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MsFitFern
12-14-2007, 07:57 PM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

Crazymix
12-14-2007, 07:58 PM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

I'm not 35 but, I will say some people just go to the gym to work out and not socialize.... I would definitely talk to you if I seen you around :D

bodyhard
12-14-2007, 08:02 PM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

Insecure men.....

MsFitFern
12-14-2007, 08:04 PM
I am not asking to marry them, just say hi dammit........dont treat me like I am carrying the bubonic plague

Insulin Ihsaan
12-14-2007, 08:05 PM
only ppl who have ever talked to me in the gym were my friends. i kinda consider the gym a non-social place, you are there for one reason, to workout.

Bob45
12-14-2007, 08:07 PM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

Come to my gym. I would defintely say hello to you!

heatwave13
12-14-2007, 08:11 PM
MsFitness, I am one man who is not afraid of women with muscle and I am the "say hi" type. In fact, folks call me "mouth of the south" because I'm always talking, so.....I would more than likely say hi to you but I wouldn't bother you if I noticed you were in the middle of an intense set of deadlifts (or whatever lift).

I don't know the general answer to your question, though. I will hazard a guess and say that, basically, "younger" men would be a little more likely to be intimidated by women with muscle. Maybe it's a security issue, like, they're thinking "would I be man enough to handle that kind of lady?"

P4D2A0
12-14-2007, 08:14 PM
msfitness, i would say hi to you! you have an awesome body! theyre just p*ssies

EBA84
12-14-2007, 08:15 PM
I think the average man is going to be intimidated by a woman with muscle. Makes them insecure about themselves.

Kaetli
12-14-2007, 08:18 PM
I don't know if it's muscle or not... I'm not all that musclely and I've been at my gym for 3 years... other than the staff, only one guy has ever spoken to me (and that was last month). From what I've seen in other threads the gym is not the place to socialize. Which makes me wonder where is the place to socialize, the meat section of the supermarket?

ChocoChick
12-14-2007, 08:20 PM
Maybe it's your gym? I've been at my gym for a couple of years and while I am not there to socialise, I do exchange "hello's" and an occasional pleasantry with the other regualrs. It seems a bit odd not to, considering that we see each other every day! And yes, I am focused in the gym and not there to hook up, etc. Saying hello or nodding and smiling is just being civil, imo.

Bob45
12-14-2007, 08:28 PM
Maybe it's your gym? I've been at my gym for a couple of years and while I am not there to socialise, I do exchange "hello's" and an occasional pleasantry with the other regualrs. It seems a bit odd not to, considering that we see each other every day! And yes, I am focused in the gym and not there to hook up, etc. Saying hello or nodding and smiling is just being civil, imo.

I had been going to my gym for quite a while and no one said hello. One day I told a women I see her there all the time. I asked how often she worked out. I got a 5 minute answer as I was resting between a sets, lol.

ScubaDave
12-14-2007, 08:49 PM
I'd definitely say it's the intimidation factor. Not only is the fact that you're in great shape, but likely you move around the gym with confidence, purpose and direction. That alone can be enough to bring out the insecurities of others. That being said...keep doing what you're doing - you're looking great!!

Arlecchino
12-14-2007, 08:51 PM
Not sure. A lot of guys will be intimidated, yes, especially when you consider that they seem to be cowed by simple things like the squat rack. Depends on the individual, the atmosphere of your gym, etc.

I avoid talking to anyone at my gym, but I am there to train, and it is the only time my phone is off during the entire week. My time in the gym I share with no one.

KingofMinot
12-14-2007, 08:54 PM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........



I'm sorry. But in all honesty the reason why I wouldn't speak to you is because women tend to think every guy that say's Hello is trying to flirt with them. So when I go to the gym I don't speak I may give a head nod to a couple of bros but thats about it. Now if I saw you at Walmart I'd say hello Miss. But in the Gym you are there to workout and not be friendly so yes I'd avoid you to. So I won't get that feeling that you think that I think that you are a piece of meat.

bgnb
12-14-2007, 08:56 PM
Ever think that the guys are just being polite?

Lots of women get freaked out if a guy looks at them
so many of us just don't look ...

there are lots of 'women only' gyms or gym with women only
areas simple because the women feel intimidated and often
disgusted by guys staring ...

well, the safe thing for guys is to simply look away.

that's all it may be ...

GnomusMaximus
12-14-2007, 09:01 PM
ya what he said, my guess is they are actually trying to be nice. In my case I'd probably do the same thing until you said hello then I'd know it would be cool to say hello etc to you when I saw you.

GnomusMaximus
12-14-2007, 09:02 PM
make that what "they" said

1972girl
12-14-2007, 09:03 PM
I'd definitely say it's the intimidation factor. Not only is the fact that you're in great shape, but likely you move around the gym with confidence, purpose and direction. That alone can be enough to bring out the insecurities of others. That being said...keep doing what you're doing - you're looking great!!

One time I had a guy tell me I was intimidateding and I also think it has to do with confidence.But I also think people are not sure if its ok to say hello.

ScubaDave
12-14-2007, 09:08 PM
I'm sorry. But in all honesty the reason why I wouldn't speak to you is because women tend to think every guy that say's Hello is trying to flirt with them. So when I go to the gym I don't speak I may give a head nod to a couple of bros but thats about it. Now if I saw you at Walmart I'd say hello Miss. But in the Gym you are there to workout and not be friendly so yes I'd avoid you to. So I won't get that feeling that you think that I think that you are a piece of meat.

Huh??? I think your giving yourself too much credit King.

There's nothing that says you can't workout, be friendly (you don't have to be over-talkative, a simple hello will do), and not be accused of flirting.

DanVanVliet
12-14-2007, 09:10 PM
I like women with muscle, I like women without muscle I guess I just like women.Hey Dave.

KingofMinot
12-14-2007, 09:19 PM
Huh??? I think your giving yourself too much credit King.

There's nothing that says you can't workout, be friendly (you don't have to be over-talkative, a simple hello will do), and not be accused of flirting.

I workout at an Army gym and I over heard two women today complaing about how the guy's look at them like a piece of meet.

I don't see how I am giving myself to much credit for not wanting to come off as the guy who looks at women like a piece of meet. But that's what I pick up on. I mean they come in wearing the tightest whatever they can find with alot of makeup on and then walk on the treadmill for 25minutes and then go to the hip abductor and do fire hydrants after that. No thank you I'm not going to say hello unless they say hello. I am only speaking of the women that go to workout when I usually go. It's a powerlifter female that's really cool and even helped me learn proper form she rocks.

chodan9
12-14-2007, 09:23 PM
I dont find muscular women intimidating.
Some women like to keep to them selves some dont. I usually say hello and if they say hello back or are friendly I may strike up a conversation, they same as I would with a new guy at the gym.
You can tell if someone doesnt want to be bothered because they will many times avoid eye contact and go out of there way not to interact with others and thats cool, but I am a pretty social person so if you open the door I wil respond in kind.

John Prophet
12-14-2007, 09:24 PM
they are probably intimidated moreso by the fact that u r in great shape as far as low bodyfat. If u look like "u have it all together" then its probably intimidating to them because 95% of gym rats never acheive low bodyfat etc...me included.

John Prophet
12-14-2007, 09:27 PM
on a side note....people seem to find me intimidating because EVIDENTLY I must scowl a lot or look mad sometimes....which I dont intend to do. So people tend to not meet my eyes which is fine because I usually dont meet theirs.

In that case it would be interesting if u and I were the only 2 people in the gym on a slow night....we'd just walk around not looking at each other etc, lol

mature_1_59
12-14-2007, 09:36 PM
I agree with the "being polite" theory.
I think most men have been conditioned not to bother the ladies at the gym for fear that they will be assumed to be hitting on them.
Myself, I would acknowledge you as I would one of the guys, with a nod and a "hey". However, if you wanted more of a conversation you would have to initiate it, thereby letting me know I was not a bother.

BTW, I love muscular women and appreciate the discpline and work that goes into getting that way.

Shreddedgeek
12-14-2007, 09:50 PM
IMO It has Nothing to do with Muscles I think that it has a lot to do with the personality of the woman. If she is acting as if she is the best thing that ever walked into the gym, wearing the tightest outfit she could squeeze into I wont even give her the acknowledgement of existence, but is she is just there working out and 'sharing the gym' then she will get the 'GYM NOD'. or a spot if needed.
Now if Iris Kyle were in the Gym squatting in the rack next to me I would be intimated by her numbers.

TANK25
12-14-2007, 10:11 PM
As far as saying hi,I think it might be more of the vibe you might be giving off then guys being afraid because of your muscles. Some people can give off a look that most people might take as(DON`T SAY A F-----G WORD TO ME).I know sometimes my girlfriend will come down in the basement while I`m working out. She will say to me"Who just killed your mom?"because of the tense look I have on my face.

John Prophet
12-14-2007, 10:13 PM
often I am deep in thought....in the gym I am usually pretty dang "focused"....in those cases sometimes I might look right at someone but not even really realize they are there....they could speak or make eye contact but I wouldnt notice it.

maybe u r the same way??

in either case if u want more peeps to speak to you...speak to them first

tolewfo
12-14-2007, 11:01 PM
Maybe it is because of insecurity. When you are not in shape and see a woman that is out of your league, you already feel defeated. I am a very social person, I bartend and can talk to anyone. I see the insecurities come out when they don't need to be there. I even will just say to a couple of the guys that come in... "Dude, just say Hi and buy her a drink... If she says no then you just saved yourself some cash... But I digress...I have a friend who would never date a woman that can beat him in sports. He likes them sort of too girly. I find a woman that can give me competition in any game is attractive. But, with that said... I have never approached someone in the gym. Maybe it's because I am sweaty, snot running out of my nose and I am breathing heavily, I am just a walking obscene phone call.

Pain!
12-14-2007, 11:35 PM
Maybe it is because of insecurity. When you are not in shape and see a woman that is out of your league, you already feel defeated. I am a very social person, I bartend and can talk to anyone. I see the insecurities come out when they don't need to be there. I even will just say to a couple of the guys that come in... "Dude, just say Hi and buy her a drink... If she says no then you just saved yourself some cash... But I digress...I have a friend who would never date a woman that can beat him in sports. He likes them sort of too girly. I find a woman that can give me competition in any game is attractive. But, with that said... I have never approached someone in the gym. Maybe it's because I am sweaty, snot running out of my nose and I am breathing heavily, I am just a walking obscene phone call.
heheh..the best answer so far...reps to you!

DBee
12-14-2007, 11:42 PM
i think they might be intimidated because you're so ****ing out, i'd sure give you a, "hi" if you worked out at my gym ;-)

Damon Smith
12-15-2007, 12:34 AM
It does'nt bother me. I'll nod or say hello if there is eye contact. I think it's being courteous.

V-240
12-15-2007, 12:57 AM
Man, you guys are just goofy. Whatever happened to the common hello? I say hi to everyone, if I can establish eye contact. If no eye contact can be made fairly quickly (Three Second Rule ;)), then okay I get it, I disengage and won't bother. Just my silly ways, I guess. :cool:

BIG GUNNS
12-15-2007, 12:58 AM
I dont say nothing to no one. I dont care about a womans muscle and for that matter a guys muscle . Any woman thats thinks a guy should say hi just because shes built and in a gym is nothing more then looking for attention.The guys in your gym owe you nothing.

One night at Golds at about 3am .Its just me and this female lifter no one else in the gym.Im doing lat pulldowns she using the threadmill.When she was done she makes a point to come all the way across the gym to get in my face and ask me if Im using a incline bench 15 feet away from me .I was doing my set when she asked.When I didnt answer she asked again in a scarcastic voice like I owed her to answer .Then I answered "NO" keep in mind I was reping while she was asking.When I was done she was pushing the bench to the smith machine laughing . To me very typical of most muscle head woman .They think all men owe them there attention just becasue they lift a weight. We where the only two in the gym and she still needed to be validated.

Would I say "Hi" probalby not .If that insults you ,then its you thats insecure. Im not there to pamper anyone just to train and get out.

Star_Rider
12-15-2007, 01:46 AM
I don't know... She kinda scares me:

http://julio.smugmug.com/photos/221902279-O.jpg

(She posts here in the pictures section ;))

Sluggeaux
12-15-2007, 02:47 AM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

I don't know if it's just the southern boy in me, but I pretty much nod and give a howdy to pretty much everyone whose path I cross in the gym, and pretty much always get the same back, or at least a nod.

