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UnaChispita
04-21-2014, 04:20 PM
Question to parents-

Do you have rules about your kids using cell phones during dinner? What about if guests are over for a family visit?

Was at my sister's yesterday for Easter. Her kids were on their cell phones during dinner and when we were all hanging out, talking. My mom hadn't seen her grandkids in weeks.

Seemed rude to me, but I don't have kids.

Maybe I'm just too old-fashioned??

Thoughts?

kimm4
04-21-2014, 04:26 PM
As a parent I don't allow them during dinner. I do the same thing when going out to dinner. I don't have a cell phone and I prefer face to face conversations, where you actually look at and talk to each other.

Weird I know...

I wanted to add it's not just kids, the adults are just as bad...

deadwoodgregg
04-21-2014, 04:32 PM
No cell phones. That's one of the few remaining times/places that today's family regularly come together as a unit. Phone calls, vidia games, and internet should not ruin this time. It is a sad day when a family cannot be entertained by good grub and face to face talk.

UnaChispita
04-21-2014, 04:46 PM
I don't have a cell phone and I prefer face to face conversations, where you actually look at and talk to each other.

Weird I know...

LOL. I don't have a cell either. You and I might be the last two in America :p

And...agreed. I think we're losing the art of conversation.

It's funny--I still go to the bank once a week on Saturdays for free coffee and to talk with the tellers. So few people come in, all the tellers recognize me and know me by name...and its a big bank. Kind of off topic, but it shows how isolated/separated we are bc of technology.



I wanted to add it's not just kids, the adults are just as bad...

I totally agree. I was out with a friend and she was on her cell the entire time...got totally pissed and asked her if she needed to reschedule us hanging out.


No cell phones. That's one of the few remaining times/places that today's family regularly come together as a unit. Phone calls, vidia games, and internet should not ruin this time. It is a sad day when a family cannot be entertained by good grub and face to face talk.

I agree. I'm not even sure if families have time to eat together anymore either.

SteveWright1
04-21-2014, 05:05 PM
I do not have such a rule at present
with children aged 12 and 6, it is not an issue
but will certainly have such a rule when the time comes

agree that mobile phones can be a real pain when being used at inappropriate times
I learned to turn mine off during meal times ( because other peoples meal times may not be the same as mine and had too many work related calls once dinner was out )

mcbourque
04-21-2014, 05:37 PM
I was not allowed to read at the dinner table as a kid (and I was a book work) and I don't allow my boys to use their phone at the table either. Even if they polish their plate in 5 min, it's still a no-phone 5 min! LOL

At 12 and 14, they are constantly on their phone. That is the least they can do! (Also when we have a conversation - no phones)

Una, that's sound pretty rude of your nephews IMO. At least not for the whole visit and not at dinner (I'll admit my boys can get pretty bored after a couple of hours visiting adult relatives so I'll allow the phone then)

bodyhard
04-21-2014, 05:49 PM
I am too busy on my cell to notice if anyone else is on theirs.

so-tex
04-21-2014, 05:54 PM
Una, you're not being old fashioned, it's called manners. ^^^Lol^^^ @ BH. :p

baker
04-21-2014, 05:57 PM
One phone. Playing jazz or classical. The kids enjoy it and seem to be calmer.

Wyomann
04-21-2014, 06:14 PM
My GF and i had to put monitors on each other cause we would tend to bust out the phones at dinner sometimes.

latebloomingmom
04-21-2014, 06:16 PM
cell phones at dinner????? oooooo hell no :mad:

ProPhaze777
04-21-2014, 06:18 PM
Sons 4 now but it won't be allowed ever, it blows my mind that he knows how to use it and find games etc both on it and the kindle. I try to keep him busy doing other stuff like playing outside or building stuff because he is drawn to electronics like a magnet.

I can't imagine what the next couple generations will be like.

hitman79
04-21-2014, 06:28 PM
It drives me nuts when I go out to dinner and see a family (or even couple) spending the whole time looking down at their phone.

My kids arent old enough for a phone yet but definitely no phone at the diner table at my house.

mirroroferised
04-21-2014, 06:41 PM
Mykids are 8 6 and 3 so no cells yet but ipods aren't allowed at the table and the rule is ready to go when they do get phones.

