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Bando
04-07-2014, 01:28 PM
If you don't, I could use some healing thoughts/vibes.

We received a call early this morning that our 19 year old Nephew has a brain tumor that needs to be removed within 7-10 days. He is an active duty US Navy Sailor stationed in Japan. He's in the base hospital with bad headaches and vision problems, and he would rather come back to the states for the procedure. He just got engaged before going overseas.

Thanks O35

Wayne Evans
04-07-2014, 01:54 PM
I could use some healing thoughts/vibes.

Very sorry to hear that Bando.
I'm happy to offer my best wishes to all family/friends and fiance during this process.
Hope all goes well with the operation.

My respect to him for his honorable service.

Stay tough....

so-tex
04-07-2014, 01:59 PM
Done Bando. Prayers going out to the nephew and family.

kimm4
04-07-2014, 01:59 PM
Thoughts with you and your family. Healing vibes sent your way. Stay positive.

Nikonguy
04-07-2014, 02:26 PM
Prayers sent.

Phattso
04-07-2014, 02:26 PM
Very sorry to hear. Prayers.

Smelly bull
04-07-2014, 02:28 PM
Done...

boston10927
04-07-2014, 02:36 PM
You got it brah!

Bando
04-07-2014, 02:39 PM
Thanks everyone, here's a picture of my Nephew, I'll let you know how he makes out:

http://i.imgur.com/KFojaAvl.jpg

UnaChispita
04-07-2014, 03:00 PM
Prayers sent.

cowboybiker
04-07-2014, 03:07 PM
Done

mkz93
04-07-2014, 03:09 PM
Not O35 but fuk it
Prayers sent m8.

bodyhard
04-07-2014, 03:18 PM
You guys are in my prayers God bless

deadwoodgregg
04-07-2014, 03:24 PM
Prayers sent for that young man.

OregonLife
04-07-2014, 03:30 PM
Prayers lifted up.

lynore
04-07-2014, 03:33 PM
Prayers going up to your nephew and your family. God bless and please kept us posted.

beachguy498
04-07-2014, 03:35 PM
Prayers coming your way, think positive, it helps me.

Old-Time-Lifter
04-07-2014, 03:43 PM
Done, please pass on our support to your nephew. God Bless him!

highiso
04-07-2014, 03:51 PM
Heartbreaking, prayers for your nephew.

paolo59
04-07-2014, 04:03 PM
Thoughts and prayers!

eomrat
04-07-2014, 04:04 PM
Done

djflex
04-07-2014, 04:15 PM
Done

demike
04-07-2014, 04:18 PM
Healing thoughts and prayers.

GKC45
04-07-2014, 04:21 PM
My family is praying for your family.

CaptChip40
04-07-2014, 04:22 PM
Hope all goes well.

GreenWave1
04-07-2014, 04:39 PM
Prayers sent. Keep us posted on his progress.

CCFD2466
04-07-2014, 04:41 PM
Prayers sent brah. Update misc on alpha nephew condotion

Caesura75
04-07-2014, 04:55 PM
Thoughts are with you. Truly hope he gets back to the States - he must need his family at this time.

o0o0
04-07-2014, 05:06 PM
healing thoughts sent

Desparado
04-07-2014, 05:11 PM
Done.

mcbourque
04-07-2014, 05:40 PM
Prayers and healing thoughts to your poor nephew.

pharmamarketer
04-07-2014, 05:49 PM
Sorry to hear that Bando. I hope things go as well as possible.

socket
04-07-2014, 06:18 PM
Hope it all goes well for him. Prayers sent.

NorwichGrad
04-07-2014, 06:42 PM
Prayers sent, man.

ticklemeelbow
04-07-2014, 06:47 PM
If you don't, I could use some healing thoughts/vibes.

We received a call early this morning that our 19 year old Nephew has a brain tumor that needs to be removed within 7-10 days. He is an active duty US Navy Sailor stationed in Japan. He's in the base hospital with bad headaches and vision problems, and he would rather come back to the states for the procedure. He just got engaged before going overseas.

Thanks O35I do pray ayday allday and you your nephew is in 'em!

Karl_Hungus
04-07-2014, 06:47 PM
Best of wishes to your nephew.....hope he pulls through this OK.

morninglory81
04-07-2014, 06:47 PM
Prayer of comfort and healing sent for him and all his loved ones.

simplejackson
04-07-2014, 06:48 PM
Hope your nephew gets better.

mEATyMAN
04-07-2014, 06:50 PM
done and will keep them coming, good luck.

MiamiSpartan
04-07-2014, 06:57 PM
Sending prayers to your nephew and your family.....

JRT6
04-07-2014, 07:05 PM
Thinking of you and your nephew.

marcodeniro
04-07-2014, 07:36 PM
Prayers for your nephew and you

GuyJin
04-07-2014, 08:03 PM
Having that happen is no good for anyone that young--or anyone, period.

Hope it all works out.

IIIWolverineIII
04-07-2014, 08:07 PM
Prayers sent. God bless.

Robhall2805
04-07-2014, 08:09 PM
Man I'm sorry to hear that fella! Prayers going out to your nephew and the rest of your family all the way from the UK.

yogachic52
04-07-2014, 08:13 PM
So very sorry to hear about your nephew- sending lots of prayers and healing to him and all your family - please keep us posted on his progress

mike419
04-07-2014, 08:44 PM
Done

jeffaus
04-07-2014, 09:28 PM
Best thoughts to you and your family and especially your Nephew Bando. I just found out last week that my niece has stage 4 cervical cancer, she has a husband and 6 kids and I am heading back to Aus in the next 2 weeks for the family. If you need to be the strong one for the family, then be the strong one. That's always my lot in life with my family. But if its difficult for you to do that, then hopefully someone can take on the role, it is important. Its a very sad and emotional time for all.
Best wishes to you.

JimmyJonny
04-07-2014, 09:37 PM
Knee mail sent.

Fishman15
04-07-2014, 09:57 PM
If you don't, I could use some healing thoughts/vibes.

We received a call early this morning that our 19 year old Nephew has a brain tumor that needs to be removed within 7-10 days. He is an active duty US Navy Sailor stationed in Japan. He's in the base hospital with bad headaches and vision problems, and he would rather come back to the states for the procedure. He just got engaged before going overseas.

Thanks O35

Sorry to hear that Bando, prayers out to you and your family. I just lost a niece a couple weeks ago. 32 yrs old, single mother of 2 youngins found dead by my sister. Weird part is she had beaten cancer about 8 years ago and it had not returned. She had chronic fatigue and other health problems but nobody knows what caused her death, still awaiting autopsy. You never know when or how your time is up. Enjoy life on earth as it is extremely short in the big picture...

Bando
04-08-2014, 05:27 AM
The tumor is near the pituitary gland so likely not cancerous. He can't fly so the surgery will be done in Japan. There is some spinal fluid in the head causing the pressure. My SIL is flying to Japan to be with him, but even with State Dept. help that will take several days.

The ship's commander has been extremely helpful and communicative.

Thanks again everyone for the continued prayers and thoughts.



Sorry to hear that Bando, prayers out to you and your family. I just lost a niece a couple weeks ago. 32 yrs old, single mother of 2 youngins found dead by my sister. Weird part is she had beaten cancer about 8 years ago and it had not returned. She had chronic fatigue and other health problems but nobody knows what caused her death, still awaiting autopsy. You never know when or how your time is up. Enjoy life on earth as it is extremely short in the big picture...

My condolences :(

marinevet63031
04-08-2014, 05:36 AM
Prayers complete.

drudixon
04-08-2014, 06:15 AM
Good luck bando. Good mojo rolling your way.

