Need advice from the masters about a cold approach (in college)

[Fett]

I want to talk with a girl that I pass by a couple times a week on my way back from class. I am basically going to have to stop her as she is walking and intitiate a conversation. This is inherently awkward, and if she is running late to class, the situation could deteriorate rapidly. So, how should I approach this situation so as to have the best possible outcome?

Thanks bros.

[Amris]

Get eye contact with her. Then stop, still looking straight into her eyes.

Then say, "What?"

She'll say something like, "What what?" or "huh?" or "what do you mean 'what'?"

Respond with, "I noticed you looking at me with an intent look on your face. Something I can help you with?"

She'll say something along the lines of "no I wasn't, you were looking at me!"

So just grin and say, "I'm sure you are mistaken, I saw you directly checking me out," and then laugh. Take it on from there, ask her what class she's leaving/heading for. What her major is... and you've got a conversation going.



Variations: Shey might just say no when you ask her if there's something you can help her with... say something like, "Oh, your loss then" or somesuch in your own words.

[scrawnybrawny]

are you saying HI to this girl when you walk by her? if not start with that, don't just randomly stop and throw some lines at her. take small steps and build don't just go for the enchilada right off the bat.

[KennyK]

I want to talk with a girl that I pass by a couple times a week on my way back from class. I am basically going to have to stop her as she is walking and intitiate a conversation. This is inherently awkward, and if she is running late to class, the situation could deteriorate rapidly. So, how should I approach this situation so as to have the best possible outcome?

Thanks bros.

Ask her why she's always late for class as she's running by.

Do this a couple of times and use it as way to strike up a quick conversation and to build a repore.

If it's consistent, offer to buy her watch (jokingly) or ask for her name and tell her that you'll tell the teacher to cut her some slack for being late all the time.
You should have her smiling by this time, so move in for the kill.

But don't wait too long, because next thing you know, the semester will be over.

[Fett]

I appreciate the responses.

I agree that the best thing to do would be to slowly build up to actually stopping her and talking. But, I only see her once or twice a week at MAX, and if she changes her schedule or drops the class, im **** outta luck with ever seeing her. Time is of the essence. So, i'm gonna forego the "build-up" and just talk with her.

Also, she is not in any visible hurry to class. I just said that she MAY be in a hurry, which would serve to ruin the interaction.

So, based on the updated information, what should I do?

[Fett]

Get eye contact with her. Then stop, still looking straight into her eyes.

Then say, "What?"

She'll say something like, "What what?" or "huh?" or "what do you mean 'what'?"

Respond with, "I noticed you looking at me with an intent look on your face. Something I can help you with?"

She'll say something along the lines of "no I wasn't, you were looking at me!"

So just grin and say, "I'm sure you are mistaken, I saw you directly checking me out," and then laugh. Take it on from there, ask her what class she's leaving/heading for. What her major is... and you've got a conversation going.



Variations: Shey might just say no when you ask her if there's something you can help her with... say something like, "Oh, your loss then" or somesuch in your own words.

I like this. But, after I have the conversation rolling, should I ask her for her number or see if she wants to do something sometime?

[Amris]

I like this. But, after I have the conversation rolling, should I ask her for her number or see if she wants to do something sometime?

Yes. Here's Sauce-Head's tips on it, and I agree with him:

Lesson # 5-Lines

I know girls tell you "lines" don't work. Well that's because they are not the right ones.. The key to understanding lines is to say them as if they are not a line. Does that make sense?? You can make these lines effective by hiding them in the middle of a conversation. But here are common "lines" to use.

Openers:

-"Hi" and smile.
-"I noticed you when I walked in and wanted to talk to you."
-"Nice shoes" let's fuk.. just kidding

Closers:
- You:"What's your schedule like for the week?"
Her: Well I'm have work until XXXX time and school on this day."
You: You should join me for XXXX on this day.
-Its important that you say this line just like that. Tell her that your going somewhere and she should JOIN you. This implies that you already had plans to go regardless of whether she goes or not. This works much better than, "will you go out with me on Tuesday??" That's the wussy way, your asking for her persmission.

Number Closer:

You know (girl's name) you seem like a lot of fun to be around, we should get together some time?"

-This works ESPECIALLY WELL on 9's and 10's because they are so use to getting the usual bull$hit compliments about how "pretty they are." The powerful thing about this closer is, you are not asking for her number. Your telling her she's fun to be around. She'll be so excited after you tell her this that her next line will be "let me give you my number." I bet you $10000000 if you do everything preceeding to this correctly that when you say this line, her response will be to offer her number.

-Also by her offering YOU her number she'll emotionally think she likes you. Don't believe me? Just think about how a girl interprets you walking up to her and saying "Can I have your number??" She knows she has you by the ballz and its not exciting to chase a pushover. Food for thought.


These are the usual closers with varations depending upon what we were talking about before and the social setting.


SH-Happy Pimp of the July

Edit: Just to make an important point, make sure that YOU end the conversation while she's responding well to you. Don't let it get to a point where it starts to drag, don't let it get to a point where she can make an excuse to take off to her next class.

[RougeProdigy]

Cold approach is a waste of oxygen. And for the love of god don't do it in college; you will just build a reputation and everyone will loathe you.