I need Motivation and a Good Diet

[AFireInside]

Im around 6' 195 lbs and im overweight. I go the gym, but i dont have a workout partner so i can hit up the weight benches so i just go with the free weight machines and dumbells but i feel like i am getting nothing done. I dont work on my 6 pack because my stomach is flabby and i really feel as if i was born without stomahc muscles becuase NEVER in my life have i ever seen them. I dont know what to eat. i tell myself every time i go to the cafeteria not to eat nasty but still i eat burgers and salads with ranch. everyday i tell myself how i want to be fit and look good in a pair of board shorts but i feel as if im getting nowhere. I am really in a **** hole right now and i need some help. without the smart ass remarks cause i know some people will be giving them, can someone please help! i added some pics of my current state that im in

[tanizaki]

None of us can give you motivation.

[sklub]

I just started body for life! I used it a few years ago with a lot of success!
(It's a 12 week program)
bodyforlife.com
I usually look at other people's transformations for inspiration.

[littleboots]

Jack LaLanne! 'nuff said!

[Korry1]

I asked the same question you did on 1-7-2008... below are some of the responses....

http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=6493901


hope this helps!

Motivation has to come from within. Don't get discouraged if your progress seems slow at the beginning and my favorite is remember that "Rome wasn't built in a day." With enough time and effort im sure you will be where you want to be soon enough

Exactly as he said, if you don't have the motivation to get started already inside you, nothing we say will make you want to bust your ass. All we can do is help you when your motivation is feeling down and keep your ass in gear but that's about it.

You already have the motivation. You'll do it!

When I first started to drop the lbs, pics of others who were doing it motivated me to get off my ass and do it too!




Here's me going from 255 to 234 in 35 days.

Take pics of yourself relaxed now and take some in a month or so. Other people's progress helps, but your own progress pics is an amazing motivator!

figure out your calorie requirements, keep a diet journal, exercise regularly.. motivation be damned.. it's all about consistency. Although I guess my motivation was not wanting to be fat and all the things that come with it.

More confidence, less fatigue, maybe soon I can go to the beach for the first time ever, less embarassment in a light shirt on windy days (hehe), the usual stuff.

I didn't really get anywhere until I started a diet journal to keep track of calories and such (the -500 deficit rule).. then the weight loss just happened.

Don't check the scale daily, don't try to eyeball progress daily, you'll just get discouraged since it's not a fast process. I did notice my waste size dropping because I had to manually drill something like half a dozen new holes in my belt over 8-12 months. I could probably buy a size 34 or 32 now... used to be a snug 38 or 40...

Use fitday.com because a paper diet journal is tedious.

for me
my best motivation throughout my diet was looking at the scales every week and seeing a drop in weight and as the weeks go by the change in my appearance
just made me want to keep going

I agree with this. Also, put shirtless pictures of yourself on your desktop. I'm at my computer a lot, and seeing my fat ass on the screen many times a day kept me motivated at the beginning.

Try to create 'mini' goals that will you help you achieve your ultimate goal...little milestones along the way will keep you motivated to keep working hard! Good Luck.

My biggest motivator is small steps using a list or log. I create a list I want to get done that week for example in 5 days I want my body begging for a break. On my off day I create a new list to switch it up so I dont get a rut to form. Seems to work for me. Also dont set year goals. I find those to be depressing because they seem so far off so set every other week or even monthly goals and push yourself to get them.

dont be a bitch do it!!!!!!!!

atleast that works for me lol.

good luck sir! its not too hard just gotta flip that switch in your head where you see excercising as much of a routine as taking a dump, and stop seeing it as "work" its easy to stay motivated! juststick with it and find what works for you.

Whenever you're thinking about skipping a workout just think:
"Even though I don't want to work out now, it's only X minutes of pain/fatigue/etc., and hours of feeling good afterwords."

If you're thinking of eating something extra and going over your caloric intake for the day, think:
"Yeah, this food will be great right now, but when I wake up tomorrow and the enjoyment of eating is long gone, I will be pissed at myself."

It's saved me many, many times.

I would definately go with the "mini goals" as someone suggested. I used to be a 340+lb guy, I am down to 247.5, been kicking ass this last week. Damn holidays got me up a bit lol.

