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thedailydaren
06-18-2014, 10:12 AM
Posting in the over 35 Misc bc I dont want typical Misc answers. Im not trying to bail out of a relationship because it's difficult and that's usually the answer people get when they're having relationship troubles.

Ive been with my fiance for two years. We've lived together almost the entire time. Our relationship has been healthy up until a few months ago we've hit a rough patch. I know I've posted on the forums before about helping my wife lose weight and being frustrated with that battle. Well that battle was never really won, things are more or less the same, as in I struggle/maintain a healthy lifestyle and she kinda floats around and does whatever. It's not a deal breaker for me and I love her just the same.

Or I thought I did -- except now I am picking fights with her for no reason. I dont even realize I'm doing it until it's done and I read though some of the messages we've sent or play back through the argument in my head.
Example: Today she didn't pack a lunch. I offered to bring her one even though we dont have enough gas to make it through the week if I do (figured what the hell I can ask for a ride if it means she wont be passing out at work). Granted people have skipped lunch and been fine. THE MAIN THING WAS THAT I WAS JUST TRYING TO BE NICE AND OFFER, didn't expect her to say yes, I expected her to say no but be happy I offered.
But she didn't say yes or no - she said I dont know.
Which for some reason in the moment infuriated me enough to start saying stupid chit and make an argument out of it. I guess I was already mad because my studio microphone broke, I ran out of protein, and I'm not supposed to lift today but I hate doing cardio.

Well.

What is wrong with me misc? I know I have low testosterone and I take prescribed test for it... could my dose just be off? Can hormones **** with you like that, 'roid rage or something?
Or am I like really holding a grudge against my wife for being overweight?
She says I do this to her almost every week now, I'll ask her something and when she doens't know or can't decide I flip ****.

We dont have any other problems out of the norm... I mean we aren't rich and sometimes things get hard but what I'm saying is I dont want to leave the relationship and I'm happy, I think about or future.... so why am I doing this?

tl;dr i dont have a therapist so im here complaining
tl;dr i pick fights with my wife even though our relationship is solid
tl;dr why

ajdahlheimer
06-18-2014, 10:22 AM
Bro, how high are you in that avatar pic?

thedailydaren
06-18-2014, 10:24 AM
Bro, how high are you in that avatar pic?
lol everyone always fukken calls me out on here for that hahahaha i leave it just for the lulz
pretty high though. It was right after thanksgiving dinner *whew*

ajdahlheimer
06-18-2014, 10:28 AM
lol everyone always fukken calls me out on here for that hahahaha i leave it just for the lulz
pretty high though. It was right after thanksgiving dinner *whew*

As long as you're sticking to the kind buds. Word Life.

thedailydaren
06-18-2014, 10:30 AM
As long as you're sticking to the kind buds. Word Life.
Always.
Honestly that's probably the answer to my question I should just relax and not be so uptight.



Wish it was that simple.

Nikonguy
06-18-2014, 10:31 AM
lol everyone always fukken calls me out on here for that hahahaha i leave it just for the lulz
pretty high though. It was right after thanksgiving dinner *whew*

You and the pies were getting baked at the same time? Awesome!

Secret Weight Grudge Holder Crew checking in. Sorry no advice here.

bodyhard
06-18-2014, 10:40 AM
You are looking for excuses on why you start arguments???! Man up to your ways and stop looking for excuses of the why. You are pathetic.

so-tex
06-18-2014, 10:40 AM
Wish it was that simple.It is.
/WeYsTmIzjkw

latebloomingmom
06-18-2014, 10:40 AM
your woman is not a mind reader
stop playing games with her
and dont offer to do things you really dont want to do

Fishman15
06-18-2014, 11:18 AM
Which for some reason in the moment infuriated me enough to start saying stupid chit and make an argument out of it. I guess I was already mad because my studio microphone broke, I ran out of protein, and I'm not supposed to lift today but I hate doing cardio.

Well.

What is wrong with me misc? I know I have low testosterone and I take prescribed test for it... could my dose just be off? Can hormones **** with you like that, 'roid rage or something?
Or am I like really holding a grudge against my wife for being overweight?


Dude, that's beyond being high. How many topics you got going there in those few lines...wtf

Karl_Hungus
06-18-2014, 11:55 AM
Sounds like you are taking other frustrations out on her. Next time you get irritated with her, try to examine why you are doing it .... and make a conscious effort to avoid doing it. I get irritated easily -- It is just my personality. So, when I interact with people, I have to make an effort to not let that influence how I treat them -- because my irritability is my issue, not theirs. Recognizing when you are doing it as it happens will go a long way toward helping you stop.

ajdahlheimer
06-18-2014, 12:18 PM
Every time you think of starting a fight---just take another rip off tha bong. You'll be ahhight.....

superman713
06-18-2014, 12:19 PM
23yrs old? Do you have a job?

