It seems like these men don't ever recover.
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It seems like these men don't ever recover.
Worse than what?
[QUOTE=JayJ350;1629782533]Worse than what?[/QUOTE]
I don't know.
Terminal cancer
No, because any decent looking man will be able to score younger poon within 6 months of his divorce if he has even an ounce of confidence. It would be worse for the kids, who will likely grow up with developmental or behavior problems due to the psychological trauma of the separation (speaking from experience).
[QUOTE=GuineaDago585;1629783363]No, because any decent looking man will be able to score younger poon within 6 months of his divorce if he has even an ounce of confidence. It would be worse for the kids, who will likely grow up with developmental or behavior problems due to the psychological trauma of the separation (speaking from experience).[/QUOTE]
A responsible dad will feel double the pain his kids go through, because his kids go through.. Cheers to all dads n mums who go through this and after divorce still try to make the best of it for the kids
[QUOTE=Silencespeaks;1629782773]Terminal cancer[/QUOTE]
Especially when you realize your corpse won't even be cold before your lovely wife is riding another dink and your kids calling some other ******* Daddy (and maybe get plowed by him, too).
Yeah, that's worse.
Sounds like one of the worst situations to be in for a proper father.
[QUOTE=GuineaDago585;1629783363]No, because any decent looking man will be able to score younger poon within 6 months of his divorce if he has even an ounce of confidence. It would be worse for the kids, who will likely grow up with developmental or behavior problems due to the psychological trauma of the separation (speaking from experience).[/QUOTE]
But who was father caring foremost for his kids?
[QUOTE=GuineaDago585;1629783363]No, because any decent looking man will be able to score younger poon within 6 months of his divorce if he has even an ounce of confidence. It would be worse for the kids, who will likely grow up with developmental or behavior problems due to the psychological trauma of the separation (speaking from experience).[/QUOTE]
most guys can't financially recover from that chit though.
plus alimoney, child support, etc
I actually have been giving divorce a lot of thought this past year and my new opinion is that people should stay together for the kids. Only exceptions are physical abuse or addictions. Any normal problems or cheating etc I think you should just accept to keep the family together for the kids.
[QUOTE=Silencespeaks;1629784773]I actually have been giving divorce a lot of thought this past year and my new opinion is that people should stay together for the kids. Only exceptions are physical abuse or addictions. Any normal problems or [B]cheating[/B] etc I think you should just accept to keep the family together for the kids.[/QUOTE]
that just builds resentment. especially while still in a marriage. kids pick up on that.
all you're doing is teaching them that there aren't consequences to adultery
[QUOTE=Muscle2021;1629784823]You think kids don't pick up that mom and dad can't stand each other?[/QUOTE]
I think you can hide it. I think it’s still better than divorce.
[QUOTE=Sarevoke75;1629785223]that just builds resentment. especially while still in a marriage. kids pick up on that.
all you're doing is teaching them that there aren't consequences to adultery[/QUOTE]
You can hide it. You don’t have to tell them anything.
Divorce is pretty much the worst thing that can happen to kids. It should be avoided at almost any cost.
[QUOTE=Silencespeaks;1629785483]You can hide it. You don’t have to tell them anything.
Divorce is pretty much the worst thing that can happen to kids. It should be avoided at almost any cost.[/QUOTE]
Most people aren't award winning actors/actresses. No way would I be able to hide my feelings on an ongoing basis. Plus your kids are growing up seeing a loveless marriage and that's not good modeling for them.
[QUOTE=Silencespeaks;1629784773]I actually have been giving divorce a lot of thought this past year and my new opinion is that people should stay together for the kids. Only exceptions are physical abuse or addictions. Any normal problems or cheating etc I think you should just accept to keep the family together for the kids.[/QUOTE]
Yes, people should stay together through cheating. I think the majority of couples in past generations probably knowingly did this.
[QUOTE=Silencespeaks;1629785483]You can hide it. You don’t have to tell them anything.
Divorce is pretty much the worst thing that can happen to kids. It should be avoided at almost any cost.[/QUOTE]
What if the husband is a SNIFFMAXXING miscer??
[QUOTE=Muscle2021;1629785673]I'll be honest I don't think you know chit about raising kids if you think you can hide things like that[/QUOTE]
True idk anything about raising kids but I feel like I could hide it.
[QUOTE=Legz422;1629785783]Most people aren't award winning actors/actresses. No way would I be able to hide my feelings on an ongoing basis. Plus your kids are growing up seeing a loveless marriage and that's not good modeling for them.[/QUOTE]
Idk I think I could do it.
Hope you’re not going through it op but I would imagine it’s one of the worst things a man can go through other than a terminal illness at a relatively young age.
[QUOTE=ErnieMccracken;1629784273]Especially when you realize your corpse won't even be cold before your lovely wife is riding another dink and your kids calling some other ******* Daddy (and maybe get plowed by him, too).
Yeah, that's worse.[/QUOTE]
I don't know about that. A very close friend of mine just lost his battle to stomach cancer (barely made 3 yrs) the week before Christmas. He was only 44. Left a wife, (together a little over 20 yrs, married for 15) and a 13 yr old daughter.
They are completely lost and devastated. I can't even imagine ever having to go through anything so heart breaking...:(
[QUOTE=mesobuild;1629785963]Yes, people should stay together through cheating. I think the majority of couples in past generations probably knowingly did this.[/QUOTE]
Yes
If you get married there’s probably a 50% + chance that there will be cheating. I think it should just be accepted as part of the risk and cost of marriage.