Bigdumogre
04-08-2014, 06:22 AM
Praying for him still my brother

Big_Sky_Guy
04-08-2014, 06:38 AM
Prayers for your nephew and family.

StressMonkey
04-08-2014, 07:37 AM
I can't imagine dealing with that at 19. Pulling for him.

MiklaDfar
04-08-2014, 08:14 AM
Nothing but positive thoughts and many thanks for his service.

djflex
04-08-2014, 08:28 AM
The tumor is near the pituitary gland so likely not cancerous. He can't fly so the surgery will be done in Japan. There is some spinal fluid in the head causing the pressure. My SIL is flying to Japan to be with him, but even with State Dept. help that will take several days.

The ship's commander has been extremely helpful and communicative.

Thanks again everyone for the continued prayers and thoughts.




My condolences :(

Seems like a overall good outlook!

Continued best wishes

jtroster
04-08-2014, 09:26 AM
My cousin had a similar tumour. It was removed and she was fine afterwards.

I pray that your nephew has an uneventful surgery and speedy recovery.

morninglory81
04-08-2014, 09:40 AM
A 4 yearold child's prayer was sent for your family. He will stay in our prayers.

medhead
04-08-2014, 10:03 AM
The tumor is near the pituitary gland so likely not cancerous. He can't fly so the surgery will be done in Japan. There is some spinal fluid in the head causing the pressure. My SIL is flying to Japan to be with him, but even with State Dept. help that will take several days.

The ship's commander has been extremely helpful and communicative.

Thanks again everyone for the continued prayers and thoughts.

Just dropping by to say: Bando, your nephew will definitely be in my prayers.
Glad that they think the tumour isn't cancerous, & I'm sure they would have already started medical treatment to lower the pressure in his head, which would likely relieve his headaches & visual problems to some extent. But I can't imagine what your family & the fiancée must be going through - please hang in there. Stay strong & positive! He's young & fit, so he has the best possible chance of pulling through. All the best of luck for his surgery! xx

Tannerus4
04-08-2014, 06:47 PM
Prayers Bando.... hugs too.

Brackneyc
04-08-2014, 06:50 PM
...

pratherian
04-08-2014, 06:50 PM
Prayers sent brah

GymDaddy58
04-08-2014, 07:03 PM
Prayers said.

Bando
04-08-2014, 07:25 PM
Your thoughts and prayers warm my heart and I'm thankful for each and every comment. Since we're only days from the surgery I'll honor the request for updates once a day unless there is a major development.

He'll be operated on in a teaching hospital in Tokyo, they have the MRI's and I'm confident in their abilities. He says the food in the hospital is very good, but the language barrier at this time is especially frustrating.

My SIL was in contact with our State Senator and most of the passport requirements have been waived by the State Dept. She had to drive to the State Capital and back today (3 hours 1 way) and has to drive back again tomorrow. When she gets in the passport office, she is first in line no matter how long it is. The Navy will fly her there to be with him, but the surgery will go on at the Doctor's discretion, and is not dependent on her arrival.

As I posted on Iron Sanctuary, his name is Jonathan and here is a clearer pic:

http://i.imgur.com/Lb9RQXUl.jpg

My Wife emailed me today and said "things can turn for the good when dozens of people are praying for you" and I emailed back and said "try hundreds of people praying for you."

Thank you again.

Flexish
04-08-2014, 07:29 PM
I believe in the power of prayer. Psalm 107:20
Be encouraged!!

Frnkd
04-08-2014, 07:32 PM
count hundreds and one.

Jonathan will be in my prayers.

whatevergirl
04-09-2014, 05:49 AM
Oh wow, sorry to read of this today, Bando. :(
He and your family will always be in my thoughts. Hugs

bamazav
04-09-2014, 06:11 AM
Just saw this thread. Just prayed. Will have our church pray too.

polishedball
04-09-2014, 06:11 AM
Praying

Phattso
04-09-2014, 08:20 AM
Your thoughts and prayers warm my heart and I'm thankful for each and every comment. Since we're only days from the surgery I'll honor the request for updates once a day unless there is a major development.

He'll be operated on in a teaching hospital in Tokyo, they have the MRI's and I'm confident in their abilities. He says the food in the hospital is very good, but the language barrier at this time is especially frustrating.

My SIL was in contact with our State Senator and most of the passport requirements have been waived by the State Dept. She had to drive to the State Capital and back today (3 hours 1 way) and has to drive back again tomorrow. When she gets in the passport office, she is first in line no matter how long it is. The Navy will fly her there to be with him, but the surgery will go on at the Doctor's discretion, and is not dependent on her arrival.

As I posted on Iron Sanctuary, his name is Jonathan and here is a clearer pic:

http://i.imgur.com/Lb9RQXUl.jpg

My Wife emailed me today and said "things can turn for the good when dozens of people are praying for you" and I emailed back and said "try hundreds of people praying for you."

Thank you again.

Fine looking young man. Best.

tmonkey
04-09-2014, 09:17 AM
If you don't, I could use some healing thoughts/vibes.

We received a call early this morning that our 19 year old Nephew has a brain tumor that needs to be removed within 7-10 days. He is an active duty US Navy Sailor stationed in Japan. He's in the base hospital with bad headaches and vision problems, and he would rather come back to the states for the procedure. He just got engaged before going overseas.

Thanks O35


Thanks everyone, here's a picture of my Nephew, I'll let you know how he makes out:

http://i.imgur.com/KFojaAvl.jpg

Prayers sent brother

enexi0688
04-09-2014, 09:37 AM
Sending up healing vibes and prayers.

rockeo
04-09-2014, 08:35 PM
ask and you shall recieve brother B, fervent prayers, any more requests feel free to let me know !
sometimes we feel - as we dont fathom but rest assured - God is in control and still in the Miracle business

paolo59
04-09-2014, 11:21 PM
Momma's presence has never directed a surgeon's hand, but I completely understand the whole thing! You want to be there. You NEED to be there, somebody that's family! :) I'm so thankful that the 'military' seems to understand that. Well, with a little 'push and shove.' Prayers continued.

Zenshi
04-09-2014, 11:48 PM
Such sad news. Prayers sent.

Bando
04-10-2014, 08:24 PM
Momma's presence has never directed a surgeon's hand, but I completely understand the whole thing! You want to be there. You NEED to be there, somebody that's family! :) I'm so thankful that the 'military' seems to understand that. Well, with a little 'push and shove.' Prayers continued.

Thanks again everyone. Momma is on the plane. The hospital is paying for her flight and the Navy is paying for her lodging. She should arrive at 8PM Japan time. At this time they are waiting for her to see him before the surgery. She is slated to be there 3 weeks. Friends and family have stepped up to watch her place and other kids for those 3 weeks. I got my Wife a calling card to be able to call Japan today and got the biggest up-sell from a Japanese fellow, I could hardly understand him. Not much new news, but the surgery will be going down pretty soon.

Thanks for your continued thoughts and prayers.

Oceanside
04-10-2014, 08:32 PM
If you don't, I could use some healing thoughts/vibes.

We received a call early this morning that our 19 year old Nephew has a brain tumor that needs to be removed within 7-10 days. He is an active duty US Navy Sailor stationed in Japan. He's in the base hospital with bad headaches and vision problems, and he would rather come back to the states for the procedure. He just got engaged before going overseas.

Thanks O35


hope everything turns out OK adam !

latebloomingmom
04-10-2014, 09:40 PM
Thanks again everyone. Momma is on the plane. The hospital is paying for her flight and the Navy is paying for her lodging. She should arrive at 8PM Japan time. At this time they are waiting for her to see him before the surgery. She is slated to be there 3 weeks. Friends and family have stepped up to watch her place and other kids for those 3 weeks. I got my Wife a calling card to be able to call Japan today and got the biggest up-sell from a Japanese fellow, I could hardly understand him. Not much new news, but the surgery will be going down pretty soon.

