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I wanna do my first approach so bad.. I just feel like I have some weight on me that doesn't let me move when I wanna do it and/or something doesn't let me go for it
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[QUOTE=copypast0r;976394893]I wanna do my first approach so bad.. I just feel like I have some weight on me that doesn't let me move when I wanna do it and/or something doesn't let me go for it[/QUOTE]
133lbs ? cant be that bad.
jokes lol. Just do it *******, once you do it your perspective should change. It's just so far outside your reality right now that you can't comprehend it. Get it in your reality and you won't have that problem.
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[QUOTE=The_Champ01;973464153]What do you guys think of this c#nts day game? I was thinking of starting some day game because I really got to stop drinking booze, to tempted at nightclubs or bars.
[youtube]qBYYAqebfKs[/youtube][/QUOTE]
am i the only one who agrees that this girl is cute as fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuk.
would wife/10
jelly as fuk
but why would you interview her and let her know you were filming her if you are dating???
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Sitting in the library right now and a few tables in front of me is a solid 9 blond sitting alone doing hw and listening to music. Have the bitch butterflies right now. Want to approach her tap her on the shoulder sit next to her and say like "hi was just in my way out and saw you sitting here and I thought you were absolutely adorable and wanted to introduce myself" then make small talk for a few mins then tell her I need to get home but let's exchange numbers? Good or what brahs
Edit: fuark no reply yet gonna go for it and update later
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Yeah update, unless you chickened out.
Haven't posted in a while, not much to say, I achieved some things I wanted to and then got bored but now started going out again and tomorrow night got booth(or whatever it's called in English) at the club with friends so gonna be great, got plans for Sunday too just gotta see whats up with Saturday.
Bitches beware, coming for you.
srs
Should have started doing this years ago, ****ing wow, noone should play it and don't go back to it feelthefear... Now got exams and **** to do every week, hard >:[
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[QUOTE=iJedi;976428073]Sitting in the library right now and a few tables in front of me is a solid 9 blond sitting alone doing hw and listening to music. Have the bitch butterflies right now. Want to approach her tap her on the shoulder sit next to her and say like "hi was just in my way out and saw you sitting here and I thought you were absolutely adorable and wanted to introduce myself" then make small talk for a few mins then tell her I need to get home but let's exchange numbers? Good or what brahs
Edit: fuark no reply yet gonna go for it and update later[/QUOTE]
Well not sure what to think about how it went, could of been better, could of been a hell of a lot worse.
Walked up and tapped her shoulder "Hi, could I bother you for a second?"
Her- Ughhh sure (she looked and sounded confused lol)
Me-(sat next to her) I was just on my way out and saw you sitting here alone and wanted to say you look absolutely gorgeous
Her- Umm thank you (still confused?)
Me- So yeah I just wanted to introduce myself, Hi im iJedi. (shook her hand)
Her- Hi, Im ----
Me- Nice to meet you, so what are you up to, some late night studying? well its not that late its like what 5pm
Her- yeah I have a midterm tomorrow.
Me- Ah cool whats midterm is it?
Her- Well im taking nursing but that test is for psych.
Me- Nice, that was me favorite course to, well I don't know if you like it lol what school are you going to?
Her- Um cite colegel
Me- Oh so your french?
Her- Yes lol (awkward giggle?)
Me- (went blank dont know what to say) Um im sorry Ive never done this.
Her- im sorry i don't want to turn you down but i have a boyfriend and we have been dating for 3 years.
Me- Ah really, your killing me here! (this is where I ****ed up and started talking about my ex and recent break up ffs..lol)
Her- Oh im sorry im sure you'll find someone
Me- Alright well I got to go it was nice to meet you.
Her-bye, nice to meet you to.
Felt nervous as fuarkkkkk lol any advice or critique? Felt like I was blabbering about stupid **** sometimes ex. ex gf lol and I said things differently then what i was planning to say. Wanted to say at the beginning she was adorable, but called her gorgeous. Just small things.
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You did fine. But 1. always try to stray away from boring conversation and get into something interesting/playful. And 2.Don't talk about negative/weird things. So no EMO talk about ex girlfriends or w/e. Keep it to funny ****.
