.
5) Well groomed: Doesn't matter how ****ing ugly you are. Dress well, look after your skin and your teeth, deodorise always and use some eau de toilette on dates. Looking good shows you care and makes you infinitely more appealing.
Also, a lot of these questions seem to be about how to introduce yourself to girls you like. My best advice is just to be straight forward and honest.
If it's in the gym:
"Look, I'm not a guy who usually bothers women in the gym. But I've noticed you here before, and I'd kick myself later if I didn't man up and say hi."
Outside of the gym every case is different, but the cold approach is almost always effective and you can use exactly the same line every time.
1) "hey, you're cute, can I have your number?"
2) There is no number 2, number 1 is perfect.
My biggest tip is not to fear rejection.
"He who, at the best, knows the feeling of high achievement, and at the worst, if he fails, at least fails whilst daring greatly, so that his place will never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither the feeling of victory nor defeat."
^Theodorw Roosevelt said that.
If you don't try you won't succeed. If you
Do try your chances are greatly enhanced. Sitting in your ass thinking about asking a girl out gets you NOWHERE. If you're attracted to a girl act on it. Just slap yourself in the face and go for it - and act fast. Don't wai around for her to leave or get with another guy!
If the above advice helps even one person it was worth it :)
Feel like I post here too much but I'm a bit drunk so fuk it.
I asked a girl if she wanted to come and hang out sort of thing. Said "Yeah that would be ace. Sure, when would you be free?"
I said the day I was free and we sort of left it at that.
Then the day before I said "what time would be best for you tomorrow?"
She never replied but nothing had happened in between. Just wondering what the fuk changed her mind or whatever. She later said she had to work but I'm not that convinced.
What should I do?
Message her asking if she wants to meet up another day. If she seems hesitant say "It's cool if you don't want to" or something like that. Give her an escape route.
See what happens. Not going to lie dude, doesn't seem like she's that interested - but it's worth another shot for sure. Until she actually says no it's still game on :)
In the post above I meant to say SHE said "yeah that would be ace", but yeah I don't know. I'll ask her, just don't want to seem too keen. She has liked me quite recently, that's all I know.
[QUOTE=livingforlean;1108619173]In the post above I meant to say SHE said "yeah that would be ace", but yeah I don't know. I'll ask her, just don't want to seem too keen. She has liked me quite recently, that's all I know.[/QUOTE]
Ideally you'd ask her if she wants to meet up again face to face rather than on the internet because you'd be able to read her much better.
It could be she was sat at home with her face like :| saying "yeah, that would be ace"
Or it could be that she was like :D) bouncing off the walls happy - but then she was put off when you didn't contact her for a few days, she then didn't want to look too keen and didn't message you. Then she had some work pop up.
If you speak to her in real life you'll be able to see how she reacts to the things you say and you can see what she really means by what she's saying. You'll know if she's really interested :)
[QUOTE=Bugler666;1109646973]Ideally you'd ask her if she wants to meet up again face to face rather than on the internet because you'd be able to read her much better.
It could be she was sat at home with her face like :| saying "yeah, that would be ace"
Or it could be that she was like :D) bouncing off the walls happy - but then she was put off when you didn't contact her for a few days, she then didn't want to look too keen and didn't message you. Then she had some work pop up.
If you speak to her in real life you'll be able to see how she reacts to the things you say and you can see what she really means by what she's saying. You'll know if she's really interested :)[/QUOTE]
I have to spread some reps before I can rep you again haha.
Yeah, that would be an ideal situation but the problem is that meeting up with her usually has to be arranged because I don't see her around much anymore. :/
Hopefully I'll find out what the deal is soon enough, but she's away just now haha.
Thanks again for the help though man. :)
ive posted here a couple of times with various q's (most are about being friendzoned), anyway my best friend broke up with his GF like 2 months ago, and literally within 2 weeks of breaking up with her he hooked up with over 10 7.5-9/10 (srs, guy has like 9/10 facial aesthetics no homo). anyway he just said he started talking to girls he found attractive on FB, even if he didnt know them, got numbers, set up meetings, then profit. i thought 'fuark it, if he can do it, then i can too'. have gone from not making out with a girl in 7 months, to going to a girls (7/10 misc standards, dat ass) house tomorrow when her parents aren't there, gotten various numbers from girls, and the only thing i can think has changed is my attitude. just don't care if you get shot down by a girl, you're better than she is anyway, her loss. you see a girl that's goodlooking on FB (stay away from 8.5-10's, generally have huge bish shields and not worth the time imo) just talk to her, get her number (it aint hard to get a girls number on FB) and from there arrange to meet. also i have no better than 4.5-5/10 facial aesthetics, however have been told by girls lately my height/hair/clothes are a turn on. this isn't a brag thread, just a lil advice to fellow Tmiscers, your attitude makes a huge difference. peace
[QUOTE=livingforlean;1109775363]I have to spread some reps before I can rep you again haha.
Yeah, that would be an ideal situation but the problem is that meeting up with her usually has to be arranged because I don't see her around much anymore. :/
Hopefully I'll find out what the deal is soon enough, but she's away just now haha.