Thanks for your continued thoughts and prayers.oooh I am so relieved to hear mommy got to go be with her son :)

Bando
04-10-2014, 10:27 PM
oooh I am so relieved to hear mommy got to go be with her son :)

I don't understand why a hospital would pay for the flight to get his Mom there for the surgery. Maybe it's a cultural thing - but it in my mind it's an answered prayer. So thank you to whomever asked for that.

frozensparky
04-10-2014, 10:47 PM
I don't understand why a hospital would pay for the flight to get his Mom there for the surgery. Maybe it's a cultural thing - but it in my mind it's an answered prayer. So thank you to whomever asked for that.

I've heard of a few hospitals that have foundations set up for things like that. I like the idea of it, one less thing family members have to worry about financially.


Prayers bando

Bando
04-11-2014, 05:55 PM
I just talked to Jonathan and he sounded better than I expected. I was relieved because his Mom posted a pic of her and him on his FB wall and he looks terrible, eyes swollen almost shut, and looking punchdrunk. They talk to the Doctor in an hour or two and will know everything then, he likes his Doc, he speaks excellent English and the Nurses use Smartphones to translate.

I broke down when I told him how many people were praying for him and he said "Thank you sooo much"

Frnkd
04-11-2014, 06:12 PM
I just talked to Jonathan and he sounded better than I expected. I was relieved because his Mom posted a pic of her and him on his FB wall and he looks terrible, eyes swollen almost shut, and looking punchdrunk. They talk to the Doctor in an hour or two and will know everything then, he likes his Doc, he speaks excellent English and the Nurses use Smartphones to translate.

I broke down when I told him how many people were praying for him and he said "Thank you sooo much"
Okay you got me going.....happy to hear things are going well.

Will continue to pray for Jonathan's compete recovery!

morninglory81
04-11-2014, 06:18 PM
He will be in our evening prayers.

OutOfStep
04-11-2014, 06:59 PM
Healing vibes sent.

OldCoach
04-11-2014, 07:04 PM
Prayers for recovery. What a fine looking young man. All the best.
coach

rockeo
04-11-2014, 07:11 PM
Thanks again everyone. Momma is on the plane. The hospital is paying for her flight and the Navy is paying for her lodging. She should arrive at 8PM Japan time. At this time they are waiting for her to see him before the surgery. She is slated to be there 3 weeks. Friends and family have stepped up to watch her place and other kids for those 3 weeks. I got my Wife a calling card to be able to call Japan today and got the biggest up-sell from a Japanese fellow, I could hardly understand him. Not much new news, but the surgery will be going down pretty soon.

Thanks for your continued thoughts and prayers.

always praying if you have any more - and if they are private = justy PM and we will pray

Zenshi
04-12-2014, 12:28 AM
Thank you for the updates Bando. Will be praying for his recovery.

paolo59
04-12-2014, 01:08 AM
I just talked to Jonathan and he sounded better than I expected. I was relieved because his Mom posted a pic of her and him on his FB wall and he looks terrible, eyes swollen almost shut, and looking punchdrunk. They talk to the Doctor in an hour or two and will know everything then, he likes his Doc, he speaks excellent English and the Nurses use Smartphones to translate.

I broke down when I told him how many people were praying for him and he said "Thank you sooo much"

Is that before or after surgery? Sorry to be so specific in my questioning. I'm hoping to the good Lord that it's after! :) It sounds positive, regardless. You want to hear something from the kid! :) I have a nephew that was wounded in Iraq several years ago. On the plane to Germany for surgery they kept asking him; "How are you doing?" LOL He told them; "I'm hungry, I want to eat!" LMAO They told the kid he was going to be just fine! :) I pray that your nephew has one hell of an appetite! :) I NEED SOME GRUB!!!

Bando
04-12-2014, 07:16 PM
The surgery will take between 8 and 16 hours and will happen before the 21st. The tumor has "tentacles" around the pituitary gland which is not good. If the gland is damaged during surgery he'll be on medications to correct that for the rest of his life. Recovery from the surgery is expected to be 10 days. There is a 90% chance the tumor is not cancerous (just reporting what I was told, not sure how they figure this out without a biopsy).

There will almost certainly be some brain damage and vision loss in the left eye. But they do not realize how many people are praying, so I'll rephrase that: Most patients undergo some brain damage and vision loss.

In a worst case scenario he could be left with dementia and blind in the left eye.

Please pray that he can clear this and return to duty, he comes from a line of soldiers and sailors and his heritage and legacy is important to him.

Special thanks to those who attend Church and have PM'ed me regarding their entire church praying for Jon - you guys rock!

paolo59
04-13-2014, 10:41 AM
Thank you for posting an update. Continued prayers. Wisdom and supernatural guidance for those surgeons! Is your nephew in good spirits? It has got to be one incredible blessing to have his Mother there. I don't care how old we are, a trained warrior in the service of his nation, it's just good that she's there!

wendel34
04-13-2014, 10:49 AM
Praying for his surgery and recovery......Thank him for his service as well.

pratherian
04-13-2014, 11:04 AM
Your thoughts and prayers warm my heart and I'm thankful for each and every comment. Since we're only days from the surgery I'll honor the request for updates once a day unless there is a major development.

He'll be operated on in a teaching hospital in Tokyo, they have the MRI's and I'm confident in their abilities. He says the food in the hospital is very good, but the language barrier at this time is especially frustrating.

My SIL was in contact with our State Senator and most of the passport requirements have been waived by the State Dept. She had to drive to the State Capital and back today (3 hours 1 way) and has to drive back again tomorrow. When she gets in the passport office, she is first in line no matter how long it is. The Navy will fly her there to be with him, but the surgery will go on at the Doctor's discretion, and is not dependent on her arrival.

As I posted on Iron Sanctuary, his name is Jonathan and here is a clearer pic:

http://i.imgur.com/Lb9RQXUl.jpg

My Wife emailed me today and said "things can turn for the good when dozens of people are praying for you" and I emailed back and said "try hundreds of people praying for you."

Thank you again.

Thousands brah

The warriors are unleashed

:)

so-tex
04-13-2014, 11:58 AM
Prayers said at Psalm Sunday Mass today.

latebloomingmom
04-13-2014, 06:50 PM
The surgery will take between 8 and 16 hours and will happen before the 21st. The tumor has "tentacles" around the pituitary gland which is not good. If the gland is damaged during surgery he'll be on medications to correct that for the rest of his life. Recovery from the surgery is expected to be 10 days. There is a 90% chance the tumor is not cancerous (just reporting what I was told, not sure how they figure this out without a biopsy).

There will almost certainly be some brain damage and vision loss in the left eye. But they do not realize how many people are praying, so I'll rephrase that: Most patients undergo some brain damage and vision loss.

In a worst case scenario he could be left with dementia and blind in the left eye.

Please pray that he can clear this and return to duty, he comes from a line of soldiers and sailors and his heritage and legacy is important to him.

Special thanks to those who attend Church and have PM'ed me regarding their entire church praying for Jon - you guys rock!he is a young man and strong and only God knows what he is capable of becoming..NO CANCER is wonderful news and all else can be dealt with. Medication and working with specialists, therapists is still better then cancer. He is young and strong and will overcome :)

God has plans for this boy whether it be in military or down another path..is yet to be seen
I pray for this boy
that he has a long and happy life

leelameema
04-13-2014, 07:08 PM
God bless and heal him

Bando
04-13-2014, 07:11 PM
Prayers said at Psalm Sunday Mass today.

Thank you Tex!

Our sermon today was about the healing power of prayer, but Jon's name was not mentioned. He's a child of God for sure and people from all over have been diligently praying. Sorry, no new medical update other than what I shared last night.