I didn't give it any thought at the time, but reading this post now, I'm thinking back to one woman in the Golds gym I go to, who has an absolutely amazing body, who a while back I'd said howdy, and commented about how great her body looked, and asked her if she competes professionally. She responded enthusiastically, and we stop and chat with each other often now. I'm wondering if she'd experienced the same thing you experience now, and if that was the reason for her enthusaism.. Will have to ask her when I get back on land and hit Golds.

davesporty
12-15-2007, 03:12 AM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

This may be taken the wrong way...but have YOU ever said "Hi" to any guys there ,i am sure they would have replied politely.
I think men generally don't socialise with women at a gym as it's not what you are supposed to be seen doing,if a u are a guy.The just wanna lift and go home straight after.
Besides what would his wife say if they are gym buddies with a good looking woman at he gym?
My gym has this one that chats toe very guy that happens to workout next to her,you should see her eyes,it's like she worships them.

davesporty
12-15-2007, 03:14 AM
I don't know... She kinda scares me:

http://julio.smugmug.com/photos/221902279-O.jpg

(She posts here in the pictures section ;))

I can't stand a woman looking like that,give me a real feminine looking woman anyday but never a genderswap freak please.

wide lats
12-15-2007, 03:27 AM
I'd say hello to you, everytime i saw you. Do you get intimidated by guys who swear, spit, and drop heavy weights so there is a loud bang at the end of every set? Do guys who live like animals intimidate you ms fitness? If not well i would get along with you fine.

Dan0_123
12-15-2007, 03:34 AM
I can't stand a woman looking like that,give me a real feminine looking woman anyday but never a genderswap freak please.



Same Chic? M. Dettwiller? She should bulk all the time!

http://www.female-bodybuilders.us/images/melissa-dettwiller2.jpg

http://www.lacoctelera.com/myfiles/mujeresforzudas/MelissaDettwiller2.JPG


Unless I find myself around someone on a regular basis I usually don't say hello. Women bodybuilders in my mind seem a dedicated minority and not the type that are there to socialize. I'm usually a one track mind in the gym. Also, when you are sweaty, breathing heavy and probably smell isn't exactly the most opportune time to talk to a woman.

LR3
12-15-2007, 08:06 AM
i've always found a little muscle on a woman sexy, and i find abs on a woman extremely sexy. i've always been a big fan of women with hard bodies.

wild1poet2
12-15-2007, 09:29 AM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? .........

I hope so. More for me. Most men suffer from a hidden genetic and mental defect; not me. Well MsFitness, I have to go get some air now because you took my breath away....... LOL

Mark1T
12-15-2007, 09:31 AM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

Hi ;)

QUALITYGUY1
12-15-2007, 10:20 AM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? ...


Hell NO, not me!...I've gotten some of the best spankings in my life from muscular women.! :D

j/k of course, I personally think it's sexy, being a point of attraction to me. But, I believe what you really would need, is the opinion of a non-lifter/athlete on this. ;)

dcerullo
12-15-2007, 10:25 AM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

I have the reverse at my gym, the women won't say hello to me. Some of the guys do but just a few and they usually just give me "the nod". Doesn't bother me because I'm in my own world when I'm there. And now that my husband is working out with me they all say hi to him............too funny.
DJ

Thuirwyne
12-15-2007, 10:26 AM
I've been working out at the same couple of spots for about 3 years, and this last year a couple of guys have finally introduced themselves. They are really big and serious lifters. The other little dudes still keep their distance. Of course, I try to make a point of looking like I'll bite your head off between sets, but I'm a real nice gal!

Are you serious? The only women who say hello are in the same category; in process of some sort of comp prep or maybe friends of those same guys. That too is ok; just as long as they keep the 3lb marathon set away from the squat rack please.

1972girl
12-15-2007, 10:31 AM
Hell NO, not me!...I've gotten some of the best spankings in my life from muscular women.! :D

j/k of course, I personally think it's sexy, being a point of attraction to me. But, I believe what you really would need, is the opinion of a non-lifter/athlete on this. ;) I think you maybe right.I think that most of the men on this site already talk to these women and it does not bother them but most gym that I have worked out at(about 4)I have been the only women lifting heavy weights.Im sure that there are gyms with more women that lift but I think that most guys dont see it very often.

Hound53
12-15-2007, 10:53 AM
If there is eye contact I will give a polite nod and how ya doing, but I really don't go there to socialize myself.

There is a trainer over at my gym who has a fair amount of muscle and if I were single I would definitely ask her out for a coffee even though she is probably 10 or 15 years younger than me. Being happily married to the same woman for 25 years now though that is not even an option.

V-240
12-15-2007, 12:18 PM
Hell NO, not me!...I've gotten some of the best spankings in my life from muscular women.! :D...
And we all like some spankage once in a while.

Oops, sorry, wrong thread again... :o

Wooly_Ace
12-15-2007, 01:01 PM
I like women with muscle as long as its proportional. What I don't like are women with attitudes that think their **** don't stink. I see that all too often at the gym. Same can be said about guys at the gym.

djflex
12-15-2007, 01:17 PM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

maybe there are just trying to respect you because they can tell your serious. most serious lifters try to keep chatter down and keep to the business at hand. I knew a girl who used to train with us in our dungeon in college, she was one of the few females there. No one was intimidated they just could tell she meany business and let her be. Most of the guys thought she was hot!!

Iron Barbarian
12-15-2007, 03:43 PM
Personally I have never been intimidated by any woman except for maybe Amazongoddess because she layed the smackdown on me. LOL In all seriousness though I think it is more that some men have a fear of approaching/talking to beautiful woman such as yourself. This could be due to a lack of confidence in theirselves so I wouldn't let it get to me.

wedgey
12-15-2007, 04:48 PM
Not intimidated or disliking of women with muscle , but I wouldn't try to strike up a convo purely because I wouldn't want to impose myself on anyone, because I would be thinking "they get this all the time" and don't need one more guy doing it.
But if I make eye contact with anyone in the gym , I just give a smile and if they aren't wearing earphones will say hi in passing but that's it.

slackdaddy
12-15-2007, 06:09 PM
First off, most guys are intimidated by women period.

Secondly, you didn't say if this also happens at the supermarket and other places besides the gym. If it only happens at the gym it could be just because everyone is in their own little zone.

For the record, like most guys here have mentioned, I think that muscular women are very sexy. I would place nice abs over nice face.

Whiskeyjack
12-15-2007, 07:59 PM
It may not be insecurity, although I suspect we're all insecure at some level. I'm married and unlikely to chat up a woman for purely friendship purposes unless I'm approached first, in the gym or anywhere else. I'm not a social type. In my experience, with women it's complicated obtaining purely friendship-based relationships, even professionally, although I acknowledge the value of female friendships for getting at the deeper aspects of things.

Even if I were single I probably wouldn't say anything; I'm not really attracted to women with muscles (*makes a tortoise to deflect the inevitable slings and arrows*); I prefer softness and roundness, frankly. That's not to say that I don't appreciate the effort women put into bodybuilding; I once dated a female bodybuilder; and I recognize that serious female bodybuilders are bound to be as interested in intensity and unlikely to want to chat while working out as me (and I don't even compete anymore).

ClarkDark
12-15-2007, 09:37 PM
I generally will not say hello unless:

1. I have a legitimate reason to speak to her, such as asking if she is through with a particular piece of workout equipment;

2. We have been previously introduced;

3. She says hello to me first, or we've engaged in casual conversation in the past;

4. I am sure that I am not distracting her from her workout.

I am very conscious of the fact that women often attract crude, inappropriate, disrespectful and otherwise unwanted attention at the gym. Especially as a married man, I try to maintain a certain respectful distance, especially when the woman is an obvious knockout (extremely attractive).

If we make eye contact, or she speaks to me, I will of course say hello, out of common courtesy. If conversation flows naturally from that point, cool. Other than that, I prefer to focus on my workout, and allow her to focus on hers. I'll try not to be an unwanted distraction to her, and I do my best to not allow her to be a distraction (well, at least not an obvious one, if she's a cutie) to me. Above all, I want to avoid coming off as a creep or making any woman feel uncomfortable.

AIC04
12-15-2007, 09:51 PM
When i first started working out last year everyone intimidated me!! I swore they were all in better shape ect. Remind you this was the first time in my life i reguarlly worked out too.. Now im friendly to the people at the frent desk, and some of the other regulars tell me hi n stuff, but i go their to workout not socialize...


note: i like toned females, but not real buff ones, if that makes any sence lol..

egoatdoor
12-15-2007, 10:02 PM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

The answer is yes when you are talking about the majority of the population. There are no competitive women bodybuilders in my gym and only one figure competitor who has any real muscle. Mostly gym rats and cardio queens, get the picture?

Last summer, a national lady competitor six weeks out from the USA contest trained there at peak hour on a weeknight and it was hilarious watching the reactions of the guys who acted like she was an alien with FOUR heads. I later found out the uproar was even more funny in the "ladies" side of the gym when she went over there.

I did walk by, complimented her and talked to her for about 60 seconds and I think only one other guy spoke a word to her the entire 30 minutes or so she was in the free weight area.

In one of my prior gyms, there was a lady who was fairly muscular and "trained like a guy". She eventually got some of the guys to accept her by making the first move at making contact and even asking for "spots", but some still talked about "steroids" ( which she DID NOT use) behind her back and the women totally froze her out.

Women like you stand out fairly easily and if you were training in my gym, I would make it point to say "hello" and try to make you feel comfortable in what way I could. But I think most of the guys would avoid you, especially if you looked focused and intense.

If it is bothering you, maybe you need to reach out a little on your own. Are there times when you are "working in" with someone that you can chat briefly between sets? Or how about striking up a quick conversation after your workout? I think once you broke the ice and the guys saw you were "not an alien", then you will appear more approachable.

ClarkDark
12-15-2007, 10:05 PM
but I am totally repulsed when they are wearing breast implants which look like two separate globules on top of their pecs. If the mammaries have disappeared, she has officially gone too far with the elimination of bodyfat, as far as I'm concerned.

And I absolutely love well-defined abs and legs (especially calves).

egoatdoor
12-15-2007, 10:11 PM
I don't know... She kinda scares me:

http://julio.smugmug.com/photos/221902279-O.jpg

(She posts here in the pictures section ;))

Star Rider, why did you post that picture? :mad:

Every time the subject of women with muscle comes up, someone has to post a picture of an extreme example. That woman is an example of less than on half one percent of the population and it is also likely the she uses "assistance". That is not the norm and it is degrading to MsFitness and all the women on this site who want to build some muscle and create the best aesthetic body that they can.

Do people post pictures of Ronnie Coleman every time a question is posted about guys building muscles? So why is that way with women?

ClarkDark
12-15-2007, 10:16 PM
To Egoatthedoor;

Excellent point...you are absolutely right.

markymark69
12-15-2007, 10:50 PM
Ms. Fitness,
I think alot of men that are not athletes/fitness oriented/weightlifters/BB'ers/etc are intimidated by built women. However I find it hard to believe that other gym members would be intimidated by you.
I think it's more to do with the gym you workout at. I used to workout at World Gym in Orlando. In over 3+yrs I think I talked to another gym member 3 times (outside of: how many sets you have left on that rack?). People there were stand offish.

The gym I currently train at (Gold's Gym C-ville, Va) its the polar opposite. All the hardcore regulars talk to each other. Maybe not during sets, but coming on the weight pile, some regular is going to greet you.

I would say there are about 10-20 hard core female fitness freaks (including my wife) at our gym and I cant say that any guys are intimidated by them. If anything they are impressed by their fitness level, dedication, etc.

Try saying hello to one of the regular's. It could be they are just respecting your space.

TheLBM
12-15-2007, 10:53 PM
no..
I am not.

IR45N
12-16-2007, 05:17 AM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

If there are regulars (that are also there to w/o) you might not get more than a nod. Won't hurt you to also to say hi or 'good set' to one of the guys you feel is probably ok.

The ipod really has cut everyone off & unless you have a partner, everyone's pretty much doing their own thing. Seems usually the women pose the opposite question; how to be left alone.

ServoScanMan
12-16-2007, 05:38 AM
Well the next time you are in Waco (ha, ha), come to the YMCA and I will talk to you. I have only seen a couple of girls at the YMCA that really worked out. I mean the type that are focused and not afraid to sweat. And in 2 years, I have only seen 1 girl doing squats. She had perfect form and she did the exercise correctly too. (grin) After she finished her squats, I made it point to talk to her. I haven't seen her since. I wonder if it was something I said?

AverageJoe71
12-16-2007, 06:13 AM
I will make eye contact and say hey to women, but dont make it a point to go out of my way, figure they are there to work out not socialize. Figure if I was a women at the gym wouldnt want to be hit on all the time. And a lot of women take saying hi as hitting on them.

greyhair
12-16-2007, 08:44 AM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles?

I guess some fellows are, but I can't say it bothers me.



Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

Thats another question.

I'm a fairly chatty person at the gym. I love to say hello to all the regulars and see how they are doing. But it has to fit into the time I'll allowing between sets.
OTOH, two or so times, gals have mistaken my social conversation as an "invitation".
That was embarrassing, I politely declined mentioning the fact that I was married.
So I pretty much limit my conversation with women to a few "good mornings" and a few sentances.