I still have a ways to go, but you know what? It's ok, I don't need to be totaly ripped by so and so date, especially at our age, make it more of a lifestyle change. I would maybe start at 30 to 50lb intervals. Set adate and keep track of your progress.

Lift well, and do your cardio, Main thing is...Yup you guessed it, diet. LOL I started with a High protein, moderate fat, low carb diet and it worked well. I just went back to it and is working well again.

You obviously want to get fit, and at our age, it is a good time to start. BTW, my biggest motivation is my wife and my little girl. She is a fireplug, non stop energy and she doesn't even eat all that much sugar. Must of got it from her mom lol

Good luck, and if you need any help send me a pm.

You have done it before. Just last year when you were posting you were 277, now look in the left corner, doesnt it feel good to see you are 260? It would feel better @ 240, but you gotta work to get there.

How I stay motivated is that I utilize both my hobbies.

1) Weight lifting.
2) Making websites.

I keep an online journal for myself, of things I learn and an update on all my progress. Havn't told my family about it yet, want to show them in a month =)

If you're curious about it, you can check it out here.

http://yanyanxu.com/experiment/

3 Step System:

(1)Take off your ****, Look in a mirror
(2) Grab fat with two hands
(3) Repetitively shake and jiggle fat until you start to cry

= Instant Motivation!

All jokes aside, a lot of good techniques have been posted here. But everyone is motivated by different Stimuli. Only YOU can determine what motivates YOU.

x2. you gotta split it up man. your final goal is too far away and will seem impossible when your down in the dumps. map out your goals in one month chunks. oh, and keep a journal with the date, your weight, and your bf%. I also WROTE down 10 reasons why I want to lose the weight.

That piece of paper I wrote it all down on is seriously one of the most important things I own now. It just reminds me of all the strength and determination I had. Its kept me from going astray many times. Do it! I guarantee you will thank me in a year!

Motivation usually comes from gers or humiliation.
We can't give ya motivation, it comes from within yourself.

At times, you just wanna prove to others that you can accomplish something which they think you can't and let them see that you can live better

my main motivation has always been my mirror. It never lies to make you feel better.

My suggestion.

Either get someone who you trust 100% and confide in, tell him/her everything every thought and have her motivate you.

Or, screw all, get angry, do this for YOU and you alone. Think of all the babes who will look your way when your fit

Also, you got my full support, you WILL do this, no maybies no perhaps. You WILL SUCCEED! you hear?

YOU NEED MOTIVATION?
BUY A POSTER!


But seriously, all you gotta know is getting cut is alot better than being fat. I know. I've been on both sides of the fence. Chicks dig un-fattenized guys. So you will have motivation, unless you're like really ugly and sh*t.

http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/transf137.htm

It is hard as hell to get started.. Sounds silly but I kept pictures around the house of figure girls I admired.

I highly recommend a coach. I know I COULD NOT have done it with out him!! It is a lot cheaper than a PT, but you still check in weekly so it holds you accountable!

Well, I just wrote all this stuff down one day after I was made fun of in front of friends for being fat. I was really upset and just kind of released my frustration on paper. You don't have to keep writing your goals/ reasons over again every day, but you should at least read over them often to keep you from going astray. Also, keep adding reasons why you want to w/o as they pop into your head.

oh, and MOST importantly...i cant believe i forgot this. right underneath your 10 reasons and goals, keep a weekly track of your weight and bf% (if you can get it measured). Whenever Im in the dumps, I look at the progress I have made, and it seems fckin retarded to stop now and waste all Ive done.

SO....summary...

get a list, write a specific SHORT TERM goal down (ie. 5 pounds in 3 weeks). Write 10 reasons why you want to lose the weight (make it very personal, ie. no more being made fun of by that guy at work). And then write down a weekly, or bi-weekly journal of weightloss with the date, weight, and bf%. Good luck man, this journal helped me lose about 50 pounds. Make it happen bro.

[AFireInside]

thank alot korey1977 that has given me some motivation. i decided to browse the bodybuilding website some more for articles and to see how people are doing. i just need to to talk to a nutritionist or something to figure out what i need to eat