First of all, I would like to clearly state that I am a girl.
So, I'm trying to get a boyfriend this summer, but since school's out, I've been having trouble finding guys (around 17) outside of school.
Any ideas or recommendations?
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First of all, I would like to clearly state that I am a girl.
So, I'm trying to get a boyfriend this summer, but since school's out, I've been having trouble finding guys (around 17) outside of school.
Any ideas or recommendations?
[QUOTE=GSINGH21;1237116193]16 and never had a gf. srs. foreveralone with my gains[/QUOTE]
Bishes aint shiiii. Disregard women, acquire aesthetics
[QUOTE=singeress;1254801141]First of all, I would like to clearly state that I am a girl.
So, I'm trying to get a boyfriend this summer, but since school's out, I've been having trouble finding guys (around 17) outside of school.
Any ideas or recommendations?[/QUOTE]
Find a single guy.
Talk to him.
Tell him hes cute.
=
boyfriend.
Guyz r dum.
this girl i know is like 6/10 on a good night :L
would never consider a relationship with her but would definitely go there as a fk buddy
both have both mutually agreed that relationships are stupid in high school and are "not for us"
girl is pretty dam slooty already
srs need advice on how to initiate the idea of us becoming fk buddys but cant be straight up with her otherwise she may realize how much of a sloot she really is :L
any ideas, urgently needed because the chance to pitch this idea will probably wont be around for too much longer
i definitely know that she would be into me and keen etc.
Guys I have a big problem and need help. Dis girl lives right down the street and I don't know how to go about approaching. Don't go to the same school, so I actually never see her. Anyone help?
[QUOTE=Willanhanyard;1258843341]Guys I have a big problem and need help. Dis girl lives right down the street and I don't know how to go about approaching. Don't go to the same school, so I actually never see her. Anyone help?[/QUOTE]
is this a completely cold approach? what i mean is has she been giving signals of any sort (smiling etc.) maybe shooting a cheeky glance in your direction?
[QUOTE=Brons0n;1259095161]is this a completely cold approach? what i mean is has she been giving signals of any sort (smiling etc.) maybe shooting a cheeky glance in your direction?[/QUOTE]
Well the problem is I have only talked to her a couple of times and pretty much never see her since we don't go to the same school.
[QUOTE=Willanhanyard;1259184041]Well the problem is I have only talked to her a couple of times and pretty much never see her since we don't go to the same school.[/QUOTE]
well when u talked to her did she seem at all interested in you? u didn't really answer my question before :L
[QUOTE=Brons0n;1259239201]well when u talked to her did she seem at all interested in you? u didn't really answer my question before :L[/QUOTE]
Maybe somewhat, I mean I can't be too sure. What I am asking is how can I get to talk to her? Like just go over to her house and knock in the door?
T-MISC HELP dream girl for years never manged to win her joined the military came home for a week and she invited me to a party about 3 months ago and we just chilled had a laugh and i thought she still only wanted me as a friend and i didnt see the signs like her wanting me to be alone outside with her etc but then i thought nothing of it i thought there was still zero chance got with someone else for 2 months im now single for about a month and we started talking again i still thought as friends she invited me to the cinema and well basically everything got in the way first time i lost my phone and cards and stuff on the way to cinema so never made it and then second time her grandad was dying in hospital well we finally made it today and i choked up and never made a move but we had a laugh and stuff and it made me realize how she still is the one i text her yes i know i text her how i feel and well ill tell you what she said
'' if im honest i did like you a lot at megs i did want you to aswell and then you dated that other girl and i figured you didnt like me anymore and now im sorta talking to someone but i dont know cause i like you but literally if you had said this 3 months ago id of said yes right away and i dont know because i do like you but theres someone else im talking to and i dont know because it wouldnt be fair on him or anything ''
so i seriously am willing to do anything to get with her what shall i do i may have already thrown away my one chance :/ however ive liked her for like 4 years and well i need sort it quick she goes away to thailand for 4 weeks friday and well i wanna sort it out before she goes :(
[QUOTE=Fuzzhead;1261308231]T-MISC HELP dream girl for years never manged to win her joined the military came home for a week and she invited me to a party about 3 months ago and we just chilled had a laugh and i thought she still only wanted me as a friend and i didnt see the signs like her wanting me to be alone outside with her etc but then i thought nothing of it i thought there was still zero chance got with someone else for 2 months im now single for about a month and we started talking again i still thought as friends she invited me to the cinema and well basically everything got in the way first time i lost my phone and cards and stuff on the way to cinema so never made it and then second time her grandad was dying in hospital well we finally made it today and i choked up and never made a move but we had a laugh and stuff and it made me realize how she still is the one i text her yes i know i text her how i feel and well ill tell you what she said
'' if im honest i did like you a lot at megs i did want you to aswell and then you dated that other girl and i figured you didnt like me anymore and now im sorta talking to someone but i dont know cause i like you but literally if you had said this 3 months ago id of said yes right away and i dont know because i do like you but theres someone else im talking to and i dont know because it wouldnt be fair on him or anything ''
so i seriously am willing to do anything to get with her what shall i do i may have already thrown away my one chance :/ however ive liked her for like 4 years and well i need sort it quick she goes away to thailand for 4 weeks friday and well i wanna sort it out before she goes :([/QUOTE]
Try not to over-think it man. An issue I have is that I over-analyse every little detail that happens. Big mistake with my first gf.
