How to fall out of love

Need2ShapeUp · 10-25-2006, 05:07 PM

Any tricks? Techniques?

I have a good friend that without meaning to, I fell madly in love with. It's been that way for a year or so now and I need it to stop before I go insane. I'm pretty sure she doesn't feel the same way and it wouldn't work anyway. I thought about just never seeing her again, but I'd hate to lose a good friend over it.

I've tried rationalizing with myself but that all seems to go to hell when I'm around her. Maybe hypnosis?

Ace_2004 · 10-25-2006, 05:10 PM

Go play with other chicks would probably help.

You only probably think your in love because you analise her and put an imaginary halo around her head.

The_Reaper · 10-25-2006, 05:36 PM

Analise?

Need2ShapeUp · 10-25-2006, 05:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Ace_2004

Go play with other chicks would probably help.

You only probably think your in love because you analise her and put an imaginary halo around her head.

Tried that one, but can't seem to get interested in anyone else. I agree with the halo part, sometimes the way I feel would be better described as worship.

Anabolik · 10-25-2006, 05:57 PM

I have heard that the best way to get over someone is to get UNDER someone else..

974g63awd · 10-25-2006, 06:01 PM

time.

Ace_2004 · 10-25-2006, 06:52 PM

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Originally Posted by 974g63awd

time.

+ Food and Sleep

comebakthursday · 10-25-2006, 06:52 PM

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Originally Posted by The_Reaper

Analise?

Hey man, long time no talk. Havnt seen many threads by you lately. I sent you a PM i think, did you get it?

CoreMaster75 · 10-25-2006, 07:27 PM

I was in the exact same situation as you. We were best friends for about a year, and finally one time I slept over her house and we were laying together and I started to make out with her and then we ended up having sex. It must have been one of the most unexpected lays of my life, and then we ended up going out.

After the whole going out thing was over, I found that I didn't want her back, so it shouldn't follow you around if you break-up.

Just try it.

thek1d · 10-25-2006, 07:52 PM

I don't think you'll ever get over her unless y'all get together and YOU leave her. I can't seem to get over one girl I was with a long time ago and think about her a lot. Even when I was with other girls I would still think about her sometimes. But who knows, maybe because I wasn't all that interested in the other girls.

Just keep yourself busy and hang out with the guys. Meet other girls and hang out all the time. Get your name and face out there. Time heals all pain, so they say.

Ripped_carnt · 10-25-2006, 08:35 PM

Oneitis

creativedesignz · 10-25-2006, 09:43 PM

sacrifice a goat or small child

Haithem · 10-25-2006, 10:22 PM

Everyone says "time heals all wounds," but i highly doubt that. If anything, time just covers them up. There are plenty of things i have done to get over girls, hopefully some of these help you to start: Get rid of all memories of her...pictures, emails, texts, contact information, anything and everything that reminds you of them. It'll be hard as hell, but it will help, trust me. Seek other girls, other people who will raise your esteem. If its a girl you lost or a girl who broke up with you, then you probably hurt even more because you cant have her.....basically you want what you cant have. Knowing this, you see her as something special, something extraordinary, when in reality, she is no better then any other girl. You tell yourself you will never find another girl like her, anyone better, but you will. What it ultimatly comes down to is you love the idea of her, but once you achieve getting her back, her value instanly goes down because you have a feeling of accomplishment, as if you won a game or something. So all im trying to say is you dont love her for who she is, you want her because you cant have her, and you keep an image of her as the "ideal" woman in your head. Cut all contact with her and go see other girls on a daily basis, raise your esteem, occupy your mind at all times and before you know it youll be over her.

trvlr70 · 10-26-2006, 07:19 AM

^^^^^^^^^^^wrong

Time certainly does help. But, you are doing yourself no favors by putting yourself in a position where you'll interact with her. Yes, you may eventually be able to be friends with her. But, right now, in order to assist yourself in getting over her, I'd keep my distance no matter what. I'd try to focus that energy on other girls. There is more that one perfect girl for you out there. It is just a matter of timing and opportunity. Try to develop a new crush. This is an excellent way to move on more quickly.

By the way, I'm sorry. Unrequited love is very unpleasant.

jukester · 10-26-2006, 07:24 AM

get some porn...

Need2ShapeUp · 10-26-2006, 12:02 PM

Thanks for all of the replies everyone (both the funny and serious ones.)

I'm going to try and distance myself somehow but it'll be hard. This is someone I see everyday at work and around town. I thought about avoiding her before, but couldn't think of a way to do it without insulting her or explaining it to her (which would be embarassing.)

I think in the future my new rule will be not to be close friends with females. She's a great friend, but the possibility of attractions/feelings make it too complicated.

Milamber · 10-27-2006, 11:32 PM

Tuquila usually is a good help, i believe that once you ahve gone throughh the bottle she will be the last thing on your mind. The first being a hospital or some asprin.

rob_oz · 10-28-2006, 02:10 AM

the only way mate is to meet new people, and get out of the house. just meet anyone, work mates who you never cared about, old friends you have not seen in ages, hell even have a coffee with grandma.

good luck, it will happen mate.

Ripped_carnt · 10-28-2006, 05:03 AM

yeah, i can't get over a chick either.

i've been with 4 chicks since her, and i've forgotten all of them in a flash. I can't get this one chick out of my mind though. I pretty much think about her at least once a day

ShreddedShruggin · 10-28-2006, 10:19 AM

Hmm, i don't have a solution for when you're around her, but when your not around her, nut it. Honestly speaking, i'm not even kidding. Wacking a load off will definitely put it out of your mind for at least a few hours.

-Grimface