Phattso
04-21-2014, 06:42 PM
My GF and i had to put monitors on each other cause we would tend to bust out the phones at dinner sometimes.

One day all that living on the edge is going to catch up on you.

Sorry, Oonie-Noonie, but this thread has already gone too far :cool:

UnaChispita
04-21-2014, 06:53 PM
I am too busy on my cell to notice if anyone else is on theirs.

http://sim.in.com/c16ac323452d5351ad1a75744c0b2080.gif



Una, you're not being old fashioned, it's called manners. ^^^Lol^^^ @ BH. :p

TY so-tex!
I get a lot of grief from my family bc I don't have a cell phone.


One day all that living on the edge is going to catch up on you.

Sorry, Oonie-Noonie, but this thread has already gone too far :cool:

I just can't believe this thread hasn't derailed yet.

Sullivan0930
04-21-2014, 06:54 PM
We used iPads as our table cloths in my house. We modern as phuk cuz

Phattso
04-21-2014, 06:57 PM
http://sim.in.com/c16ac323452d5351ad1a75744c0b2080.gif
I just can't believe this thread hasn't derailed yet.

Well, you do cause quite the commotion ;)

MiklaDfar
04-21-2014, 07:00 PM
4 boys and a girl... youngest is 20. Never had many rules, never had a need. I talk (hold conversations) with my kids and we have always had great time together and could talk about anything. So no rule on cell phones, they all have them, but just don't use them when we have dinner together or are just hanging out... too busy enjoying each other...

ooDC
04-21-2014, 07:01 PM
I dont use my phone over dinner. But at easter we were in the restaurant for 3 hrs so i pulled my phone out like 3 times, but only on for like a min each time

cowboybiker
04-21-2014, 08:52 PM
I only use mine to take pics of my food and upload to it to several different sites.

So technically, I'm not using the phone.

GuyJin
04-21-2014, 09:00 PM
I only use mine to take pics of my food and upload to it to several different sites.

So technically, I'm not using the phone.
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Nah, you're just grossing everyone else out.

;)

My sons are 14 and 10, and they're not getting a cellphone until they're in high school and even then I'm not sure. I always turn mine off at dinner because family time is important to me.

hmmmm16417
04-21-2014, 09:07 PM
As a parent I don't allow them during dinner. I do the same thing when going out to dinner. I don't have a cell phone and I prefer face to face conversations, where you actually look at and talk to each other.

Weird I know...

I wanted to add it's not just kids, the adults are just as bad...
my daughter is 2 1/2...not an issue yet, but I will not let her have toys at the dinner table. I tell my wife that if she plays with her food, she can eat her toys!

my son (now 19) wasn't allowed to have a cell phone until he was 14...that was his 14th birthday present - he used to cry "but just about everyone I know has one, what happens if there is an emergency" .... I simply told him " if all your friends have them, or everyone you know....then you will always be with someone that has one so you don't need one yet"


LOL. I don't have a cell either. You and I might be the last two in America :p

And...agreed. I think we're losing the art of conversation.

It's funny--I still go to the bank once a week on Saturdays for free coffee and to talk with the tellers. So few people come in, all the tellers recognize me and know me by name...and its a big bank. Kind of off topic, but it shows how isolated/separated we are bc of technology.
. yes, kids need to associate more verbally!!!!! unfortunately, society promotes otherwise. banks around here are eliminating face to face tellers. a couple have them behind a wall and you talk through video monitor (even when you go inside!!)....annoying.


OP, I actually do use my cell phone at the table.....but ONLY when i'm done eating I enter it into myfitnesspal for may calories/macros to see if I can have a second helping or desert LMAO

cowboybiker
04-21-2014, 09:08 PM
Some people get pissy when I take pics of their food in restaurants.

Some of them are down right jerks.

GuyJin
04-21-2014, 09:27 PM
Some people get pissy when I take pics of their food in restaurants.

Some of them are down right jerks.
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Most of them get downright mad when I ask for a taste...but not from the side they've already bitten into or cut. I like my meal to be virginal when I eat it.:D

Some people just don't get the concept of sharing...