Thank you one and all for the continued prayers and thoughts, it means the world to me.

NorwichGrad
04-14-2014, 01:48 PM
Thanks for the update, Bando.

One of my favorite verses:

Matthew 18:20
King James Version (KJV)

“For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them.”

For sure there are more than three gathered in His name to continuously pray for your nephew. We will use the power of the internet to leverage His blessings so He can perform miracles!

JRT6
04-14-2014, 04:04 PM
My 13 year old nephew died from brain cancer last year. F**king sucks. I cherish every moment I get with my kids and rarely pass on a chance because they'll be grown up and gone soon enough and I'll have nothing but time then.

thnikkaman
04-14-2014, 05:46 PM
I can't possibly begin to understand the feelings you and your family are going through right now. I hope that his surgery is successful and has a full recovery.

Bando
04-14-2014, 06:50 PM
My 13 year old nephew died from brain cancer last year. F**king sucks. I cherish every moment I get with my kids and rarely pass on a chance because they'll be grown up and gone soon enough and I'll have nothing but time then.

Good Heavens, My Condolences. What a terrible age to lose a child, just when you're getting a glimpse of the adult they will become.

Tumor is steadily growing, starting to affect his right eye. They are trying figure out where he is going to do his rehab, I wish they would go ahead and take the damn thing out already!!

paolo59
04-14-2014, 10:22 PM
Good Heavens, My Condolences. What a terrible age to lose a child, just when you're getting a glimpse of the adult they will become.

Tumor is steadily growing, starting to affect his right eye. They are trying figure out where he is going to do his rehab, I wish they would go ahead and take the damn thing out already!!

Man! :( Me too on the "take the damn thing out already!" You said surgery on or before the 21st? Today is the 14th. Continued prayers for wisdom and guidance for those doctors!

jeffaus
04-14-2014, 11:28 PM
We are all still here Adam and all still praying and sending positive thoughts.

Bando
04-15-2014, 05:04 AM
Man! :( Me too on the "take the damn thing out already!" You said surgery on or before the 21st? Today is the 14th. Continued prayers for wisdom and guidance for those doctors!

surgery has been moved to the day after tomorrow, he's scared.

latebloomingmom
04-15-2014, 05:08 AM
surgery has been moved to the day after tomorrow, he's scared.yes but sooner the better

FltDoc06
04-15-2014, 06:50 AM
Prayers for benign results, successful surgery, and full and quick recovery.

Firminator4
04-15-2014, 07:56 AM
Prayers will be said daily for Jonathan and your entire family until he is in the clear.

Peace!

Tannerus4
04-15-2014, 08:07 AM
surgery has been moved to the day after tomorrow, he's scared.I agree with the sooner the better. in my thoughts :)

sammdurst
04-15-2014, 08:37 AM
Prayers to you and your family

polishedball
04-15-2014, 07:26 PM
surgery has been moved to the day after tomorrow, he's scared.

Thanks for the update and info, I work at a Ministry and will also include him as well in our team prayers this week.

Nice always being surrounded by believers, very lucky to have a job doing what I love to grow the kingdom.

Zenshi
04-16-2014, 07:17 AM
May your nephew have a successful surgery.

Creakylifter
04-16-2014, 08:37 AM
Praying in SoFla.

Bando
04-16-2014, 08:40 AM
Thanks folks, surgery is 7:30 PM EST tonight, he's already asleep, we got to talk to him last night. 1-3 month recovery in Japan then back to the states for rehab and maybe chemo if they don't get it all. Then he'll be evaluated to see if he's fit to return to duty.

jtroster
04-16-2014, 11:21 AM
May the one who blessed our ancestors, Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, Sarah, Rebecca, Rachel and Leah, bless and heal Jonathan who is ill. May the Blessed Holy One be filled with compassion for his health to be restored and his strength to be revived. May God swiftly send him a complete renewal of body and spirit, and let us say, Amen.

GreenWave1
04-16-2014, 01:02 PM
Still praying. I hope it goes well.

whatevergirl
04-16-2014, 09:10 PM
Thanks folks, surgery is 7:30 PM EST tonight, he's already asleep, we got to talk to him last night. 1-3 month recovery in Japan then back to the states for rehab and maybe chemo if they don't get it all. Then he'll be evaluated to see if he's fit to return to duty.

What an incredible person he sounds like, Bando.
Sending healing thoughts to him and family. Thanks for updating us as you have been.

V-240
04-16-2014, 11:15 PM
Thanks for all the updates. Sometimes people post stuff like this and then disappear. :mad:

We are pulling for him here in NorCal. :)

latebloomingmom
04-17-2014, 05:16 AM
no word yet?

SurfBrah69
04-17-2014, 05:32 AM
I know this is the older misc section but I'll keep him in my thoughts.

I had a friend with the same problem and he turned out fine so just stay positive.

Bando
04-17-2014, 08:06 AM
no word yet?

still in surgery, 14 & 1/2 hours now

GreenWave1
04-17-2014, 09:42 AM
Wow. Still praying.

latebloomingmom
04-17-2014, 09:55 AM
still in surgery, 14 & 1/2 hours nowholy cripes...

Tannerus4
04-17-2014, 10:04 AM
oh wow...

Bando
04-17-2014, 10:32 AM
Out of surgery, they had to take his pituitary stem out, he'll be on medication for the rest of his life

surgery took so long because he is young and the 2 hemispheres are close together.

They did a post surgery Cat scan – it looks like they got most of it and the excess fluid is gone. He does have an air pocket but that should resolve on its own.

They will do another baseline in 2 weeks.

They will attempt to wake him up at 9pm Eastern time. He is on a vent but taking shallow breathes on his own. He also has a drainage tube from head.

GreenWave1
04-17-2014, 11:20 AM
Glad he's out of surgery. The pituitary stem sounds bad. Hopefully everything else is good news.

latebloomingmom
04-17-2014, 11:33 AM
Out of surgery, they had to take his pituitary stem out, he'll be on medication for the rest of his life

surgery took so long because he is young and the 2 hemispheres are close together.

They did a post surgery Cat scan – it looks like they got most of it and the excess fluid is gone. He does have an air pocket but that should resolve on its own.

They will do another baseline in 2 weeks.

They will attempt to wake him up at 9pm Eastern time. He is on a vent but taking shallow breathes on his own. He also has a drainage tube from head.
drainage tube sounds scary but they put those things in a lot of times after surgery. My brother had one sticking in side of his neck after jaw surgery.
glad he is out

GuyJin
04-17-2014, 03:40 PM
Hoping that he makes a full recovery.

paolo59
04-17-2014, 04:04 PM
Out of surgery, they had to take his pituitary stem out, he'll be on medication for the rest of his life

surgery took so long because he is young and the 2 hemispheres are close together.

They did a post surgery Cat scan – it looks like they got most of it and the excess fluid is gone. He does have an air pocket but that should resolve on its own.

They will do another baseline in 2 weeks.

They will attempt to wake him up at 9pm Eastern time. He is on a vent but taking shallow breathes on his own. He also has a drainage tube from head.

I'm anxious to hear a good report when he wakes up. As good a report as can be expected after such an incredible and taxing surgery. Fourteen and a half hours! Good Lord!

djflex
04-17-2014, 04:39 PM
Continued best thoughts for all

morninglory81
04-17-2014, 06:05 PM
Out of surgery, they had to take his pituitary stem out, he'll be on medication for the rest of his life

surgery took so long because he is young and the 2 hemispheres are close together.

They did a post surgery Cat scan – it looks like they got most of it and the excess fluid is gone. He does have an air pocket but that should resolve on its own.

They will do another baseline in 2 weeks.