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Staying away from boring is easier said then done, wasn't really anything to work with. She was there for a good 3+ hours just sitting there and doing hw listening to music. What kind of things could I have brought up? Just been using the FISH technique. And yea need to stay away from that **** didn't know what to say at the time. I know a bunch of things I could of said but went completely blank once I sat next to her. I need to work on keeping eye contact more as well and just being more confident in general.
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[QUOTE=iJedi;976457053]Well not sure what to think about how it went, could of been better, could of been a hell of a lot worse.
Walked up and tapped her shoulder "Hi, could I bother you for a second?"
Her- Ughhh sure (she looked and sounded confused lol)
Me-(sat next to her) I was just on my way out and saw you sitting here alone and wanted to say you look absolutely gorgeous
Her- Umm thank you (still confused?)
Me- So yeah I just wanted to introduce myself, Hi im iJedi. (shook her hand)
Her- Hi, Im ----
Me- Nice to meet you, so what are you up to, some late night studying? well its not that late its like what 5pm
Her- yeah I have a midterm tomorrow.
Me- Ah cool whats midterm is it?
Her- Well im taking nursing but that test is for psych.
Me- Nice, that was me favorite course to, well I don't know if you like it lol what school are you going to?
Her- Um cite colegel
Me- Oh so your french?
Her- Yes lol (awkward giggle?)
Me- (went blank dont know what to say) Um im sorry Ive never done this.
Her- im sorry i don't want to turn you down but i have a boyfriend and we have been dating for 3 years.
Me- Ah really, your killing me here! (this is where I ****ed up and started talking about my ex and recent break up ffs..lol)
Her- Oh im sorry im sure you'll find someone
Me- Alright well I got to go it was nice to meet you.
Her-bye, nice to meet you to.
Felt nervous as fuarkkkkk lol any advice or critique? Felt like I was blabbering about stupid **** sometimes ex. ex gf lol and I said things differently then what i was planning to say. Wanted to say at the beginning she was adorable, but called her gorgeous. Just small things.[/QUOTE]
It went alright. I mean there probably wasn't much you could have done in that short amount of time since she had a bf anyways. But yeah, like the other guy said, it's good to stay away from the boring topics. And I realize the library might not be the best place to find things to talk about.
And as you mean have noticed, she got confused in the beginning because some random dude just called her gorgeous out of the blue at the library and it caught her off guard. Just imagine if some random bish just came out to you and said you were looking "thick n solid". You'd be like "wtf??".
But hey, at least you had the balls to go up to her. I'm working on my cold approach as well.
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Another thing: ignore the reaction that the girl gives you at first and just plow. A lot of girls will give weird responses that make you think she isn't interested when it really doesn't mean anything. Could be shocked, surprised, embarrassed, maybe she was mad about something etc (oh and the biggest one NERVOUS). Just continue on with the conversation and don't be phazed by her.
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[QUOTE=iJedi;976457053]Well not sure what to think about how it went, could of been better, could of been a hell of a lot worse.
Walked up and tapped her shoulder "Hi, could I bother you for a second?"
Her- Ughhh sure (she looked and sounded confused lol)
Me-(sat next to her) I was just on my way out and saw you sitting here alone and wanted to say you look absolutely gorgeous
Her- Umm thank you (still confused?)
Me- So yeah I just wanted to introduce myself, Hi im iJedi. (shook her hand)
Her- Hi, Im ----
Me- Nice to meet you, so what are you up to, some late night studying? well its not that late its like what 5pm
Her- yeah I have a midterm tomorrow.
Me- Ah cool whats midterm is it?
Her- Well im taking nursing but that test is for psych.
Me- Nice, that was me favorite course to, well I don't know if you like it lol what school are you going to?
Her- Um cite colegel
Me- Oh so your french?
Her- Yes lol (awkward giggle?)
[B]Me- (went blank dont know what to say) Um im sorry Ive never done this.
Her- im sorry i don't want to turn you down but i have a boyfriend and we have been dating for 3 years.[/B]
Me- Ah really, your killing me here! (this is where I ****ed up and started talking about my ex and recent break up ffs..lol)
Her- Oh im sorry im sure you'll find someone
Me- Alright well I got to go it was nice to meet you.
