My girlfriend keeps asking me if I masterbate

**bootybabe** · 11-08-2006, 10:14 AM

How old is your gf?

Because guys jack off to porn and whatever its life.

I don't mind if I guy I was seeing watch porn while I was gone.

Second if I am home I would watch it with him.

But I know not all females feel this way.

So either be honest with her or don't do it.

**JonZ** · 11-08-2006, 10:15 AM

"Because guys jack off to porn and whatever its life."

What do women do it to? All my female friends but one have admitted to masterbating.

**TheLBM** · 11-08-2006, 10:16 AM

Originally Posted by ANiMaliZtIk

sounds like your girl is way immature. Explain to her: no sex = me masturbate

Hella funny. A Simple,easy accurate explianation.

**Swaggydoo** · 11-08-2006, 10:48 AM

Originally Posted by SPreston36

from a girls perspective its a BIT odd to know your boyfriend/husband masterbates to other women, but at the same time its just a visual for them. unless your obsessively using the same girl in porn i dont see why it would be a problem.

i like animal's idea, ask her to give you somethign to use if she dosntl ike you using other girls

Not all girls. Mine finds it a turn on to even think about me doing it, let alone seeing me doing it.

**suture** · 11-08-2006, 12:09 PM

^
Marriage material right there

**bootybabe** · 11-08-2006, 12:26 PM

Originally Posted by JonZ

"Because guys jack off to porn and whatever its life."

What do women do it to? All my female friends but one have admitted to masterbating.

I don't care what other females say ALL FEMALES do it.

**WeightedDips** · 11-08-2006, 01:16 PM

I've asked her before if she has masterbated, she said no she doesn't do that.

Shes 18 and its her first year of college.

One of the main reasons, if not the only reason, we don't have sex as much as we used to in the summer is because shes afraid of her roomate walking in.

She was giving me an HJ and had to get up to get a tissue, while she was on the other side of the room, her roomate walked in, all that happened was I was laying on her bed with my penis out and the rest of my clothes on. She wasn't even near me. I covered up quickly. Her roomate, sister, and mom walked in. The only one who saw it was her roomate and not even for a second.

She has been completely paranoid since then. She doesn't want anyone to walk in because she thinks that people will think shes a "slut". I said thats ridiculous because we are DATING.

When we do have sex, she has to set everything up. Puts a sign on the door, puts our clothes close to the bed, moves the bed away from the wall so it doesnt make noise and so on. Its annoying, all I want to do is have sex not take 5 minutes to set up. Even with all of that pre-caution she still gets paranoid that someone will walk in.

She teases me sometimes and doesn't finish me because someone might walk in. I ask her why she does it and she said its fun to tease. Then I say ok let me tease you and she says no, someone could walk in.

This is why I masterbate in the first place, we don't have sex often and the last time I got a blowjob or handjob was like 3 months ago.

How do I get her to understand that if we don't have sex I need to masterbate and that I need a visual aid. I download a video and either listen to it or watch it but I never imagine i'm with the other girl, I just need the visual in my mind for my gf.

Any help???

**Anabolik** · 11-08-2006, 01:22 PM

Tell her that you lied because you really beat your meat in her socks that she leaves under your bed but you didnt want her to be grossed out. She will appreciate the new information.

**TwiloMike** · 11-08-2006, 02:01 PM

Originally Posted by WeightedDips

Almost everytime me and my girlfriend don't have sex and we talk later in the day she asks me later in the day if I masterbated. She asks if I swear on our relationship that I didn't and thats where it gets me. She asks me where I did it and what I did it with, like the internet or whatever. I can't help it if I get teased and were not able to have sex. Now shes mad at me because I 'lied' to her about doing it. She knows I've used the internet before I don't pretend its the other girl, I just need a visual.

What should I do so she stops asking me all the time? If she asks me what am I supposed to say? I don't want to lie but I just feel that it'd be better for her to just not know. I love her and would NEVER cheat on her. Does anyone else have a gf and still masterbate? Please help this sucks.

Tell her the truth. If you jerked it, tell her so. If you didn't, tell her so. This is one thing I see no reason at all to lie about.

Why is it better for her not to know?

**nognig** · 11-08-2006, 05:43 PM

Originally Posted by JonZ

"Because guys jack off to porn and whatever its life."

What do women do it to? All my female friends but one have admitted to masterbating.

In other words 50% of your female friends have admitted to masturbating?

NN

**Julie5150** · 11-08-2006, 05:56 PM

Anything - we don't need a visual.
We need mental.

And WD - your girlfriend is obviously ashamed of sex and anything sex related. She needs to grow up a bit.

**duhfewcha6** · 11-08-2006, 06:57 PM

sounds familiar

**PoopEater** · 11-08-2006, 08:10 PM

Originally Posted by WeightedDips

What should I do so she stops asking me all the time? If she asks me what am I supposed to say? I don't want to lie but I just feel that it'd be better for her to just not know. I love her and would NEVER cheat on her. Does anyone else have a gf and still masterbate? Please help this sucks.