But if there is another dude and you are the one with the history with her just try your best m8. Especially if shes your dream grill.
Thats the best I can offer I'm afraid :/
[QUOTE=DenseBenge;1261312531]Try not to over-think it man. An issue I have is that I over-analyse every little detail that happens. Big mistake with my first gf.
But if there is another dude and you are the one with the history with her just try your best m8. Especially if shes your dream grill.
Thats the best I can offer I'm afraid :/[/QUOTE]
im trying im more annoyed that i never saw that she wanted to be with me and then got with this evil life ruining bitch who caused me nothing but problems :/ and still is since we broke up
Okay yeah so first post.
Anyways, me and this girl have known each other for like three years. Used to talk 2 years ago (almost srs dated), but I stopped that because of sports and AP classes. Had to get into college somehow. We texted on and off, just friends, for the past 3 or so years and would have our breaks in between from texting eachother. I got out for summer recently and have been having parties every couple of weeks. 2 weeks ago I had her over at a party, and we ended up hooking up (drunk that night, then again that morning). We had a date like couple days after and she said I was best blah blah. But had her over again last week w/ her friends and we didn't hook up. No alcohol but she said she was tired, and that morning she left early af for work. Seemed like she was mad at me (i figured because I was staying up late w/ her friends and being friendly when she was tired that night but not sure brahs). Lately it's been harder to text her too (take longer to reply, not as many double/triple texts or random calls). I'm blocking any feels because she has another guy who she see's once a month that she bones when she sees him (hate this), but chits hard because we've been close for the past couple years. And her friend said she always talks about me. There's little chance for anything srs because she's going to a diff college than me next year, but I'd like to make the best of this summer and not cross off any chance of a that or anything more. What to do brahs?
Shorter cliffs:
-Know girl for three years
-Talked for first year (almost srs dating but stopped for sports/schoolwork)
-Text for past 2 years on/off as friends
-Get back from college this summer
-Have parties every 2 weeks
-Invite girl to party
-Have drunk sex + sober sex in morning
-Date later that week, tells me I'm best she's had yadda yadda
-Invite to small gettogether with her friends
-She seems mad/bothered (prob cause i stayed up with her friends and flirted a bit)
-No sex and she leaves early next morning
-Harder to text and no more double/triple texts or random calls
-Try to block feels because of another guy (sees him once a month, they hook up then) but I've known her for so long
-Friends say she talks about me all time
-Prob can't date because diff colleges soon and she'll be a freshman
-Starting to get feels and kinda want to date
-What to do?
[QUOTE=HesterKing;1261634481]Okay yeah so first post.