Not enough gas to make it through the week... but you get high.

You say you're looking at your future... how?

Stop being a dick to your girl. Grow up.

michail71
06-18-2014, 12:47 PM
It sounds like neither of you really want to be together but just don't know how to be on your own or break up.

If you are on TRT you should have your estrogen levels checked. High estrogen makes men irritable and moody.

Frnkd
06-18-2014, 01:45 PM
if you cant accept the answer dont ask.

Do things not for a pat on the back but out of caring..... in other words the people around you dont need to validate who you are. If that is the case you better have mind control, cause the only person you are going to "control" is your self. The unpredictable situations that relationships as well as your environment around you have is exactly the only thing you can expect.
Rather than ask your partner if she wanted you to bring lunch, just say "Im coming down to bring you lunch" otherwise you are setting her up for an argument. And as someone else said, if you didnt want to do that than dont offer. Now if she says no need than accept it. I predict that if she said that you will go on a rant about not appreciating you and what you do etc. again the need for validation and a weak ego.

Only you can change bro. Once YOU decide to than everythng around you will follow.

pharmamarketer
06-18-2014, 02:17 PM
Grow up. I am so happy I was raised right and taught to focus. Thank you Mom and Dad.

Simpske
06-18-2014, 02:24 PM
uwotm8...

drudixon
06-18-2014, 07:16 PM
You're frustrated. When men get frustrated, most get mad. Deal with the frustration and problem solved. Her answer was noncommittal because she has no idea what to expect from you.

thedailydaren
06-18-2014, 08:17 PM
23yrs old? Do you have a job?

Not enough gas to make it through the week... but you get high.

You say you're looking at your future... how?

Stop being a dick to your girl. Grow up.

Im 23 yeah. I work 50 hours a week in a paper factory. I get high when i can afford to and this week i cannot.

Im looking at my future as in working saving money planning.

Got me there, will do.

thedailydaren
06-18-2014, 08:19 PM
You are looking for excuses on why you start arguments???! Man up to your ways and stop looking for excuses of the why. You are pathetic.

Im not looking for excuses im looking for the cause of the problem.

thedailydaren
06-18-2014, 08:21 PM
if you cant accept the answer dont ask.

Do things not for a pat on the back but out of caring..... in other words the people around you dont need to validate who you are. If that is the case you better have mind control, cause the only person you are going to "control" is your self. The unpredictable situations that relationships as well as your environment around you have is exactly the only thing you can expect.
Rather than ask your partner if she wanted you to bring lunch, just say "Im coming down to bring you lunch" otherwise you are setting her up for an argument. And as someone else said, if you didnt want to do that than dont offer. Now if she says no need than accept it. I predict that if she said that you will go on a rant about not appreciating you and what you do etc. again the need for validation and a weak ego.

Only you can change bro. Once YOU decide to than everythng around you will follow.

Thanks man. I needed to hear that. Ill work on it

Old-Time-Lifter
06-18-2014, 10:32 PM
Drop the drugs that isn't looking to your future.

On trt at 23... you are so screwed...

cowboybiker
06-18-2014, 10:46 PM
Drop the drugs that isn't looking to you future.

On trt at 23... you are so screwed...

I lol'd

Old-Time-Lifter
06-19-2014, 08:19 AM
I lol'd

:) Do I amuse you???????????

ajdahlheimer
06-19-2014, 08:21 AM
Zzrh5GftgzM

JediRN
06-19-2014, 08:37 AM
nb4 cowboybiker suggests bacon therapy



your woman is not a mind reader
stop playing games with her
and dont offer to do things you really dont want to do

No advise from me other than listen to LBM. She'll not steer you in the right direction.

jeffaus
06-19-2014, 08:38 AM
Firstly, you need to stop going on that big misc dude. The guys on there are all hate on women for no reason other than they are women and the miscers are insecure. All the talk on the misc about being alpha and not taking chit from what they call sloots is all talk, but can play with a young guy's mind, especially if you have a weak mind and will, which (sorry) you seem to have.
Treat your wife with respect and the love and care she deserves and every time you are ready to rage at her for no reason, think about how it feels for her and how you are hurting the one you supposedly love. Time to man up and stop acting like a teenager.
When you asked if she wanted you to bring her some food, you shouldn't have asked hoping she would say no, that's just playing with her. You should have just said, I WILL bring you some food. You do things for your spouse because you want to and because her happiness gives you pleasure, not so you can get something in return, like getting props for doing things. Like I said, think about her, not you.

Brackneyc
06-19-2014, 08:41 AM
Grow up. I am so happy I was raised right and taught to focus. Thank you Mom and Dad.

