So I really didn't want to have to post this here but I really have no one else to talk to about it at the moment. So two weeks ago my g/f tell me she is pregnant. We talk about it and I kinda of tell her that I want an abortion. I can tell she isn't quite feeling it but she kinda went a long with it. A week later she tells her grand parents and parents. They are pushing her not to abort it and now we are basically fighting. I tell her the decision is hers but I voiced my opinion. She keeps telling me I don't care about her and how I'm so selfish but then she says she will get it just to satisfy me. Anyway she hasn't got it yet and she keeps fighting with me about it... I seriously don't know what to do at this point. I'm so stressed out thinking about having a kid... I know I sound like a selfish *******... but i can't imagine even having a dog.
A little background information about us. I'm 21 and will graduate from college in May I already have a full time job lined up for 56k.... which is pretty good in my area (iowa). I currently live at home and have no college debt.. i'll move out in may. She is living with her grandparents, has no car. 20 years old and in her fourth semester of college. She isn't the brightest person as far as school goes but I just love her a lot. We've been dating for two years.
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So I talked to my gf again after i began to get the vibe that she intended to keep it even after we agreed she would get rid of it. Anyway I said that I don't want to be the person to push her into getting it... etc. Then asked her what she really wanted to do and she said keep it. I asked her about adoption and she said she wouldn't because she was adopted and she doesn't want to have to put someone else through it. I finished by basically asking her if there was anyway she would ever have an abortion or give it up and she said no.
I'm now trying to come to terms with what I'm going to have to face. (praying for miscarriage but it's not likely) I know I'm a selfish a**hole and deserve it for not thinking ahead and being stupid.
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Thread: G/F preggo... help. (serious)
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02-26-2008, 06:09 PM #1Registered User
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G/F preggo... help. (serious)
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02-26-2008, 06:10 PM #2Registered User
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TIME to man up bro!
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02-26-2008, 06:11 PM #3I like turtles.
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1) Propose
2) Get Abortion
3) ????
4) Profit
No, just kidding. I don't believe you have a 56k job lined up and I don't beleive the rest of the story, nor would you be telling BB.com about said story.Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence.
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02-26-2008, 06:11 PM #4Registered User
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situation could be a lot worse
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02-26-2008, 06:11 PM #5Zombie Defense Expert
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I see child support in your future.
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02-26-2008, 06:12 PM #6misk addict
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solution:
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02-26-2008, 06:12 PM #7Banned
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u busted in her no condom?
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Cliffs motherf*cker!
he..he.. you are a motherf*cker now.
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02-26-2008, 06:14 PM #10Registered User
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I kept thinking about this. I was looking it up online and I couldn't believe how much it was a month. Like nearly 20% of salary for one kid.Originally Posted by El Gilbro
She was taking pills so I always did. The funny thing is two months ago I kept telling her to get an IUD but she kept putting it off. Now i'm starting to see a pattern.Originally Posted by vegeta9000
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02-26-2008, 06:16 PM #11brb snitchin'
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no condom doesnt feel so good now, does it?
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02-26-2008, 06:17 PM #12Registered User
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i just found some old vodka hidden in my room, in honor of this thread i shall drink it, maybe this much will get me a buzz, on top of being blazed.
when you see it, you'll **** bricksLast edited by Muzzle; 02-26-2008 at 06:24 PM.
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02-26-2008, 06:17 PM #13U admirin' Aussies?
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Why should she have had to go get an IUD, why didnt you just use a condom and save your own ass? Problem here is you left all the responsibility up to someone else, when the consequences are pretty damn huge for you. Looks like you got owned.Originally Posted by nbirru
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02-26-2008, 06:18 PM #14BRB, fraudin!
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where in iowa are u from
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02-26-2008, 06:19 PM #15Executive Culinary OG
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02-26-2008, 06:20 PM #16BRB, fraudin!
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what am i suppose to see, i want to **** bricksOriginally Posted by Muzzle
i just found some old vodka hidden in my room, in honor of this thread i shall drink it, maybe this much will get me a buzz, on top of being blazed.
when you see it, you'll **** bricks
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02-26-2008, 06:20 PM #17Registered Foam Roller
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GG'ed sonOriginally Posted by nbirru
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She never wanted me to wear one. At first I always did then she like told me not to a few months after we started dating. If there were a pill for a guy I would be taking it.Originally Posted by Carmen666
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02-26-2008, 06:20 PM #19іяс сязш
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bb.com on screen?Originally Posted by Muzzle
i just found some old vodka hidden in my room, in honor of this thread i shall drink it, maybe this much will get me a buzz, on top of being blazed.
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02-26-2008, 06:20 PM #20Banned
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Being 10000% serious; you need to ask yourself the following questions...
1.) How did she get knocked up? Is she on the pill, do you use condoms?
2.) How sure are you that you are the father (yes serious, no offense)
3.) If there was no baby involved, would you want to spend the rest of your life with her?
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02-26-2008, 06:21 PM #21
Two words: Tom Leykis. Look him up.
He'll tell you what to do in this situation.
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Push down. Repeat if necessary.
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02-26-2008, 06:22 PM #23U admirin' Aussies?
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Honestly, if I was a guy having sex with a girl who told me not to wear one, I'd tell her to **** off right there and then. You played right into her trap, probably hasnt been on the pill for ages. She wont go get an abortion because she probably wanted this to happen in the first place.Originally Posted by nbirru
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02-26-2008, 06:23 PM #24Registered User
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well now he has to man up and decide what is best for that little one that is on the way right?Originally Posted by Carmen666
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imagine all the protein
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02-26-2008, 06:24 PM #26U admirin' Aussies?
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Thing is, it doesnt matter what he decides - he put his fate in someone elses hands and now she has him by the balls.Originally Posted by SameolG
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02-26-2008, 06:24 PM #27I don't think I would tell her to **** off. You clearly don't understand because your NOT a guy. But I do agree about her wanting this to happen. She knows how baby's are made, this guy clearly doesn't, and now she has what she wants.Originally Posted by Carmen666
So your girlfriend didn't see a future for herself and now your having a kid because of it.
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Yup - so much for 'equal rights'....Originally Posted by Carmen666
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02-26-2008, 06:26 PM #29
i suggest you dump her, and run.
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02-26-2008, 06:26 PM #30Registered User
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she actually had an abortion last summer. Long story... she didn't tell me about it till three months ago. When her grandparents (who were the ones that only knew) made her. She said she was to afraid to tell me at the time. Now she says its the most terrible thing ever. She said she was open to giving it up for adoption but I was hoping it would never reach that stage.Originally Posted by Carmen666
I seriously want to go in the corner and cry right now.
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