They will attempt to wake him up at 9pm Eastern time. He is on a vent but taking shallow breathes on his own. He also has a drainage tube from head.

Thankful he is out and things are looking positive on everything being removed. Will continue to pray for his fighting strength will be quickly returned to him and that other than a few more pills in the morning he will make a full recovery and return to the work he loves.

Brackneyc
04-17-2014, 06:25 PM
...

phuckuop
04-17-2014, 06:29 PM
Prayers. Awaiting update.

Frnkd
04-17-2014, 11:23 PM
Chanting for Jonathan's total recovery, little pain and discomfort and quicker than expected time to heal!

Lou1se
04-18-2014, 11:30 AM
It's heartbreaking to know that someone so young has to go through this....and I also can not imagine having it be one of my own children.

Sounds like he did well and glad the surgery is now done.

I will continue to pray for Jonathon and his family.

whatevergirl
04-18-2014, 11:49 AM
That's what I was thinking, Lou1se, so young to be battling this. :(

Bando, he's on all of our minds here, really hoping for quick healing.

Frnkd
04-18-2014, 12:29 PM
I have to say too Bando, Jonathan has a great uncle!!!

:)

Bando
04-18-2014, 09:12 PM
Sounds like he did well and glad the surgery is now done.


Now the real work begins. This whole thing could not be farther from done (thanks for your PM Louise).

He had bad hallucinations on the first day of being awake, very agitated, needed to be sedated. 2nd day, pretty much non responsive and can't talk. Thank God his Mom is there with him though he may not recognize her right now. They got 98% of the tumor and there is a small bleed in the brain. I won't share pics online but his forehead and eyes are super swollen, ironically enough, he looks almost Japanese.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart to each and every one of you for your prayers and thoughts, keep them coming, it means a lot.

so-tex
04-18-2014, 09:18 PM
We're still praying for him Bando. Thanks for keeping us updated.

KidKhaleel
04-18-2014, 09:19 PM
support, will be praying for him tonight.

paolo59
04-18-2014, 11:20 PM
Now the real work begins. This whole thing could not be farther from done (thanks for your PM Louise).

He had bad hallucinations on the first day of being awake, very agitated, needed to be sedated. 2nd day, pretty much non responsive and can't talk. Thank God his Mom is there with him though he may not recognize her right now. They got 98% of the tumor and there is a small bleed in the brain. I won't share pics online but his forehead and eyes are super swollen, ironically enough, he looks almost Japanese.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart to each and every one of you for your prayers and thoughts, keep them coming, it means a lot.

My goodness. A little worse for wear!? Lord! :( Your entire head laid open, with folks digging, cutting, and prodding around in there for 14 and a half hours, and counting evidently. Thank the Good Lord the young man is alive! Continued prayers. You're right; "Now the real work begins!" It is one incredible blessing that his Mother is there. Whether he has been able to recognize her or not! Blessings upon that young man!

latebloomingmom
04-19-2014, 07:25 AM
Now the real work begins. This whole thing could not be farther from done (thanks for your PM Louise).

He had bad hallucinations on the first day of being awake, very agitated, needed to be sedated. 2nd day, pretty much non responsive and can't talk. Thank God his Mom is there with him though he may not recognize her right now. They got 98% of the tumor and there is a small bleed in the brain. I won't share pics online but his forehead and eyes are super swollen, ironically enough, he looks almost Japanese.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart to each and every one of you for your prayers and thoughts, keep them coming, it means a lot.everything is all swollen and puffy right now..including inside his brain..there was all that pressure building up and pushing on his eyes and messing with his vision.
They went in and took that big hunk of junk out that did not belong but the brain and body need a little time to figure this out...he is no doubt on meds right now so the side effects could be at least partly from this.

StressMonkey
04-19-2014, 09:16 AM
Glad the surgery is over. It sounds like he's got a tough recovery ahead of him. He's got a lot of people pulling for him.

phuckuop
04-19-2014, 10:12 AM
Glad to hear the surgery went well. Hope he recovers as quickly as possible.

JimmyJonny
04-19-2014, 05:20 PM
Appreciate the updates, prayers are still being sent.

GreenWave1
04-19-2014, 06:08 PM
Still praying man. Keep us posted.

KidKhaleel
04-19-2014, 06:14 PM
Had him im my thoughts today. praying for a speedy recovery

DocHoss
04-19-2014, 10:42 PM
Praying he has a full recovery. It's a rough ordeal for anyone, doubly unfair for someone so young. My best friend's mother had a brain tumor removed when she was around 50. Recovery was slow - when she awoke she didn't recognize her own family, then suffered a lot form double vision and headaches, but in the end she did well. I was honored that when she was driving again, she told me that I was the only one she trusted to be her passenger. I think your nephew's youth will work in his favor.

thnikkaman
04-21-2014, 10:10 AM
I wouldn't wish this on anyone. That being said, the human brain is an incredible organ, and I wish him the easiest of recoveries.

Firminator4
04-22-2014, 08:19 AM
I continue to pray for Jonathan and his doctors.

Bando
04-22-2014, 05:49 PM
Thanks everyone, he started PT, OT (Occupational Therapy) and Speech therapy (speech is very slow), still in ICU. Eating on his own. My Wife talked to him but I haven't yet. I wish I had more info about his memory but I don't. They said they are 98% sure they got 100% of the tumor, so I guess that's better than what I last heard about them thinking they got 98% of the tumor. Thanks everyone for the continued prayers/thought, I'll post up a post op when he looks just a little better.

polishedball
04-22-2014, 06:33 PM
Thanks everyone, he started PT, OT (Occupational Therapy) and Speech therapy (speech is very slow), still in ICU. Eating on his own. My Wife talked to him but I haven't yet. I wish I had more info about his memory but I don't. They said they are 98% sure they got 100% of the tumor, so I guess that's better than what I last heard about them thinking they got 98% of the tumor. Thanks everyone for the continued prayers/thought, I'll post up a post op when he looks just a little better.

Thanks for the update will continue the prayers.

Creakylifter
04-23-2014, 07:15 AM
Sounds like it well really well. Still praying here. God is large & in charge!

whatevergirl
04-25-2014, 11:40 PM
Thanks everyone, he started PT, OT (Occupational Therapy) and Speech therapy (speech is very slow), still in ICU. Eating on his own. My Wife talked to him but I haven't yet. I wish I had more info about his memory but I don't. They said they are 98% sure they got 100% of the tumor, so I guess that's better than what I last heard about them thinking they got 98% of the tumor. Thanks everyone for the continued prayers/thought, I'll post up a post op when he looks just a little better.

Progress sounds good, Bando. He's eating on his own, that's good to hear.
He's on my mind ~ sending positive, healing thoughts.

Hopefully, the worst part of it has passed and he can move forward.
What a tough thing to be going through.

Johnson1704
04-25-2014, 11:43 PM
Done...

How did he find out about the tumor? It's scary to think this can happen to anyone at all and just appear out of nowhere

Bando
04-26-2014, 02:14 PM
How did he find out about the tumor? It's scary to think this can happen to anyone at all and just appear out of nowhere

he was having vision problems and headaches which led to a CT Scan where they found it.

He's back in his regular room and was doing quite well, even took a shower. He has a headache and his head hurts to the touch right now, so I hope it's nothing serious.

paolo59
04-26-2014, 02:20 PM
Thank you for the updates! It's good to hear of progress.

Tannerus4
04-29-2014, 09:19 AM
he was having vision problems and headaches which led to a CT Scan where they found it.

He's back in his regular room and was doing quite well, even took a shower. He has a headache and his head hurts to the touch right now, so I hope it's nothing serious.good to hear he's getting around. of course it hurts!!! he just had major brain surgery. I'm sure everything is filling back in the empty spaces, rearranging hurts sometimes, and there is swelling...stay positive, I'm sure pain is to be expected.