UnaChispita
04-21-2014, 09:35 PM
yes, kids need to associate more verbally!!!!! unfortunately, society promotes otherwise. banks around here are eliminating face to face tellers. a couple have them behind a wall and you talk through video monitor (even when you go inside!!)....annoying.

Technology is cool and all. I love being able to skype with friends from all over and such, so I'm not complaining, but it just seems like people have forgotten about the importance of face to face interaction. :)




Some people get pissy when I take pics of their food in restaurants.

Some of them are down right jerks.

The nerve! :p


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Some people just don't get the concept of sharing...

LOL...yep. Let the derailing begin!

cowboybiker
04-21-2014, 09:40 PM
The least they could do is stop eating while I'm trying to take pics.

C'mon people! Give me a friggen break!

hmmmm16417
04-21-2014, 10:21 PM
The least they could do is stop eating while I'm trying to take pics.

C'mon people! Give me a friggen break!hahaha i would politely ask you to wait a couple hours then take a pic of that same food

mirroroferised
04-22-2014, 04:44 AM
Some people get pissy when I take pics of their food in restaurants.

Some of them are down right jerks.


lol

ajdahlheimer
04-22-2014, 04:56 AM
Mykids are 8 6 and 3 so no cells yet but ipods aren't allowed at the table and the rule is ready to go when they do get phones.

Similar here. My kids are 9, 8, and 6--don't have cells yet--but they each have their own tablet. It's honestly never came up because they know that the dinner table is the place to eat and nothing else.

Phattso
04-22-2014, 05:59 AM
iPhones make great spoons, and they still work.

jeffaus
04-22-2014, 06:19 AM
Sons 4 now but it won't be allowed ever, it blows my mind that he knows how to use it and find games etc both on it and the kindle. I try to keep him busy doing other stuff like playing outside or building stuff because he is drawn to electronics like a magnet.

I can't imagine what the next couple generations will be like.Don't let it blow your mind. My 18 month old daughter knows how to go on the iphone, scroll trhough for her childrens music and play it. Same with the ipad. Our parents probably thought we used to do some pretty amazing things and we are no different and our kids kids will be even more advanced. But one thing is for sure, when my daughter is old enough to have her own phone, it will be off at the dinner table.

ajdahlheimer
04-22-2014, 06:35 AM
Don't let it blow your mind. My 18 month old daughter knows how to go on the iphone, scroll trhough for her childrens music and play it. Same with the ipad. Our parents probably thought we used to do some pretty amazing things and we are no different and our kids kids will be even more advanced. But one thing is for sure, when my daughter is old enough to have her own phone, it will be off at the dinner table.

Yeah, at 4 years old--my daughter could use the computer on her own. Meaning she could click on Internet Explorer, go to favorites and click on a saved kids/girls dress-up game to launch it, and then play it. She is 8 now and incredibly smart though. So maybe it was a sign.

frozensparky
04-22-2014, 07:50 AM
I never had to set any rules with my 16 yr old stepdaughter, she's polite enough to know when it's appropriate. I find adults really bad. I carry my phone for work emergencies and it stays face down on the table, if it rings I will check who it is and only answer it for work. I have friends who go out for dinner and have their face in theirs all night. We started doing something I saw on FB where everybody puts their phones face down on the table and the first one to look at theirs pays for dinner. I'm pretty safe from paying because ang hates carrying hers and I could really care less about mine.

sumolgi
04-22-2014, 08:10 AM
We have a "no ringer's on at the table" rule and a "if you have to take a call, leave the table" rule... with a but if you leave, you're done caveat. The dog and me are probably the only ones who really like those rules though.

beachguy498
04-22-2014, 09:24 AM
I never had to set any rules with my 16 yr old stepdaughter, she's polite enough to know when it's appropriate. I find adults really bad. I carry my phone for work emergencies and it stays face down on the table, if it rings I will check who it is and only answer it for work. I have friends who go out for dinner and have their face in theirs all night. We started doing something I saw on FB where everybody puts their phones face down on the table and the first one to look at theirs pays for dinner. I'm pretty safe from paying because ang hates carrying hers and I could really care less about mine.

My kids are good about phones at the table. My one son may look at a call or text for a second, everyone else comes to the table without their phone. 1/2 the time I have to call my phone on the house phone so I can find it. I'm pretty much anti cell phone.