Frankly, I wouldn't mind having a hundred hard working gals in the gym while I'm there. When a bunch of gals hit the iron with intensity, both men and women in the gym get more motivated. (and they're nice to look at too ;)


If I were you, I'd just be cheerful and say good morning to everyone and go back to work. Sooner or later, they'll all soften up.

greyhair
12-16-2007, 08:46 AM
Star Rider, why did you post that picture? :mad:
....


Gosh, that picture is like driving by a traffic accident.
You slow down to look and then wish you hadn't.

BigJack
12-16-2007, 09:16 AM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

I love a woman that is in shape and has some muscle. I would be proud to date a female bodybuilder or fitness model but I just see them as out of my league. I train at a very busy Bally's in Miami FL and there are alot of very well built women there. They are not very approachable though. I pretty much look at everybody but I can see the women avoiding my glances. Also most women with a little muscle can be intimidating.

I just checked out your profile and I would be intimidated to talk to you. You are in great shape....

britonarius
12-16-2007, 09:32 AM
here on the dutch / belgian border we have the opposite problem -in that people are too friendly and want to socialize ; shakehands and say hello to everybody in the gym. you could spend an extra hour just saying hello.

bigeugene
12-16-2007, 09:42 AM
I agree w/ a lot of what people said here about not wanting to seem flirty. I also wouldn't take it personally at all--some people just are focused on working out.

Me, I'm not a big talker at the gym even w/ the dudes. I'm there to lift, but am happy to speak briefly w/ anyone. Second, I think (as people have already said) they don't want a lady to think they were some kind of slimy pickup artist and make her uncomfortable. I think a lot of guys aren't intimidated, just being respectful (who'd a thunk it!). :)

I'm sure if you start saying hello to some people yourself, they'll respond in kind. The few people I speak with just tend to be on the same workout schedule as I am. We don't have long conversations, but see each other enough to give a shout out.

Mr. Someday
12-16-2007, 09:53 AM
Women with muscle are not intimidating to me in any way, shape or form. However, I still wouldn't stop to talk to you or anyone else in the gym no matter what you looked like....I'm just not the talkative type.

ntrllftr
12-16-2007, 09:54 AM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

Let me ask you this because I had this same feeling at my gym with people in general. How many times have you led out and said hello first?
I went to the gym for years without a word from anyone. One day I decided to say hello to people and once it started more people were being nice and talking to me. Now it is at the point where I wish I had not started it because some of these people will try to talk to me during a workout.
Be careful for what you wish for. ;)

TuffGirl
12-16-2007, 01:26 PM
Get in there, Do your workout and get out!

Sounds to me like you want somebody to say something about how HOT you look.

You look good, Girl! I'll give it to you... But, the gym ain't the place to be initiating the "convo". Just let these dudes get in gym, do their stuff and get out! There will be plenty of time for them to notice us outside the gym!

;)

Yes, We know we look good! :D I am right there with ya, MsFitness. I may not be a blonde, but I who cares! :)

Hibiscus09
12-16-2007, 01:52 PM
Women with muscle are not intimidating to me in any way, shape or form. However, I still wouldn't stop to talk to you or anyone else in the gym no matter what you looked like....I'm just not the talkative type.

And thank God for guys like you!! :D I really don't want people bothering me at the gym. Of course, as my luck goes -- people do say hello and try to strike up conversations with me a lot. I need to perfect my evil eye. :p :D Perhaps I'm not all that intimidating. LOL

Seriously, a simple hello or how are you doesn't bother me too much in passing at the gym -- but when I'm in the midst of my workout, it's rather difficult to superset and the like if people try to chat me up while I'm working. I'd rather they didn't.

Perhaps if a person is having trouble getting people to say hello to them in the gym, they should try to give others a sweet smile and say hello themselves if they want to start up a conversation.

Skippy71
12-16-2007, 05:52 PM
I don't find women with muscle intimidating in the least. I've met a couple at the Y I go to who are in phenomenal condition. If I happen to catch them while waiting for the pec deck or leg press will talk 'shop'. I've managed to get some really good advise on diet and cardio (and the odd smile) from them. :)

Wildtim
12-16-2007, 06:46 PM
I used to have a pattern for greetings at the gym. See them four or five sessions in a row they get a nod, after a couple of months of regular contact they get a hi how are you in the locker room or between sets. I converse in the pool area or the sauna but thats social time. If I worked in with someone we would probably get up to greetings and small talk but thats it.

aloysio
12-17-2007, 04:08 PM
Women that are fit are very sexy. I know I would say hi if i saw you in the gym. But i think reason why most people avoid taking, due to the fact that most of us go for the workout.

Anomaly.
12-17-2007, 04:09 PM
Come to my gym. I'll talk to you! :)

digitalinfidel
12-17-2007, 05:26 PM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

Average men in general, yes. Most men you'll find here or in the gym, no. If they are intimidated you wouldn't want to speak to them anyway.

The gym is a place to work, escape, build and be alone... not talk. Hi or a smile is fine, an acknowledging glance or head nod...sure... nothing more.

Talk is for the cafe.

OneO
12-17-2007, 05:52 PM
i wear A ipod at the gym . i dont socialize because i have to train then go to work . its nothing other than a focus / time thing for me , if i let myself get pulled into a conversation , i lose focus and intensity .


Plus Mrs OneO will beat my as if i talk to hot women . im strong but i know a fight i cant win when i see one :)

dmangiarelli
12-17-2007, 07:13 PM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

Heh, I was just telling my wife the other day that I think a little muscle on a woman is sexy ...

MsFitFern
12-18-2007, 10:12 PM
I have been going to the same gym for a year and 1/2. I go late, so at the end of my workout, its usually me and 3 or 4 of the same guys 5 days a week. I suppose its the same if you were n a train traveling to work 5 days a week. Humans avoid each other and keep downcast eyes. I dont wear a crapload of make-up, I train "like a guy" and sometimes I even wear funny t shirts that show I am not an ice queen. I am not asking for marriage or a quickie in the parking lot.......and no, if a guy says hi to me I am not thinking in my head, "he wants me"..........

stealth_swimmer
12-18-2007, 10:23 PM
I have been going to the same gym for a year and 1/2. I go late, so at the end of my workout, its usually me and 3 or 4 of the same guys 5 days a week. I suppose its the same if you were n a train traveling to work 5 days a week. Humans avoid each other and keep downcast eyes. I dont wear a crapload of make-up, I train "like a guy" and sometimes I even wear funny t shirts that show I am not an ice queen. I am not asking for marriage or a quickie in the parking lot.......and no, if a guy says hi to me I am not thinking in my head, "he wants me"..........

well you SHOULD be thinking that ,lol....really though most guys I know would only say hi to a girl if they were interested in a little "somethin somethin".

I know I ain't 35...but I like using the "New Posts" function on the forum :D

Anyways, with me I don't say hi to anybody in the gym unless I know them from school or something. Even then most of the times we just nod from far away. Other than that, I don't say hi to anyone. I just feel like I'm there to train and get out. :)

V-240
12-18-2007, 10:45 PM
Sheesh, people are funny, I guess. All I know is if eye contact is established, I always say hello, or at least nod and smile a little. This I do because I'm told due to my size, I intimidate a bit with my straight face. But I'm really just a big goofball!

comedic.genious
12-18-2007, 10:59 PM
I have been going to the same gym for a year and 1/2. I go late, so at the end of my workout, its usually me and 3 or 4 of the same guys 5 days a week. I suppose its the same if you were n a train traveling to work 5 days a week. Humans avoid each other and keep downcast eyes. I dont wear a crapload of make-up, I train "like a guy" and sometimes I even wear funny t shirts that show I am not an ice queen. I am not asking for marriage or a quickie in the parking lot.......and no, if a guy says hi to me I am not thinking in my head, "he wants me"..........Heres a fascinating concept!!!!!!! How bout YOU say hello to THEM oh my god! PURE FN GENIOUS!

Ingersoll
12-18-2007, 10:59 PM
I am not asking to marry them, just say hi dammit........dont treat me like I am carrying the bubonic plague

I'm not a serious musclehead, but a friend of mine is. He's very serious in the gym and the dude works out with intensity. I don't talk to him. Therefore, if I saw MsFitness working out the same way, I'd leave her alone too. For me it's just a matter respecting space.

But I'd smile and say hi if a buff chick walked by and made eye contact. I always do.

As for my personal taste in really ripped women, I just don't dig it. I respect the hell out of the commitment and work ethic, but seeing that big ass vein pulsating through the middle of a bicep on a woman is... I'll just say it ain't my cuppa anything.

67fastback
12-18-2007, 11:50 PM
I used to have a great female team mate, who was not only a pretty good swimmer, but did a lot of gym training. I think she had bigger shoulders and biceps than me (not a huge feat but anyway...)

Not only that she was a super dominant type A personality. She used more profanity at the swim practices than anyone I have ever met. F@ck Coach this is hard... etc.

She was a blast to have at practices and made things a lot of fun. Yes I think a lot of men were intimidated by her. She had a tough time keeping a hold on guys she was dating. I'm sure a lot of guys were turning up their noses before they even got to know her.

A few months ago, I saw her at a home center, with her new husband (I thought she'd never get married) a great guy. So pretty cool. I was wondering if it would ever happen for her, but it did.

My advice, just relax and smile. A smile says a lot, and breaks down a lot of barriers. Maybe in a gym environment while training, people naturally take on a more serious persona, and appear more intimidating than they are?

Good luck. smile and have fun.

bi19tri
12-19-2007, 12:51 AM
The male ego is a fragile thing A lot of people in the gym have bad form bad body image etc. lets face it you are exceptional and confident plus shy yourself. face it you intimidate people. (dont try it with me though LOL)

thearm95
12-19-2007, 03:57 AM
MsFitness, I have no doubt that every guy in your gym would love to talk to you. As you are at the upper echelon of female attractiveness, most guys would assume you would only be interested in your male equivalent in looks. Which is well above the great majority of men.
I remember in my single days I generally would not bother talking to very attractive women i didn't know personally - I know it's defeatist, but I used to think, hey what's the point, she's be only interested in talking to Brad Pitt (or whoever) lookalikes.

Skidmarx
12-19-2007, 05:08 AM
Well I think you guys boosted her self esteem for today. She should feel better now.

Drahcir *
12-19-2007, 05:23 AM
Im generally a sociable person.....................apart from when im in the gym.

I really have no interest in chatting and making friends, im just there for myself. I think a lot of people are like me though.

Don't get me wrong, im polite to the few people i know, might even stretch to a one minute conversation. But i don't feel the urge to chat to random people, im there to concentrate.....I like muscular chicks, i doubt guys who go to the gym are intimidated by muscular women. But i can imagine men who are in bad shape might be intimated a little.

JOHN GARGANI
12-19-2007, 05:50 AM
and no, if a guy says hi to me I am not thinking in my head, "he wants me"..........


MS: newsflash: and trust me, that IS what all the guys are thinking! LOL....


really....I can't be any more truthful and honest, it is virtually impossible for a normal guy to look at a woman with a figure like yours and not think that....that is just what we do and what we are...

NOW: there are those of us who , to use a term, "control" ourselves: some better than other....and there are the louts who have no control or no tact....


for many of the "control" group , the best way for them is to not initiate any contact whatsoever and that goes a long way explaining what is happening to you.

jgreystoke
12-19-2007, 06:53 AM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

I'd mightn't be intimidated if you were 6'3" and 244lbs, much less 5'3" and 122lbs.

So it ain't the muscles, it may be the fact that you are attractive.

A lot of guys are constantly comparing themselves to some unattainable ideal, and don't think they measure up, and foolishly imagine others are making the same harsh comparison. So they are ashamed of their bodies. Same with gals, I suppose.

This is insane. Even a not so "perfect" body is a walking miracle. And any improvement in poundage, reps, measurement, bf %, over where you were last month, or last year, is worthy of pride.

A lot of guys are mindful of being accused of sexual harassment or some such nonsense.

If I saw you at a commercial gym, I'd pay you no mind, after the initial appreciative sizing up. I'd be too busy killing myself without drama in the big three plus accessories.

Just 'cos I'm not intimitated doesn't mean I'd say ANYTHING.

But if I saw you doing power cleans, chins, dips, atg squats, front squats, goodmornings, overhead squats, stiff leg deads, strict curls with back to the wall, or any of the good stuff you seldom see guys doing, much less gals, you would merit a polite "bravo" on finishing a good set.

Otherwise, unless you asked me to spot or otherwise said something first, you might think I was a very unfriendly old codger(and I'm really as sweet as home-made lemonade...........that is, if you made it with no sugar).

greyhair
12-19-2007, 12:14 PM
I'd mightn't be intimidated if you were 6'3" and 244lbs, much less 5'3" and 122lbs.
...
But if I saw you doing power cleans, chins, dips, atg squats, front squats, goodmornings, overhead squats, stiff leg deads, strict curls with back to the wall, or any of the good stuff you seldom see guys doing, much less gals, you would merit a polite "bravo" on finishing a good set.

...
.