Anyways, me and this girl have known each other for like three years. Used to talk 2 years ago (almost srs dated), but I stopped that because of sports and AP classes. Had to get into college somehow. We texted on and off, just friends, for the past 3 or so years and would have our breaks in between from texting eachother. I got out for summer recently and have been having parties every couple of weeks. 2 weeks ago I had her over at a party, and we ended up hooking up (drunk that night, then again that morning). We had a date like couple days after and she said I was best blah blah. But had her over again last week w/ her friends and we didn't hook up. No alcohol but she said she was tired, and that morning she left early af for work. Seemed like she was mad at me (i figured because I was staying up late w/ her friends and being friendly when she was tired that night but not sure brahs). Lately it's been harder to text her too (take longer to reply, not as many double/triple texts or random calls). I'm blocking any feels because she has another guy who she see's once a month that she bones when she sees him (hate this), but chits hard because we've been close for the past couple years. And her friend said she always talks about me. There's little chance for anything srs because she's going to a diff college than me next year, but I'd like to make the best of this summer and not cross off any chance of a that or anything more. What to do brahs?
Shorter cliffs:
-Know girl for three years
-Talked for first year (almost srs dating but stopped for sports/schoolwork)
-Text for past 2 years on/off as friends
-Get back from college this summer
-Have parties every 2 weeks
-Invite girl to party
-Have drunk sex + sober sex in morning
-Date later that week, tells me I'm best she's had yadda yadda
-Invite to small gettogether with her friends
-She seems mad/bothered (prob cause i stayed up with her friends and flirted a bit)
-No sex and she leaves early next morning
-Harder to text and no more double/triple texts or random calls
-Try to block feels because of another guy (sees him once a month, they hook up then) but I've known her for so long
-Friends say she talks about me all time
-Prob can't date because diff colleges soon and she'll be a freshman
-Starting to get feels and kinda want to date
-What to do?[/QUOTE]
honestly bro sounds like she is kinda mad at you for talking and flirting with her mates (which is totally in your rights as u are not exclusive together) typical girl thing to do though man, (really stood out to me) she said u were the best she had ever had and then the next time she sees u (plus u talking to all her mates etc.) she sends u mixed signals by kinda looking like she isnt interested anymore therefore i defs reckon she has some sort of feelings for u she is just not sure what to do about it. what should u do about it? well why dont u just be straight up about it. dont actually say u like her though that is important but make it obvious u want something more to happen, whether u tell her in person or over text and what to say exactly is up to you, i dont know enough about the situation.
[QUOTE=Willanhanyard;1259985631]Maybe somewhat, I mean I can't be too sure. What I am asking is how can I get to talk to her? Like just go over to her house and knock in the door?[/QUOTE]
yeah man if u think u know her well enough to, but my advice get her number first bro. u can usually tell if a chick is interested or not through how how the appear over text e.g. double/triple texts, wanting to call etc. just engage in small talk with her and then be like "i gotta go im pretty busy, lets continue this conversation, whats ur number" as if u expect her to give it to you
then just gauge how intersted she is, dont ask to hang out straight away, just text for a while first and ask her if shes keen to hang
what u two do together is up to you but i suggest if ur unsure how she feels just, when u ask to hang choose a really neutral location. if u ask her to the movies or to dinner she might think its a date and decline before she knows how she feels just like maybe a walk or out to the same party u guys might be attending.
I go to an all Boys school so it's hard to find girls to hangout with us, any suggestions how we could find some girls and just hangout?
[QUOTE=KingKokorin;1263403751]I go to an all Boys school so it's hard to find girls to hangout with us, any suggestions how we could find some girls and just hangout?[/QUOTE]
Lol just goo to somewhere where lots of girls hang out e.g. the mall etc. i know it sounds childish but srs u can meet chicks. even if the chick is average as fk looking try be mates with her maybe, all chicks have the "hot friend" 9 times outta 10... the rest is up to you
what do u do when you've tried being confident and everything in the book and all the attractive girls are repulsed by you but all the fugs swarm to you ??? ive only had two 7/10 in my whole :/ the rest were well.......... 5/10 even cut my hair and thought that would help a lot but it didn't :( now i have to grow it back out and even the average looking girls i get wont let me smash fml :/
[QUOTE=dylangarrett72;1264010791]what do u do when you've tried being confident and everything in the book and all the attractive girls are repulsed by you but all the fugs swarm to you ??? ive only had two 7/10 in my whole :/ the rest were well.......... 5/10 even cut my hair and thought that would help a lot but it didn't :( now i have to grow it back out and even the average looking girls i get wont let me smash fml :/[/QUOTE]
It's because you look like a metalhead that goes to concerts and looks sweaty and smokes all the time. You're a good looking dude, and definitely keep your hair cut. But don't style it like Synyster Gates. Style it like a male model and you'll be golden. Maybe change the way you dress and such. I always have and always will love rock and metal but I never dressed like a "typical metalhead". Just my two cents. I predict great things in your future. Everyone has their time.