This is a new opinion btw that I formed last year. Prior to 2020 I believed people should break up after cheating.
[QUOTE=kimm4;1629786793]I don't know about that. A very close friend of mine just lost his battle to stomach cancer (barely made 3 yrs) the week before Christmas. He was only 44. Left a wife, (together a little over 20 yrs, married for 15) and a 13 yr old daughter.
They are completely lost and devastated. I can't even imagine ever having to go through anything so heart breaking...:([/QUOTE]
I’m sorry about your friend.
There will be new men orbiting her right away to provide “support” though. It’s a common strategy to prey on vulnerable grieving widows. Wish I was joking but srs.
[QUOTE=kimm4;1629786793]I don't know about that. A very close friend of mine just lost his battle to stomach cancer (barely made 3 yrs) the week before Christmas. He was only 44. Left a wife, (together a little over 20 yrs, married for 15) and a 13 yr old daughter.
They are completely lost and devastated. I can't even imagine ever having to go through anything so heart breaking...:([/QUOTE]
Obviously I'm generalizing, but of the 3 young married family men I've known who died, all were replaced within 3 months despite their wives being "devastated." I'd be shocked if this guy's wife wasn't already interviewing 2 or 3 new orbiters on the down low. That's life, son.
I don't really consider it a character flaw srs. It's part of female DNA that goes all the way back to the days men were crushing each other's skulls in with rocks. The women who survived were the ones who disregarded the last guy and quickly moved on to a new one. Loyalty is primarily a male trait, not a female one.
[QUOTE=mesobuild;1629785963]Yes, people should stay together through cheating. I think the majority of couples in past generations probably knowingly did this.[/QUOTE]
Hell no. The last thing a woman should do is teach her daughter to be low value. A mother needs to put self esteem in her daughter. I don't think staying with a cheater it showing a young girl you have more value then your pussy....
[QUOTE=ErnieMccracken;1629787443]Obviously I'm generalizing, but of the 3 young married family I've known who died, all were replaced within 3 months despite their wives being "devastated." I'd be shocked if this guy's wife wasn't already interviewing 2 or 3 new dudes on the down low. That's life, son.
I don't really consider it a character flaw srs. It's part of female DNA that goes all the way back to the days men were crushing each other's skulls in with rocks. The women who survived were the ones who disregarded the last guy and quickly moved on to a new one. Loyalty is primarily a male trait, not a female one.[/QUOTE]
Pls explain why I didn’t date at all for 4 years after my divorce. I feel like this is very atypical. I wish I was normal and could have just monkey branched like a normal person. Why am I so weird.
[QUOTE=mesobuild;1629785963]Yes, people should stay together through cheating. I think the majority of couples in past generations probably knowingly did this.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, no.
[QUOTE=Silencespeaks;1629786213]Idk I think I could do it.[/QUOTE]
Add that to the normal stress of raising kids then have to be an award winning actress around those kids 24/7? Doubt it.
[QUOTE=kimm4;1629786793]I don't know about that. A very close friend of mine just lost his battle to stomach cancer (barely made 3 yrs) the week before Christmas. He was only 44. Left a wife, (together a little over 20 yrs, married for 15) and a 13 yr old daughter.
They are completely lost and devastated. I can't even imagine ever having to go through anything so heart breaking...:([/QUOTE]
That's awful. So sorry for them. :(
[QUOTE=Silencespeaks;1629787613]Pls explain why I didn’t date at all for 4 years after my divorce. I feel like this is very atypical. I wish I was normal and could have just monkey branched like a normal person. Why am I so weird.[/QUOTE]
I didn't have nearly the trauma you did and I didn't even think about dating for an entire year after separation.
[QUOTE=user3657;1629787483]Hell no. The last thing a woman should do is teach her daughter to be low value. A mother needs to put self esteem in her daughter. I don't think staying with a cheater it showing a young girl you have more value then your pussy....[/QUOTE]
Single mother is a death sentence for most people. You have to play your hand.
[QUOTE=user3657;1629787483]Hell no. The last thing a woman should do is teach her daughter to be low value. A mother needs to put self esteem in her daughter. I don't think staying with a cheater it showing a young girl you have more value then your pussy....[/QUOTE]
Staying together shows you value family, stability, and finances more than your personal ego pride. I think staying together is the correct choice srs.
Again this is new. Prior to 2020 I believed people should break up.
[QUOTE=Silencespeaks;1629787333]I’m sorry about your friend.
There will be new men orbiting her right away to provide “support” though. It’s a common strategy to prey on vulnerable grieving widows. Wish I was joking but srs.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=ErnieMccracken;1629787443]Obviously I'm generalizing, but of the 3 young married family men I've known who died, all were replaced within 3 months despite their wives being "devastated." I'd be shocked if this guy's wife wasn't already interviewing 2 or 3 new orbiters on the down low. That's life, son.
I don't really consider it a character flaw srs. It's part of female DNA that goes all the way back to the days men were crushing each other's skulls in with rocks. The women who survived were the ones who disregarded the last guy and quickly moved on to a new one. Loyalty is primarily a male trait, not a female one.[/QUOTE]
I'll make sure to let you both know when it happens...
smh...
inb4 SilenceSpeaks "You should never divorce and stay together forever and ever for your kids"