Dittos, especially on the paragraph above.
Gals doing some serious work almost always get a "nice work" from me.

lifter85
12-19-2007, 02:00 PM
look, just face it. because of a combination of both women and men problems, especially in today's society of everyone thinking everyone else is out to get them, you'll never have another person talk to you again. the end...ps, here's a spoiler...you will die alone.

clive
12-19-2007, 02:32 PM
I don't know... She kinda scares me:

http://julio.smugmug.com/photos/221902279-O.jpg

(She posts here in the pictures section ;))

Sorry, I like a woman with a bit of muscle but this woman looks horrible, fake boobs and all.

egoatdoor
12-19-2007, 09:04 PM
But if I saw you doing power cleans, chins, dips, atg squats, front squats, goodmornings, overhead squats, stiff leg deads, strict curls with back to the wall, or any of the good stuff you seldom see guys doing, much less gals, you would merit a polite "bravo" on finishing a good set.



I've done this, a polite clap and "good job" with women I've seen doing unassisted chins for multiple reps( no spotter) or squatting with more than one plate on a side( very very rare).

But if I count the number of times, I think I still have one or two fingers left on one hand. :(

NotTooLate
12-19-2007, 10:04 PM
I have no idea but someone just sent me a message saying *start doing cardio, lay off the weights please* LOL

Men act like weights BELONG to them and no one else is allowed haha

shinnosuke
12-20-2007, 07:11 AM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

I work out in Seoul South Korea (Asia), so in Asia it's not normal for the everyday people to work out hard core, so when we see the regulars (the hard core workout people regardless of sex) we acknowledge each other with a simple eye contact and a little wave and smile and keep working out. I grew up in the States but I haven't been back for the past 6 years, but even in the gym I went to in the States, if we saw the same people after a few months we would at least acknowledge each other. So maybe just maybe some of the dudes are girly men (LOL), but don't trip on them.

mdocruz
12-20-2007, 07:57 AM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

I for sure would say hello to you! damn! why you are not working out at my gym!!

JRT6
12-20-2007, 09:15 AM
There are a few certain women at my gym that I'd love to show this thread to to help them get over themselves. Unfortunately I've been having some restraining order issues there lately.

MEStrange
12-20-2007, 10:02 AM
When I was a member of a gym (before it went under and padlocked the doors one morning as I was showing up to work out) I tried to avoid the ladies training because I had been told by female friends how they HATE going to gyms when men ogle them and try to hit on them, etc. So I just kept to myself and tried not to look at the hotties pushing iron.

My trainer had a girl who would only come in and work out if he was there, then she wanted to be in a back corner so the guys would not bother her. Funny thing is . . . there were MANY girls who were better looking than her in there at the same time.

Now, if you were to smile I would smile back and if you said Hi I would certainly say hi back, but I would never make that first move.

But to the question of being put off my muscular woman . . . nope, they look awesome. Heck I would think that you would be the cause for more guys showing up to work out late. :-)

Msfitness . . you sure the guys at your gym are not gay? ;-)

shinnosuke
12-20-2007, 10:06 AM
I hear you about the women who think they look better than they really are, most of those women don't workout anyways, they're just going through the motions or just there to show off her new latest workout clothes (even though her physique demands she shouldn't wear what she's wearing, physique appropriate clothing, anybody????)

worldofwiz
12-20-2007, 10:16 AM
A lot of people work out because they are insecure first place.

Like It Or Not
12-20-2007, 10:22 AM
I'm sure SOME men are intimidated by women w/muscle. Of course, many men know better than to say anything to women in gyms as a few of the women there have made it known that they are there to work out and not socialize. Some people look at gyms as meat markets and places to hook up.

I think in your situation, you are attractive, which in itself make some men shy, add that you have a much better body than any women they have seen in person in their lives, and probably much better than their own, then they feel even more shy/insecure.

So, when you add all that up, I can understand why most of the men in your gym do not talk to you. I guess you should take it as a compliment as you are definitely not ugly, and definitely in shape.

chrisbute
12-20-2007, 10:23 AM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

Great question! Some guys are intimidated. Some guys may not feel worthy. I personally think that it is great if I see a woman lifting. If the woman makes eye contact, then I'll say "Hello".

Maybe body language you used in the past sent the signal to others that you don't want to be bothered. There are some people at my gym I have seen for 2 years that clearly don't want to talk. They are there to workout and get out! I don't even bother to try to make eye contact with them anymore.

MEStrange
12-20-2007, 10:32 AM
A lot of people work out because they are insecure first place.

Yep, and that is why I did not join a gym for so long. I thought being as out of shape as I was that people would be making fun of the fat guy. I lost 50 pounds on my own before I joined the gym. Mainly joined because I wanted to kick up my training and get it done correctly.

The girl in question though, he pretty much told me that it was because she thought she was so hot that guys would be drooling over her.

Channel1
12-20-2007, 11:20 AM
Not me!

I am waiting for the day for some hot muscular chick to just take me & ride me like she is working out.

Star_Rider
12-20-2007, 01:02 PM
Star Rider, why did you post that picture? :mad:

Every time the subject of women with muscle comes up, someone has to post a picture of an extreme example. That woman is an example of less than on half one percent of the population and it is also likely the she uses "assistance". That is not the norm and it is degrading to MsFitness and all the women on this site who want to build some muscle and create the best aesthetic body that they can.

Do people post pictures of Ronnie Coleman every time a question is posted about guys building muscles? So why is that way with women?

It was a joke--GEEZ!! It's obvious she's in the EXTREME range. Look up the meaning of hyperbole.

davesporty
12-20-2007, 01:15 PM
A lot of people work out because they are insecure first place.

That doesn't make sense,why single out bodybuilding and not golf or tennis,soccer....?

davesporty
12-20-2007, 01:18 PM
Yep, and that is why I did not join a gym for so long. I thought being as out of shape as I was that people would be making fun of the fat guy. I lost 50 pounds on my own before I joined the gym. Mainly joined because I wanted to kick up my training and get it done correctly.

The girl in question though, he pretty much told me that it was because she thought she was so hot that guys would be drooling over her.

Here if an overweight person takes up working out they gain respect ,noone would ever think of mocking them,unless its a school gym full of teens.

Its the grunting ,strutting around *and golds gym tees that intimidate maybe.

Sluggeaux
12-20-2007, 01:54 PM
Sorry, I like a woman with a bit of muscle but this woman looks horrible, fake boobs and all.

Umm, this is a bodybuilding site. The lady in the picture may not be the type for some here, but she has obviously worked VERY hard to get to that look, and it is obviously the look SHE wants. Total respect to her!

ELS
12-20-2007, 02:13 PM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

I love all women with or without muscle, especially the ones who know how to control their special muscles. ;)

IdahoViking
12-20-2007, 02:14 PM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........Maybe they're just shy like me.

btw - I would say 'hi' if I saw you in my gym; although since I workout at home my wife might be a little upset if she saw you there.

IdahoViking
12-20-2007, 02:15 PM
I love all women with or without muscle, especially the ones who know how to "control their special muscles". ;)You mean the ones they use for opening pickle jars and such?

ELS
12-20-2007, 02:18 PM
You mean the ones they use for opening pickle jars and such?



lol.....no

davesporty
12-20-2007, 03:39 PM
lol.....no

hmm... i hate tight squeezes,but not this tight squeeze. wink wink wink!

GrumpyTX
12-20-2007, 04:01 PM
I would say hello to you. I have the reverse issue. It seems like every guy smaller than me wants to hear my life story or something because they are always trying to talk to me. Very few girls have ever said anything. I am usually nice to everyone.

egoatdoor
12-20-2007, 06:48 PM
It was a joke--GEEZ!! It's obvious she's in the EXTREME range. Look up the meaning of hyperbole.


It was NOT FUNNY and nothing in your comments alluded that it was a joke. It had no place in this thread and you should apologize to Ms Fitness and the others for this putdown.

rocketman44
12-20-2007, 07:45 PM
I agree with the "being polite" theory.
I think most men have been conditioned not to bother the ladies at the gym for fear that they will be assumed to be hitting on them.
Myself, I would acknowledge you as I would one of the guys, with a nod and a "hey". However, if you wanted more of a conversation you would have to initiate it, thereby letting me know I was not a bother.

BTW, I love muscular women and appreciate the discpline and work that goes into getting that way.

My viewpoint exactly.

In addition, I might ask, what kind of 'signals' in the form of body language, might you be sending? Do you look like you might want to say hello, or do you look like you don't want to be bothered? If you're an intense trainer, which you indicate you are, then perhaps guys are perceiving that you don't want to be bothered.

You mentioned that you're not there to "chat or hookup", and as far as chatting goes, that might be the problem - maybe you're sending a signal, without being aware of it, that is telling guys to buzz off.

Personally, when I'm out anywhere and see women, I'll normally try getting a quick 'read' before saying hello. And if I'm seeing an indication that makes it appear she doesn't want to be greeted, then I'm not going to bother.

Star_Rider
12-20-2007, 09:29 PM
It was NOT FUNNY and nothing in your comments alluded that it was a joke. It had no place in this thread and you should apologize to Ms Fitness and the others for this putdown.

Who are ou to tell me what I "should" do??? Just because you didn't get it even I after I tried to keep peace by explaining it to you, that's not my problem. I've said what I've had to say to MS. Fitness. And, now, I've said what I've had to say to you. Get over it.

egoatdoor
12-20-2007, 09:37 PM
Go play in another sand box if you want to make fun of bodybuilders.

SuperFlanker
12-20-2007, 09:40 PM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

It's not you. Some of us are just shy lifters who only peek when you aren't looking :)

D Weightlifter
12-20-2007, 10:19 PM
I am not intimidated by your muscle but I know that you are not there to socialize or "hook-up" so I avoid being the distraction.

I'm also there for the pump and nothing else.

I also know that for so many women it is "demeaning" for me to make eye contact or smile because you are sure I am hitting on you (those are the precursors to conversation though).

That is not the case. I admire your muscle. I admire your dedication. I also know you are there for you and not for me.

Don't feel like an alien with 3 heads. Feel like a woman who is respected in her pursuit enough that a bunch of idiots aren't there just to hit on you.

worldofwiz
12-20-2007, 11:48 PM
That doesn't make sense,why single out bodybuilding and not golf or tennis,soccer....?

You cant get girls from playing golf unless you are a pro. Tennis? Come on. Soccer in the US? Please.

Muscles=sexy. I know the more I work out the more girls hit on me.

I bet the fit girls and guy here get more reps and hit on more than the ones who don't.

davesporty
12-21-2007, 01:35 AM
You cant get girls from playing golf unless you are a pro. Tennis? Come on. Soccer in the US? Please.

Muscles=sexy. I know the more I work out the more girls hit on me.

I bet the fit girls and guy here get more reps and hit on more than the ones who don't.

You said that those who are insecure psychologically take up working out,actually it's harder for an insecure person to workout at a gym as he/she must train in front of strangers,now that's tough for those with low self esteem.
Golf is easier for insecure people and u have the same chance of getting a girl as u do by working out,girls don't just want trained bodies but guys with a brain and charm,muscles can put some girls off.
I should know i was an amateur and then a Pro.

homeroid
12-21-2007, 03:13 AM
Different slant on the topic. My x-workout partner (female) and I are powerlifters. And we are both welllllll.....BIG. Definately not bodybuilders.

My x-partner (moved about 2 mos ago) is a pretty good bencher. About 280 raw and 370 shirted. In fact, she is the world record holder in the WABDL for her division (I believe Law Enforcement), weight and age.

Bench day at our gym was a sight to behold. Can you say "teen repellent!" All of a sudden every male in the gym under 30 switched to arms after her first working set. Just as background, we were working out at a pretty foo-foo gym. No bodybuilders or powerlifters.

I must say, however, males over 50 were not intimidated and frequently engaged her in conversation.

Merry Christmas

Bob

rott69
12-21-2007, 03:26 AM
Personally, I think women with muscles are sexy... Men should not feel any inferior because of this. I beleive in gender equality anyways.

lovesafron
12-21-2007, 03:48 AM
See this is common belief and imagination regarding women and it is true delicateness and softness is the main character of women so may be difficult to assume women with muscle but this is differ person to person......!!!

rott69
12-21-2007, 03:51 AM
See this is common belief and imagination regarding women and it is true delicateness and softness is the main character of women so may be difficult to assume women with muscle but this is differ person to person......!!!

x2.... it's kinda hard to explain why i agree to this post... give me some time it will be soon posted.

JRT6
12-21-2007, 06:27 AM
It was NOT FUNNY and nothing in your comments alluded that it was a joke. It had no place in this thread and you should apologize to Ms Fitness and the others for this putdown.

There was nothing wrong with Star_Rider's post.

freekgirl
12-21-2007, 06:37 AM
And thank God for guys like you!! :D I really don't want people bothering me at the gym. Of course, as my luck goes -- people do say hello and try to strike up conversations with me a lot. I need to perfect my evil eye. :p :D Perhaps I'm not all that intimidating. LOL

Seriously, a simple hello or how are you doesn't bother me too much in passing at the gym -- but when I'm in the midst of my workout, it's rather difficult to superset and the like if people try to chat me up while I'm working. I'd rather they didn't.