Her-bye, nice to meet you to.
Felt nervous as fuarkkkkk lol any advice or critique? Felt like I was blabbering about stupid **** sometimes ex. ex gf lol and I said things differently then what i was planning to say. Wanted to say at the beginning she was adorable, but called her gorgeous. Just small things.[/QUOTE]
I lol'd
decent reaction from you minus the ex talk.
GJDM for approaching her though man. Draw on that experience.
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Brah i just ****ed up right now. I am soooo mad at my self right now.... i made a thread if anyone is intersted in reading it.
I swear to god rejection would feel 1000x times better then this ****.
[url]http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=149516223[/url]
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FUUUUUAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRKKKKKK! I'm raging right now lol.
There was this girl I number closed a month ago at the gym that I wanted to smash. The want was pretty strong, I wanted to plow this bitch open. She was a 7.5/10 with a nice body. I was texting her from time to time, probably about 2-3 times a week. It was all small talk, nothing sexual AT ALL. I tried to meet her once, she said she was having girls night out and invited me but I wanted go sarge with my pickup krew. The past couple weeks, I wanted to try out the "Emotional Spikes" Julien was talking about in his latest videos. So on my birthday we were texting and heres how it went:
ME: "It's my birthday, so you owe me a birthday kiss" <<< I think I was too direct, I was supposed to sub communicate that
HER: "Ummmmmmmmm I don't think so" <<<<<< Anti Slut Defense
ME: "You are so fukin racist!"
HER: "No I'm not! and that's not something to joke about!"
ME: "I'm not joking about it, you're fukin racist!" <<< I pushed it too far
She begin to ignore my texts after that.
So yesterday I see her at the gym and I approached her "Yo, Whats up?" and we begin to have small talk and in the middle of convo, I begin to laugh and she's saying "Whats so funny?" and I tell her "You ignore my texts after I called you racist." And she responded "Yea, that offended me" So I said "Just kidding" and she said "It's cool" then she ended the convo saying "I'm about to go stretch, bye". I could tell I fuked it up and it was GAME OVER for me so I deleted her number.
So today I was talking to my homeboy at the gym and he told me "Remember, that chick you was talking to yesterday? I got her number last Thursday and smashed her Friday and Saturday, total of 4 times" I said "No fukin way! you're lying!" and he showed me some text excerpts and she was talking freaky as fuk! one of the texts saying "my body is sore from sex last night ;) "..... I fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk so hard LOLz. I was thinking "That should have been me, I fuked it up". He said "I know, she told me". I guess she told him that I was an azzhole and that i was clingy. I don't know where the fuk I she got that I was clingy from but I was farrrr from clingy. I admit I was a azzhole though lolz. It was all for experiment and I pushed it too far. He told me she was a stone cold freak, she wanted hair pulled, suked dik and wanted to fuk non stop. I was disappointed in myself. The emotional spike experiment was a failure. When a girl emotionally responds to you, that automatically gives you value. Oh well, LESSON LEARNED. I probably wouldn't be thinking about it if i had abundance with women but I currently do not. I'm talking to 2-3 girls ATM and no girls I can call on to fuk. FeelsBadMan. I NEED TO APPROACH MORE, WAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY MORE! FUK! Lolz
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lol that story makes me want to stop playing world of warcraft, wtf
I imagine how you feel though brah
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i dont know if its coincidence or not, but its almost as if every decent/pretty good looking girl i talk to has a bf. i wont even go in with the intention of trying to date or her anything, but potentially in the future or something. however, at some point, they will mention a bf in some way. not like in a rush to get me away or w/e, but they will be like "oh yea my bf doesnt like that stuff either" or something. its super frustrating when u get hit with this stuff all the time. some girl asked me today to carpool with her since she doesnt have a car, but she also told me she has a bf. my desire to carpool with her now is almost at 0.
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[QUOTE=FeelTheFear;976403713]133lbs ? cant be that bad.
jokes lol. Just do it *******, once you do it your perspective should change. It's just so far outside your reality right now that you can't comprehend it. Get it in your reality and you won't have that problem.[/QUOTE]
Lol fuc[B]ke[B]r[/B][/B]
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Man, Had my shot today to sieze everything I ever wanted. I didn't catch it, let it slip.