This. ^^. Ffs op, you have identified the issue. Now stop doing it.

ajdahlheimer
06-19-2014, 08:42 AM
and because her happiness gives you pleasure,....

And if that doesn't give you pleasure, just get toasted. Nicely toasted.

ajdahlheimer
06-19-2014, 08:43 AM
This. ^^. Ffs op, you have identified the issue. Now stop doing it.

Hey, at least he ain't smokin' dirty weed, brah. Give him credit for that.

Fishman15
06-19-2014, 08:55 AM
Zzrh5GftgzM

Hey, Alex stole the "Son of a Preacher Man" tune! I'm calling the cops...

jeffaus
06-19-2014, 09:08 AM
And if that doesn't give you pleasure, just get toasted. Nicely toasted.Explain to me again why you are here, why we let you sit in the front seat and didn't lock you in the trunk. I seem to have forgotten.

Brackneyc
06-19-2014, 09:12 AM
Hey, at least he ain't smokin' dirty weed, brah. Give him credit for that.

He picks fights with a woman he claims to be marrying. No credit on this one. Also, smoking weed (imo) is a high school activity.

ajdahlheimer
06-19-2014, 09:15 AM
He picks fights with a woman he claims to be marrying. No credit on this one. Also, smoking weed (imo) is a high school activity.

I was joking. I don't even smoke, broseph.

Brackneyc
06-19-2014, 09:17 AM
I was joking. I don't even smoke, broseph.

Cool.

ajdahlheimer
06-19-2014, 09:19 AM
Explain to me again why you are here,....

http://assets.diylol.com/hfs/d63/a87/b38/resized/towelie-friday-meme-generator-it-s-friday-you-wanna-get-high-c5baf6.jpg?1347643231.jpg

michail71
06-20-2014, 05:39 AM
Firstly, you need to stop going on that big misc dude. The guys on there are all hate on women for no reason other than they are women and the miscers are insecure. All the talk on the misc about being alpha and not taking chit from what they call sloots is all talk, but can play with a young guy's mind, especially if you have a weak mind and will, which (sorry) you seem to have.
Treat your wife with respect and the love and care she deserves and every time you are ready to rage at her for no reason, think about how it feels for her and how you are hurting the one you supposedly love. Time to man up and stop acting like a teenager.
When you asked if she wanted you to bring her some food, you shouldn't have asked hoping she would say no, that's just playing with her. You should have just said, I WILL bring you some food. You do things for your spouse because you want to and because her happiness gives you pleasure, not so you can get something in return, like getting props for doing things. Like I said, think about her, not you.

Yes, that guy that tried to shoot up the sorority house spent a bit of time in the misc section.

JediRN
06-20-2014, 08:06 AM
http://assets.diylol.com/hfs/d63/a87/b38/resized/towelie-friday-meme-generator-it-s-friday-you-wanna-get-high-c5baf6.jpg?1347643231.jpg

God, I can't wait until it's legal in my state. Probably won't smoke it very much, I just want to know that I could if I wanted too.

ajdahlheimer
06-20-2014, 08:19 AM
God, I can't wait until it's legal in my state. Probably won't smoke it very much, I just want to know that I could if I wanted too.

Not to mention all the extra $ your state will have because of selling mary-jane. Win-win.

Nikonguy
06-20-2014, 10:26 AM
also, smoking weed (imo) is a high school activity.

. . . . . :cool:

Old-Time-Lifter
06-20-2014, 11:58 AM
Explain to me again why you are here, why we let you sit in the front seat and didn't lock you in the trunk. I seem to have forgotten.

Now that was funny.... dang can't rep ya again. :(

Somebody hit up Jeffaus for us all! Rep the man!!

so-tex
06-20-2014, 12:12 PM
Now that was funny.... dang can't rep ya again. :(

Somebody hit up Jeffaus for us all! Rep the man!!Roy, I tried, but my user cp told me you cant rep jeffaus because he doesn't lift.

jeffaus
06-20-2014, 06:57 PM
Roy, I tried, but my user cp told me you cant rep jeffaus because he doesn't lift.I lift myself out of bed every morning. Am I not doing it right?

so-tex
06-20-2014, 07:58 PM
I lift myself out of bed every morning. Am I not doing it right?Not according to my user cp.

Fishman15
06-20-2014, 08:56 PM
God, I can't wait until it's legal in my state. Probably won't smoke it very much, I just want to know that I could if I wanted too.

uh huh...uh huh...ok...:D

Old-Time-Lifter
06-20-2014, 09:31 PM
Roy, I tried, but my user cp told me you cant rep jeffaus because he doesn't lift.


I lift myself out of bed every morning. Am I not doing it right?

Oh well I can't rep either of you nutjobs.... :D

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