Perhaps if a person is having trouble getting people to say hello to them in the gym, they should try to give others a sweet smile and say hello themselves if they want to start up a conversation.

I agree completely. Wish there were more guys with that attitude at my gym! I'm there to workout...not for a social hour. I want to get in and out of the gym as quickly as possible!

Star_Rider
12-21-2007, 11:27 AM
There was nothing wrong with Star_Rider's post.


Thanks! :)

rott69
12-21-2007, 03:36 PM
I agree completely. Wish there were more guys with that attitude at my gym! I'm there to workout...not for a social hour. I want to get in and out of the gym as quickly as possible!

well.. i'm kinda going to disagree with that. yeah everyone is there to lift and don't give a shyt about the world around them, but there will be days that, you will need someone to spot you, or perhaps god forbid save you from that heavy set you just about passing out holding up. well guess what? sense everyone did not talk to you and percieved you as an *******, they won't help you out one bit. trust me I went through it.

IdahoViking
12-21-2007, 03:49 PM
I agree completely. Wish there were more guys with that attitude at my gym! I'm there to workout...not for a social hour. I want to get in and out of the gym as quickly as possible!

Yeah but there is a big difference between sociallizing and a friendly hello; sounds like MsFitness isn't even getting that.

Pretty Hardcore
12-21-2007, 04:37 PM
People have told me that I am so focused when I workout, people leave me alone, pretty much anyway.

There a guy that works out at my gym, never talks to anybody, never smiles or says hello, everyone thought he was a jerk. Anyway, one day I said Hi to him and we struck up a conversation, he is really a nice guy, just focused, like me. But it took me to talk to him first.

davesporty
12-22-2007, 03:47 AM
People have told me that I am so focused when I workout, people leave me alone, pretty much anyway.

There a guy that works out at my gym, never talks to anybody, never smiles or says hello, everyone thought he was a jerk. Anyway, one day I said Hi to him and we struck up a conversation, he is really a nice guy, just focused, like me. But it took me to talk to him first.

Well it's obvious why he talked to you and not anyone else. :)

I guess he maybe has a shy side to him or he is so fanatical about bbuilding he sees being social as a hindrance,didn't he talk at the coffee bar after even?
I get in my zone as soon as i enter the weight area and can only relax after my 10 mins on the stairmaster at the finish.
I must look a jerk too i guess.

freekgirl
12-22-2007, 05:49 AM
well.. i'm kinda going to disagree with that. yeah everyone is there to lift and don't give a shyt about the world around them, but there will be days that, you will need someone to spot you, or perhaps god forbid save you from that heavy set you just about passing out holding up. well guess what? sense everyone did not talk to you and percieved you as an *******, they won't help you out one bit. trust me I went through it.

I'm not sure that I agree with this. If I saw someone at the gym in trouble, or someone asked me for a spot, regardless of whether they've talked to me before, I'd help them out. That's just common courtesy. I wouldn't leave them hanging regardless of whether I knew them or not. Anyway just my $0.02.

To IdahoViking's post
Yes, I do agree that there's a big difference between socializing and simply saying hello. In my experience, most hellos lead to lots of socializing, which then leads to losing focus, which leads to spending 2x the time I wanted to in the gym, etc. Don't get me wrong...I won't be rude and not talk to people, but it'd be nice to be able to do my thing and get in and out of there quickly. **Of course, I realize this isn't much of an issue to be bitching about as there are much worse problems in the world...so I'll shutup now lol.**

Anyway, maybe I'm oversimplifying, but I guess if I wanted someone to say hello to me, I'd simply say hello to them first. I think that 99% of people would respond favorably to a kind look, smile or hello.

user7896786868
12-22-2007, 07:04 AM
"Are men afraid of women with muscle?"

Only if she's comin' at me with a ball-peen hammer! ;)


Anyway, maybe I'm oversimplifying, but I guess if I wanted someone to say hello to me, I'd simply say hello to them first. I think that 99% of people would respond favorably to a kind look, smile or hello.

Good point. A quick, business-like smile & hello - and keep moving would probably do the trick w/o getting stuck in an unwanted time-wasting "chat."

Might be a regional thing, too. Out here in the plains, everybody says "hey" to just about everybody. Heck - even a soccer-mom gave me "the wave" from her SUV yesterday - usually it's just other guys in the pickem-up trucks.

konkapot
12-22-2007, 07:17 AM
Maybe the answer is in your profile in the "Why I like it section."

comedic.genious
12-22-2007, 07:38 AM
why is mis fitness crying bout guys not talkin to her........NEWSFLASH ...your not talking to them either !Dont you realise that they could make the exact smae complaint that YOU never say hi to them?

guntur_wu_starz
12-25-2007, 11:45 PM
I will definitely come to you to say hi and chat with you if I see you around. for me, women with muscles are attractive. and for me, for most women (men also) ..when they're inside the gym to workout, it seems that they don't want to be disturbed by others so that they can still focus on their work out, know what I mean here. so If I see you are goddamn serious on focussing on your work out, second thought of mine is that you don't want to be disturbed. but if you like to talk in the gym, I'll be very very happy with u and maybe we can even work out together and push each other.
how does it sounds?

Holly_
12-25-2007, 11:48 PM
I rarely talk to strangers at the gym, just the people who work there. I don't even say hi. I dont really see the point.

If I am running outside I find that nearly everybody says hello to me, however at the gym its a different story. I dont think it has anything to do with men being intimidated by muscles.

Maclawacw
12-25-2007, 11:56 PM
I love it when women are passionate about working out.
I think maybe they dont say hello to you in the gym is they dont wanna seem creepy cuz maybe they think you will believe they watch you the whole time you're working out....? I dunno lol. Or they're there for business not socializing.

rott69
12-26-2007, 01:26 AM
My personal opinion is, I don't want to bother women ( musclular or otherwise ) in the gym or anywhere else for that matter. Sexual harrasment is big nowadays and I don't need to be tagged as one, when all I wanted to be is to be friendly. Also, " what if " that particular lady has a muscular man working out somewhere in the gym? that's just inviting trouble your way. On the other hand, like I stated before, muscular women are sexy and gorgeous. But, then again, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

rott69
12-26-2007, 01:33 AM
oh btw, sometimes beautiful women don't even talk to nobody like their " crap " don't stink. I'm not trying to start a war here, but let's face it, it's true in a sense. Now, guys won't talk to them because, 1) intimidation 2) the guy's overall complexion ( short and ugly, fat and quirky lookin', etc. ) 3) don't have the nerve to just do it....

Geoff Richards
12-26-2007, 03:32 PM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

Hey MsFit
come to Australia and I would say g'day :)
I pretty much acknowledge everyone I meet like that in as you say with eye contact and a smile.
I dont go out of my way to start conversation but in passing I consider it good manners
Fat women scare me not muscle ;)

rott69
12-26-2007, 05:31 PM
Hey MsFit
come to Australia and I would say g'day :)
I pretty much acknowledge everyone I meet like that in as you say with eye contact and a smile.
I dont go out of my way to start conversation but in passing I consider it good manners
Fat women scare me not muscle ;)

fat women need love too you know....

OneDeep
12-26-2007, 05:37 PM
I don't know why some men think that muscular women aren't as attractive or sexy as a woman without. I personally love a woman with a very muscualr but feminine shape comparable to yours. There's nothing like it...nothing!

rott69
12-26-2007, 05:49 PM
i guess gender equality......

rott69
12-26-2007, 05:50 PM
MsFitness, I have no doubt that every guy in your gym would love to talk to you. As you are at the upper echelon of female attractiveness, most guys would assume you would only be interested in your male equivalent in looks. Which is well above the great majority of men.
I remember in my single days I generally would not bother talking to very attractive women i didn't know personally - I know it's defeatist, but I used to think, hey what's the point, she's be only interested in talking to Brad Pitt (or whoever) lookalikes.

took words outta my mouth!!!!

V-240
12-27-2007, 12:27 AM
Agreed, but I still think you guys are overthinking this. All she really seems to want is a friendly hello in passing once in a while.

BlondeAmazon
12-27-2007, 02:52 AM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

I allways find this to be an issue at a NEW gym or with new people at my gyms. In the BIG gyms I workout at I really dont care but the men who DO speak to me usually treat me like 'one of the guys" Im not sure if they view me as one of the guys but I am more a buddy although most will kiss my cheek or give me a hug hello. One FINE lookin man once came up to me when I was drippin sweat lookin like a cat dragged me through a knothole and told me how beautiful I was. Coulda knocked me over with a feather. I dont think the guys are "intimidated" as much as they truly do resperct your hard work and dont want to bother you while you workout. Although... I know I do totally freak out a percentage of men in every one of my gyms.. LOL!! I am sure you do to;)

BlondeAmazon
12-27-2007, 03:23 AM
See this is common belief and imagination regarding women and it is true delicateness and softness is the main character of women so may be difficult to assume women with muscle but this is differ person to person......!!!

what the hell does this mean?

NotTooLate
12-27-2007, 06:03 AM
what the hell does this mean?

LOL I was wondering the same thing myself. Someone here actually agreed with that statement. I don't know how they understood it to agree with it LOL

m1k3g0rd
12-27-2007, 06:56 AM
This thread ought to win some kind of prize. Like 'Largest number of posts by under 35's in the wrong forum...' or something. It's even got the requisite 'Misc' type responses with pictures of big breasted women attached - how cute!

Don't people go to a gym to work out? - I certainly do. And I don't feel obligated to say anything to anyone. I'm sorry if anyone takes that the wrong way, but it's just not a social situation to me.

rsheele
12-27-2007, 07:12 AM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

If it's been 1.5 years and nobody has said hello to you a few things come to mind.

1. They're all self centered jerks.
2. They're all intimidated.
3. You are putting out the "don't eff with me, I'm busy" vibe. We have a few members that just seem to want nobody to talk to them.

Have you said hello to any of them and had them ignore you?

NotTooLate
12-27-2007, 07:14 AM
This thread ought to win some kind of prize. Like 'Largest number of posts by under 35's in the wrong forum...' or something. It's even got the requisite 'Misc' type responses with pictures of big breasted women attached - how cute!

Don't people go to a gym to work out? - I certainly do. And I don't feel obligated to say anything to anyone. I'm sorry if anyone takes that the wrong way, but it's just not a social situation to me.

Simple recognition and a polite hello or nod from other regular users is not exactly socializing.

Hey-Iwas51
12-27-2007, 08:59 AM
what the hell does this mean?

LOL... Yeah, I was struggling with that too... Maybe it was poetry?

Dan

MsFitFern
12-27-2007, 10:51 AM
I might say hello if one had the balls to raise his eyes up once in awhile and meet mine. Kind of hard to say hello when you walk by someone who is staring at the floor.............

MsFitFern
12-27-2007, 10:52 AM
Simple recognition and a polite hello or nod from other regular users is not exactly socializing.

I wasn't asking anyone to stop and chat for an hour on politics. Its like working with people because you see each other so much. Do you talk to your co workers? Its called MANNERS...

IR45N
12-27-2007, 11:55 AM
Forget the manners. If a guy even gets anything it usually won't be much more than a nod or 'how's it going'?' and not expect much more than a nod or 'ok'.

You see a guy who's been around & you see he at least knows how to train, say 'hi' first & tap on the shoulder if you have to; then ask how's the training going if you want'.

Won't hurt you to make the first move. Chances are, you & the other guys have just become fixtures; not a bad thing actually.

Afraid? Probably not, most guys are either married and or there to train & see you're doing the same thing, so you're given your space.

rott69
12-28-2007, 12:50 AM
I wasn't asking anyone to stop and chat for an hour on politics. Its like working with people because you see each other so much. Do you talk to your co workers? Its called MANNERS...

like i said, I'll talk to you... no matter what! even if you can't crush walnuts with your glutes.... i'll be intimidated at first because you're drop bomb gorgeous but, i'll get up and make an effort to at least say hi or hello to you, and admire you from a distance. Some will probably percieve this as " stalking " or plain ole' azz staring, but then again everyone's entitled to their opinion. One thing though, if I initiate the greetings, and don't get a return then I'll be a little hesistant to try once more later on, I'll try again but, with less " balls ". ;)

NotTooLate
12-28-2007, 07:00 AM
I wasn't asking anyone to stop and chat for an hour on politics. Its like working with people because you see each other so much. Do you talk to your co workers? Its called MANNERS...

I know, I was agreeing with you :)

Firminator4
12-28-2007, 08:44 AM
I might say hello if one had the balls to raise his eyes up once in awhile and meet mine. Kind of hard to say hello when you walk by someone who is staring at the floor.............

Looking at your pictures - you are exactly the kind of person I do say hi to in my gym (not many there that look as good as you - LOL).