[QUOTE=TwoCats;1264135831]It's because you look like a metalhead that goes to concerts and looks sweaty and smokes all the time. You're a good looking dude, and definitely keep your hair cut. But don't style it like Synyster Gates. Style it like a male model and you'll be golden. Maybe change the way you dress and such. I always have and always will love rock and metal but I never dressed like a "typical metalhead". Just my two cents. I predict great things in your future. Everyone has their time.[/QUOTE]
thanks for the advice brah but i don't mean to be an ass and throw it back in your face . ive been told the same thing by a lot of my peers im prob not gnna do it because i feel like i wouldn't be myself uk . so when it comes down to it , i guess i have to choose between being myself and getting no pussy or pretend to be someone im not and get a lot pussy. what would you do brah ??? btw , repped .
[QUOTE=dylangarrett72;1264010791]what do u do when you've tried being confident and everything in the book and all the attractive girls are repulsed by you but all the fugs swarm to you ??? ive only had two 7/10 in my whole :/ the rest were well.......... 5/10 even cut my hair and thought that would help a lot but it didn't :( now i have to grow it back out and even the average looking girls i get wont let me smash fml :/[/QUOTE]
I've got a couple suggestions and constructive comments.
Let's start with appearance. First of all, keep your hair cut, and don't grow it super long again. You're new look is better than you old one, but there's still room to improve on it. You need to try and find a more average guy type hairstyle. Not too many girls are into a fohawk.
And second of all, you really need to lose that lip ring; and kinda lighten up on the scene/rocker look. There are not a lot of girls that are into that to be honest. Rocker/scene chicks tend to be a minority (although if that's the type of girl you're looking, I would recommend you getting a job or hanging out at a place like Hot Topic to meet more of them). All the black you were wearing in that picture gave more a negative vibe. A change to a wardrobe that has at least some type of color would send a message of being more inviting/enjoyable to be around.
Oh, and I also recommend getting a tan. It will give you some color, even against a dark clothing.
You're body is fine; you seem really buff Ina girls perspective. Although if you want up your chances in a girls perspective, you might want to pursue abs and a more masculine jawline ergo going on a cut. This step is totally optional, you don't have to do it if it affects your life too much. But I'm not going to lie to you, most girls are way more interested in having a guy with abs and some semi-muscular arms. The go big or go home mindset was totally set up by guys for guys. Kind of like how women's fashion trends/rules are set up by women/gay men, for women/gay men, when I'm pretty sure guys can't tell whether or not a girl is wearing last seasons clothes or not. But again, it's up to you.
Oh, and speaking of clothes, you could go after the athletic look. You're already muscular, so I definitely see you pulling off a muscle or cut off t shirt. And it would be a plus if you knew how to play a sport, so you could back it up with a good game or a school jersey.
Now for actually getting a girl, there are pretty much two ways to get a girl to like you. Either a, being direct and asking her out; (which seems like something you've already tried and done)...
Or b, which is to become her friend first and letting it grow. I know it sounds sappy, and takes a longer time anyways, but it allows you two to get to know each other without any pressure or awkwardness. You can find out what she likes, you can sneak in a couple of your good qualities, and most importantly, find out is she has a bf and if your here type. Don't be too toward with real intentions; let it build up SLOWLY, like a little over a month. In the meantime, you can repeat this process with as many other girls you want.
But hear me out on plan B, the thing Is realized about my girl friends is that they have dated the same four guys in our friend group. I'm not saying that this happens for girl-guy friends, but I am saying that aside from a guy being really attractive (plan A), a close second to how a girl starts to like a guy is how how they can relate to each other in having a bond.
My suggestion for a majority of guys out there is to try both plan A (being direct), and plan B becoming friends first; and seeing what works them best.
[QUOTE=singeress;1264348091]I've got a couple suggestions and constructive comments.
Let's start with appearance. First of all, keep your hair cut, and don't grow it super long again. You're new look is better than you old one, but there's still room to improve on it. You need to try and find a more average guy type hairstyle. Not too many girls are into a fohawk.