Thanks again for the help though man. :)[/QUOTE]
No problem dude, just do what you can and don't get hugely hung up about it :)
[QUOTE=stayingpositive;1110108183]ive posted here a couple of times with various q's (most are about being friendzoned), anyway my best friend broke up with his GF like 2 months ago, and literally within 2 weeks of breaking up with her he hooked up with over 10 7.5-9/10 (srs, guy has like 9/10 facial aesthetics no homo). anyway he just said he started talking to girls he found attractive on FB, even if he didnt know them, got numbers, set up meetings, then profit. i thought 'fuark it, if he can do it, then i can too'. have gone from not making out with a girl in 7 months, to going to a girls (7/10 misc standards, dat ass) house tomorrow when her parents aren't there, gotten various numbers from girls, and the only thing i can think has changed is my attitude. just don't care if you get shot down by a girl, you're better than she is anyway, her loss. you see a girl that's goodlooking on FB (stay away from 8.5-10's, generally have huge bish shields and not worth the time imo) just talk to her, get her number (it aint hard to get a girls number on FB) and from there arrange to meet. also i have no better than 4.5-5/10 facial aesthetics, however have been told by girls lately my height/hair/clothes are a turn on. this isn't a brag thread, just a lil advice to fellow Tmiscers, your attitude makes a huge difference. peace[/QUOTE]
^this guy is aware. It is literally all an attitude thing. If you're outgoing, self confident and put yourself out there you normally get to reap the rewards. Could help you hit on random girls for sure, but I wouldn't go about hitting on girls you already know on Facebook like that, that would be considered creepy.
Facebook is a valuable tool if you use it right :)
Don't know where to begin but... I just have problems with gf :(
[QUOTE=Azteytik;1113176713]Don't know where to begin but... I just have problems with gf :([/QUOTE]
She sounds like a bitch
:|
I can't understand the women and weather
[QUOTE=Bugler666;1113821393]She sounds like a bitch
:|[/QUOTE]
I've inboxed you before about her when we had problems before brah, fixed that but have different reasons for conflict now :/
p.s mirin delts
I have a couple questions
1) What to talk about without being boring
2) How to escalate physically without coming off as a creep in public
3)How to make gf official
[QUOTE=TheBoyBoyJesse;1114143723]I have a couple questions
1) What to talk about without being boring
2) How to escalate physically without coming off as a creep in public
3)How to make gf official[/QUOTE]
1) Assess your surroundings; eg. The weather is raining, say "love the rainy weather, dont you?"
Ask her questions about herself, talk about you when the time is right and she's finished talking about herself. Talk in a confident way.
2) If the time is right and all signs are GO, escalate as quick as you want.
You are in public, half the people looking at you have common thoughts inside their head which are perceived as 'normal' thoughts of disgust or jealousy. Do what you want, if you worry about what the public thinks about you then never ever ever become famous.
3) if she's your gf, it's already official.
[QUOTE=TheBoyBoyJesse;1114143723]I have a couple questions
1) What to talk about without being boring
2) How to escalate physically without coming off as a creep in public
3)How to make gf official[/QUOTE]
1) Joke around and tease her sometimes. Don't just agree with everything she says.
2) It won't seem creepy unless you go all out all of a sudden which I don't think anyone would really do anyway.
3) Just ask her, literally ask if she wants to make it official if you need to. It will pretty much end up that way though anyway if everything is going well between the two if you and it will be natural.
[QUOTE=livingforlean;1114211023]1) Joke around and tease her sometimes. Don't just agree with everything she says.
2) It won't seem creepy unless you go all out all of a sudden which I don't think anyone would really do anyway.
3) Just ask her, literally ask if she wants to make it official if you need to. It will pretty much end up that way though anyway if everything is going well between the two if you and it will be natural.[/QUOTE]Lol from the way he is asking i think he might ask her if she want to be his gf on first date xD
Atleat wait for a some weeks
[QUOTE=wedo3;1114235713]Lol from the way he is asking i think he might ask her if she want to be his gf on first date xD
Atleat wait for a some weeks[/QUOTE]
Lol nah brah I mena after a while. Will get rep you guys on rc thanks
[QUOTE=Azteytik;1114142543]I've inboxed you before about her when we had problems before brah, fixed that but have different reasons for conflict now :/
p.s mirin delts[/QUOTE]
Inbox me again? Or not worth it?
Cheers brah. I love training delts haha
Will most likely be my last time in this thread for a while, after I check any responses of course. So, there's this girl whose stunning, absolutely beautiful. She has perfect skin, blonde hair, is down right gorgeous. She's super shy, so she barely talks but she has this really cute voice too ;). On her ask fm thingamajig she basically tells people to dm her on Facebook or twitter to get her number so they can start talking. She's like the nicest person ever, by the way. Now, here comes the tricky scenario. So my friend, he's not the greatest looker and he's quite awkward, sent his phone number on the ask thing with his name and she never texted him. I'm pretty sure I'm better looking than him, and I'm more talkative/sociable - should I post my number and name on there, or dm her on Facebook? I have no idea if I should, I sort of have a f*** it attitude right now so I want to, yet don't. I don't want to be awkward as that'll definitely ruin my chances and this is like the perfect girl...