It's not a hookup attempt - just a respect thing - plus I'm always interested in what drives people that I consider successful at what I do. So no - muscular women don't intimidate me. I'd treat a guy the same way.

xxcarlzxx
12-28-2007, 10:41 AM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

Most men in the UK are afraid of muscle!! for some reason they would prefer a size 0 and a skinny fat girl!!

I personnally do not get it myself haha!!! xx

n00b_101
12-28-2007, 10:48 AM
i def do get intimidated by chicks with more muscle then me they make me look small, i feel angry and pissed because of that.

nycpowtap
12-28-2007, 10:55 AM
Intimidated...no way. Damn IMHO the fitter the hotter. I mean if I could meet Melissa D or some of these other women I would be one happy bro. I think muscles are sexy on a woman.

As far as the no one talking to you, well that can be for alot of reasons but I think mostly in today's gyms no one talks to anyone anymore and based upon your pictures it is not for your looks for sure. Today you are pretty much in Ipod world and even guys do not talk to each other. So I do not think it just has to do with a woman and muscle at all...

Just my IMHO...

-Js

bradford
12-28-2007, 02:19 PM
First of all, I think a lot of guys are very shy and I know that I have often failed to talk to attractive women for that very reason.

Secondly, I agree that in today's gyms it's rare for anyone to talk with each other. Pretty much everyone has their IPod earbuds in and is working in their own space. Being as I work in a gym now, I try to say hi to the members I know, but I don't want to interrupt their workouts and I hate it when I say hi to someone and I don't realize they are using their IPod, so they have to take out their earbuds and talk to me.

Then again, I actually have to go to another YMCA branch for my own workout now, because I can't workout at the branch I run without members or staff interrupting me between every set.

I've actually gotten to the point where I'm very antisocial when working out. I go in with my stocking cap on and my earphones in and I try and avoid even running into the management staff of the other branches or I'm liable to get caught in a 20-minute conversation :-)

anti-bonk
12-28-2007, 04:54 PM
There are many reasons people may not interact in the gym.

Some people may be too intent on their workout.
Some may be too introverted or socially shy.
Some may be too stuck on themselves.
Some may be too embarassed to talk to others who are in better shape or lifting heavier weight.
Some may just be @ssho1es who couldn't care less.

A while ago I realized I wasn't talking to girls in the gym in part due to being intimidated to look like I was obviously hitting on them. I made a decision to just say screw it and that I was going to force myself to intentionally talk to at least 5 women within a months time. After I did that I realized all the stigmas I was putting on it didn't seem to matter anymore. Maybe that is a solution for you. Instead of waiting for people to talk to you, just say screw it and decide you are going to make the effort to talk to X number of guys at the gym. **** ! Just compliment them or something- any guy would like having his ego stroked and it may break the wall of silence you are finding.

rott69
12-28-2007, 05:20 PM
There are many reasons people may not interact in the gym.

Some people may be too intent on their workout.
Some may be too introverted or socially shy.
Some may be too stuck on themselves.
Some may be too embarassed to talk to others who are in better shape or lifting heavier weight.
Some may just be @ssho1es who couldn't care less.

A while ago I realized I wasn't talking to girls in the gym in part due to being intimidated to look like I was obviously hitting on them. I made a decision to just say screw it and that I was going to force myself to intentionally talk to at least 5 women within a months time. After I did that I realized all the stigmas I was putting on it didn't seem to matter anymore. Maybe that is a solution for you. Instead of waiting for people to talk to you, just say screw it and decide you are going to make the effort to talk to X number of guys at the gym. **** ! Just compliment them or something- any guy would like having his ego stroked and it may break the wall of silence you are finding.

I agree.... fawk it, go for broke!!!! what you gonna lose? dignity? respect? or a pair of testicular fortitude to actually get up and do it?

comedic.genious
12-28-2007, 06:54 PM
I might say hello if one had the balls to raise his eyes up once in awhile and meet mine. Kind of hard to say hello when you walk by someone who is staring at the floor.............why dont you say hello anyways........theyll look up......as far i see it,YOU have no balls,YOUR the one who wants to talk so YOU make the first move instead of giving all the excuses why you dont.

goddessamazon
12-28-2007, 07:05 PM
I allways find this to be an issue at a NEW gym or with new people at my gyms. In the BIG gyms I workout at I really dont care but the men who DO speak to me usually treat me like 'one of the guys" Im not sure if they view me as one of the guys but I am more a buddy although most will kiss my cheek or give me a hug hello. One FINE lookin man once came up to me when I was drippin sweat lookin like a cat dragged me through a knothole and told me how beautiful I was. Coulda knocked me over with a feather. I dont think the guys are "intimidated" as much as they truly do resperct your hard work and dont want to bother you while you workout. Although... I know I do totally freak out a percentage of men in every one of my gyms.. LOL!! I am sure you do to;)

I'm treated like one of the guys too.

But in all fairness I go the gym looking like crap. I wear big clothes, a bandanna, no make up and I'm wearing nerd glasses.

I guess I'm making sure that nooooooooooooobody wants me. And it's working!!!!! :)

But all and all I agree. I think most guys respect the hard work women bodybuilders put into the gym so they tend to stay out of our way.

Ingersoll
12-28-2007, 07:41 PM
I'm treated like one of the guys too.

But in all fairness I go the gym looking like crap. I wear big clothes, a bandanna, no make up and I'm wearing nerd glasses.

I guess I'm making sure that nooooooooooooobody wants me. And it's working!!!!! :)

Oh, don't worry. Guys still notice you. Any male who's 15 or older can check out a woman and visualize what's underneath the clothes in about 1.6 seconds. Unless you're wearing a fat suit, it's hard to hide what you have in the gym.


But all and all I agree. I think most guys respect the hard work women bodybuilders put into the gym so they tend to stay out of our way.

I respect everyone working out in the gym. Women get hit on everywhere and I like to think I'm being courteous by leaving them to do what they came to do: Look at me. ;)

anti-bonk
12-28-2007, 09:18 PM
Any male who's 15 or older can check out a woman and visualize what's underneath the clothes in about 1.6 seconds.

Actually, I have my time down to 0.4 seconds. But, I've had many years practice.

Bushy
12-28-2007, 11:20 PM
I don't know if it's muscle or not... I'm not all that musclely and I've been at my gym for 3 years... other than the staff, only one guy has ever spoken to me (and that was last month). From what I've seen in other threads the gym is not the place to socialize. Which makes me wonder where is the place to socialize, the meat section of the supermarket?

A couple of friends have told me basically the same thing. I don't generally engage anyone in conversation at the gym, out of respect for the work they're trying to do, I suppose.

I'd actually like to ask some people questions, and semi-socialize, but I thought it would be considered rude, because of what I've been told.

That, and I'm kinda new at all this, so I'm just mainly trying not to wound myself when I'm there. (Only half-joking about the last part.)

ghvy1122
12-28-2007, 11:47 PM
I definitely don't think one has to have muscles to be intimidating to others, but in this sense, I don't believe it would be your muscles that are intimidating, but more your attractiveness as stated by another poster.

Today, its tough to gauge who you can say hello to, or even strike up convo with as it might be seen as a pass, in the gym atmosphere. As a guy and hearing what I've heard from women's complaints about being hit on in gyms, I typically just do my own thing, talk to the people I know and be done with it.

In addition - human interaction takes two (which no doubt you are aware). But after a year and a half of knowing who the regulars are, I find it hard to believe they've avoided eye contact with you all that time. Hell if after that long I've been wanting to say hello to someone I'd say hi even if they weren't looking at me, considering of course they're not in the middle of a set or busy talking to someone else.

Inthegrass
12-31-2007, 12:03 AM
I think there are two reasons for this maybe. First off I live in a small town, very friendly and it would just seem weird not to at least have a smile for someone whether they are of the opposite sex or not. I had to go to Toronto for a week last Aug and I ended up going to a much larger gym there and you'd think everyone there had a disease the way they deliberately avoided everyone else. It was bizzare I thought. I just guess they are too wrapped up in their own lives for a smile or a hello.
Now the other part of it.
I can remember when my kids were younger, around three and four years old and I use to take them to the park to play where there would usually be mothers there with their kids. Of course my kids would jump right in there and start playing with the other kids but I discovered very quickly that the mothers there didn't want any part of me. It really made me feel very uncomfortable like I was some weirdo or something. It was like they were afraid of me or that hey figured that I would try and pick them up or come on to them or something like that. Subconsciously I realized that I started looking the other way all the time just because I didn't like the idea of making them feel uncomfortable.
I think in some ways your situation might have a little bit of both reasons wrapped into it. I think guys might just be a little bit afraid to try and smile or what ever towards you because they are worried that you might feel uncomfortable by it and also that some people just plain don't know how to pass a smile on to someone else. Very sad indeed.
You'd get smiled at at the gym where I work out that's for sure.

Jeff

TANK25
12-31-2007, 06:51 AM
I really don`t get it. I have belong to a lot of gyms over the years and most were very hardcore.I have seen guy and girls not speak to new members,but regulars would always say hi or give a nod to eachother. I know some women who are power lifters and huge and people would say hi to them.The only regulars that members would speak with,were the ones that would not speak back.

willis12932
01-01-2008, 08:12 PM
me myself if it probly be shy thing take me long time to warm up to anyone. PLus when i lifteing am right on lifting that it

BigB13
01-02-2008, 09:57 PM
Hi Fern :)

rott69
01-02-2008, 11:39 PM
I just saw a tough chick outpush me in the flat bench today.... hmmm!!! kinda erotic!!! sexy!!!! tantalizing....

NotTooLate
01-02-2008, 11:54 PM
I don't know how guys can talk to anyone in the gym these days when they're all wearing earphones. I found a bank card on the locker room bench today and as I went around asking people if that was their name to try to return it almost all the ladies looked annoyed because they had to take out their phones to hear me. I never did find the owner so I turned it in to the desk. I was a little ticked that I was doing a nice thing and it was annoying people because they were too lazy to remove the phones for a sec.

EMISGOD
01-03-2008, 12:07 AM
I am not afraid. :D

rott69
01-03-2008, 12:13 AM
I don't know how guys can talk to anyone in the gym these days when they're all wearing earphones. I found a bank card on the locker room bench today and as I went around asking people if that was their name to try to return it almost all the ladies looked annoyed because they had to take out their phones to hear me. I never did find the owner so I turned it in to the desk. I was a little ticked that I was doing a nice thing and it was annoying people because they were too lazy to remove the phones for a sec.

I'' take my earphones off, plus more just for you... for reals!!! :) j/j. Nothing but humor, no hard feelings?

NotTooLate
01-03-2008, 01:33 AM
I'' take my earphones off, plus more just for you... for reals!!! :) j/j. Nothing but humor, no hard feelings?

How much more? ;)

rott69
01-03-2008, 01:41 AM
How much more? ;)

hehe.... nice to know some women still appreciate light green humor nowadays. In the age of sexual harrasments, etc. it's not fair anymore. It seems that, if you make a stupid comment, someone, somewhere will take it out of context and run with it. I appreciate that Ma'am..... Btw, will take it off when requested, told, ordered, asked, etc. ;)

egoatdoor
01-03-2008, 06:00 AM
almost all the ladies looked annoyed because they had to take out their phones to hear me.

Could it be a little bit of shock or an unintended reaction? I only wear headphones during cardio and I know that if I am really into my music and I get interrupted unexpectedly, it is a bit of a shock and I may involuntarily scrunch my nose, especially if its somebody I don't know. This doesn't happen if I see the person approaching and I am prepared. I am getting better at this and I do make the effort to smile and greet right away so the person isn't taken totally aback by my initial reaction.

How do the women treat you otherwise? Could some of it be jealousy because of what you've made yourself into?

NotTooLate
01-03-2008, 11:22 AM
hehe.... nice to know some women still appreciate light green humor nowadays. In the age of sexual harrasments, etc. it's not fair anymore. It seems that, if you make a stupid comment, someone, somewhere will take it out of context and run with it. I appreciate that Ma'am..... Btw, will take it off when requested, told, ordered, asked, etc. ;)

At ease soldier, stand by for instructions.......... ;)

NotTooLate
01-03-2008, 11:27 AM
Could it be a little bit of shock or an unintended reaction? I only wear headphones during cardio and I know that if I am really into my music and I get interrupted unexpectedly, it is a bit of a shock and I may involuntarily scrunch my nose, especially if its somebody I don't know. This doesn't happen if I see the person approaching and I am prepared. I am getting better at this and I do make the effort to smile and greet right away so the person isn't taken totally aback by my initial reaction.

How do the women treat you otherwise? Could some of it be jealousy because of what you've made yourself into?

It probably was the surprise effect of it. I don't listen to music in the gym so I don't know what it's like. I like to hear myself think and concentrate on what I'm doing. I highly doubt they are jealous of me. Most of them want to be skinny like the models in the magazines and don't appreciate weight training much. Also I'm way older than most of the people there, in their 20s, and the fountain of youth doesn't get jealous of age lol I always talk to the regular chicks in the locker room so we've gotten to be pretty comfortable with each other but these ones were new ones.