And second of all, you really need to lose that lip ring; and kinda lighten up on the scene/rocker look. There are not a lot of girls that are into that to be honest. Rocker/scene chicks tend to be a minority (although if that's the type of girl you're looking, I would recommend you getting a job or hanging out at a place like Hot Topic to meet more of them). All the black you were wearing in that picture gave more a negative vibe. A change to a wardrobe that has at least some type of color would send a message of being more inviting/enjoyable to be around.
Oh, and I also recommend getting a tan. It will give you some color, even against a dark clothing.
You're body is fine; you seem really buff Ina girls perspective. Although if you want up your chances in a girls perspective, you might want to pursue abs and a more masculine jawline ergo going on a cut. This step is totally optional, you don't have to do it if it affects your life too much. But I'm not going to lie to you, most girls are way more interested in having a guy with abs and some semi-muscular arms. The go big or go home mindset was totally set up by guys for guys. Kind of like how women's fashion trends/rules are set up by women/gay men, for women/gay men, when I'm pretty sure guys can't tell whether or not a girl is wearing last seasons clothes or not. But again, it's up to you.
Oh, and speaking of clothes, you could go after the athletic look. You're already muscular, so I definitely see you pulling off a muscle or cut off t shirt. And it would be a plus if you knew how to play a sport, so you could back it up with a good game or a school jersey.
Now for actually getting a girl, there are pretty much two ways to get a girl to like you. Either a, being direct and asking her out; (which seems like something you've already tried and done)...
Or b, which is to become her friend first and letting it grow. I know it sounds sappy, and takes a longer time anyways, but it allows you two to get to know each other without any pressure or awkwardness. You can find out what she likes, you can sneak in a couple of your good qualities, and most importantly, find out is she has a bf and if your here type. Don't be too toward with real intentions; let it build up SLOWLY, like a little over a month. In the meantime, you can repeat this process with as many other girls you want.
But hear me out on plan B, the thing Is realized about my girl friends is that they have dated the same four guys in our friend group. I'm not saying that this happens for girl-guy friends, but I am saying that aside from a guy being really attractive (plan A), a close second to how a girl starts to like a guy is how how they can relate to each other in having a bond.
My suggestion for a majority of guys out there is to try both plan A (being direct), and plan B becoming friends first; and seeing what works them best.[/QUOTE]
This is really good advice.
[QUOTE=singeress;1264348091]I've got a couple suggestions and constructive comments.
Let's start with appearance. First of all, keep your hair cut, and don't grow it super long again. You're new look is better than you old one, but there's still room to improve on it. You need to try and find a more average guy type hairstyle. Not too many girls are into a fohawk.
And second of all, you really need to lose that lip ring; and kinda lighten up on the scene/rocker look. There are not a lot of girls that are into that to be honest. Rocker/scene chicks tend to be a minority (although if that's the type of girl you're looking, I would recommend you getting a job or hanging out at a place like Hot Topic to meet more of them). All the black you were wearing in that picture gave more a negative vibe. A change to a wardrobe that has at least some type of color would send a message of being more inviting/enjoyable to be around.
Oh, and I also recommend getting a tan. It will give you some color, even against a dark clothing.
You're body is fine; you seem really buff Ina girls perspective. Although if you want up your chances in a girls perspective, you might want to pursue abs and a more masculine jawline ergo going on a cut. This step is totally optional, you don't have to do it if it affects your life too much. But I'm not going to lie to you, most girls are way more interested in having a guy with abs and some semi-muscular arms. The go big or go home mindset was totally set up by guys for guys. Kind of like how women's fashion trends/rules are set up by women/gay men, for women/gay men, when I'm pretty sure guys can't tell whether or not a girl is wearing last seasons clothes or not. But again, it's up to you.
Oh, and speaking of clothes, you could go after the athletic look. You're already muscular, so I definitely see you pulling off a muscle or cut off t shirt. And it would be a plus if you knew how to play a sport, so you could back it up with a good game or a school jersey.
Now for actually getting a girl, there are pretty much two ways to get a girl to like you. Either a, being direct and asking her out; (which seems like something you've already tried and done)...
