[QUOTE=johnnyboi123;1593546461]OP did well walking away. If he let this anger build up, he might have done something bad to the kid eventually. walked away, no harm, no foul, just find a roastie with no kids.[/QUOTE]
Only a psychopath would hurt a child.
This post made me feel uneasy.
[QUOTE=jordanair45;1593550841]Tripping.
My kids would always come before anyone else.
Glad you broke it off OP because obviously you were not the right person for her needs. Poor kid would have had a **** life with you in the picture. Getting jealous of a kid getting more attention than you, strong wtf.[/QUOTE]
No I'm not tripping. It's called balance where you learn to take care of everyone's needs so no one is left out.
[QUOTE=Voidgaze;1593553401]This.
I think you're misunderstanding OP's point and attacking his character is a little much. The kid itself wasn't the problem, but rather the mother wasn't balanced with how the attention was distributed. If she's out to spend time with OP, then she should be spending time with OP and giving him enough attention so he doesn't feel like a third wheel to a kid. OP showed maturity breaking it off because he knew he wasn't okay with the situation. If he's already coming in 2nd place this early on, imagine how bad it will be in the future.
Any other parent would probably say "hang on one moment honey I'm talking" rather than cutting the other person off every moment their child wants to get in a word.
It's also possible the mother neglected her child in favor for her mate in her first relationship and is now compensating for that now. If so, she's going about it all wrong and should just focus on her kid before bringing another man in the picture.[/QUOTE]
I've given out too much rep to rep this. But rep.
Really appreciating all the support in this thread. I did communicate with her that I didn't like being so overlooked when the three of us are together and she basically said, "well, this is my kid, and I don't have her all the time, so whenever I'm with her I'm going to give her 90% of my attention, even if you're there." It was at that point I told her I wasn't cool with that dynamic and it wasn't fair to me to give her my time and 100% of my attention when we're together for her to reciprocate so little and that I have other things going on in my life like goals hobbies etc and if all I'm going to get from her is 10% attention then I'd rather use my limited time to focus on those things instead. She did profusely apologize for essentially neglecting me last night and has acknowledged she did so and could tell I wasn't having a good time, but at this point it's not really reparable since she basically told me it would be the same moving forward.
[QUOTE=drvillain;1593551181]Not gonna lie, I lold at the thought of an angry miscer walking ahead of his date and her kid.[/QUOTE]
Me too. Huffing off like that isn't really a mature move, no matter how upset you are.
OP, did you communicate to your date about what was upsetting you so you could get through the evening amicably?
[QUOTE=drvillain;1593551181]Not gonna lie, I lold at the thought of an angry miscer walking ahead of his date and her kid.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Legz422;1593556151]Me too. Huffing off like that isn't really a mature move, no matter how upset you are.
OP, did you communicate to your date about what was upsetting you so you could get through the evening amicably?[/QUOTE]
I wasn't walking around angry in front of them. At one point I did wander off a bit. But basically after about 45 minutes of realizing I was the third wheel I just started walking around like 10-15 feet away looking at things by myself. I was there to enjoy the lights with my gf, not drown her child in adulation and attention, so if they were gonna be stupid and take pictures every 10 feet I was going to find a way to enjoy myself anyway. She told me today she had a great time last night but could tell I didn't. That's what prompted this whole convo.
[QUOTE=BuckNakedinBama;1593556041]Really appreciating all the support in this thread. I did communicate with her that I didn't like being so overlooked when the three of us are together and she basically said, "well, this is my kid, and I don't have her all the time, so whenever I'm with her I'm going to give her 90% of my attention, even if you're there." It was at that point I told her I wasn't cool with that dynamic and it wasn't fair to me to give her my time and 100% of my attention when we're together for her to reciprocate so little and that I have other things going on in my life like goals hobbies etc and if all I'm going to get from her is 10% attention then I'd rather use my limited time to focus on those things instead. She did profusely apologize for essentially neglecting me last night and has acknowledged she did so and could tell I wasn't having a good time, but at this point it's not really reparable since she basically told me it would be the same moving forward.[/QUOTE]
If she isn't going to change the dynamic, then it is what it is and you did what you had to do. You just weren't a good match.
That said, strong username to avi
I’m wondering if anyone said “did you talk to her about it? How you would like to go just with her a couple times?”
Based on her answer and subsequent actions take the next steps
* read your other post. You did yourself a favour bro. Keep fishing and one of the fishes will catch you. :p
That sucks OP, but you deserve someone that will support you and put as a priority even IF you/they have kids.
Kids come second to the relationship imo.
Jesus, the only way for a beta who dates a single mother to get everything on an even keel is to give her another kid.
Raw dog that pussy, give her another kid and bail....
Semi/srs about the bail bit
Be the alpha, spread your seed, dominate and annihilate that pussy. Give her the alpha kid she deserves instead of running away like a beta.
Own that pussy, be the fucin man, you'll always look back at this as the time you were cucked by a child, do not be that man.
You need to change your mindset mane, your either are the cuck like you were last night or the dude who leaves a trail of kids and betas dating their mothers.
Pound that pussy, leave her with a manlet child and bail.
Be the lion, son.
Be the lion.
It hurts now, but you did the right thing. Single moms, when will they learn?
[QUOTE=MustardTiger17;1593558831]It hurts now, but you did the right thing. Single moms, when will they learn?[/QUOTE]
It’s too late already if you’re talking about a “single mom”.
