Tinder girl and not meeting in person
Matched with this girl about 3 and a half months a go, started talking and got her number/Snapchat.
Been talking everyday since, and on a regular basis, like messaging back and fourth all day.
Spoke about meeting here and there but I was sleeping with someone else at the time so I never pushed it because I didn't need to really, I was just lining her up for when I got bored of the girl I was banging.
So after about 6 weeks of talking, and finding out more about her it does turn out she is legitimately very busy. She works full time, she's at university to be a nurse and as part of the course she has to work a placement at a hospital.
So we eventually agree to meeting one Sunday after talking for these six weeks.
She has previously said she's shy and would be nervous blah blah blah..
I 100% already know, from years of experience, that she will either cancel last second or just ignore her phone all day on the Sunday and then make up some bullchit story on Monday, standard girl stuff.
Saturday night before we meet she keeps posting pictures on her Snapchat story of her and her friend drinking, and sending me 'drunk' messages.. Low and behold Sunday comes around and she doesn't message all day until about 3pm, she says how hung over she is. I message back a few times normally, not even mentioning meeting as planned, just to see if she actually has the respect and courage to bring it up.
She doesn't, so after an couple of hours I mention it and she makes her excuses, too hung over, didn't mean to get so drunk, just keep falling asleep, so sorry ect.
I 100% expected this so I'd already made plans with the girl I had been sleeping with.
The next day she apologises a lot, says it was disrespect of her, won't happen again, asks me when I'm free so we can definitely meet and so on, again, standard stuff.
We get back to talking again and get back to normal but really I'm just thinking this is a bust and she's now in the 'pump and dump' category.
Carry on playing the game and talking and things and the conversations get sexual here and there, as they always have but there's no talk of meeting.
Few more weeks go buy and now we're here, I let her know at the start of last week I have this week off and ask her which day she has off work... Her reply, of course, is that she doesn't know.
Again, 100% knew before I asked her that 'I'm not sure, I'll have to check' would be her response. I also knew that she would never check and come back with a reply.
She just says she's not sure when she's off, thinks she's working split shifts (meaning at work more often than normal, something that had never happened before in 3/4 months but on the week I am free she potentially has work every single day, including the weekend, but again, she's not sure), and that she's also unsure about going out because of corona.. Even though she's had the vaccine and goes out every single day she's off and just says she can't live her life under those rules.
All I asked is what day she has off, nothing about meeting, but she knows what's going on and she's laying the ground work for her excuses.
Yesterday I told her I was going out with a friend for the day, and made her aware it was a female friend without blatantly saying it. I hardly messaged all day, just once or twice to see how she'd react.
She messaged me at the end of the night saying 'Are you okay, you seem different, or maybe it's just me?'. I said I was fine must just be you.. She's opened my message in the middle of the night, never replied and hasn't messaged all day, for the first time in 4 months.
Why do women play this long drawn out games rather than just being honest and saying they don't want to meet, they're too shy, they just want to chat, whatever it is?
It's pathetic.
She's very attractive to me, and she seems to have things in order in her personal life but all of this kind of stuff just pushes her into the 'only suitable for sex' category.
I'll fake it until I get what I want and then ghost her and she'll wonder why.