Bando
04-29-2014, 08:07 PM
Your thoughts and prayers warm my heart and I'm thankful for each and every comment. Since we're only days from the surgery I'll honor the request for updates once a day unless there is a major development.

He'll be operated on in a teaching hospital in Tokyo, they have the MRI's and I'm confident in their abilities. He says the food in the hospital is very good, but the language barrier at this time is especially frustrating.

My SIL was in contact with our State Senator and most of the passport requirements have been waived by the State Dept. She had to drive to the State Capital and back today (3 hours 1 way) and has to drive back again tomorrow. When she gets in the passport office, she is first in line no matter how long it is. The Navy will fly her there to be with him, but the surgery will go on at the Doctor's discretion, and is not dependent on her arrival.

As I posted on Iron Sanctuary, his name is Jonathan and here is a clearer pic:

http://i.imgur.com/Lb9RQXUl.jpg


My Wife emailed me today and said "things can turn for the good when dozens of people are praying for you" and I emailed back and said "try hundreds of people praying for you."

Thank you again.

Post OP pic O35, he's happy that some American Missionaries scored him some real pizza, they would not be supplying that for him in the hospital.

http://scontent-a-iad.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-prn1/l/t1.0-9/10153951_10202560686272623_7737368564265073414_n.j pg

Everyday is a little progress. Kind of like BB'ing. Thank you everyone!

latebloomingmom
04-29-2014, 09:12 PM
there ya go baby
ya look just fine and dandy if ya ask me :)



depends on where the tumor was
how much they had to take out
sounds like it was front if it was messing with his vision
Broca's aphasia is in frontal area
which may result in good comprehension but slow and labored speech

but at this point its too soon to tell
because of swelling if there is actual damage

Bando
04-29-2014, 09:19 PM
If someone sawed my skull open, split it apart, got in there with a bunch of instruments for 14.5 hours, closed it back up, sewed up my head...I would not be looking that good after only 2 weeks.

I think your prayers and thoughts on Jon's behalf are doing great things.

Thank you.

so-tex
04-29-2014, 09:38 PM
If someone sawed my skull open, split it apart, got in there with a bunch of instruments for 14.5 hours, closed it back up, sewed up my head...I would not be looking that good after only 2 weeks.

I think your prayers and thoughts on Jon's behalf are doing great things.

Thank you.I here you Bando. Just remember we're still praying.

DocHoss
04-29-2014, 11:00 PM
Thanks for the pics, Bando! The room looks very Japanese. Hope his recovery goes well (and that he liked the pizza).

Lou1se
04-29-2014, 11:02 PM
He looks remarkably good Bando and great he gets to have some pizza. :)

A lot of positives! Progress should continue at a fast rate since he is young and the swelling subsides.

StressMonkey
04-29-2014, 11:08 PM
Glad he healing AND getting pizza!

medhead
04-29-2014, 11:18 PM
It's awesome to hear that he is improving every day :)

pratherian
04-29-2014, 11:50 PM
God is great !

mcbourque
04-30-2014, 07:12 AM
Glad to hear the surgery went well. Jonathan looks wonderful for having gone through such an ordeal.
Praying for his quick and full recovery.

djflex
04-30-2014, 07:26 AM
Sounds like all is as good as can be expected!

Tannerus4
04-30-2014, 08:46 AM
he looks great in that pic to have gone through so much! It must be hard not being able to see him in person but honestly, looks like he's doing really good!

Zenshi
04-30-2014, 12:55 PM
Respect to Jonathan for his courage and battle through such a difficult ordeal. He is looking good in that pic so soon out of surgery. I am glad the surgery was a success and best wishes to his recovery.

Thanks again for providing the updates to his status.

Bando
06-02-2014, 02:23 PM
Update: He just got back to the states, at Walter Reed, short term memory bad along with some other health issues/complications.

We'll probably go visit him.

latebloomingmom
06-02-2014, 05:22 PM
oooh I am glad for his mama's sake he is back here in the states now :)

Bando
06-02-2014, 07:53 PM
so is his Momma, she was over there with him. Now she gets to see her other 2 boys again.

Lou1se
06-02-2014, 11:03 PM
Update: He just got back to the states, at Walter Reed, short term memory bad along with some other health issues/complications.

We'll probably go visit him.

There are bound to be some issues, he's just undergone a major op. I believe his brain is still re-wiring and takes time to heal.

So glad he's back on home soil, for him and his family! :)

Thanks for the update, he continues to be in my thoughts and prayers.

whatevergirl
06-03-2014, 08:17 AM
Appreciate the update, Bando. Hopefully, as time goes on, his health will continue to improve. Glad to hear he's home.
He's in my thoughts, as is your family.

Tannerus4
06-03-2014, 08:56 AM
glad to hear he's back in the states and doing ok.

danap3681
06-03-2014, 11:34 AM
Glad to hear he is back in the states. Hopefully with time and healing he will continue to get better. Him and all of your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Did he get his Doritos yet??? :D

beachguy498
06-03-2014, 12:22 PM
Glad to hear he's doing better and back in the US again. He's young and should heal a lot faster than most of us would given the same situation.

We have a guy here at work, age 56 and a brain tumor and been out since February, no timeline for his return. But he had surgery as well, similar stats on most of the tumor being successfully removed.

Rob

Bando
06-03-2014, 01:49 PM
Did he get his Doritos yet??? :D

we'll have to deliver them in person :)

Bando
06-18-2014, 10:12 PM
we can't catch a break here :mad:

The tumor/cancer is very, very rare. The tiny fragments that were left are already growing and cause for major concern. Next stop is a hospital in Philly for 30 days of proton radiation, then back to Walter Reed.

At this point they are thinking that it's unlikely that he'll be fit for active duty again.

My SIL left for Japan for ten weeks, now it looks like she will not return home until Fall.

continued prayers and thoughts appreciated.

so-tex
06-18-2014, 11:21 PM
we can't catch a break here :mad:

The tumor/cancer is very, very rare. The tiny fragments that were left are already growing and cause for major concern. Next stop is a hospital in Philly for 30 days of proton radiation, then back to Walter Reed.

At this point they are thinking that it's unlikely that he'll be fit for active duty again.

My SIL left for Japan for ten weeks, now it looks like she will not return home until Fall.

continued prayers and thoughts appreciated.Dang Bando, I thought the tumor was benign. The family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Lou1se
06-18-2014, 11:30 PM
So sorry to hear. We are riding the waves with you.

Forever in my heart, thoughts and prayers.

StressMonkey
06-19-2014, 06:44 AM
we can't catch a break here :mad:

The tumor/cancer is very, very rare. The tiny fragments that were left are already growing and cause for major concern. Next stop is a hospital in Philly for 30 days of proton radiation, then back to Walter Reed.

At this point they are thinking that it's unlikely that he'll be fit for active duty again.

My SIL left for Japan for ten weeks, now it looks like she will not return home until Fall.

continued prayers and thoughts appreciated.

Really sorry to hear that. Still pulling for him.

latebloomingmom
06-19-2014, 06:54 AM
sh*t ..this is why I hate cancer
one little bit of it and it pops up again
hope this radiation zaps it

Bando
07-07-2014, 08:55 PM
He just got to philly to start the proton radiation treatment. His Mom is still with him. A chance that he'll only get 80% brain function back. His Mom may not even get home until next year. Good Grief.

medhead
07-07-2014, 08:58 PM
He just got to philly to start the proton radiation treatment. His Mom is still with him. A chance that he'll only get 80% brain function back. His Mom may not even get home until next year. Good Grief.

i hope the radiotherapy goes well. praying for him!

whatevergirl
07-07-2014, 09:03 PM
He just got to philly to start the proton radiation treatment. His Mom is still with him. A chance that he'll only get 80% brain function back. His Mom may not even get home until next year. Good Grief.

why is this happening. :( he's in my thoughts, as is his family. i just hope the treatment helps him as best as possible.

so-tex
07-07-2014, 09:09 PM
He just got to philly to start the proton radiation treatment. His Mom is still with him. A chance that he'll only get 80% brain function back. His Mom may not even get home until next year. Good Grief.