LOL do you think it would be any different if she didn't have a kid? Once you both have kids, the kid will become the entire point of your fuking pathetic excuse for a life. You know that, right? Doesn't matter what girl you choose lmao. It's the law of the jungle boyo. The old must provide and die for the next iteration.
[QUOTE=Legz422;1593556151]Me too. Huffing off like that isn't really a mature move, no matter how upset you are.
[b]OP, did you communicate to your date about what was upsetting you[/b] so you could get through the evening amicably?[/QUOTE]
Be honest, do you really think most single women with a kid would take a discussion like that well? I'm not saying you're suggestion is wrong, but just based off of the replies ITT hating on OP, I'd bet OP's ex gf would react the same way. "It's my KID and they come FIRST!!1!1"
[QUOTE=jordanair45;1593550841]Tripping.
My kids would always come before anyone else.
Glad you broke it off OP because obviously you were not the right person for her needs. Poor kid would have had a **** life with you in the picture. Getting jealous of a kid getting more attention than you, strong wtf.[/QUOTE]
you call that jealous you butt munch? you would match perfect with a single mom. you're just as spaced out as the bich int he op.
should have stuck around so u can smash the daughter when she grows up
never date single moms, mostly if the dad is still around.
You gonna get cucked sooner or later by chadad.
[QUOTE=BuckNakedinBama;1593556041]Really appreciating all the support in this thread. I did communicate with her that I didn't like being so overlooked when the three of us are together and she basically said, "well, this is my kid, and I don't have her all the time, so whenever I'm with her I'm going to give her 90% of my attention, even if you're there." It was at that point I told her I wasn't cool with that dynamic and it wasn't fair to me to give her my time and 100% of my attention when we're together for her to reciprocate so little and that I have other things going on in my life like goals hobbies etc and if all I'm going to get from her is 10% attention then I'd rather use my limited time to focus on those things instead. She did profusely apologize for essentially neglecting me last night and has acknowledged she did so and could tell I wasn't having a good time, but at this point it's not really reparable since she basically told me it would be the same moving forward.[/QUOTE]
Then that's life, son.
You now know you can't be with a dedicate single mother.
Also, [size=11][B]Who gives a fuk if you put "nopics" in the title, you ******* ass cry-baby. You have the audacity to make a thread about your ex, you put her mother fuking pics in the thread. misc house rules[/B][/size]
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[QUOTE=BuckNakedinBama;1593556281]I wasn't walking around angry in front of them. At one point I did wander off a bit. But basically after about 45 minutes of realizing I was the third wheel I just started walking around like 10-15 feet away looking at things by myself. I was there to enjoy the lights with my gf, not drown her child in adulation and attention, so if they were gonna be stupid and take pictures every 10 feet I was going to find a way to enjoy myself anyway. She told me today she had a great time last night but could tell I didn't. That's what prompted this whole convo.[/QUOTE]i wouldn’t expect single moms to put you before their kids, best bet is to date a girl without kids
[QUOTE=Voidgaze;1593560201]Be honest, do you really think most single women with a kid would take a discussion like that well? I'm not saying you're suggestion is wrong, but just based off of the replies ITT hating on OP, I'd bet OP's ex gf would react the same way. "It's my KID and they come FIRST!!1!1"[/QUOTE]
The kid is 5 years old, it's not an infant. She can wait a minute while another person is speaking. It's called manners. So no, I don't think every mother would react the way you think.
[QUOTE=Legz422;1593563261]The kid is 5 years old, it's not an infant. She can wait a minute while another person is speaking. It's called manners. [b]So no, I don't think every mother would react the way you think.[/b][/QUOTE]
Fair enough.
I really hope you're right.
[QUOTE=Voidgaze;1593563841]Fair enough.
I really hope you're right.[/QUOTE]
Well Kimm and I are both moms and we've both said similar things. Soooooo.......
[QUOTE=samsbolton;1593551491]Lol the kid played you. The 5 year old knew exactly what they were doing, you were a threat to their relationship she outwitted you.
Another one for the clueless miscer highlight reel[/QUOTE]
This^
Ain't nobody got time for that.jpg
Good job running away
Only a few dudes need to put up with that chit. That's dudes 5.5/10 and below considering everything. Are you above? You've done the right thing. Below? You may have phucked up
not your kid?
yikes.
I could never take a single mother seriously. Just cant
No way would I go on a date with someone that brings a kid that isn’t mine to it.
I would not get into a relationship with a single mom.
Went on one date with one; told me she had a kid while going to her place. Kid was there with grandma do couldn’t go up. Then the flaked at the last minute for our second date because she was running around with the kid all day.
Never was able to reschedule the second date so I moved on.
In OP’s case, the mom isn’t ready to date. If she sees her child only a few days and wants to spend time with the kid, she shouldn’t be taking dates with her.
Mom needs to spend time with the kid and find time to date.
Also, OP never should have went on dates if the kid is there too. Just my opinion.
[QUOTE=Rabbitjb;1593546341]Cliffs: OP is jealous of a 5 year old
Why date a single mom if you detest children?[/QUOTE]
Not wanting to raise and deal with another man's offspring is now detesting children?
LMAO
[QUOTE=Legz422;1593563911]Well Kimm and I are both moms and we've both said similar things. Soooooo.......[/QUOTE]
You both belong to a completely different generation of women.
[QUOTE=Voidgaze;1593567141]You both belong to a completely different generation of women.[/QUOTE]
Well that's true. I think good manners are important.
If they have kids that aren’t yours- it won’t likely work out