Or b, which is to become her friend first and letting it grow. I know it sounds sappy, and takes a longer time anyways, but it allows you two to get to know each other without any pressure or awkwardness. You can find out what she likes, you can sneak in a couple of your good qualities, and most importantly, find out is she has a bf and if your here type. Don't be too toward with real intentions; let it build up SLOWLY, like a little over a month. In the meantime, you can repeat this process with as many other girls you want.
But hear me out on plan B, the thing Is realized about my girl friends is that they have dated the same four guys in our friend group. I'm not saying that this happens for girl-guy friends, but I am saying that aside from a guy being really attractive (plan A), a close second to how a girl starts to like a guy is how how they can relate to each other in having a bond.
My suggestion for a majority of guys out there is to try both plan A (being direct), and plan B becoming friends first; and seeing what works them best.[/QUOTE]
as for the way i dress ive already toned it down alot from since i was younger i never wear all black i normally wear just metal tees with name brand stone washed jeans or skinny jeans , i always try to put color in my outfits and stuff like for ex when i wear black skinnies ill wear a bright colored shirt like one of my pokemon shirts , sometimes i dont even wear black in my outfits , some times its just a colored shirt with blues jeans or skinnies and for hair i am consodering another short hairstyle but idk i miss my long hair , all in all im mot some goth creepo who wears ****gy make or follows ppl i just wear wat i like and most sports dont appeal to me except for mma but ive never had the money for classes but ive found my passions in life lifting and playing guitar. and as for plan b , it sounds like a surefire wY to get me friend zoned
[QUOTE=dylangarrett72;1264533391]as for the way i dress ive already toned it down alot from since i was younger i never wear all black i normally wear just metal tees with name brand stone washed jeans or skinny jeans , i always try to put color in my outfits and stuff like for ex when i wear black skinnies ill wear a bright colored shirt like one of my pokemon shirts , sometimes i dont even wear black in my outfits , some times its just a colored shirt with blues jeans or skinnies and for hair i am consodering another short hairstyle but idk i miss my long hair , all in all im mot some goth creepo who wears ****gy make or follows ppl i just wear wat i like and most sports dont appeal to me except for mma but ive never had the money for classes but ive found my passions in life lifting and playing guitar. and as for plan b , it sounds like a surefire wY to get me friend zoned[/QUOTE]
I'm quite the metalhead, and I don't look like a metalhead AT ALL.
And you most definitely need to cut your hair. Go for short sides, and longer on top. Make sure all your clothes are fitted, and don't worry about the all black stuff; more than 2/3 of my closet is black and probably only 1/5 of it is coloured.
Confidence problems with girls, girls only pls help -
Baasically I'm 18 virgin, do I care? a lot but I don't want to have sex with an absolute slut, whenever I start talking to a girl, I am confident as **** when it comes to texting then we meet up or something and I become the biggest pussy ever like i don't even flirt I'm just too shy I can't help it I dont want to be this way lol,should I lower my standards and get like confident in person with not as good looking girls first or what? Help please
[QUOTE=supersaiyanV7;1268652561]Confidence problems with girls, girls only pls help -
Baasically I'm 18 virgin, do I care? a lot but I don't want to have sex with an absolute slut, whenever I start talking to a girl, I am confident as **** when it comes to texting then we meet up or something and I become the biggest pussy ever like i don't even flirt I'm just too shy I can't help it I dont want to be this way lol,should I lower my standards and get like confident in person with not as good looking girls first or what? Help please[/QUOTE]
honestly bro you just gotta adapt the mentality of "who gives a fk!" and just go for it. you are gonna get rejected just like every other dude in the world but who cares. dont let being rejected get you down either, see it as a learning curve and what not to do next time. when you stop caring about rejection you appear more confident to yourself and other people because they will see a dude who doesnt give two f**** about what another persons opinion is and show that you are ok with being yourself (bit cheesy but its true). and that idea of lowering your standards is maybe a good idea but if you do, dont rule out more attractive girls obviously, you might feel more comfortable talking to less atracttive girls. something that helped me when i would talk to some hawt b****s is just see yourself as better than them and leet them know it subtly though.
>that feel when you don't know if she likes you or if she's playing games with you
[QUOTE=BoneAndDream;1269375811]>that feel when you don't know if she likes you or if she's playing games with you[/QUOTE]
make a move then either you're in or you move on
delete
I have a ****ton of game in person but can't translate it to texting like what.