I also find some adults way worse with their phones than any kid I've ever seen. We go to Cancun a few years ago with 2 other couples. One of the women, she was texting her kids constantly, for sure she'll have kids that are 45 that will still be living at home. Although she's a good friend of my wife, my wife says she'll never go away with her again.

Rob

latebloomingmom
04-22-2014, 09:45 AM
My GF and i had to put monitors on each other cause we would tend to bust out the phones at dinner sometimes.
no phones at the table!
sheesh kids these days :rolleyes:
dont think I won't wup both ya
:)

EjnarKolinkar
04-22-2014, 05:39 PM
No phones if we are all eating together. So seldom, can't waste the time.

I was at a Suns game last month, it was a great game. Guy and his wife in front of me could care less, spent the whole night taking pics of each other and FB them. I guess they have something in common though.

Georgeoz
04-22-2014, 06:53 PM
I have seven grandchildren. They know they are forbidden to eat at my table with a mobile at their sides. They know I will not allow the word "like" to be used. What rules their parents make is a matter for them. However, I am by far the better cook.

It is, however, necessary for me to accept that computers etc are now part of life, and that I must rely on aforementioned grandchildren to keep me on line.

KevinintheUSA
05-01-2014, 01:15 PM
LOL. I don't have a cell either. You and I might be the last two in America :p

And...agreed. I think we're losing the art of conversation.

It's funny--I still go to the bank once a week on Saturdays for free coffee and to talk with the tellers. So few people come in, all the tellers recognize me and know me by name...and its a big bank. Kind of off topic, but it shows how isolated/separated we are bc of technology.




I totally agree. I was out with a friend and she was on her cell the entire time...got totally pissed and asked her if she needed to reschedule us hanging out.



I agree. I'm not even sure if families have time to eat together anymore either.

Cell phones aren't the issue. Individual people are the issue.

UnaChispita
05-01-2014, 02:50 PM
Cell phones aren't the issue. Individual people are the issue.


Teen Misc---------------------------------->

KevinintheUSA
05-01-2014, 02:55 PM
Teen Misc---------------------------------->

How about you take responsibility for your own decisions? Do you blame stores for selling fatty foods too?

UnaChispita
05-01-2014, 03:05 PM
How about you take responsibility for your own decisions? Do you blame stores for selling fatty foods too?

Young man,

You have no sense of who I am. It is also clear you are too young to be on this forum by your obvious inability to think in an abstract manner.

So...how 'bout you go find someone your own age to play with?

KevinintheUSA
05-01-2014, 03:07 PM
Young man,

You have no sense of who I am. It is also clear you are too young to be on this forum by your obvious inability to think in an abstract manner.

So...how 'bout you go find someone your own age to play with?
I really wish I was young. You don't have the ability. Instead of putting your cell phone away you blame the cell phone. You don't impress me whatsoever.

UnaChispita
05-01-2014, 03:11 PM
I really wish I was young. You don't have the ability. Instead of putting your cell phone away you blame the cell phone.

http://a1665.phobos.apple.com/us/r1000/074/Purple2/v4/8b/fc/42/8bfc4245-67ef-cc12-11a6-fc2aa59d9b68/mzl.ytdnxbna.jpg

KevinintheUSA
05-01-2014, 03:12 PM
How old are you? Two?

UnaChispita
05-01-2014, 03:14 PM
How old are you? Two?

Kevin plz,

If you're going to troll, at least be clever.

I'm getting bored.

KevinintheUSA
05-01-2014, 03:15 PM
Kevin plz,

If you're going to troll, at least be clever.

I'm getting bored.

You aren't clever. Do you even lift?

UnaChispita
05-01-2014, 03:17 PM
You aren't clever. Do you even lift?


*Yawn*

That's your best shot?

latebloomingmom
05-01-2014, 04:31 PM
this conversation bores me...good thing I was on my computer and checking texts while eating dis sammich :)

GuyJin
05-01-2014, 06:27 PM
this conversation bores me...good thing I was on my computer and checking texts while eating dis sammich :)

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If'n ya made the sammich, it's all good.

Y'know where dat dere kitchin is, right? Course ya do. Proud of ya, girl, proud of ya.

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