Tell her that YES, you jerk off, and YES you look at porn. You're a heterosexual (I think) man, and it is perfectly NORMAL. Tell her she has three options:

1. Deal with it and stop bothering you about it
2. Come over at the drop of a hat WHENEVER you ask so that she can service you
3. Get dumped

YOU are the man in the relationship. You do what YOU want. She can either like it or lump it. Don't ever let her forget it.

**WeightedDips** · 11-08-2006, 09:49 PM

Originally Posted by PoopEater

Tell her that YES, you jerk off, and YES you look at porn. You're a heterosexual (I think) man, and it is perfectly NORMAL. Tell her she has three options:

1. Deal with it and stop bothering you about it
2. Come over at the drop of a hat WHENEVER you ask so that she can service you
3. Get dumped

YOU are the man in the relationship. You do what YOU want. She can either like it or lump it. Don't ever let her forget it.

Well we discussed it more, she was more upset with the fact I "lied" about using the internet.

You see, when we first started dating 6th months ago, I lied to her twice about how many times I had slept with my past 2 girlfriends. I said I had slept with one 3 times and the other one time. I told her there was nothing else, but feeling guilty I admitted that it was 5 times each. That was it, no more hiding. I don't condone lying and I admit I made a big mistake. She said tonight she feels stupid for forgiving me and I said look where we are now, we are so happy. And the truth is, we really are.

This little incident in the past few days reminded her of how I lied in the beginning. She says little things like this bring up the past big things, if that makes sense. I told her to forget about it and we need to move on if we are going to continue dating. She doesn't want to break up, but she is sad thats how our relationship started. I haven't lied about anything serious since then and she freaked out about this incident.

Is there anything I can do to help her get over it? I told her we just need to move on and continue doing happy and fun things together and not let something like that hold us back.

**stealth_swimmer** · 11-08-2006, 10:11 PM

why would you even WANT to masturbate if she WANTS to screw?!

**stealth_swimmer** · 11-08-2006, 10:12 PM

Originally Posted by bootybabe

I don't care what other females say ALL FEMALES do it.

booty...!

**Kal-L** · 11-08-2006, 10:15 PM

Stealth_Swimmer no offense but you and your obsession with bootys...
Almost all you posts are PITTB!

**stealth_swimmer** · 11-08-2006, 10:27 PM

Originally Posted by Kal-L

Stealth_Swimmer no offense but you and your obsession with bootys...
Almost all you posts are PITTB!

lol, sry. don't worry I'd like an occasional boobscrew...and of course almost nothing like a girl with a pretty face for the piitm.

**Mafia_Prince** · 11-09-2006, 01:05 AM

^^^^^^^
Whats wrong with PIITB? its classic.

Anyway, this is your first year for both of you in college? Shes gettin it somewheres else besides you. The slapping the ham issue is her way to say your disgusting and that she wants to break up with you. Her saying your lying about it is just another reason for her to dump you. Every guy punches the clown every once in a while or at least 99.99999999% of guys do even when they get sex on a regular basis it's their alone time, and that will never change for them. And she needs to realize thats a part of life, But I really think shes looking for a way out. Like shes grilling you in court about how you did it and what with like a game of clue. Come on get to the real issues with her and you'll be alot happier.

**Alternamaton** · 11-09-2006, 01:27 AM

99.99999999% of guys do

That would mean that one in ten billion guys doesn't, or that one third of one guy doesn't.

**Beklet** · 11-09-2006, 01:59 AM

Good grief, she sounds a bit repressed! How old is she?

It seems to be a 'young' thing, to be obsessed with past sexual partners, etc etc.

In the great scheme of things, it really doesn't matter how many times you shagged an ex. It just doesn't.

Truthfully, number of previous sexual partners shouldn't really be an issue. Having sex with your boyfriend, or another single friend does not make you a slut. Sleeping around with other peoples boyfriends/girlfriends and having unprotected sex makes you a slut. So you might get caught - happens to most of us at some time

Besides, having a bit of prior experience means you'll have a better idea of how to please a woman, right? Personally (but then look at my age), the idea of bedding a virgin makes me want to run screaming!

It just seems that she's really clinical about it, and all that premeditation would put me off, tbh.

Everyone knows men wank, whether in a relationship or not. It's what men do. And so do women. Difference is, women don't use pictures, they use their imagination and think of things, instead of looking at a naked bloke. That's really all there is to it.

**the terminator** · 11-09-2006, 02:05 AM

Originally Posted by Hustla_Ambition

Seriously...what is she? Your mother? She's asking a ridiculous question, so give her a ridiculous answer. "Ohh yeah I wacked off in my room, on that chair, hell I even wacked off in that thing you're drinking there" Whatever, just to show her what a stupid question that is.

exactly. lol

**pineapple_guy** · 11-09-2006, 02:32 AM

Originally Posted by Beklet

Good grief, she sounds a bit repressed! How old is she?