Feels fukin bad bro, it was this girl I was in a class with. Today was last day of uni and when I was going back to my home waiting for the bus, she was there also. Didnt know what to say.. so didn't approach :(
I have her added on msn though.. I did one class with her like 2 years back. Would it be too akward if I say something to her in msn even though I couldn't talk to her irl?
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[QUOTE=copypast0r;976791523]Man, Had my shot today to sieze everything I ever wanted. I didn't catch it, let it slip.
Feels fukin bad bro, it was this girl I was in a class with. Today was last day of uni and when I was going back to my home waiting for the bus, she was there also. Didnt know what to say.. so didn't approach :(
I have her added on msn though.. I did one class with her like 2 years back. Would it be too akward if I say something to her in msn even though I couldn't talk to her irl?[/QUOTE]
Have you ever talked to her before? Pretty rough if you have and still couldn't come up with anything. Does she know who you are at least? Could of just asked her what her plans are now that schools done. Made some small talk about that then grabbed her number and say you'll call her to grab a drink sometime? She shouldn't deny you really if she had the faintest idea of who you are, I mean you went to the same school for what, 4 years? Just need to do it brah, worst case scenario you never see her again since uni is over, best case she could of been the one you end up marrying. The feeling of regret is worst then the feeling of being turned down and you miss 100% of the chances you don't take. MSN her if you want but it might be hard since you'll be presumably acting different through msn convos then she knows how you are in RL.
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[QUOTE=iJedi;976811923]Have you ever talked to her before? Pretty rough if you have and still couldn't come up with anything. Does she know who you are at least? Could of just asked her what her plans are now that schools done. Made some small talk about that then grabbed her number and say you'll call her to grab a drink sometime? She shouldn't deny you really if she had the faintest idea of who you are, I mean you went to the same school for what, 4 years? Just need to do it brah, worst case scenario you never see her again since uni is over, best case she could of been the one you end up marrying. The feeling of regret is worst then the feeling of being turned down and you miss 100% of the chances you don't take. MSN her if you want but it might be hard since you'll be presumably acting different through msn convos then she knows how you are in RL.[/QUOTE]
I mean, I took only one class with her 2 years ago and now this one, we didn't go to school together. I don't even remember why I have her on msn tbh. Obviously she can tell who I am, but she doesnt "know" me, I don't know if that makes sense. This semester we worked in one activity together and that was it. And I felt that she was mirin sometimes. It's just that I always say I'll aproach, but everytime I have the chance to approach any girl that I sense is mirin I just go blank, start over thinking and don't know what to say. Then when the oportunity goes I'm like, fuk why I didnt do it, I could have sayed this or that, but in the moment I can't come up with anything.
I'm currently watching some rsd videos, will keep doing this and eventually get this done once and for all. Thanks for the feedback.
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[QUOTE=copypast0r;976829623]I mean, I took only one class with her 2 years ago and now this one, we didn't go to school together. I don't even remember why I have her on msn tbh. Obviously she can tell who I am, but she doesnt "know" me, I don't know if that makes sense. This semester we worked in one activity together and that was it. And I felt that she was mirin sometimes. It's just that I always say I'll aproach, but everytime I have the chance to approach any girl that I sense is mirin I just go blank, start over thinking and don't know what to say. Then when the oportunity goes I'm like, fuk why I didnt do it, I could have sayed this or that, but in the moment I can't come up with anything.
I'm currently watching some rsd videos, will keep doing this and eventually get this done once and for all. Thanks for the feedback.[/QUOTE]
Try the 3 second rule. When you see a girl you have 3 seconds to go approach her. If you wait any longer then that you'll start coming up with excuses of why you shouldn't talk to her or convince yourself not to. So 3 seconds to approach and say whatever you want don't even think about it can be as simple as "Hi, I'm copypast0r"
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Went to Boston again and this huge park there. Went with a different buddy. I told myself I'd get a number. Did not.
Only 1 set. Had 2 more chances. I don't know why I didn't take them. I'm going again tomorrow morning. This time with the first Guy who I think ill have more success with. I don't know why.