Prayers are still coming Bando.

Bando
07-07-2014, 09:26 PM
praying for him!


he's in my thoughts, as is his family


Prayers are still coming Bando.

Thank You

JimmyJonny
07-07-2014, 09:46 PM
Still in our prayers Bando.

paolo59
07-07-2014, 11:32 PM
we can't catch a break here :mad:

The tumor/cancer is very, very rare. The tiny fragments that were left are already growing and cause for major concern. Next stop is a hospital in Philly for 30 days of proton radiation, then back to Walter Reed.

At this point they are thinking that it's unlikely that he'll be fit for active duty again.

My SIL left for Japan for ten weeks, now it looks like she will not return home until Fall.

continued prayers and thoughts appreciated.

Thoughts and prayers. When you've been knocked down, and the 'kicks' just keep coming...you can just get tired. Worn out, mentally and spiritually spent. No time for that! Where does it come from? Ha ha! It comes from deep within brother! From a 'well' that you didn't know even existed! :) Strength, encouragement, blessings, and a renewed faith! Daily. Minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day. As long as it takes! :)

GreenWave1
07-08-2014, 07:05 AM
Still praying for him to get well and for those close to him to find strength.

pastorgbc
07-08-2014, 07:09 AM
I will add this situation to my prayer list.

Ray

Firminator4
07-08-2014, 07:59 AM
Still praying daily for Jonathan.

djflex
07-08-2014, 05:57 PM
Very sorry to see this. Hope things turn around , all the best to all

Plateauplower
07-08-2014, 06:23 PM
Very sad situation, prayers sent hoping for a speedy and complete recovery.

paul_v
07-09-2014, 06:06 AM
Didn't read entire thread but which part of his brain was damaged? I have damage to my hippocampus thanks to encephalitis a few years ago (the seahorse shaped area)

mcbourque
07-09-2014, 06:16 AM
I am so sorry to hear this. My prayers for Jonathan.

Bentley41
07-09-2014, 06:23 AM
Pray for all service members actively. Will do op. Stick In there, everything happens for a reason

Old-Time-Lifter
07-09-2014, 06:41 AM
Sorry to read this Bando. :( Prayers for comfort for the family, and direction for the doctors in the course of treatment. Prayers for strength and healing.

Bando
07-09-2014, 02:10 PM
Didn't read entire thread but which part of his brain was damaged? I have damage to my hippocampus thanks to encephalitis a few years ago (the seahorse shaped area)

He had his pituitary stem removed.

Well they got to Philly, had a couple appointments and the radiation has been pushed back to the 26th, back to Bethesda...

Thanks for the Prayers everyone!

Bando
10-24-2015, 05:39 AM
He's home. The amount of medications he has to take to balance all his levels without a pituary gland is pretty crazy. He has some cognitive loss and gets headaches, he'll never be able to work at a high functioning job I'm told. Hanging out with him last weekend he certainly can hold a conversation and seems almost like his old self. He wears the scar where they cut his head in half pretty proudly.

He was engaged before this all happened, that's not the case anymore. I don't have the whole story but I guess she became a stage 1 clinger and he simply can not handle a SRS relaitionship.

He was dealt a pretty chitty hand in life but he's young and has a lot more years ahead of him.

Redfish225
10-24-2015, 05:46 AM
I'm with you brother.

Wishing for all the best.

CestLaVida
10-24-2015, 05:47 AM
He's home. The amount of medications he has to take to balance all his levels without a pituary gland is pretty crazy. He has some cognitive loss and gets headaches, he'll never be able to work at a high functioning job I'm told. Hanging out with him last weekend he certainly can hold a conversation and seems almost like his old self. He wears the scar where they cut his head in half pretty proudly.

He was engaged before this all happened, that's not the case anymore. I don't have the whole story but I guess she became a stage 1 clinger and he simply can not handle a SRS relaitionship.

He was dealt a pretty chitty hand in life but he's young and has a lot more years ahead of him.

God bless him

drudixon
10-24-2015, 08:32 AM
Not everyone can call themselves a survivor. Props to him and your family. It's a group affair no doubt. Chin up high.

mirroroferised
10-24-2015, 09:47 AM
That's good news that he's home and dealing with his recovery bando. Wearing that scar with pride is a sign of confidence and fight going forward. Good for him.


I lost my best friend last December after a 10 year battle with his brain tumor. He fought like hell during that time. Over the years though what is most encouraging is the treatment advancements we saw. Hope is still there. I wish your nephew all the best. Last year we did our first walk for the Brain Tumor Foundation of Canada in memory of our friend. The turnout there was astounding. If they have something like that in your area it might be worth him looking into. There were some incredible survivor stories shared and it was extremely encouraging to see and be apart of.


All the best to him and I hope he has many more good years ahead of him :)

V-240
10-24-2015, 12:54 PM
Wow. I hope the Navy takes care of him with medical and other benefits.

grouchyjarhead
10-24-2015, 01:39 PM
He's home. The amount of medications he has to take to balance all his levels without a pituary gland is pretty crazy. He has some cognitive loss and gets headaches, he'll never be able to work at a high functioning job I'm told. Hanging out with him last weekend he certainly can hold a conversation and seems almost like his old self. He wears the scar where they cut his head in half pretty proudly.

He was engaged before this all happened, that's not the case anymore. I don't have the whole story but I guess she became a stage 1 clinger and he simply can not handle a SRS relaitionship.

He was dealt a pretty chitty hand in life but he's young and has a lot more years ahead of him.

Glad he's home and that he's hanging in there. He's got some big brass ones. I'll throw him in my prayers tonight.

StressMonkey
10-24-2015, 04:41 PM
Glad he's finally home. Who know what the future holds.

paolo59
10-25-2015, 10:51 AM
One long, arduous journey. Glad he's home!

JRT6
10-25-2015, 06:22 PM
As much as it would suck beyond words I'd rather my significant other leave me than stay and live a lie. You can't fake wanting to be there for someone and they know it which just makes the living hell worse.

Lou1se
10-25-2015, 08:23 PM
He's a strong young man and has a lot to take in. I'm so glad to hear he's seeming like his old self again. :)

There are a lot of adjustments ahead and taking each day as it comes will help him find a comfortable niche to settle into, you seem to have a very supportive family around to help him to do that.

I believe your nephew has every chance of a good life. Stay positive :)

RobRocks
10-25-2015, 08:40 PM
Best wishes to your Nephew and your Family

Bando
10-31-2015, 08:49 PM
Thank you everyone. He came over to hand out candy tonight. He was pleasant and charming to all the kids, recognized every costume and was a prince. He got cold and tired when it was like 55 degrees after an hour.

I talked to him awhile, before he went in he was learning to play guitar. I have a couple acoustics around with a soft comfortable action and said "maybe we can get to playing again, I'll set up one of my guitars for you, and we'll ease into it."

The response from his mom and Mrs. B was not affirmative.

And here is where I go off. (I smiled and nodded IRL)

I feel like he's being coddled. Yes, I get it was brain surgery, but I feel like even if some exercise and guitar don't extend your life, at least they made it better. I say he should try stuff and the women need to stop looking over his shoulder like he can't. He's fat, slow and sluggish, I don't think that's completely necessary. I could be completely wrong, but I feel like some activity would help him.

