Once again, I was minding my own business in the cable section and some guy comes over to do pull ups right next to me. I had to reach down and move my stuff at one point, and when I turned around casually to stretch I counted six -- yes, S I X -- other pull up stations open! Oh, wait -- SEVEN open stations if you count the one at the stretch rack.
He would turn around to stretch and face me for a moment or so while he did it and I just turned my back each time or focused on my pressdowns.
Someone, PLEASE explain this behavior to me. Honestly. If he was trying to get my attention, he did, but he irritated the crap outta me in the process. If he was trying to show off, well, he was over the age of 30 so he needs to grow up.
Anyone have any clues? Ignorance? Stupidity? Show off? Noob?
Ugh. Where's the "irritated as hell" emoticon?
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12-24-2006, 05:14 PM #1currently unsupervised
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Good God, Almighty, what is it with you men?!
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12-24-2006, 05:27 PM #2Banned
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May we see your photo please?
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12-24-2006, 05:32 PM #3currently unsupervised
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HA! I promised one just prior to my next contest, when my BF (and water weight) gets back down to precontest levels...Originally Posted by Mango7
Niiiiiiiice try!
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12-24-2006, 05:32 PM #4Registered User
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maybe he just liked you, and you shouldn't get so pissed off so quickly? Life is too short!
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12-24-2006, 05:32 PM #5
Explain this behavior
It is just plain old rude!Originally Posted by Athena
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12-24-2006, 05:40 PM #6currently unsupervised
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Re/your rep ... I know you're not all like that -- I usually workout in the mornings and I've grown to appreciate the other "gentlemanly" guys I work out with. We have a ton of fun and I really enjoy their comraderie on the tough training days. They aren't trying to hit on me (anymore) -- they just appreciate how hard I work and how heavy I lift.Originally Posted by hapkido
I was really just hoping someone would have some insight on this guy's pull up trick. I just truly don't understand his behavior...
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12-24-2006, 05:43 PM #7currently unsupervised
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Life is too short to get in someone's way who's lifting heavy! If you want to talk to me, then talk to me. Lots of guys do, especially when they see I lift heavy. It's like a cardio bunny coming over to the free weight area to do 5-pound bicep curls in front of the mirror where a big guy is doing his 85-pound overhead shoulder presses! It's distracting and can be dangerous, IMHO.Originally Posted by lionheart069
And I wasn't as pissed off as I was irritated...okay, maybe a little pissed off...
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12-24-2006, 05:45 PM #8R.I.P. Grandma 5/12/07
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12-24-2006, 05:58 PM #9Registered User
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My first response here would be a question -- I understand that you're frustrated, but why are you painting all of us with a broad brush here, based on having encountered one (apparent) creep...?
I can only speak for myself, but I would have noticed that you were busy with the cable rack, and would have used another pullup station and not bothered you, and how attractive you happened to be would not have been a factor in that decision.
My own experience is that most gym members are ignorant of much of the gym etiquette that many of us here take for granted. It's typically not posted anywhere or coached to new members when they join, and people don't usually become aware of their ignorance until they've angered a more experienced member or manager to the point of either being politely asked (or confronted) about it.
My guess is that this guy either needs a lesson in gym etiquette -- or he saw himself as a potential suitor, not realizing that his approach needs work.
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12-24-2006, 06:00 PM #10R.I.P. Grandma 5/12/07
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X4Originally Posted by stahlhart
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12-24-2006, 08:12 PM #11Well put, great answer!!Originally Posted by stahlhart
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12-24-2006, 08:25 PM #12High Plains Lifter
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He just lacked tact, plus lacked weight room etiquette. Sometimes you have to forgive some guys when they are around hot women. They lose all composure, sense and logic. I just start to shake and stutter, but nothing major
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12-24-2006, 11:01 PM #13Registered User
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Just to be clear was there anything special about that chinning bar?(palm facing grips,anythig like that.)If not just a jerk.At the risk of sounding like a grumpy old man(I know I do)in my day we had people to enforce rules and teach proper behavior.I used to work in a world gym and my whole job was to wander around replacimg weights,spotting and "enforcing gym rules"This service seems lackimg in the modern fitness facility.