Sleeping around with other peoples boyfriends/girlfriends and having unprotected sex makes you a slut.

Seems you're pretty repressed too.

**Beklet** · 11-09-2006, 02:55 AM

No not at all. Nothing wrong with sex, as long as you're not hurting anyone. If you're with someone elses man, chances are, you're hurting the other girl.

It's just a lot of the younger men on here seem to give the impression that unless you're a virgin, you're a slut.

Unprotected sex is just stupid. Sex is fun, but not if you're worried about getting pregnant/catching something.

**pineapple_guy** · 11-09-2006, 03:34 AM

Originally Posted by Beklet

No not at all. Nothing wrong with sex, as long as you're not hurting anyone. If you're with someone elses man, chances are, you're hurting the other girl.

It's just a lot of the younger men on here seem to give the impression that unless you're a virgin, you're a slut.

Unprotected sex is just stupid. Sex is fun, but not if you're worried about getting pregnant/catching something.

Not me.

But the majority of women get more sex than men in this day and age, anyway.

**thesinner** · 11-09-2006, 04:23 AM

Originally Posted by WeightedDips

She understands that. She just said she felt weird if I used the internet or something else. I said, what do you expect me to do its hard to do it with nothing and that I think about her. She hates when people lie to her, she asked where I did it today I said the bathroom then I said my computer chair. She freaked out that I lied. What do I say when she asks from now on?

She understands that no sex = pocket pool, but she doesn't understand how immature she's being. What are you, in high school? junior high?

Masturbation is a meaningless self-alleviation of one's own sexual tension: where, when, and how are meaningless details. Someone needs to set this bossy broad straight.

Real relationships stay together through honest communication, not interogation. Tell her how you feel about her constant masturbaiton interogation, or better yet, get rid of her and her childish ways. Bitch needs to grow the f*ck up.

**WeightedDips** · 11-09-2006, 07:58 AM

Shes not upset about the masterbating, shes upset that I, in her eyes, lied about using the internet for porn. I said I wouldn't look it up anymore and I didn't. There was a file from a while ago on my Windows Media player and I watched it and did my business. She thinks I lied. She hates lying because her last boyfriend lied to her alot.

And with the beginning, its not the number of times I slept with my ex-gf's, its the fact I lied about the number. Like I said, she hates lying. The # doesn't matter but the lie does to her.

Do you think shes looking for a way out? We made up last night and she told me she hates fighting with me because it makes her so upset, she doesn't want to break up, I asked her if she wanted to at least 20 times and she still said no. She said she wants things to be perfect.

**WeightedDips** · 11-09-2006, 08:04 AM

Originally Posted by Mafia_Prince

^^^^^^^
Whats wrong with PIITB? its classic.

Anyway, this is your first year for both of you in college? Shes gettin it somewheres else besides you. The slapping the ham issue is her way to say your disgusting and that she wants to break up with you. Her saying your lying about it is just another reason for her to dump you. Every guy punches the clown every once in a while or at least 99.99999999% of guys do even when they get sex on a regular basis it's their alone time, and that will never change for them. And she needs to realize thats a part of life, But I really think shes looking for a way out. Like shes grilling you in court about how you did it and what with like a game of clue. Come on get to the real issues with her and you'll be alot happier.

Are you saying shes cheating on me? She has never cheated before and I KNOW she would never do that to me. Shes not that kind of person. Like I said, she wants to stay with me and wants things to be perfect. Shes just upset because of what happened before we started dating, our beginning wasn't "perfect" to her. I told her just because of a problem in the beginning doesn't mean we can't get by it and have a happy future/ending. Am I right about that?

**kamis** · 11-09-2006, 08:06 AM

Sounds like someone is jealous of rosey palm and jessie handcock...

Seriously... Its none of her business what you do it to. Tell her to get over it and you need a visual and if she doesnt like it then tell her to make a video of herself or be quiet.

**FOXXIE** · 11-09-2006, 08:19 AM

I'll admit I had masterbated a few times... It doesn't really do anything to me.

plus I feel bad aftewards doing it...I think is a sin. So I just dont do it at all!

Porno is evil.... why? because your watching someone getting **** up and your enjoying watching it and jacking off on it.. ( that's just disgusting and disturbing...dont you not think so) Yeah you might get pleasure from it but does it feel right to watch some slut getting bang by many guys?

, plus we all know porno are whores and slut ( that just basicallly constitute that is the work of the devil)

However I know someone will argue and ask what is worse having your significant other cheated on you or jack off on porno? Obvously we all know that answer on that...

i am just saying... both of them are equally evil! ( this is my opinion and i dont expect anyone to go by it... everyone has theirs... just my two cents that's all!)

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