Girl sitting apparently waiting for a Guy. I sat next to her. Hi how are you. Blah blah. Conversation was awful, as I didn't think of anything to say. Talked about school for a little bit. My buddy said I looked nervous. Fuark. I felt pretty natural just had no idea what to talk about. What do you guys consider fun topics?!?! Anyways I left said it was nice meeting you.
Went back to my buddy. He asked if I got a number. I decided to go back,and ask for it... lol awful idea. She claims she had a boyfriend. Maybe she did who knows. I joked about me having one too but I wouldn't tell mine if she didn't tell hers. Nervous laugh from her. Bailed.
Fun topics to talk about?!?!
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So your buddy who doesn't use pua stuff smashed in such a short time? Why aren't you asking HIM for advice lol.
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[QUOTE=BEhave;976929183]So your buddy who doesn't use pua stuff smashed in such a short time? Why aren't you asking HIM for advice lol.[/QUOTE]
Not sure when I said the first part, but the first buddy who I went out with Wednesday approaches people at school, and I'm asking him for advice. The guy I went to approach with today won't approach, and he didn't help much.
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[QUOTE=BEhave;976929183]So your buddy who doesn't use pua stuff smashed in such a short time? Why aren't you asking HIM for advice lol.[/QUOTE]
probably cause he wouldn't know how to give advice. Most naturals cannot give advice to non-naturals, it just doesnt work.
my friend irl got laid a couple weeks ago at a bar, this was the same guy telling me that you should yell at girls from afar or some ****. LOL
anything can happen to anyone
and on another note, i have had like 0 motivation to do anything the past week or so so i'm going to take a short break from everything
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[QUOTE=OG123;976938893]Not sure when I said the first part, but the first buddy who I went out with Wednesday approaches people at school, and I'm asking him for advice. The guy I went to approach with today won't approach, and he didn't help much.[/QUOTE]
hes talking about coolboys friend
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Im in started at work today with one. After seeing this grew some balls and just said hey whats up she brought up weather got very little small talk in got her name then ****ed up and said i had to go without getting number. Its a start though. Going for 2 a day 5 at the club or bar
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^^ ugh weather is the worst whenever it's brought up. My biggest pet peeve topic at work.
Not sure how many of you have tried it, but the tic tac toe strategy worked for me last night. The way I approached it was I made eye contract, made sure she knew who I was beforehand (being a little bit louder and more animated. gave the impression I was fun to be around but not in an obnoxious douchey way). Start walking to the bar while maintaining eye contact. Grab a napkin, ask to borrow a pen. Write a tic tac toe grid on the napkin, make first move (obviously center box), walk over to her, leave it folded in front of her with the pen on top, flash a smile and walk away. In my experience, she filled in the box, came back. I went ahead and checked off boxes out of order, drew my line through for the win and wrote "I win, you owe me a drink". She bought it, we made conversation the rest of the night and also played dots on a napkin. Number received.
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Tonight was awesome, so many bishes wanting my penor. ****ing wish I didn't play ****ty wow and had different outlook on life 6 years ago, would have had such a different life.... but it's not too late.
Live on brothers! :D
off to shower and sleep
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[QUOTE=FeelTheFear;976941253]probably cause he wouldn't know how to give advice. Most naturals cannot give advice to non-naturals, it just doesnt work.
my friend irl got laid a couple weeks ago at a bar, this was the same guy telling me that you should yell at girls from afar or some ****. LOL
anything can happen to anyone
and on another note, i have had like 0 motivation to do anything the past week or so so i'm going to take a short break from everything[/QUOTE]
You need motivational wings.
I went out with my pickup crew (3 guys including me) and it was epic like always. Got some solid interactions and quality numbers. I went out with the mindset "try to get every number no matter how bad/good the interaction is" I failed to get the number on a couple sets but overall it was a good night. Didn't try to pull due to me having to work in the morning but tomorrow night I'm pushing for the pull
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Gonna text this girl from last night, translating but tell if I should change anything
1st msg: Hey
2nd: I. You. Tomorrow for [event]. Pick the time.
~N_L
Thoughts? If "busy" push on for Monday etc. Or do some smalltalk first but meh, boring.
P.S. She's a friend of friend so not some random sloot I guess