IdahoViking
01-03-2008, 12:09 PM
I'm not afraid of women with muscle, however I am afraid of squirrels...

















...after all, they do eat nuts you know! ;)

NotTooLate
01-03-2008, 12:24 PM
I'm not afraid of women with muscle, however I am afraid of squirrels...
...after all, they do eat nuts you know! ;)

You bin into de ganja mon? :)

barrymac
01-03-2008, 12:35 PM
I try and be polite and at least say good morning to all of the regulars that I see, most of the guys will give me at least a head nod, most of the woman will act like they didn't hear me...

Ingersoll
01-03-2008, 12:39 PM
Speaking of the whole eye contact thing... A lot of women won't even make eye contact at all. Sometimes, even before I can begin to smile they've already averted their gaze. You can see their whole body language shut down. They won't even smile back. A few do, but with some, it's almost an unspoken "DON'T LOOK AT ME!" kind of thing.

The reason a lot of guys don't talk to women in the gym is because a lot of women are more unfriendly there than anywhere else.

IdahoViking
01-03-2008, 01:22 PM
You bin into de ganja mon? :)Nope, I don't need to smoke nothing to be my own altered state.

CardioGrl
01-03-2008, 01:38 PM
I've been going to the same gym for over two years. Not a soul says hi to me, with the exception of one guy who always smiles and greets me. He is there as frequently as I am. The rest, though I see as often as I am there, same face and all, look away. Nothing intimidating about me, I am certainly not overly bulging with muscles.

I tried smiling, extending a polite hello, in all three attempts the people turned away from me. One was a male, the other two were females, I shrugged it off to the typical catty female bs :).

Chin up, no big deal, gives you more time to focus on what's important!

IdahoViking
01-03-2008, 01:42 PM
I've been going to the same gym for over two years. Not a soul says hi to me, with the exception of one guy who always smiles and greets me. He is there as frequently as I am. The rest, though I see as often as I am there, same face and all, look away. Nothing intimidating about me, I am certainly not overly bulging with muscles.

I tried smiling, extending a polite hello, in all three attempts the people turned away from me. One was a male, the other two were females, I shrugged it off to the typical catty female bs :).

Chin up, no big deal, gives you more time to focus on what's important!
Hello! :D

CardioGrl
01-03-2008, 02:05 PM
Hello! :D

Hiya

enigma60
01-03-2008, 02:17 PM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

I worked out for years in various gyms and never taked to anyone. Half the time I wondered if I had 3 heads too but I probably gave off a 'don't talk to me vibe'.

Personally I think women with muscles are HOT and definitely not intimidating!

MiamiSpartan
01-03-2008, 02:20 PM
I'm afraid of ALL women..

;)

barrymac
01-03-2008, 02:52 PM
Hello! :D

Damn, you beat me to it... :)

rott69
01-03-2008, 05:32 PM
I've been going to the same gym for over two years. Not a soul says hi to me, with the exception of one guy who always smiles and greets me. He is there as frequently as I am. The rest, though I see as often as I am there, same face and all, look away. Nothing intimidating about me, I am certainly not overly bulging with muscles.

I tried smiling, extending a polite hello, in all three attempts the people turned away from me. One was a male, the other two were females, I shrugged it off to the typical catty female bs :).

Chin up, no big deal, gives you more time to focus on what's important!

once again, I'll smile at you, greet you? that's another question for another time in the gym.... I'll make sure you don't have a significant other lurking around....

CardioGrl
01-03-2008, 06:49 PM
once again, I'll smile at you, greet you? that's another question for another time in the gym.... I'll make sure you don't have a significant other lurking around....

Now that's funny, cause most of the time, my significant other is there, but he *ain't* the jealous type

Anomaly.
01-03-2008, 06:56 PM
Speaking of the whole eye contact thing... A lot of women won't even make eye contact at all. Sometimes, even before I can begin to smile they've already averted their gaze. You can see their whole body language shut down. They won't even smile back. A few do, but with some, it's almost an unspoken "DON'T LOOK AT ME!" kind of thing.

The reason a lot of guys don't talk to women in the gym is because a lot of women are more unfriendly there than anywhere else.

A few weeks ago I had some girl scowl at me for trying to get her attention. I think she thought I was trying to hit on her, but I just wanted to ask her if it was her stuff on the ab crunch machine.

b631
01-04-2008, 12:07 AM
you guys got it bad

my gym it the fit girls that came over to talk, mostly to give me advise about things i do wrong

as im new to the country i have to ask people to repeat themselves, then they would ask me to repeat my response, usually loosing the plot.

although the same thing happened at home

but to the original question, I find most of the women with muscles most approachable for conversation, any women who is real enough to go strong is usually a real person.

a68claret
01-04-2008, 04:02 AM
once said thanks to a young lady as she moved to let me get to the smiths machine that was it thanks and a smile within two minutes her boyfriend and crew were there asking me what the f**k i was doing. I pointed out that in polite society it is the done thing to say thank you and that my daughter is the same age as his girlfriend and i find it disgusting to even think of her like that. It was only with the intervention of gym staff that it didnt come to blows so now i dont even look at a female in the gym unless they are staff or talk to me first

Blake Austin
01-04-2008, 09:21 AM
No, not afraid of them. But definitely not attracted to them.

NatiNatural
01-04-2008, 10:05 AM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles?
Maybe some are... I competed years ago and trained with a woman who also competed. Guys were definitely intimidated by her as she was stronger than them on many exercises.
I, on the other hand, do not feel this way. I appreciate all of the work that goes into it and definitely like the look of a fit body.
One thing though...
Many of the guys in the gym, even bigger guys, are there because they used to be smaller, insecure guys. Many of them may still see themselves in this way and feel uncomfortable about talking to a hottie such as yourself. You might have to say HI to them first to get them out of their shell and make them feel comfortable.

rott69
01-04-2008, 02:20 PM
once said thanks to a young lady as she moved to let me get to the smiths machine that was it thanks and a smile within two minutes her boyfriend and crew were there asking me what the f**k i was doing. I pointed out that in polite society it is the done thing to say thank you and that my daughter is the same age as his girlfriend and i find it disgusting to even think of her like that. It was only with the intervention of gym staff that it didnt come to blows so now i dont even look at a female in the gym unless they are staff or talk to me first

exactly my point.... fawk everyone thinks men are either ****'s or pervs. what kind of crap is that? what's wrong with being friendly? for example, me? I have 25 " stalking " friends, and majority of them, I admit are women. Is it my fault that, they attract my attention? all my intentions are, is to be friends with them. Guess what? none of them have even thought about adding me yet, as I may be percieved as a perv/****....


just my 2 cents.... if anybody cares that I'm raving and ranting in corner somewhere.

cgc
01-04-2008, 02:23 PM
With out reading all 8 pages of this....

The original question about are men afraid of women with muscle....

Not a chance...I think it's cool to see a woman with muscles....VERY cool....

Ingersoll
01-04-2008, 04:22 PM
A few weeks ago I had some girl scowl at me for trying to get her attention. I think she thought I was trying to hit on her, but I just wanted to ask her if it was her stuff on the ab crunch machine.

I know exactly what you're talking about. Just yesterday I asked a girl if she was going to use the rope handles that were sitting on the floor by her feet. When I asked her, "Excuse me, are you using those?" she looked at me like I was a back alley mugger. Maybe I surprised her?

Like you, I wasn't trying to pick this chick up, I just needed to do lat-pulldowns. It's almost insulting. This girl is not my type anyway (don't dig chubby chicks); I've always done significantly better.

I don't know what it is about the gym that seems to inspire such off-putting behaviors from so many people. When I'm at a place four and five days a week and I see the same people on just about all of those days, my natural inclination is to smile and at least say hello. But not at the gym. Go figger.

Ingersoll
01-04-2008, 04:25 PM
you guys got it bad

my gym it the fit girls that came over to talk, mostly to give me advise about things i do wrong

as im new to the country i have to ask people to repeat themselves, then they would ask me to repeat my response, usually loosing the plot.

although the same thing happened at home

but to the original question, I find most of the women with muscles most approachable for conversation, any women who is real enough to go strong is usually a real person.

Maybe that's what guys should start doing: fake some foreign accent and act all sheepish and naive.

MsFitFern
01-06-2008, 08:35 AM
some people think they are Gods gift and it makes you want to say," don't think so highly of yourself, I don't want to screw you, you aren't my type".

JackBlair
01-06-2008, 12:22 PM
I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........


I don't think it's intimidation - you said "I am intense... there to workout... no chat..."

Nothing wrong with that, but I think you have successfully sent out the signal that says "LEAVE ME ALONE."

You've sent out that signal, and now you wish someone would say "hi" once in a while. I think the solution is for you to say "hi" to someone now and then (whether male or female). It's a matter of natural human interaction, I believe.

But I'm not criticizing you here. Nothing wrong with not wanting to be social. But if I would LIKE some social interaction now and then, it would seem to me I have to give some now and then...

Sorry to go all Dr Phil here!

JackBlair
01-06-2008, 12:30 PM
MORE:

Also, it can be weird for guys sometimes, at least for me. I WANT to be nice to people, but when I am nice to a female, i get all weirded out thinking "OMG what if she thinks I'm hitting on her???" Or then if I don't pay attention to a woman, I think "OMG, what if she thinks I am NOT Hitting on her???" Because maybe a woman likes to be hit on every now and then, and if it doesn't happen, maybe she'll feel bad about herself...

CAn't win for losing, I guess. If a guy says "HI," she'll get offended. If he DOESN'T pay any attention, she'll get offended...

But then, I want to be nice to people, esp women, because sometimes women seem afraid in the gym, because of all these guys around, or they don't know much about the weights and things. It's in their own heads mostly - most gentlemen would be more than willing to help a woman (or a man) to figure out something in the gym --- but the whole head trip is insane!

Hahaha I believe I THINK too much...

rott69
01-06-2008, 02:13 PM
some people think they are Gods gift and it makes you want to say," don't think so highly of yourself, I don't want to screw you, you aren't my type".

Really? oh gosh!! I thought I was..... gotta work on those damn bi's and tri's then huh? ;) j/j!!!

k1lr0y
01-09-2008, 06:52 AM
I think it's the guys in your specific gym. how they view & interact with others. while I'm at the gym to work, I am responsive to others (not long winded) & upon occasion initiate a pleasantry to both genders because that's how I am. I won't go out of my way to say "Hello" but I'm not not anti-social by any means.


some people think they are Gods gift and it makes you want to say," don't think so highly of yourself, I don't want to screw you, you aren't my type".
I see this from both genders, though.

Delaware_Dad
01-09-2008, 08:44 PM
Holy crap this topic is getting really deep in here.. It's like Jerry Springer meets Dr. Phil with a little Oprah thrown in...

My .02 on the origional topic..

- Fit / women with muscle = hot (not just the physical part.. it also takes a ton of commitment - dedication)

- Huge women = Not so much.. ie Laura Creavalle probably a great person but just doesn't do it for me.

For me, as far as talking to people (men and women) it's all about their body language. Headphones on, no direct eye contact what so ever and I'll pass right by.. BUT After a while of going 3,4 or 5 times a week, eventually you will talk to everyone once or twice. Even if it's just a quick "Hi" It's hard not to... unless they are completely anti-social.

rott69
01-10-2008, 06:47 AM
Holy crap this topic is getting really deep in here.. It's like Jerry Springer meets Dr. Phil with a little Oprah thrown in...

My .02 on the origional topic..

- Fit / women with muscle = hot (not just the physical part.. it also takes a ton of commitment - dedication)

- Huge women = Not so much.. ie Laura Creavalle probably a great person but just doesn't do it for me.

For me, as far as talking to people (men and women) it's all about their body language. Headphones on, no direct eye contact what so ever and I'll pass right by.. BUT After a while of going 3,4 or 5 times a week, eventually you will talk to everyone once or twice. Even if it's just a quick "Hi" It's hard not to... unless they are completely anti-social.

X 1,000,000,000.......

doofusdave
01-10-2008, 07:18 AM
Well, it's pretty much all been said already, but fwiw, I go to the gym to workout, not socialize. I don't ignore people (male or female) if I get a nod or a "hello," I'll return it, but I don't go out of my way to greet everyone I happen to see at the gym every day either.

As far as being intimidated by a muscled female, heck no. I have a deep respect for everyone who commits to the will of the iron, and a little more so when I see a female who is clearly giving her all in the gym.

ironman_gee83
01-10-2008, 08:23 AM
Nod heads but nothing too much till i get my workout done. Plus, everyones got a busy schedule and trying hard to make time for their workouts so its better to go through wit ur workout and convert the gym into a pub.

Dont take it personal, MsFitness. Its just the best way of doing things. But smiles and hello nodes are ok in my books.