JustLost
11-01-2015, 06:17 AM
Getting back into playing guitar is exactly the kind of challenge that somebody in his condition needs. It's a hell of a cognitive and neuromuscular workout. Probably be frustrating for him (and you), but it beats the decline he'd go into from being overprotected. The brain and body both fall apart if they're not challenged.


I wish I had some brilliant advice on the family dynamics side, but I kind of suck at that part.

hope27
11-01-2015, 06:30 AM
Thank you everyone. He came over to hand out candy tonight. He was pleasant and charming to all the kids, recognized every costume and was a prince. He got cold and tired when it was like 55 degrees after an hour.

I talked to him awhile, before he went in he was learning to play guitar. I have a couple acoustics around with a soft comfortable action and said "maybe we can get to playing again, I'll set up one of my guitars for you, and we'll ease into it."

The response from his mom and Mrs. B was not affirmative.

And here is where I go off. (I smiled and nodded IRL)

I feel like he's being coddled. Yes, I get it was brain surgery, but I feel like even if some exercise and guitar don't extend your life, at least they made it better. I say he should try stuff and the women need to stop looking over his shoulder like he can't. He's fat, slow and sluggish, I don't think that's completely necessary. I could be completely wrong, but I feel like some activity would help him.

Bando,

I am late to this, but prayers to you and your nephew and his family.
I am not sure what to say about the family dynamics. As a female, I understand the need to nurture, but not coddle. I am with you that he should try things and do things to the best of his capabilities. You cannot wrap him in lambs wool and protect him from hurt and failure which it seems they are trying to do.

mirroroferised
11-01-2015, 07:05 AM
Thank you everyone. He came over to hand out candy tonight. He was pleasant and charming to all the kids, recognized every costume and was a prince. He got cold and tired when it was like 55 degrees after an hour.

I talked to him awhile, before he went in he was learning to play guitar. I have a couple acoustics around with a soft comfortable action and said "maybe we can get to playing again, I'll set up one of my guitars for you, and we'll ease into it."

The response from his mom and Mrs. B was not affirmative.

And here is where I go off. (I smiled and nodded IRL)

I feel like he's being coddled. Yes, I get it was brain surgery, but I feel like even if some exercise and guitar don't extend your life, at least they made it better. I say he should try stuff and the women need to stop looking over his shoulder like he can't. He's fat, slow and sluggish, I don't think that's completely necessary. I could be completely wrong, but I feel like some activity would help him.

I hope this isn't coming off as a thread hijack, really not my intention but I agree with you and can relate to your post.


My buddy who I mentioned before played high level hockey for most of his life when he was younger. By the time he was diagnosed he was playing in a couple of men's leagues and ball hockey once a week as well as often as his family and work life would allow. Basically it was a huge part of his life. When he was diagnosed and started getting sicker his mom was terrified and fought like crazy to get him to stop. He still carried on for quite awhile. After a few years his seizures got so bad that he could no longer do it but he stopped because he had to at that point. Not really on his own terms I guess but if he didn't have that I swear he would have been defeated much sooner than he was.


I obviously understand where the family concerns are coming from as you must too since you bit your tongue. I hope though he can continue to live his life how he wants and sees fit for as long as he can. It's so important to have hobbies and interests to keep you motivated and moving forward. I believe he needs to keep himself engaged, fit, and mentally strong. He has a lot to deal with and should approach it with a positive attitude every single day. Saying I can't when you still can shouldn't be an option imo.

All the best to him, his family and you. This is such a tough thing to deal with.

Wayne Evans
11-03-2015, 04:45 PM
I talked to him awhile, before he went in he was learning to play guitar. I have a couple acoustics around with a soft comfortable action and said "maybe we can get to playing again, I'll set up one of my guitars for you, and we'll ease into it."
The response from his mom and Mrs. B was not affirmative. And here is where I go off. (I smiled and nodded IRL)
I feel like he's being coddled.

BOLD 1: that's too bad they don't see the benefit.
Personally, and in agreement with Justlost, any activity that helps build neuronal connections is a very good personal therapy for him to take on.
Obviously, I'm partial to him getting back to the guitar but even learning a language would also be a comparable benefit.
Any mentally challenging activity could actually give him a another positive reason for greeting each day and taking things as they come.

BOLD 2:
Based on what you state I also believe 'coddling' could be occurring.
Bando...do you think he may even perceive that he's being coddled?
If he is, that may really piss him off. (as it would me)
Whether he's "fat, slow and sluggish" or not at this time any new activity to challenge the brain cells in spite of his misfortune is a benefit.

That's my take on it.
Again...I'll wish him well and hope he will stay tough.

Carry on....

Bando
11-03-2015, 04:51 PM
Bando...do you think he may even perceive that he's being coddled?

I don't think so. I think he may be told that he isn't capable of doing much so often that he believes it.

Wayne Evans
11-03-2015, 04:58 PM
I don't think so. I think he may be told that he isn't capable of doing much so often that he believes it.

Shvt....that sort of discouragement (negative coddling?) kinda pisses me off.
IMO....if he comes up with anything that would keep him up (so to speak) it should be encouraged and provided for him.
But, that's just me.

Thanks for responding to that specific query.

Back to it....

mirroroferised
11-03-2015, 07:46 PM
Shvt....that sort of discouragement (negative coddling?) kinda pisses me off.
IMO....if he comes up with anything that would keep him up (so to speak) it should be encouraged and provided for him.
But, that's just me.

Thanks for responding to that specific query.

Back to it....

Agree completely.

squoddybody
11-03-2015, 08:05 PM
I didn't read all of this, so I don't know if I missed any pertinent information. First, let me say I'm sorry that he and his family (you) are going through this. It's so difficult to watch somebody you know and love live with such a tragedy.

20 years ago, a chillingly similar situation occurred. One of the groomsmen in my wedding enlisted with my husband. While he was stationed in Okinawa, he was diagnosed with an astrocytoma(sp?) cancer (tumor) on his brain stem. He was only 19 years old. He did go back to the US for his procedure, marry his girlfriend, and then live the very best life he could have. He rode his four-wheeler like he stole it - wrecking frequently. He ate whatever he wanted. He LIVED. Unfortunately, he only lived another year and a half before the cancer finally took his life.

The point was that he lived. We all loved him very much and worried about him, but nobody thought for a moment that there might be something he couldn't or shouldn't do. He was fortunate that his mother and family encouraged his lifestyle. We all knew that nothing was going to save him to this world any longer, and that he deserved the best life possible.

If you're not living, then you're just waiting to die. Your nephew should have the best life possible - if that means playing guitar, skydiving, traveling, whatever - then he should be doing it.

Prayers to you and your family. Hopefully you can make his mother understand why his life is even more important now.

Fishman15
11-03-2015, 08:40 PM
Thank you everyone. He came over to hand out candy tonight. He was pleasant and charming to all the kids, recognized every costume and was a prince. He got cold and tired when it was like 55 degrees after an hour.

I talked to him awhile, before he went in he was learning to play guitar. I have a couple acoustics around with a soft comfortable action and said "maybe we can get to playing again, I'll set up one of my guitars for you, and we'll ease into it."

The response from his mom and Mrs. B was not affirmative.

And here is where I go off. (I smiled and nodded IRL)

I feel like he's being coddled. Yes, I get it was brain surgery, but I feel like even if some exercise and guitar don't extend your life, at least they made it better. I say he should try stuff and the women need to stop looking over his shoulder like he can't. He's fat, slow and sluggish, I don't think that's completely necessary. I could be completely wrong, but I feel like some activity would help him.

I think you are right Bando. Difficult situation but I think you are right. Best to you and your family...