[QUOTE=Achieving;1117769463]Will most likely be my last time in this thread for a while, after I check any responses of course. So, there's this girl whose stunning, absolutely beautiful. She has perfect skin, blonde hair, is down right gorgeous. She's super shy, so she barely talks but she has this really cute voice too ;). On her ask fm thingamajig she basically tells people to dm her on Facebook or twitter to get her number so they can start talking. She's like the nicest person ever, by the way. Now, here comes the tricky scenario. So my friend, he's not the greatest looker and he's quite awkward, sent his phone number on the ask thing with his name and she never texted him. I'm pretty sure I'm better looking than him, and I'm more talkative/sociable - should I post my number and name on there, or dm her on Facebook? I have no idea if I should, I sort of have a f*** it attitude right now so I want to, yet don't. I don't want to be awkward as that'll definitely ruin my chances and this is like the perfect girl...[/QUOTE]
Inbox her bro, or talk to her in real life. Once you get in that zone where you've chatted her up a little you can ask for her number there. Hopefully she'll give you it then you can start texting/calling her from there. If not, wait for a week or 2(to make it look less weird or desperate) maybe then you may want to post your number on her ask.fm. Good luck.
[QUOTE=Bugler666;1116846463]Inbox me again? Or not worth it?
Cheers brah. I love training delts haha[/QUOTE]
I've made a thread about it bro check it out. Same with all of you guys, if you could help me out with a girl topic.
[url]http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=156186493&page=1[/url]
[QUOTE=Achieving;1117769463]Will most likely be my last time in this thread for a while, after I check any responses of course. So, there's this girl whose stunning, absolutely beautiful. She has perfect skin, blonde hair, is down right gorgeous. She's super shy, so she barely talks but she has this really cute voice too ;). On her ask fm thingamajig she basically tells people to dm her on Facebook or twitter to get her number so they can start talking. She's like the nicest person ever, by the way. Now, here comes the tricky scenario. So my friend, he's not the greatest looker and he's quite awkward, sent his phone number on the ask thing with his name and she never texted him. I'm pretty sure I'm better looking than him, and I'm more talkative/sociable - should I post my number and name on there, or dm her on Facebook? I have no idea if I should, I sort of have a f*** it attitude right now so I want to, yet don't. I don't want to be awkward as that'll definitely ruin my chances and this is like the perfect girl...[/QUOTE]
Some serious chit gets posted in this thread.
Sounds like this girl has a lot of guys chasing her - asking for her number and chit. You could try messaging her on Facebook and go for a slightly different approach to make yourself stand out, but I wouldn't really advise it.
You're 15 brah. Eat clean, train hard, look after your skin, get a decent haircut, invest money in nice clothes, spend time with your bros, make as many friends as you can and try hard in school. Don't worry about girls for now. That way in a couple years time you will be the perfect guy all the bishes are posting about in female misc. You'll be aesthetic, invited to all the parties and going somewhere in life. You'll find that the guys who get girls now will be skinny sad kunts in a couple years. Don't be afraid to be different.
There's your advice brah.
I had my first girlfriend this summer. I started talking to her in May. I didn't know if I liked her or not. She was really pretty, and shy. She's 18. I was only her second boyfriend. I kind of was a dick at first to her and I texted her a lil bit everyday kind of blew her off. I hung out with her a couple times and it was eh. Then one day I hung out with her all day and we swam and her mom took us to get her senior picture dress and we ate at a nice restaurant.before we left for shopping though idk what it was but something tripped in my head and I HAD to have her. She was such a nice girl. I asked her out that night. I knew she'd say yeah because it was obvious she wanted me. I would definitely say she wanted it more than I did at that point. We dated for 2 months every day seeming to be better and better for me. She was everything i wanted. I got way too attached to her. But that's just my personality. We talked all the time we were always texting or talking and I would go to her house everyday just about. We would make out and stuff. All the time before I'd leave. I really wanted to take her virginity. And mine too. But I didn't worry about it. She starts acting weird one day. Not talkative/caring. Invites me to come swim with her one day after work a couple days after shes acting different. She acted so weird that day. I called her that night asked her what the problem was she said nothing. Next day hardly talks to me. Breaks up with me that night...in a text. At 1147 pm. Tells me shes not ready for a boyfriend she hasn't been spending enough time with family(sick grandparents) like wtf right but I said ok and she TEXTED me three days later to apologize... how weak. Her papaw died like 2 days after she broke up with me. I said hey to her passing through the hall at school and she didn't know what to say she said hey back in a weird tone. I don't really give a finna now though. I wanted her back real bad at first..but now I don't care. I guess you can't trust anyone.
Edit: I'm really happy to have the whole girlfriend experience out of the way though. It's helped me focus on sports a lot more. And it feels good to actually say some things about it. I haven't talked to anyone about it.
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