Capt. America
01-10-2008, 09:18 AM
Hell no...I love a woman with muscles...as long as they ain't bigger than mine!

ssouthbeach14
01-10-2008, 10:29 AM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

no.. im not afraid at all.. i would say that i perfer a girl with muscle.. they are just few and far between where i live...

BoiseLifer
01-10-2008, 11:16 AM
Do you say hi to them? =)


I am not asking to marry them, just say hi dammit........dont treat me like I am carrying the bubonic plague

Inthegrass
01-10-2008, 12:01 PM
exactly my point.... fawk everyone thinks men are either ****'s or pervs. what kind of crap is that? what's wrong with being friendly? for example, me? I have 25 " stalking " friends, and majority of them, I admit are women. Is it my fault that, they attract my attention? all my intentions are, is to be friends with them. Guess what? none of them have even thought about adding me yet, as I may be percieved as a perv/****....


just my 2 cents.... if anybody cares that I'm raving and ranting in corner somewhere.

I can remember when my kids were very young and I use to take them places like the park so that they would get a chance to play with other kids their age (2-5 years approx).
So here we are at the park and there might be four or five mothers there with their kids and me with mine. I swear if they could have built a brick wall between me and them they would have. It's like I was lepper.
Fortunately I always loved playing with my kids more than talking so I spent a lot of time on the jungle gym.

Jeff

P.S. Oh and I love women with muscle! Very sexy!!

IdahoViking
01-10-2008, 12:05 PM
I would not recomend sneaking up behind them and yelling "BLEAH" in their ear as an ice-breaker; especially if they are lifting heavy at the time.

Yawdman
01-10-2008, 12:09 PM
It could be the look on your face that guys don't find approachable. I don't think they're intimidated, but they really don't know what to expect. They think that if they attempt to interact and it goes wrong, it could turn into a "scene". Last thing any guy wants is to be embarrassed by a hot woman in a gym and having the gym staff ask you to leave. Even though you don't intend it, the look on your face might be saying "leave me alone or you'll be sorry".

I almost didn't approach my wife because of that, she didn't look very approachable, but I said what the hey, and now we're married. Most people don't say hi to me because my face just looks grumpy when I don't smile...oh well.

You might have to say hi or try softening your expression to turn things around.

farsscf
01-10-2008, 12:17 PM
I have not read this whole thread but I am surprised it is still going. I personally think you look great but mostly all you hear, esp from women, is "why will guys not leave me alone in the gym?" Come work out at my gym and I will pay you attention if you want. I also feel most people are "in the zone" in the gym and want to be left alone. Maybe people are respecting you by not talking to you? You obviously take it serious, it shows.

vnmama
01-10-2008, 04:00 PM
Thanks for posting this. When I first started going to the gym about 3 years ago, I thought there must be some kind of "gym culture" I was not aware of, because no one would say hi to me or even make eye contact. It was actually quite upsetting at first.

I always smile and say hi if someone will look at me, but it doesn't happen very often, men or women.

Bulldog92
01-10-2008, 06:50 PM
Sometimes guys are intimidated by attractive women. Some might be looking for a chance to say hello, but if you are like me with ipod earphones in and a look of pain on your face for the better part of the workout (bodylanguage) they might not say hi. I always make it a point to say hi the the regulars at my gym guys and girls. Of course...those guys might just be stupid. :)

wheymaster02
01-18-2008, 05:00 AM
Good morning Fern, although several people have made personal preferences on insecurities and the fact that they go to the gym to work out and not socialize, I am certain that it is a matter of preference. Everyone is on their own level, some can communicate some can't, some men are insecure, as are some women, but, everyone is approachable if we can find or are willing to find the way to approach each other on an individual level. I am focused in the gym and let me tell you this gym is packed. I spend a lot of time planning my route to the next piece of equipment, with a lot of people in the way. I have to speak to them. Out of every 10 people I talk to, there may be one American. So my advice to you is this. You know how you growl at yourself in the mirror, ha ha, go ahead and growl at them in that manor and see what the response is. You take care you beautiful mother of 4 and let me know how the growling goes.

With many respects,

Brent

rott69
01-18-2008, 03:46 PM
here's a better one...

are Asians racists, bigots, illiterates, and judgemental? read on....



http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?p=118698031&posted=1#post118698031

MsFitFern
01-19-2008, 10:38 PM
All I was saying is to perhaps say a casual "hello" in passing. A friggin head nod. I workout with 2 feet of some of these people 5 days a week and they can't even look up when we pass in the 'hallway".....thats kind of 5th grade, isn't it? And the dirty looks from women and their girlfriends gotta go.......

pauljw
01-19-2008, 11:03 PM
I agree Fern. It's called "common courtesy". When you are in the gym that often you would think they would, as you say nod or just say "hi". We have the same in our gym. Some people will almost run the other way when you try to interact with them. I try a couple of times whether they are male or female and you learn quickly who's friendly and who's not.

mchenrycruiser
01-20-2008, 12:11 AM
All I was saying is to perhaps say a casual "hello" in passing. A friggin head nod. I workout with 2 feet of some of these people 5 days a week and they can't even look up when we pass in the 'hallway".....thats kind of 5th grade, isn't it? And the dirty looks from women and their girlfriends gotta go.......i dont think you are grasping this.......these guys in the gym....they could say the EXACT same thing about you.....YOUR not nodding at them either.....I think your of the opinion that a guy has to make the first move.......well I might be of the opinion the women shouldnt be muscular......youve broken one steriotype.....now break another one and YOU say hello...I mean ,youve been told this already and yet you still wine about nobody talking to you.....ummmm how bout YOU talk to them?are you shy?do you think your some sort of princess that should be placed on a pedestal?i dont get it....why caqnt you open your freakin mouth and utter the word hi?

OnTheRoad
01-20-2008, 08:16 PM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

I could have written this!!! so I read the thread and thought maybe some of the fault could lie with me and my ipod and the "f$#@k off" face I have on.

Today I went to the gym and

-made eye contact with a regular, received smile, nod and wink back :)
-started a conversation with another female, received a great tip back :)
-acknowledged another regular with a smile and received one back :)

Finished a awesome workout and got into my car with a big smile on my face. I know now what I was giving out...........I was getting in return.

I now just hope no one chats to me...I am not that socialable..lol

Donnie T
01-21-2008, 12:02 AM
I'm the opposite of intimidated, I'm attracted. I love a muscular, fit woman.

But from my perspective, as the t-shirt says "I'm not here to talk." I wear my headphones and don't talk to ANYONE. The most I'll do is give a head nod to another regular.

When I see a fit woman getting into her workout, I wouldn't bother her out of courtesy, not because I'm intimidated. She's there to work out hard, the same as I am, and I don't want to be bothered, so why would I bother her?

Just my $.02. :)

rott69
01-21-2008, 12:16 AM
I could have written this!!! so I read the thread and thought maybe some of the fault could lie with me and my ipod and the "f$#@k off" face I have on.

Today I went to the gym and

-made eye contact with a regular, received smile, nod and wink back :)
-started a conversation with another female, received a great tip back :)
-acknowledged another regular with a smile and received one back :)

Finished a awesome workout and got into my car with a big smile on my face. I know now what I was giving out...........I was getting in return.

I now just hope no one chats to me...I am not that socialable..lol

see what a little initiative gets 'ya....!! Nice, I wouldn't mind being acknowledged once in awhile, especially from hot, muscular women such as yourself....

SuperBeast74
01-21-2008, 01:21 AM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

why does it matter?your there to train.i moved to a diffrent gym just so no one would talk to me.i went just over 2 years and now i train with a 42 year old woman.she's a freak 4'11" squats 255lb.leg press 500lb.bench 135lb& dead lifts 250lb.for me buff women are hot,as long as they dont look like nicole bass.Id train with you,just bring your i-pod.

SuperBeast74
01-21-2008, 01:37 AM
i dont think you are grasping this.......these guys in the gym....they could say the EXACT same thing about you.....YOUR not nodding at them either.....I think your of the opinion that a guy has to make the first move.......well I might be of the opinion the women shouldnt be muscular......youve broken one steriotype.....now break another one and YOU say hello...I mean ,youve been told this already and yet you still wine about nobody talking to you.....ummmm how bout YOU talk to them?are you shy?do you think your some sort of princess that should be placed on a pedestal?i dont get it....why caqnt you open your freakin mouth and utter the word hi?

thats a really good point,it does go both ways.I never did see anyone respond.

00maro00
01-21-2008, 02:39 AM
Am i intimidated by them.... Nope not one bit. Actually have a ton of respect for women who break the mold so to speak.

I'm also pretty shy so would I approach ... most likely not even if i wanted to. As for the nod or smile... I try to do it when i can to regulars even new people. It's just a freindly thing or polite. Most however don't and it's pretty obvious as you look around and watch.

Admittedly when I'm at the gym I put the Bouncer face on and have the music playing in my ear, but if I aint doing a set i pull one ear piece out incase anyone says anything or asks for help ect.

It does go both ways though. People didn't start saying hi or talking to me until I did it to them. Once others saw me doing it they started to do it. Most thought i was some nut case cause of the vibe i give out and the facial expression on me. Not saying it's anything worng with you at all. It' could just flat out be the other people aren't social unless approached first. You also are very attractive and great build so to some its just that much harder to even do something as easy as a Nod to say whats up.

It's 4:40am and im rambling on heh

rott69
01-21-2008, 02:41 AM
Am i intimidated by them.... Nope not one bit. Actually have a ton of respect for women who break the mold so to speak.

I'm also pretty shy so would I approach ... most likely not even if i wanted to. As for the nod or smile... I try to do it when i can to regulars even new people. It's just a freindly thing or polite. Most however don't and it's pretty obvious as you look around and watch.

Admittedly when I'm at the gym I put the Bouncer face on and have the music playing in my ear, but if I aint doing a set i pull one ear piece out incase anyone says anything or asks for help ect.

It does go both ways though. People didn't start saying hi or talking to me until I did it to them. Once others saw me doing it they started to do it. Most thought i was some nut case cause of the vibe i give out and the facial expression on me. Not saying it's anything worng with you at all. It' could just flat out be the other people aren't social unless approached first. You also are very attractive and great build so to some its just that much harder to even do something as easy as a Nod to say whats up.

It's 4:40am and im rambling on heh

it's okay to ramble on and on.... at least you make sense at 0440 hrs. ;) :) just kidding!!!

OnTheRoad
01-21-2008, 03:09 AM
see what a little initiative gets 'ya....!! Nice, I wouldn't mind being acknowledged once in awhile, especially from hot, muscular women such as yourself....

:) "hi"

rott69
01-21-2008, 03:10 AM
:) "hi"

hello.... I invited you to be a friend, did you add me already?

bigking01sg
01-21-2008, 06:12 AM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

u r rite, if i m in the gym and i see u...i also dare not look at u..because u too power!!!!

u put man to shame

Tyciol
01-21-2008, 06:48 AM
Yes, strong women intimidate me.

Delaware_Dad
01-21-2008, 07:10 AM
All I was saying is to perhaps say a casual "hello" in passing. A friggin head nod. I workout with 2 feet of some of these people 5 days a week and they can't even look up when we pass in the 'hallway".....thats kind of 5th grade, isn't it? And the dirty looks from women and their girlfriends gotta go.......

I think, IMHO, it's all summed up in one word. Intimidation.. You take care of yourself, you are attractive so the average person with a low self esteem is going to shy away. The same goes for the women & GF's.. They feel threatened by you because you look better.. It's sad really.. Sometimes the gym is like 5th grade or highschool... lol I get a kick out of it all though.

curt_james
01-28-2008, 06:51 PM
Quick question.....are men intimidated by women with muscles? Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym. in fact, some even go as far as to look at the floor and won't even meet my eye. I know I am intense in the gym, but I am there to workout, no chat or hook up. On the other hand, after a year and 1/2 of working out next to some of these guys, it might be nice if they would meet my eyes in passing and say a polite hello. I feel like a damn alien with 3 heads.........

I bet I've already answered this question. (My memory is like a rusted trap.)

Are men intimidated by women with muscles? Not this man! I am not into foot worship or head scissors or any of that shmoe (sp?) behavior, but I definitely am a fan of fit women, buff women, and/or women with muscles.

Some men are shy. You're a beautiful woman and that (much more than muscles) can be very intimidating.

Take the offensive (for lack of a better term)!

"Man, this weather!"
"Don't you hate when..."
"How's your workout going?"

Etc., etc.

You wrote: "Hardly anyone ever says hello to me in the gym."

Say hello first.

Of course then you obviously run the risk of getting the wrong response or interpretation, right?

"Oh, she's here to chat or hook up!"

Alternatively, you could pick up a training partner if you don't have one already. I'm not a big talker in the gym, but my training partner is someone who has one of those magnetic personalities and people typically give him the good word, hello, immediate "What's up?"

Simply by being this person's training partner there's been a... what would you call it? I don't know, but people have been approaching me more readily. I can only attribute it to the fact that I have a popular training partner. I haven't suddenly become more warm and fuzzy.