The newbies at my gym think the flat bench is for their exercise the slanted one is for their towel and the funny one with two pieces is for their book and gloves.heres the thing they will think so untill told so you havea total right and maybe a duty to tell(at least ask)this guy to back off.If you think you can or think you cant, your right.
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12-24-2006, 11:31 PM #14It's later than you think
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I'd like to know this also. There was only one other person in the gym besides me and she wasn't even working out, just doing cardio, so she moves to a machine I've never seen her use, until today, which coincidentally happened to be in the area where I was working, as in directly ahead of my line of sight.Originally Posted by Athena
That was very nice and I would have thanked her had I not been stinking up a sweatin' storm today...
As it turned out, she kept making low-flying passes to wherever I was, which amused me to no end, but was also a bit distracting on a day when my concentration was already blown.
What was my question again...oh, right. So, do you think I should go out (in?) with her?Ongoing Journal: http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=106420991
Come here and open your mouth, S103/Syntrax, I gotta take a piss: http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=3569901
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12-25-2006, 12:28 AM #15Registered User
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Ouch!
"you men"................ OUCH!Originally Posted by Athena
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12-25-2006, 03:30 AM #16Bicycling fool
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It could just be the herd mentality. If you go into an empty movie theater and sit down, the next people to come in will sit within 2 or 3 seats of you. He may have come in and seen a fit gal on that end and assumes "that must be the good stations there" even if they are all the same like movie theater seats.
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12-25-2006, 03:55 AM #17LBD
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He has confidence in his attractiveness, but not his gift of gab, and also underestimates your maturity level. he also knows that most women really hate being approached in the gym, so he's hoping that he can somehow "turn you on" to the point that you will want to talk to him and break the ice.
Lotsa guys want the woman to pick them up so that they don't risk failure or rejection. He sounds like one of those.Time To Re-Schedule
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12-25-2006, 04:07 AM #18Message Board King
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You need to train at JackTheBlack's gym in San Francisco. You will be left alone...well...I forgot Jack.
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12-25-2006, 06:24 AM #19Registered User
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I have basically the same problem at my gym.
It usually starts at the cardio station where 3-4 girls mysteriously are done with their cardio and follow me downstairs to the free weights. Then, they are asking me things like what I do for my arms and how often I train my chest.
It gets to be a pain, but what you gonna do? This sort of thing progresses to the point that at any given time I am surrounded by 5-6 hot looking fitness bunnies.
Just before things get interesting the alarm clock goes off, and I realize I have been dreaming again, and I have to go to work.
Oh welp... As I have said... What ya gonna do?
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12-25-2006, 07:51 AM #20Registered User
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Maybe he saw that Seinfeld episode where Elaine makes out with a guy.
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12-25-2006, 08:01 AM #21Registered User
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Wow, I have that same dream too!Originally Posted by Madfun
I have basically the same problem at my gym.
It usually starts at the cardio station where 3-4 girls mysteriously are done with their cardio and follow me downstairs to the free weights. Then, they are asking me things like what I do for my arms and how often I train my chest.
It gets to be a pain, but what you gonna do? This sort of thing progresses to the point that at any given time I am surrounded by 5-6 hot looking fitness bunnies.
Just before things get interesting the alarm clock goes off, and I realize I have been dreaming again, and I have to go to work.
Oh welp... As I have said... What ya gonna do?
Actually I inadvertantly embarrassed myself last Friday. I chatted with one of the female trainers that was doing her workout, and she actually talked back to me. I lost my concentration so bad afterwards that I went and picked up a 40 and 45 DB and didn't realize it til I got ready to do my overheads. One of the guys near me caught it. I felt pretty stupid.
In other words, guys do silly things sometimes when around attractive women. It part of our "charm".So...I say to a friend that I can't eat what she eats because "I eat funny". So she says "what does funny taste like?". So I say "Like rubber chicken".
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12-25-2006, 11:08 AM #22I curl in the squat rack
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That pretty much sums it up, but being smart enough to know the time and place is another thing.Originally Posted by mature_1_59
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12-25-2006, 11:40 AM #23From Fat As* To Bad As*
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I am sorry, I will go somewhere else and do chin ups next time. Sheesh! Guess you weren't impressed. LOL! JK
It is like others have said, most people just don't understand gym etiquette.
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12-25-2006, 11:47 AM #24I curl in the squat rack
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But on the same hand what about the women that wander the gym in spandex and a gallon of perfume that do the occasional exercise being very careful not too break a sweat.Originally Posted by Athena
So it does go both ways.
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12-25-2006, 12:31 PM #25I'm still 27 in hex :)
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Oh that's priceless! Well 'fessedOriginally Posted by mature_1_59
I have a gym stalker who's Mr Beanpole Badform. I find it really amusing that he comes in looking for me and then attempts full body curls in my sight line. Although he's never going to strike it lucky, it's nice to know that I have an admirer "at my age".
If he kept talking to me then that'd be irritating as he'd be distracting rather than amusingly nerdy.
And yes, perfume clouds are a nightmare - cough cough cough
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PS Why aren't there any guys like you down my gym ? No eye-candy here at all boo-hoo.Never Give Up Never Surrender ;-P
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12-25-2006, 01:26 PM #26Horsepower junkie
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At my age I'm invisible to both the young and old women alike who are too busy looking at the young studs. I'd just be thrilled you were mad I was looking at you and you actually noticed me!
Seriously, you handled it fine, just ignore him and he'll go away...eventually.Big Blocks=Life
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12-25-2006, 01:49 PM #27bassing68
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Many guys may wanna talk but too shy. I have always had that problem. Sometimes I'd do things like that hoping the female would initiate the conversation.Originally Posted by Athena
Life is too short to get in someone's way who's lifting heavy! If you want to talk to me, then talk to me. Lots of guys do, especially when they see I lift heavy. It's like a cardio bunny coming over to the free weight area to do 5-pound bicep curls in front of the mirror where a big guy is doing his 85-pound overhead shoulder presses! It's distracting and can be dangerous, IMHO.
And I wasn't as pissed off as I was irritated...okay, maybe a little pissed off...
And of course he could be a perv, you never know. Next time talk but keep your guard up.
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12-25-2006, 02:36 PM #28Registered User
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I understand that you're frustrated, but why are you painting all of us with a broad brush here, based on having encountered one (apparent) creep...?
Gah! If I had a nickel for everytime I heard a woman complain about men based on something ONE man did or behaved, I'd be rich by now.
Seriously though, just stay focused on what your doing at the gym. Maybe the guy was a creep, if so, it would have been in your best interest to just find another machine or spot to finish up your workout at anyway.
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12-25-2006, 03:50 PM #29Registered User
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Originally Posted by Plato458
You need to find a another gym. What's the fun in working out (especially cardio) with some scenery?So...I say to a friend that I can't eat what she eats because "I eat funny". So she says "what does funny taste like?". So I say "Like rubber chicken".
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12-26-2006, 07:22 AM #30currently unsupervised
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Okay, I did not expect this thread to go anywhere -- I figured I'd vent a little and then it would disappear (mysteriously, like my Fun Poll from a few weeks ago!
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As for painting all men with a broad brush, well, I can paint most women the same way. The comment about the cardio bunnies heading into the free weight area was a way to say that I know women do it, too. (With a cloud of perfume? Ack. If any chick came near me covered in a cloud of perfume, I'd have to say something because of my asthma, and I wouldn't be shy.)
So, yes, as I posted earlier, I understood he may have been trying to get my attention. Yes, I understand he needs a brief lesson in gym etiquette (or however you spel that wurd). Yes, he possibly didn't know how to approach me. Yes, I was really just venting a little. No, I don't consider myself "hot" (although my new boyfriend might beg to differ
). I was trying to get through a tough workout in a gym that was basically empty (joy!) and there were, yes, six IDENTICAL pull up stations open (no difference at all except they weren't three feet from my ass), with three open in front of the mirrors and the other three facing away from the mirrors.
And my apologies, on behalf of all serious-lifting women, to all the men out there who are distracted by cardio-bunnies who do the same thing to them.
'nuff said.
Explain this behavior
As it turned out, she kept making low-flying passes to wherever I was, which amused me to no end, but was also a bit distracting on a day when my concentration was already blown.
Ouch!
). I was trying to get through a tough workout in a gym that was basically empty (joy!) and there were, yes, six IDENTICAL pull up stations open (no difference at all except they weren't three feet from my ass), with three open in front of the mirrors and the other three facing away from the mirrors.
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